9 Sex Positions For The Naughty & The Nice
'Tis the season of giving and we're feeling all the feels. As we well know by now the cold weather, aka cuffing season, comes with a desire for warming snuggles and even warmer sex to get us through the seemingly long winter months. We've never been to the north pole, but if reindeer games are anything like a Pokemon match, then we choose to get our Vixen on all day long.
That said, if you have yet to do so, it's time to go right on ahead and lockdown your winter bae because you aren't gonna wanna miss out. With any luck and (maybe some stretching), you'll be doing way more than kissing Santa Claus under that mistletoe.
Yeah, sure, Santa is making lists and checking it twice or whatever. But here at xoNecole we have our own list and it's giving seductive holiday cheer and loving.
We found 9 new sex positions to try both inside and outside of the bedroom — tapping into the naughty and the nice…because...balance. So. Dim the lights, plug in that pretty tree, and get it lit with a warm fire to set a nice little mood and let the sex overwhelm you with so much pleasure that you glow brighter than Rudolph in the days following.
9 Sex Positions That Are Both Naughty & Nice
1.Sister, Sled
Obviously, there's an obsession with using the face of our partners to have a seat but nothing says fun and new like this sex position. If the cave men could look at photos and get a whole read, we're going to do our best to describe the best way to execute this here sex position. Your partner needs to have a seat on the floor placing their hands behind them to steady themselves and bending their legs at the knees (they should be able to make a 90-degree angle when they lift). You want to sit on your partner's lap and hoist your legs onto their shoulders, while "hugging" their neck. Once secured, your partner will slowly begin to rise and get into position for you to slow grind on bae.
2.Rockettes to Waterfalls
Don't shoot the messenger but we won't even hold you — this position is for the limber ladies. This position was created with a doorway in mind so you'll want to find one for maximum support. In a slight crouching position, you want to face inward towards your partner, back towards the door. Your partner will then straddle your legs (one on each side of their waist) and lean into the doorway, making a slight angle. With their support keeping you balanced, you will throw your leg onto your partner's shoulder steadying yourself with your one leg. Your partner should hold your waist and you can place your hands over theirs to offer more stability.
This position offers a bomb opportunity for your partner to stimulate your clitoris and breasts.
3.Polar Express
...and the first stop is the south pole. And you're going to travel the distance with this variation of 69. It's really simple! Just have your partner sit on the loveseat with their feet planted on the ground. You will then stand on the couch and place each foot on the side of their hips and boom, bend over and hold onto their hips for support. Let 'em eat it from the back and take them into your mouth or...just watch the show.
Sidenote: This is probably why generations of grannies keep their furniture covered in plastic.
4.Santa's Helper
Pull up a chair, have your partner sit in it and straddle them, while keeping your legs bent so that your feet are resting on their lap.
5.Sleigh Me
For this position, you're going to let your partner take the reins! Grab your stability ball, lie down on it, and place your hands firmly on the ball (but be sure that your arms aren't locked out). Much like in a wheelbarrow position, your partner will stand in between your legs, grab behind your knees and slightly lift your lower back.
6.Reindeer Games
Set yourself up as if you're going for a traditional doggystyle but make sure your knees straddle apart (a bit past shoulder width). Your partner is going to scootch in close to you, lie on their back and roll into a fetal-like position, grabbing each of his knees and pulling them inward. This position gives a similar sensation to doggystyle but far more control...it's a doggystyle-girl on top hybrid.
7.Jingle Bell Rock
Have a seat on the edge of a couch or chair. When your partner crouches down, they will need to kneel on both knees so that you place your foot into their spine. When you're settled, lean back just a bit so that you're sitting at an angle. This will increase sensation in the same way that placing a pillow under your lower back does, which is critical to ensuring we're receiving top-tier..top. Awaken all 5,000 plus nerves in the clitoris.
8.Elf on the Shelf
Nana's lazy boy is more fun to play with than any of us ever imagined as kids. Hint, hint: you need a rather large chair with comfy armrests for this exhilarating position. Your partner will sit in their chair crossing their feet at the ankles. You will sit on them, facing them with one thigh placed on each armrest. Your partner and you both will appreciate the intimacy of this position.
9.Cookies à la carte
If you have a standard size kitchenette — it's your time to shine. For this sex position, you just want to pull the chair from underneath the table just enough for your partner to be able to reach you. So it may be helpful for you to climb on the table first. Once you're up there, sit on your knees allowing your feet to touch (like a butterfly stretch). Your partner will have a seat in the chair with their legs straddling the backrest of the chair. From this point, you all want to lean into one another and you will hold onto the top of the chair. Your partner can lean into your vulva and rest their head onto the table (between your legs). Nom, nom!
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Motor City native, Atlanta living. Sagittarius. Writer. Sexpert. Into all things magical, mystical, and unknown. I'll try anything at least once but you knew that the moment I revealed that I was a Sag.
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When discussing the topic of raising children, discipline is often the first thing that comes to mind. Children need discipline. Full stop. But what is discipline? And how do we draw the line between discipline and revenge?
The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
And the parent isn’t wrong. Talking often doesn’t work the first, the third, or the even the 10th time. And the reason is directly tied to brain development.
Children cannot and do not process information the way an adult can. Auditory processing is not fully developed until a child is 14 or 15 years old. And even then, if a child has auditory processing delays or Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), they may always struggle with processing auditory commands. According to Susie S. Loraine, MA, CCC-SLP, the term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four-step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening.
Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:
Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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