It's Time to Give Sheryl Lee Ralph Her Flowers
It's the season one finale of Quinta Brunson's hilarious hit ABC comedy Abbott Elementary. Among all the great things that have come with the show's success, the reminder of legendary actress Sheryl Lee Ralph’s greatness has undoubtedly been one of them.
Despite all the years of work the author and legend of screen and stage has given us, she recently revealed in an interview that just a few years ago, an executive producer on a show she was working on asked her “what have you done?'"
Only in an industry tuned to view whiteness and whiteness alone as excellence, can someone as esteemed as Ms. Ralph be dismissed by people in a place where talents are purportedly the currency for success. Only in Hollywood can she not be flooded with opportunities to show off the vast array of her talents. Let me give an abridged version of Ms. Ralph’s resume for the uneducated:
The world woke up to her gifts nearly four decades ago when the original Broadway cast of the musical Dreamgirls premiered. She originated the role of Deena Jones, the role that Beyoncé herself would go on to play in the 2006 film adaptation. Ralph proved that not only could she sing, dance, and act, but that she could do all those things brilliantly. From Daytime Soaps to primetime comedy and films of every genre, Ms. Ralph has been shining ever since.
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I was first introduced to Ms. Ralph through all my incessant viewings of Moesha as a teen. She played Dee, the stepmother to Brandy’s Moesha. Even playing the stuffy-at-times, strict principal and step mom, there was a deft and delicate comedic sensibility to her even as she was often playing it straight.
Much like with her Ms. Barbara Howard — her God fearing, elder statesmen Abbott Elementary character — Ms. Ralph isn’t the one doing the comedic heavy lifting or the one often being given the punchlines, but only she could bring the dignity and indignation quality to Ms. Howard without it being a drag on the rest of the cast. Quinta Brunson, the creator and star of the show, said it herself when Ms. Ralph initially went out for the role of the wacky principal: “No, absolutely not. You are Mrs. Howard. We need a queen and you are her.”
In that same interview, Ms. Ralph said that her and Brunson’s first interactions on the set of A Black Lady Sketch Show often involved Brunson just admiring and studying her. “Oh, this is wonderful. This young artist thinks I'm something special,” Ms. Ralph remarked. Brunson isn’t the only one!
So to Ms. Ralph directly: To call you a star would be too puny when your talent alone can fill an entire galaxy. You are the epitome of style and grace. You’ve filled my girlhood with precious memories from your time as Moesha’s stepmama to your role as Lauryn Hill’s tough but fair mama in Sister Act 2. (We're still singing our "shoulda, coulda, wouldas" thanks to you!) Your presence and voice on-screen are a balm. If I could bring you an entire garden of flowers to share as a token of my appreciation of you I would, but for now, these words will simply have to suffice. You are excellence personified.
This New Scalp Care Line Is Exactly What Your Wash Days Need
This post is in partnership with SheaMoisture.
When it comes to healthy hair care, there are a few things that will help you achieve healthy strands: a healthy hair care regime, hydration, consistent treatments, and scalp care. While scalp care is one of the most neglected practices, it is also one of the most important. Why? Because it helps promote healthy hair growth, clear hair follicles, and remove build-up.
When it comes to creating a healthy scalp routine, it helps to know exactly what you’re up against so you know how to specifically treat it. Two of the most common concerns are dandruff and dry scalp. It can be tough to decipher which is which, but here’s a quick breakdown: dry scalp is caused by a lack of moisture in the skin, while dandruff is caused by an excess of oil and yeast buildup on the scalp. Knowing that both of these are big concerns, SheaMoisture released two separate product lines to address both issues: the Scalp Moisture collection and the Anti-Dandruff collection.
Needless to say, if you tend to experience dandruff then I’d recommend you try the Anti-Dandruff collection. However, my biggest concern has always been dry scalp. A lack of moisture on the scalp can be caused by several factors like weather, age, and hair products to name a few. I’ve noticed that when I use certain gels or skip out on a deep scalp cleanse, my roots feel itchy and dry nonstop, which is uncomfortable.
The only way to relieve the discomfort is to properly wash and moisturize my roots, so I tried the Scalp Moisture collection and this is what I thought.
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First, What’s In The Collection?
The Scalp Moisture collection is a four-product line that includes a pre-wash masque, a moisturizing shampoo and conditioner, and a moisturizing scalp cream. Each product uses moisturizing and strengthening ingredients like aloe butter and vitamin B3 as active ingredients to provide eight times the moisture. Together, aloe butter and vitamin B3 work to restore dry and brittle hair, as well as add relief to the scalp.
Now, let’s break down each product…
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Scalp Moisture Pre-Wash Masque
The SheaMoisture Scalp Moisture Pre-Wash Masque may actually be the all-star of the collection. Using this deep conditioning masque is one of the best ways to target your dry scalp, restore hydration, and nourish your strands before shampooing.
I started by completely saturating my hair and scalp with water, then making small sections to apply the masque directly to the root. For my girls who have experience with relaxers and perms, it helps to apply the masque to your roots just like you would do with a relaxer. This way you can make sure you’ve covered as much of your scalp as possible while minimizing any breakage.
Pro tip: you can also use a color application brush to make this step easier.
After I completely covered my scalp, I massaged the product into my roots, used any excess on my strands, then left the masque in for 30 minutes. I was shocked by how moisturizing and clarifying my scalp and hair felt. One of the things that I love about the masque is the slip and how much softer it made my hair. While this is marketed as a scalp care product, it can completely transform your hair from dry and parched to completely hydrated.
In my opinion, the downside of this masque is that the quantity is too small for my liking. Truth be told, naturals go through deep conditioners faster than any other product (especially when it’s this good.) So SheaMoisture, if you’re reading this, we’d love a bigger jar.
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Scalp Moisture Shampoo
The SheaMoisture Scalp Moisture Shampoo is a gentle cleanser packed with the same moisture as the masque. The pearl-colored shampoo is lightweight with a serum-like consistency and a light and clean scent. The smell is pleasant, subtle, and not overbearing. When I applied the shampoo, I noticed immediately that it foams and lathers up very quickly, so less is more.
After applying the shampoo, I parted my hair and started at the roots to target as much of my scalp as possible. I recommend really taking the time to work the product and massage your scalp as much as possible.
Pro tip: using a scalp massager makes it easier and it feels amazing.
Once you start to massage your hair you’ll feel the product start to work. There’s a tingling sensation that might catch you off guard if you’re not used to it, but it’s not nearly as strong as other scalp products I’ve tried. I know some may not appreciate the sensation, but I loved it! My scalp felt clean, light, and breathable.
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Scalp Moisture Conditioner
Like the shampoo, the SheaMoisture Scalp Moisture Conditioner shares that pearly color and serum-like feel. It applies very easily while softening and moisturizing your hair. When I applied it to my hand, it gave my hands a lotion-like feel, which speaks volumes about its hydration capabilities. I also loved that the conditioner comes with a pump, instead of having to squeeze the product out – to me, it makes application easier.
I typically apply my conditioner to the ends first but because this is a scalp care product I started at the root and worked my way down to my ends. I did leave the conditioner in for ten minutes, although the bottle recommends leaving it in for three. The conditioner also provides that same breathable feel to your scalp. I honestly loved the relief.
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Scalp Moisture Cream
The SheaMoisture Scalp Moisture Cream is more of a daily relief product for your roots rather than your overall hair. It’s great for providing moisture and immediate relief to a dry and itchy scalp. Just like most of the collection, it gives a light and breathable feel – without the tingle. The applicator bottle targets specific parts of your scalp and makes applying easier.
Pro tip: I typically just squeeze the bottle to wherever I need the relief and use the tip to massage it into my scalp so it doesn’t mess up the hairstyle.
Overall, SheaMoisture’s scalp care line lives up to its claims – it moisturizes, strengthens, and provides immediate scalp relief. I definitely recommend trying the Scalp Moisture collection for an affordable way to treat itchy and dry scalp.
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Victoria Monét Shares How She Used Song "On My Mama" As A Word Of Affirmation After Bout With Postpartum
Singer and songwriter Victoria Monét is providing insight into the process behind her latest single, "On My Mama," and how her experience with motherhood served as inspiration.
Monét, who started as a songwriter, caught her big break within the entertainment industry over a decade ago when she earned her first writing credit on Diddy-Dirty Money's 2010 track "I Hate That You Love Me."
Over the years, Monét's success as a songwriter and vocalist soared to new heights as she collaborated with other artists such as Brandy, Fifth Harmony, Jordin Sparks, T.I., B.o.B., Ariana Grande, Jhene Aiko, and countless others. In 2019, Monét ultimately earned her first Grammy nomination for contributing to Ariana Grande's hit song "7 Rings."
Since then, Monét continues to make a name for herself in the industry, this time by focusing on her solo endeavors, including her upcoming album Jaguar 2. The 34-year-old dropped her latest single, "On My Mama," a sample of Chalie Boy's "I Look Good," in June and has been generating buzz due to its empowering lyrics.
During an interview on The Ebro Show, Monét revealed that the lighthearted tune began as a positive affirmation after experiencing various challenges following the birth of her daughter Hazel Gaines on February 2021.
Victoria On The Inspiration Behind "On My Mama"
In the discussion, Monét explained that the concept of "On My Mama" came in 2021 during a low period in her life as she tried adjusting to motherhood.
Monét disclosed that after welcoming Hazel with her longtime partner, John Gaines, she started experiencing postpartum depression in the middle of the global pandemic. This added to Monét's stress because she often worried about her daughter's safety.
"This record actually happened in 2021, probably… Maybe eight or nine weeks after I gave birth, right? So I'm in the mental space of, I was really having a hard time. I had postpartum depression," she said. "I was still breastfeeding, just adjusting to the life, but also in the midst of COVID. So we're in a pandemic, everything's a little bit risky, scary to even be in the studio with a child."
Further into the interview, Monét shared that when creating "On My Mama," --which includes lyrics about looking good, feeling good, and deserving the best life possible-- she had to force herself to believe the words she was writing because she was still in a state of disbelief.
"'On My Mama' was the first record I did that I actually liked. But it came while I was in a place of disbelief in what I was actually saying. So it's almost like I had to speak it into existence. And I do look good, I do feel good, and I am deserving," she stated.
When Monét came to the realization, she acknowledged how powerful the track could be for other people.
"And so, I think of the record as an anthem for affirmations, positive self-talk, manifestations, living in abundance, speaking things into existence, all of that is kind of in the song, but in a really cool hood way. And the sample just feels so good. It feels so good, we were debating on whether to use it because you know it's expensive," she said.
Victoria On Balancing Motherhood And Her Career
As the topic shifted to balancing motherhood and her career, Monét revealed that it can be challenging, but because she has a supportive tribe that consists of family, friends, and a business team, she is able to juggle it all.
"It's really hard, honestly, and I know you can attest to that, just prioritizing certain things. Time is just the currency that you can't get back, so it's like, man, just, it really takes a team, and people who really support and believe in you and understand why you have to be at the studio until 2:00 A.M. whenever you get home," she stated.
"And also a business team that understands why you have to be home and present. Doing flashcards and spending quality time with family. So, it really takes a community, I think about the term tribe a lot, just having people around you that really support that, no negativity, just all support and hands on deck, it really takes a village for even just one child."
Monét's single "On My Mama" is out now, and her album Jaguar II is scheduled to be released on August 25.
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