

Lip gloss. Jewelry. Panties. Pumas. T-shirts. If someone were to ask me what I have an abundance of, things that I'm basically addicted to, it would be those five things; especially T-shirts.
No doubt, I am a self-professed walking human billboard. In fact, I love tees so much that a few years back, I attempted to start my own T-shirt line. I must say that the concepts were super dope; so was the name of the line. So, why is it on indefinite hiatus? Because I'll also admit that when I started out, I bit off a lot more than I could chew. For example, T-shirt lines are EX-PEN-SIVE. Because I was ill-prepared, I was spending more to print them than I was making selling them.
Still, I know that one day I'll want to resurrect my line. I'm also pretty sure that some of y'all have considered doing one of your own, but you weren't sure how to make your own vision come together.
Although there are some pretty informative YouTube videos that you could check out (like here and here), I decided to take things up a notch by featuring some of my absolute favorite Black female-owned T-shirt lines on the 'net!
I can personally vouch for each one because I either own some of their shirts or I've bought them as gifts for others. And trust me, after checking out these women's expertise, if having a T-shirt line in 2019 is one of your goals, you will feel more confident than ever that you can pull it off!
Thank you, ladies for your pearls of wisdom. It's like getting access to a free online business seminar and that is priceless!
Tees in the Trap
Courtesy of Tees in the Trap
Arsha Jones, Owner and Founder
What inspired you to come up with a T-shirt line and what inspired the name? Also, how do you select your specialty lines?
I didn't see a reflection of my own experiences, likes, humor, and personality represented online. I wanted to purchase products that represented me — a Black girl who is a little hood, with a touch of bougie. The name came from the Nicki Minaj song "Beez in the Trap". I thought it had a nice ring to it.
How much money do you need to start a line?
That's relative. It could be a low as $20. With the emergence of drop shipping, if you have a domain, Shopify, and an idea, you can be up and running in hours.
Feminine Funk
Courtesy of Feminine Funk
Nicole Grier, Owner, and Creative Director
What is something that you wish you had done differently within the first year of having your line?
When I started Feminine Funk, we had very humble beginnings. Money was very limited, so I didn't factor in a bookkeeper or an accountant to take care of our finances. The truth is, if you are going to have any kind of business, you need someone handling the books. It will give you peace of mind and make tax time so much easier.
What's the biggest mistake a Black female can make in the T-shirt business?
The biggest mistake a Black female can make is to not protect their designs and artwork. I have been guilty of this myself. We are smart and talented and because of this, we are getting knocked off all of the time. Talk to a trademark lawyer and find out your rights and what you can do to protect yourself.
Mess in a Bottle
Courtesy of Mess in a Bottle
Kaliah Wright, Founder and CEO
What do you love most about your T-shirt line and what, quite frankly, is the most challenging about it?
I love the unique concept of receiving a MESSage in a Bottle. This idea stems from the 310 B.C. concept of receiving a message that was dropped into the ocean and then found washed up onto the shore. We are the 21st-century version of that, in which you select the MESSage, it is printed on a premium cotton t-shirt, packaged in a reusable bottle and then dropped into the ocean (i.e. shipped) for yourself or your recipient.
The most challenging part is growing so rapidly with the business. We have exploded in the last three years. We started in my small row home in Baltimore, MD and the brand quickly expanded beyond my reach. We have graced celebrities such as Serena Williams, Lena Waithe and Bozoma Saint John to name a few and featured in publications such as Harper's Bazaar and Cosmopolitan Magazine. The demand for a MESSage in a Bottle has significantly increased and it has been difficult to keep up with as we print and manufacture most of its products in-house.
I'm a walking human billboard, so I'm a snob when it comes to T-shirt quality. If someone wants to start a T-shirt line, how do they make sure their tees are up to par?
A couple of easy things. If you are not a designer, I would try to work closely with a graphic designer to be sure you have a well-designed T-shirt. In addition, I would obtain sample prints of different print methods to be sure you choose the best quality print for your designs on your T-shirt. Lastly, don't be afraid to get a sample of different T-shirts as well to be sure using cotton vs. poly-cotton or polyester is the right fit for your brand. Attending T-shirt print trade shows are a great way to quickly get answers to these questions.
Fab Fly Fancy
Courtesy of FAB FLY FANCY
Tierra McKnight, CEO
How old is your line and what was the inspiration behind it?
Fab Fly Fancy started on Etsy and it has only been in existence for 16 months. In addition to Etsy, we now have our own domain, sell on We Buy Black, and vend at a variety of events. However, most of the revenue is generated from Etsy.
As a full-time educator with a new baby, I was constantly buying items from Etsy. I researched via YouTube and realized that it would be relatively simple to start my own T-shirt line and it would also be the perfect way to generate an extra source of income from home. The inspiration behind my line is a celebration of today's culture with expressive, thought-provoking, and sometimes humorous messages.
In your opinion, is it a good idea to learn how to print yourself or hire a printing company to do the printing for you?
In my opinion, I think it is a good idea to print for yourself because you are in control and your profit margin is typically larger. However, you also need to consider time and the amount of space needed when printing yourself…
I would suggest [buying] a vinyl cutter which is around $200 and a heat press, which would start around $100. Then you would also need to get T-shirts, vinyl, and some type of electronic device (computer, tablet) to create your designs. I started with a small heat press from Amazon, my work laptop, and a Cricut.
Habitually Fly
Courtesy of Habitually Fly
Traci Blanco, Founding Creative
When someone is just starting out, what are three essential things that they need?
Three essential components are 1) a clear niche because it will tell you who your ideal client is and where to find them; 2) a marketing budget because without marketing you don't have a business and 3) an e-commerce website because [putting on your socials] "DM to purchase" is ineffective.
How do you select price points in order to make a profit?
Price points are chosen based on the wholesale costs of all the T-shirt components and the profit margin you're shooting for. This formula can be used to help: Retail Price = [(cost to produce) ÷ (100-profit %)] x 100.
Izzy & Liv
Courtesy of Izzy & Liv
Nicole W. Brown, CEO
I checked out your backstory; it's super-inspiring. What has been the challenges with balancing running a brand and having a family?
The biggest challenge is the fact there really is no such thing as "balance". You cannot give 100 percent to multiple interests because there is only one of you. So even if you are giving 50/50, while that may be an equitable "balance" in the true sense of the word, that still leaves you with the guilt of feeling like you have fallen short, which is a struggle.
For me, it's more a question of how can I "juggle" it all? How can I keep all of these balls in the air and not drop any of them? Also, accepting the fact that I can only have one or two balls in my hand at any given moment, but as long as the other balls are still thriving in the air, all is good. I have four children and there are days where one child may need more attention and focus than another. Being aware of that and giving each child the individualized attention that they need, when they need it, is "balance" for me. And, as an entrepreneur, in some ways, my business is my fifth child. Both my business and my children require constant nurturing and attention to grow and be successful. I do my best to juggle them all and make sure that no ball is dropped.
However, at the end of the day, no matter what, my children and my family come first. So, if I have the business ball in my hand but one of my children need me, that business ball goes right back up in the air, no question.
T-shirt lines are super expensive. What's your advice when it comes to running one without breaking the bank?
I'm a fan of starting out with drop-shipping/print on demand, especially if your budget is limited. This allows you to sell your designs without having to invest in inventory and with little upfront cost of goods. You pay for what you sell as you go and it allows you to see what designs are a hit and what designs are a miss (proof of concept).
From there, you can focus on improving your margins by transitioning your best-selling designs to an inventory model where you produce more in bulk, which costs you less per unit. You can also look into learning how to print your own t-shirts. However, be prepared to be able to scale that operation as your sales increase.
Pink Grey NYC
Courtesy of Pink Grey NYC
Cici, Owner
What are the pros and cons of having an Etsy store?
A major pro of having an Etsy store is the direct marketing Etsy provides [such as] emailing customers on your behalf and directing customers to your shop. A major con is the fees…I would say for an Etsy shop, the cost may be around $500. Having your own stand-alone website will ensure that all profits go to you…but, in my experience, you'll always end up spending more than whatever [is in] your budget.
What, in your opinion, are the keys to success in running a Black female-owned T-shirt business?
Not being afraid to ask for help is the key to doing anything successfully. While it can be rewarding to do everything on your own, it can also be really difficult and maybe even a little unrealistic. So, make sure you have a good support system, whether its friends, family, or members of your church. Utilize those relationships, and never hesitate to ask for help, whether it be connections for discounts on supplies or just for words of encouragement when running your business gets stressful. Having a circle of people who support you and who are there for you can be a lifesaver!
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It's kinda wild that, in 2025, my byline will have appeared on this platform for (what?!) seven years. And yeah, when I'm not waxing poetic on here about sex, relationships and then...more sex and relationships, I am working as a certified marriage life coach, helping to birth babies (as a doula) or penning for other places (oftentimes under pen names).
As some of you know, something that I've been "threatening" to do for a few years now is write another book. Welp, October 2024 was the month that I "gave birth" to my third one: 'Inside of Me 2.0: My Story. With a 20-Year Lens'. It's fitting considering I hit a milestone during the same year.
Beyond that, Pumas and lip gloss are still my faves along with sweatshirts and tees that have a pro-Black message on them. I've also started really getting into big ass unique handbags and I'm always gonna have a signature scent that ain't nobody's business but my own.
As far as where to find me, I continue to be MIA on the social media front and I honestly don't know if that will ever change. Still, if you need to hit me up about something *that has nothing to do with pitching on the site (I'm gonna start ignoring those emails because...boundaries)*, hit me up at missnosipho@gmail.com. I'll do what I can. ;)
'He Said, She Said': Love Stories Put To The Test At A Weekend For Love
At the A Weekend For Love retreat, we sat down with four couples to explore their love stories in a playful but revealing way with #HeSaidSheSaid. From first encounters to life-changing moments, we tested their memories to see if their versions of events aligned—because, as they say, every story has three sides: his, hers, and the truth.
Do these couples remember their love stories the same way? Press play to find out.
Episode 1: Indira & Desmond – Love Across the Miles
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but for Indira & Desmond, love made it stronger. Every mile apart deepened their bond, reinforcing the unshakable foundation of their relationship. From their first "I love you" to the moment they knew they had found home in each other, their journey is a beautiful testament to the endurance of true love.
Episode 2: Jay & Tia – A Love Story Straight Out of a Rom-Com
If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
Episode 3: Larencia & Mykel – Through the Highs and Lows
A date night with police helicopters overhead? Now that’s a story! Larencia & Mykel have faced unexpected surprises, major life changes, and 14 years of choosing each other every single day. But after all this time, do they actually remember things the same way? Their episode is sure to bring some eye-opening revelations and a lot of laughs.
Episode 4: Soy & Osei – A Love Aligned in Purpose
From a chance meeting at the front door to 15 years of unwavering love, faith, and growth, Soy & Osei prove that when two souls are aligned in love and purpose, nothing can shake their foundation. Their journey is a powerful reminder that true love is built on mutual support, shared values, and a deep connection that only strengthens with time.
Each of these couples has a unique and inspiring story to tell, but do their memories match up? Watch #HeSaidSheSaid to find out!
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6 Signs You And Your Therapist Need To Break Up With Each Other
I’m sure it comes as no surprise to y’all that I am super pro-therapy. Ever since high school (RIP, Chuck Stanford; you were awesome), on and off again, I’ve had a therapist. I am a life coach now, in part, because I am such a fan of therapy. Easily, 65 percent of my world has either been to therapy before and/or they work in the mental health world. And that’s why, it brought a smile to my face when I read that close to 60 million Americans claim to have gotten some sort of treatment for their mental health before. Excellent.
However, as with pretty much everything in life, there is even a side to therapy that isn’t discussed enough: how to know if you are seeing a therapist who really is worth all of the time, effort, energy, and money that you are putting into them. Come to think of it, more specifically, how do you know if you and your therapist are past your season, even if initially, they seemed like they were a good fit?
Let’s tackle that topic now. Because the reality is that therapy can either do you a lot of good or its fair share of harm when you’re not with the right person. And so, here are six signs that, if you are currently seeing a therapist, it may just be time to start…seeing someone else.
1. You and Your Therapist Aren’t Respecting Each Other’s Time
The more time that goes by, the more side-eye that Dr. Phil and Dr. Oz get in my book. SMDH. You know what they say, though, and even a broken clock is right twice a day. And with that being said, there is something that has come out of Dr. Phil’s mouth, more than once, that I have applied to my life, ever since I first heard it: “Late people are arrogant because they assume that you should wait on them which means that they don’t value your time.” Since time is precious and something that you can never truly get back, I agree with this resolve. And so, when it comes to you and your therapist, you both should show up for sessions on time and (something that I need to hold some of my own clients more accountable to) be prepared to end on time as well.
For me, I keep "checks and balances" on this by requiring that clients give me a 72-hour heads-up if they need to cancel a session; otherwise, I charge the full rate (time is money, after all). As for myself, if I can’t make a session, oftentimes I will offer a discount on top of them simply not having to pay for that session because who knows what domino effect my cancellation had on them.
Anyway, if one or both of you are canceling a lot, showing up late, or constantly running over, while this alone shouldn’t be an indication that it’s time to find someone new, it is a sign that you don’t value each other’s time together as much as you both should which kind of means that you don’t value each other like you should too — and it’s hard to get anything truly worthwhile done if, at the end of the day, you and your therapist don’t respect each other very much.
2. You and Your Therapist’s Values Don’t Align
Before we get all deep into this one, let me just say that a sign of a truly good therapist is they can be effective whether someone shares in their value system or not. Example? Not to brag, however, I have a client who couldn’t be more different than I am when it comes to shoot — spirituality, marriage, dating, sex…almost you name it and we aren’t similar at all and yet, a few months ago, I was hella touched when she said that I was one of the best things that ever happened to her.
I’m telling y’all, there are a lot of narcissistic and manipulative mental health providers out here who actually seek out opportunities to turn people into low-key versions of themselves — so, if you are currently looking for a therapist/counselor/life coach, please take your time, so that you can vet your candidates thoroughly.
That said, though, say that you are a devout Christian. It’s okay, recommended even, that you find a therapist who is a Christian too, just so you know that your foundations (at least for the most part) are similar. I mean, imagine if you had an agnostic therapist and you found yourself referencing Scripture a lot as the basis for why you think, say, and do what you do.
While they should be able to navigate through that, it’s unrealistic to think that their personal beliefs won’t come up at some point, and/or that they won’t know how to factor in your own stance on things based on your religion of choice. For the record, this point doesn’t just go for spirituality. I know someone who went to a divorce therapist when her marriage was in trouble and all that person talked about was why it would be beneficial for her to end her marriage when that wasn’t exactly what she was looking for — or needed.
Yeah, when it comes to this one right here, think about what your values are and how your therapist incorporates them into your sessions. Do you feel heard and respected or do they come off with a flippant or dismissive attitude or like they are trying to sway you into thinking more like they do? If it’s the latter, that is a huge red flag and it is definitely time to start looking for someone else.
3. Sessions Cause You to Feel Worse Instead of Better
Okay, when it comes to this one, make sure to hear me when I say that when you get a hold of a really good therapist, someone who is seriously invested in getting you what you need, oftentimes, it is going to seem like things are worse before they are better. That’s because they may ask you questions or challenge you to consider things that you may have suppressed or you frankly just don’t want to deal with (even though, there’s a good chance that you will need to).
That needs to be said because, what I mean here is, if you’ve got the kind of therapist who is constantly low on energy; has a negative spin to everything; who low-key has you counseling them (hey, it happens); who seems to create more problems and worries for you than before you walked into the door; who seems to drain you; who constantly plants seeds of confusion; who tries to bully you into thinking like them (more on that in a sec) — who basically causes you to feel worse about yourself and/or your situation instead of more hopeful about both…yeah, you definitely need to find another individual.
And please peep that I used the word “hopeful” because I have shared before that I like how one dictionary defines hope as feeling that you can have what you want OR that everything will work out for the best. And yes, if you have a solid therapist in your corner, while they should be honest and realistic with you, HOPELESS isn’t a word that you should use to describe what having sessions with them is like. If that’s what’s transpiring, that’s probably the biggest reason out of all of these to break up with them. Like…yesterday.
4. Instead of Being Held Accountable, You Feel Controlled OR They Enable You…
I’m big on accountability. A part of the reason why is because I grew up around A LOT of people who would use religion to dodge accountability and/or they would play the victim in order to deflect from it. Anyway, let me tell it, one of the main reasons why more people should get into therapy is because they live the kind of life when they are not held accountable for their decisions enough. SMDH.
Okay, but it’s one thing to be in front of someone who calls you on the carpet when you try to avoid accepting responsibility for the decisions that you make; however, it’s another to have a therapist who uses what you share to try and get you to live the life that they want you to — like they basically see you as a puppet that they hold the strings to. On the extreme flip of this, it’s also problematic if your therapist basically just nods in agreement with what you are doing when they know that, at the very least, it’s highly counterproductive and, at worst, it’s going to make things so much more trying for you up the road.
I know both of these types of therapists exist because a lot of religious ones will try and use therapy sessions as ministry classes for people who aren’t of their faith (which is highly inappropriate) and I also know some people who seem to be in nothing more than “kee-kee sessions” with their therapist — it’s like their mental health “professional” is more interested in being a friend than a true and reliable accountability partner…and yeah, that ain’t good.
5. The Juice Isn’t Worth the Squeeze
I had a friend who was in therapy for her marriage…her entire marriage (she’s recently divorced). She and her husband went through multiple therapists (one even “fired them” because her husband was so condescendingly ridiculous) and it never really seemed like things were changing for the better. Does that mean that things got worse? Well, I’ve gotta say that, having a front row seat to it all, I rarely witnessed any tips or tools being implemented that seemed to improve their dynamic. Basically, their relationship sounded like what abused people say: “I mean, we had a good few days” only to turn around and be back in their hamster wheel of toxicity by day five. So, let me get this straight: you’re paying someone to help you to resolve some issues in your marriage and yet…the issues aren’t getting resolved? And this is the case for months on end?
In therapists’ defense, they can only work with what they’ve been given and so, if one or both clients aren’t serious about therapy and/or they aren’t being forthcoming and honest and/or (this is a big one) they aren’t doing their session homework and/or they expect their therapist to be more devoted to “fixing things” than they are — they are delusional about what a therapist actually can and cannot do. At the same time, though, a big part of the reason why you signed up for therapy is because you were looking for someone to help you out in ways that you can’t seem to do on your own…and a good therapist is a solution to that.
If you’ve been seeing a therapist for a while now and it really doesn’t seem like your needs are getting met, while one with integrity would probably bring up that the two of you may not be the best fit, remember that they are gonna make money if you stay…which means that you are losing out far more than they are. Whew, you’ve got to be careful with that too because if people-pleasing or avoiding conflict are some of your main struggles, and you find yourself in therapy with someone who doesn’t seem to be “scratching your itches” you might remain. Why? Because you don’t want to rock the boat. Another way of saying this — if there is one area of your life where you can feel really good about being selfish, it’s when it comes to selecting a therapist who checks all of your boxes. If yours doesn’t, you already know what I’m about to say.
6. Progress Isn’t Being Made
Some of my clients, I have worked with for a few years at this point. It’s not because I encourage it, though — and while that might sound weird on the surface…hear me out. If you’ve got a therapist (or counselor or life coach) who is seriously invested in you getting to the root of…whatever it is that you’re trying to get to the root of, I agree with mental health professionals who say that it really shouldn’t take longer than 12-16 sessions for (semi) minor issues and 12-18 months for more complex matters.
In fact, some studies say that 50 percent of folks start to feel better, overall, after about 15-20 therapy sessions and even that? Well, to me, if you’re not starting to see some sort of light bulb moments after about five sessions, you should start to wonder why.
Because what you’ve got to forever keep in mind is therapy is still a business, and based on what your therapist charges, it can be easy to get used to that money coming in (hey, I’m just being real with y’all) and that can require some of them to not be as, let’s go with proactive, about helping you to reach the resolve that you need in a short(er) amount of time. This means that you’ve got to stay on top of making sure that progress is being made.
Now think about the goals that you had going into therapy and how long you’ve been with your therapist. Are you much further along in your growth or…nah? If the answer is “B,” it’s time for a shift. Stat.
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Again, words cannot express how much I support therapy. It’s a real-life and game-changer — so long as you have the right fit for you. Hopefully, sis, this can help you come to a decision about that.
If the answer is “yes,” dope.
If the answer is “no,” BREAK UP.
You deserve better. And more. ASAP.
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