She’s Gotta Have It: DeWanda Wise Married Her Husband Of 12 Years, After Just 3 Months Of Dating
DeWanda Wise is a breakout actress that hasn't even reached a pinch of the great things she will experience in her inevitably expansive career. She's most known as Nola Darling, the carefree, sexually liberated juggernaut in Spike Lee's, She's Gotta Have It Netflix reboot, and even snagged a role in the upcoming blockbuster, Jurassic World: Dominion.
But, her career is only one of the most interesting things about her. Wise's love story is fascinating as well.
She's married to Alano Miller, also an actor (Sylvie's Love, Underground, Jane the Virgin), and has been since 2009. The two married after only three months of dating, because...when you know, you know! The two lovebirds even sat down with Black Love Doc to discuss their union and (non)complexities of marriage.
On how they met:
"She just came and made elbow space so quickly and it shook me because I wasn't used to that. So here's a woman who's stunning, intelligent, believes in God, all these things, I just felt like, why am I spending my days playing this game of 'what if' or 'let's do some trials and tribulations before we get married kind of thing. It was two people meeting at the right time."
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Three months later, they were discussing marriage. After riding on a train one unplanned day in college, Miller leaned over to Wise to ask if she would marry him, to which she replied, "You already know the answer to that, let's get married tomorrow." ...which they did (sort of). And the rest is their love story's history.
As far as how they keep their marriage in tact, for them, it's not complicated at all. Wise says:
"I feel like for me, it's really simple, you know? And it depends on how you live your life. It's like self-love for two. And that's how I think about it. Every day."
"Anything that I would like to do for myself, and there's one other human being that I have to make another serving for, then I'll just make a little more coffee. That's what I look at marriage as. It's a little more coffee. Just make one more cup!"
And Miller agrees, as he loves him some DeWanda! He regularly shouts her out on his social media, even once giving her the utmost praise:
"My favorite day of the year! I have had the honor of having a front row seat watching you evolve into your super powers. It's been humbling. Thank God for you everyday but especially today. I simply want to say thank you for sharing your heart, wisdom, your smile, boundless grace, infectious laughter and your fearlessness. Blessed and grateful to be your husband, number one fan, your bff, your body and feet warmer, your comforter stealer. Here's to forever adventures with you. Who knows what will happen but I know it'll be lit."
Whew, we love seeing confident black love on its high beams: black man, black wife, black love.
Would you marry quickly if you were sure your partner was the one?
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Charmin Michelle is a southern native and creative spirit who works as a content marketer and events manager in Chicago. She enjoys traveling, #SummertimeChi, and the journey of mastering womanhood. Connect with her on Instagram @charminmichelle.
ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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It’s spring, and it’s time to blossom into our favorite pastel nail colors. We can finally part ways with dark, neutral tones, looking forward to colors that make us feel lighter in spirit. Spring is a time to lighten the mood with floral designs and other aesthetics. Soon, our social media feeds will be filled with tons of nail inspiration, giving us many options. However, we can also understand how time-consuming it can be to find the perfect nail design.
We’ve collected 10 of the trendiest nails for every aesthetic. Warning: choosing one of these designs may cause every girl to ask you where you got your nails inspo from. In those moments, it’s advised to remember us. You’ve been warned.
Subtle Pastel Girlie
So, if you want to ease into your pastel colors, we get it. This nail art is perfect for getting into the nail season without fully committing. We love the subtle flower design with nude undertones. This color palette is ideal for anyone looking to keep their “clean girl aesthetic” without being too dull. If the solid pink color is still too much for your liking, try opting for nude on all the nails and allowing the two floral design to have their moment. There are many ways to get into the season without stepping outside our comfort zone.
Chrome Flower Girl
This nail design is an absolute show-stopper! Make everyone blind every time you wave hello with this incredible chrome art. This design is unique because of the gorgeous mix of purples, pinks, and yellows. This design is for the girl ready to move on from winter and enter her “spring girl era.” As if the colors alone weren’t enough, the two floral designs are the icing on this already captivating work of art. Live spring out loud with this masterpiece!
Yellow Mellow
Yellow is a signature spring color. This design honors the season with various yellows, making it stand out. Each pigment adds contrast to the design. This color scheme makes us want to break up with the typical nude aesthetic that has been around for way too long. Move forward and be the spotlight with the incredible yellow design.
Short But Mighty
Calling all of my short-nail girls! Yes, the rumors are true - we can have fun too. Short nails get a bad rap for not being as flashy as long nails. This design put those rumors to rest with its adorable pastel nail aesthetic. We love the hint of green complimented with pink floral nail art. This design is fun, classic, and refreshing for the upcoming season. Must have short nails for your job? No problem! Don’t lose out on feeling like that girl with this not-so-subtle nail art.
Pastel Anyone?
Gorgeous, gorgeous girls wear pastels! Can’t pick one pastel color for your next nail appointment? No worries! The beauty of nail art is that there are no rules. You can wear each pastel color on your fingertips with no regrets. This nail design proves just that with its impeccable color scheme matched with chrome to make things more interesting. Don’t stress yourself trying to find a design or pick a color. Do it all! You only live once, after all.
French Tip With A Twist
We love a classic white French tip as much as the next person, but in 2024, we are stepping it up! This pastel French tip will have all the girls screaming. Become mesmerized by the swirls of pinks, blues, and yellows across your tips. With this nail design, you’ll have anyone under your spell.
Easter Treat
Easter isn’t over until we say it’s over! This adorable Easter-inspired design will have you leaping into spring. Just look at those cute bunnies complimented with Easter eggs! The colors, design, and festive aesthetic have us jumping for joy. This design also has a nice balance of nudes, which can be great for anyone who wants to have fun with their nails and stay committed to neutral tones. This design has something everyone can appreciate, from the nail art girlie to the neutral girlie.
Simple Spring Chic
We have the perfect nail inspiration for you if you want to keep things clean and classic. This simple nail color eases into the season while still maintaining a classic touch. Let your jewelry be the glam when rocking this clean nail color.
Flower Girl
This design truly captures spring without words. From the colors to the flowers, there isn’t a part of this design that isn’t refreshing. The hues of pink alone give us soft girl Barbie vibes. Let your hands do all the talking with this perfect nail art.
Seeing Things Clearly
Finally, winter is behind us, and the spring sun allows us to see things clearly - just like this nail design! Clear nails have not gotten enough respect until now. These gel x clear spring nails are all you need to set the tone for the season. Colorful flowers are the main vocal point of the design while remaining simple. This design is a breath of fresh air we’ve all been waiting for. Welcome to spring!
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