
Not Demure, But Very Mindful: 9 Phrases Successful Black Women Use In The Workplace

Taking up space. Setting boundaries. Using our voices. These are all actions we have come to embrace as Black women who have bills to pay, legacies to leave, businesses to run, and deals to close. But what does this really look like in action?
For many successful Black women, it's about the words we use and how we use them, whether affirmations, calls to action, mottos, or living missions. And there are major power phrases that are common among the women we all admire and the leaders who keep the business engines running in America.
Here are 9 statements that assert power, set boundaries, and empower that any ambitious Black woman should have in her daily arsenal when at work:
1. “I respectfully disagree, and here’s why.”
Successful women speak up when they disagree, especially when their insights might be a better way to approach or solve a problem. And according to experts, "Healthy conflict is a powerful way to unlock diverse ideas and opinions from all the smart people."
Offering counterpoints and having healthy discourse when it comes to disagreement has been found to also contribute to workplace fulfillment, innovation, and creativity, all things that successful women leaders embrace and contribute to as well.
2. “I appreciate your feedback, and I’ll consider it.”
Being open to constructive criticism or other ways of looking at things is the mark of a great leader. They're never the only one "right" in a room, nor are they the "smartest." They know that it's the people around them---the very capable members of their teams---who are vital to their success and the overall success of a department or company.
In a discussion with students and staff at the Stanford Graduate School of Business, Oprah Winfrey talked about the importance of valuing people’s insights and feelings. She added that three vital questions must be considered, especially when you don't agree with someone's feedback: “Did you hear me? Did you see me? Did what I say mean anything to you?”
3. “I will follow up with you if I have any additional questions. Thank you.”
This sets a tone of not only acknowledging someone's efforts but ensuring they know that constant micromanaging or annoying follow-ups (about something you're very aware needs to get done) are unnecessary and not welcome.
Time is also a key factor here since successful leaders have very little of it to waste. In order to manage their time and fully function in their roles, indicating a clear indication of follow-up versus having a long conversation or debate in the moment is a better idea.
4. “Thank you for your time today.”
It's always just good manners to thank someone for taking the time to offer their talent, time, and efforts. It's also another way to acknowledge value, whether someone is an intern or a high-profile executive. The most powerful CEOs and entrepreneurs have embraced the power of a simple "Thank you," noting the benefits to morale and showcasing their values.
Successful women endear themselves to both clients and their direct reports when they have a spirit of gratitude and put it to good use.
5. “I have a few more vital points to share on this.”
This statement is an attestation of "taking up space" in action, especially when someone tries to silence you or cut the sharing of your vital insights short. We've seen this statement put into play with Vice President Kamala Harris in her debates with Donald Trump, as well as the infamous "Reclaiming my time" quote from Rep. Maxine Waters.
Utilizing your voice and ensuring that you're able to be fully understood for your intelligence, status, and experience is a must.
6. "No."
Yes, this is a statement. Successful women unapologetically say this often, and you don't need to make excuses or explain. Sometimes the answer is simply "No." Offering reasons can sometimes downplay your right to decline to do anything you don't want to do or no longer have the mental or physical capacity to sustain, especially if it's something outside of your job duties, pay level, or expertise.
7. "Our team did an excellent job on this. Let’s celebrate!”
Oftentimes, it's easy for company leaders to just keep pushing to the next project without acknowledging the wins of one that was just completed. Successful leaders know that in order to retain top talent, accomplishments must be publicly announced, celebrated, and rewarded.
8. “I have several projects to complete that need my full attention. Can we delegate this to _____ instead?”
Delegation is key for success, especially the higher you climb in your career, and setting a boundary on your time is important. When you have so many duties and tasks to juggle, it can get overwhelming and lead to burnout or worse, offering low-quality work.
Taking a stand on what you're capable of handling at one time is the best way to not only preserve your sanity but also ensure you'll remain successful and respected for excellent work in the long run.
9. “I’ve offered value and deserve a pay increase. Here’s what I propose.”
Unequal pay is still a problem for Black women in the workplace, and one key factor that contributes to a solution is demanding raises when we deserve them. One thing a successful woman won't do is allow herself to stay underpaid for long. They document their wins, discuss tangible return on investment of their time and talents, and negotiate what they deserve.
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'He Said, She Said': Love Stories Put To The Test At A Weekend For Love
At the A Weekend For Love retreat, we sat down with four couples to explore their love stories in a playful but revealing way with #HeSaidSheSaid. From first encounters to life-changing moments, we tested their memories to see if their versions of events aligned—because, as they say, every story has three sides: his, hers, and the truth.
Do these couples remember their love stories the same way? Press play to find out.
Episode 1: Indira & Desmond – Love Across the Miles
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but for Indira & Desmond, love made it stronger. Every mile apart deepened their bond, reinforcing the unshakable foundation of their relationship. From their first "I love you" to the moment they knew they had found home in each other, their journey is a beautiful testament to the endurance of true love.
Episode 2: Jay & Tia – A Love Story Straight Out of a Rom-Com
If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
Episode 3: Larencia & Mykel – Through the Highs and Lows
A date night with police helicopters overhead? Now that’s a story! Larencia & Mykel have faced unexpected surprises, major life changes, and 14 years of choosing each other every single day. But after all this time, do they actually remember things the same way? Their episode is sure to bring some eye-opening revelations and a lot of laughs.
Episode 4: Soy & Osei – A Love Aligned in Purpose
From a chance meeting at the front door to 15 years of unwavering love, faith, and growth, Soy & Osei prove that when two souls are aligned in love and purpose, nothing can shake their foundation. Their journey is a powerful reminder that true love is built on mutual support, shared values, and a deep connection that only strengthens with time.
Each of these couples has a unique and inspiring story to tell, but do their memories match up? Watch #HeSaidSheSaid to find out!
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From Teen Pilot To Aviation Leader: Beth Powell Talks Career Journey And Making History
Captain Beth Powell, aviation leader and founder of Queen B Production, a company dedicated to empowering diverse voices through meaningful storytelling, is an innovative entrepreneur with a deep commitment to philanthropy and inspiring future generations. This commitment started as a teen in St. Ann, Jamaica during her first flight in the cockpit. “I felt that rush of being able to do something amazing," she shared. “So many people want to get into the path of aviation and they don't really know how. So I sat down—as my own daughter is going through the process—and I'm writing a blueprint for her and for the world.”
Now, with more than 20 years of experience in professional aviation, starting with American Eagle Airlines and then on to becoming a captain at American Airlines, she has continued to pay it forward. In 2022, she made history as the first commercial airline captain to lead an all-Black, women-led flight crew. She has also written a biography on Bessie Coleman, the first African-American and Native-American woman to earn a pilot’s license, and produced and directed, Discovering Bessie Coleman, working alongside the family to get the project completed. Add to that her role as a founder of consulting firm LadyAv8rBeth, which offers a guide of pathways into aviation, and as a podcast host covering all things aviation.
For Women’s History Month, xoNecole caught up with the busy pilot, in between flights, to talk about her career journey, her role in a Bessie Coleman documentary and book, how she balances self-care and safety, and how other Black women can add to the aviation legacy:
xoNecole: You’ve built an successful career in aviation. And you were only 15 and already had your first flight. Were you afraid at all, or did it feel like second nature to you?
Beth Powell: It felt completely natural. There was no fear, just excitement and curiosity.
Now, it’s what they call STEM, and my teacher at the time thought that I was really good at numbers. He recommended three career paths, and I tried the first one.
I didn't understand why it made sense back then at 15, but as I grew up and met other pilots, I recognized that the reason I liked math and physics was that we were technical learners. So we like to break things apart and put them back together. We like to check procedures. We like to write manuals. We were technical artists.
xoN: That’s such an important message. Many young women and girls are often discouraged from pursuing careers in STEM or aviation, so it’s incredible to hear your story. Now, fast forward a bit—how did you transition into your corporate career with larger airlines?
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BP: After that first discovery flight, I quickly finished my high school classes and graduated at 16. By 17, I had earned my private pilot’s license, and by 18, my commercial license. Then, I moved to the U.S. to attend flight school in Florida. While working on my degree in professional aeronautics, I began working for American Eagle Airlines at just 21. Over the years, I’ve built my career and have now spent 25 years in the airline industry, including 14 years at American Eagle and 11 years at American Airlines. In terms of leadership, being a captain is key.
As a captain, I’m responsible for the aircraft, the crew, and the passengers. It’s a huge responsibility, and you learn a lot about leadership when you’re in charge of so much.
Being a captain definitely teaches you leadership. You’re in charge of every aspect of the flight from the moment you sign in to the moment you sign out. From overseeing the crew to managing the safety and well-being of passengers, you have to make quick decisions and take responsibility. Even when you’re starting out as a first officer, you’re learning vital leadership skills that prepare you for the captain role.
xoN: There's a lot going on with airlines right now that might make someone feel afraid in terms of some of the tragedies that have recently happened. How do you sustain your self-care balance and your resilience in the aviation industry when those sorts of things happen?
BP: I truly believe that aviation is still the safest and the No. 1 safest means of transportation. I say that proudly. For any airline, any pilot, any air traffic controller—anyone who works in the industry—safety is our number one priority. However, of course, we see things happening in the news, and it is concerning to passengers.
What I'm telling everybody to do right now, including myself, is that it's very important to have your source of strength. I'm a Christian, and one of my sources of strength is prayers. I go deep within my prayers every morning, and I pray to God, giving things that I can't control to him, and the rest— I can do my best to deal with.
No. 2 is meditation on the Deepak Chopra app. Ever since COVID happened, that was the first time I thought that I needed something more than just my prayers to help me go through to calm down the noise around me.
And last but not least, I'm really big on self-development. I read, I read, and I read. If your foundation is strong, you have something to build from. And so, when I read, I learn a lot about myself. I learn about what triggers me and when something triggers me. I literally hear the Kendrick Lamar song, "TV Off" in my head, because sometimes you need to shut the noise off.
xoN: That's amazing—the combination of faith and just being excellent at what you do. Now, how did you get involved with the Bessie Coleman project?
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BP: I sit on the board of advisers for an organization called Sisters of the Skies, and was at a gala celebrating with all our Black women of our achievements. At the end of the night, Dr. Sheila Chamberlain walked up to me. She was the first Black woman U.S. combat intelligence aviator in the Army. So, if she's walking up to me, it's very serious. She said, ‘I have a favor to ask.’ I said, ‘Yes.’ I did not hear what the favor was. I didn't know what she was going to ask me, but somebody like that walking up to you saying, ‘a favor’? The answer is yes.
She told me [the project involved] helping the Bessie Coleman family elevate the story. ‘I'd like you to ask your company if they will do a flight in honor of Bessie Coleman.’ I went to the different departments at American Airlines, and the rest was literally history. We did that flight on August 8, 2022, and it became a historical flight because everyone on that flight, from the ground up, was a Black woman.
Gigi Coleman, Bessie’s grand-niece, was also on that flight. We started chatting at the end of the flight. Another night, we were hanging out—Sheila, Gigi, and I—and she kept telling me she wanted to write a book, that she wished there was a movie, and that people approached her about it. Nothing had been done as yet. And I thought, sounds like another mission.
I literally took it on. We do have a documentary with the family sharing their perspective of who Bessie Coleman is. And we do have a book called Queen of the Skies.
xoN: For the young women who are looking for career paths in aviation, what are some skills they need to thrive?
BP: While you don't necessarily have to love math to be a pilot, technical knowledge is important. You’ll need to understand aircraft systems and aerodynamics. This includes weather patterns and instrument training. It might seem daunting at first, but the great thing about flight training is that it builds on itself. The more you learn, the more it all clicks. Also, aviation is constantly changing, and you need to be adaptable.
It’s a field where you need to be ready for anything, from unexpected weather to technical issues. Being open to learning new things and adjusting to change is crucial.
My daughter, who has her private pilot’s license, once said, “This journey is both challenging and rewarding. I feel like I’ve grown so much since starting.” It’s important to keep going, even when it gets tough.
To help others, I’m outlining how they can go from “zero to hero” as a pilot. I offer this information freely on my Instagram account, and it’s something I’m passionate about sharing. I want everyone to have access to the resources they need to follow their dreams.
For more information on Beth Powell, the Bessie Coleman documentary, and aviation career resources, visit LadyAv8rBeth.com.
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