Uncle Phil, Carl Winslow, and Bernie McCullough may have been taking over for the '99 and the 2000 (and WAY before that), but there's a new breed of Black TV dads on-screen in 2020 that are holding it down. Of course, all fathers are important, but Black fathers who are present, provide and have the perfect words at the perfect time hold a special place in our hearts. So do the TV dads that portray them which is why we want to show love to these dads raising a new generation of audiences.
If you've ever shed a tear after a very necessary and emotional Randall Pearson monologue, then keep reading…
TV Dad: Randall Pearson
Actor: Sterling K. Brown
Show: This Is Us
One third of "the big three" and Jack Pearson's protégé— there's a reason, or we should say reasons, why he holds the top spot on this list. Many of the moments that give us the feels on This Is Us are because of his daddy duty skills which he puts to work on his three daughters: Tess, Annie, and Deja.
A standout dad moment for Randall was when he gave his at-the-time-foster daughter some sage words of wisdom that set a new standard for the "adoption" convo.
TV Dad: Andre "Dre" Johnson
Actor: Anthony Anderson
Show: Black-ish
Black-ish is entirely based around a Black father raising his mixed-race family in an upper-middle class, suburban home so of course Dre is on this list. His fatherly approach may not produce Randall Pearson-level waterworks, but there's a lot of heart in his comedic parenting.
For how oblivious is sometimes, Dre really gave us father of the year feels when he had this heart-to-heart with his teen son, Junior about the consequences of taking a stand. This is a necessary lesson that all Black or Brown children should understand.
TV Dad: Richard Webber
Actor: James Pickens Jr.
Show: Grey's Anatomy
Richard Webber's daddy duties expand multiple decades, but his pep talks are so iconic, he's still dishing them out in 2020. Although he acts as sort of step-pappy to leading lady Meredith Grey and didn't get to start parenting his biological daughter, Maggie Pierce, until adulthood, he's always kind of been Grey-Sloan Memorial's universal father figure. It was the very first scene of the series reciting his notorious intern speech that he became a beloved TV dad.
There's so much dad advice he's given to kin and non-kin alike throughout the show, but this latest pep talk he gives Maggie about not quitting is definitely a winner.
TV Dad: Stan Hill
Actor: Reno Wilson
Show: Good Girls
Stan Hill is the good guy of Good Girls, and although he plays a supporting role on the show centered around three suburban moms-turned-criminals, it's a standout role. Without Stan, we wouldn't get the tough love talks with his tween daughter Sara and the silly dad jokes with son, Harry.
Maybe the most important dad lesson given by Stan was one we didn't even see play out on screen, but we did feel the weight of his words post-chat with his wife. Ruby just found out Sara did in fact steal an expensive AF pen that she previously denied doing, so when she arrives home and sees Sara and Stan chummy on the couch, she angrily sends their daughter to bed. When she confronts Stan with the news of the lie their good seed gone bad has told, Stan reveals he already knew in true daddy knows best fashion.
Sara will take Stan's pen cap and raise you a whole pen. pic.twitter.com/9sBMATjGU0
— Good Girls (@NBCGoodGirls) April 16, 2020
He says Sara told him because she was too guilty to live with it. To which Ruby asks, "What are you trying to say, Stan?" He explains to her that "When you lie, you sleep like a queen" and that they are lucky that Sara knows the difference. Now that's a word for the whole fam.
TV Dad: Jefferson Pierce/Black Lightning
Actor: Cress Williams
Show: Black Lightning
Black Lightning may be a crime-fighting superhero, but he's also a #GirlDad. By day, he's known as Jefferson Pierce, a principal and father to two daughters, Jennifer and Annisa, who take after him in the powers department. In between all the superhero show theatrics are some really touching daddy-daughter moments, like this chat Black Lightning has with his youngest on getting a grip on your emotions.
And even when his daughters don't know it, he's looking out behind the scenes. Case in point, when he pressed his young daughter's boyfriend in the school hallway about slowing things down with a hilariously clever athlete's foot analogy.
Happy Father's Day to these TV dads! Who are some other of today's Black TV dads that you think deserve to make the list?
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Meanwhile, frankincense and myrrh originate from the Middle East and Africa (you know, like the Bible does — some folks need to be reminded of that—eh hem — Trumpers) and ginger? It too helps with indigestion (which can definitely creep up at Thanksgiving and Christmas dinner tables); plus, it’s a key ingredient for ginger snaps and gingerbread houses. So, as you can see, holiday-themed scents have a rhyme and reason to them.
Tying this all in together — several years ago, I penned an article for the platform entitled, “Are You Ready To Have Some Very Merry ‘Christmas Sex’?” Well, in the spirit of revisiting some of that content, with a bit of a twist, I decided to broach some traditional holiday scents from the perspective of which ones will do your libido a ton of good from now through New Year’s Eve (check out “Make This Your Best NYE. For Sex. EVER.”).
Are you ready to check some of them out, so that, whether it’s via a candle, a diffuser, some essential oil, or some DIY body cream (check out “How To Incorporate All Five Senses To Have The Best Sex Ever”), you can bring some extra festive ambiance into your own boudoir? Excellent.
1. Vanilla
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When it comes to holiday desserts, you’re going to be hard-pressed to find recipes that don’t include vanilla — and that alone explains why it is considered to be a traditional holiday scent. As far as your libido goes, vanilla is absolutely considered to be an aphrodisiac — partly because its sweet scent is considered to be very sensual. Some studies even reveal that vanillin (the active ingredient in vanilla) is able to increase sexual arousal and improve erectile dysfunction in men. So, if you adore the smell, here is more incentive to use it.
2. Frankincense
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Although, typically, when people think about frankincense (and myrrh), it’s in the context of the gifts that the wise men brought Christ after he was born; it’s a part of the biblical Christmas story. However, frankincense goes much deeper than that. Sexually, since it has an earthy and spicy scent, some people like to use it to meditate (check out “What Exactly Is 'Orgasmic Meditation'?”). Also, since it has the ability to put you in a better mood, soothe and soften your skin and maintain your oral health — with the help of frankincense, every touch and kiss can be that much…sexier.
3. Cinnamon
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I already gave cinnamon a shout-out in the intro. Personally, I’ve been a fan of it, in the sex department, for a long time now (check out “12 ‘Sex Condiments’ That Can Make Coitus Even More...Delicious”). When it’s in oil form, it can be very sweet to the taste while sending a warm sensation throughout the body — which is why the giver and receiver of oral sex can benefit from its usage. Beyond that, cinnamon helps to increase blood flow to your genital region, elevate sexual desire and, some studies say that it can even help improve fertility. Beautiful.
4. Peppermint
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If there’s a signature candy for the holiday season, it’s probably a candy cane — which automatically puts peppermint in the running for being an official holiday scent. Pretty much, in any form, it’s got your sex life’s back because it’s hailed as being a sexual stimulant; in part, because its smell is so invigorating. Plus, it helps to (eh hem) ease headaches, it gives you more energy and it can definitely help to freshen your breath. Also, that minty sensation? The same thing that I said about cinnamon can apply to peppermint too (if you catch my drift).
5. Ginger
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Whether it’s in a meal or in your bedroom, ginger is going to produce results that are hella spicy. On the sex tip, science has praised ginger for being able to increase sexual arousal, improve blood circulation (which intensifies orgasms) and strengthen fertility for many years. Scent-wise, I find it to be one that both men and women enjoy because it is both woodsy and sweet. So, if you’ve got some massage oil in mind, adding some ginger is a way to please you both.
6. Pomegranate
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September through December is the time of year when pomegranates are considered to be in season. And, as someone who is a Rosh Hashanah observer, I have a personal adoration for them because I am aware of the various things that they symbolize in Hebrew culture including the fact that they are a fruit that represents love and fertility. So yeah, they would absolutely be an aphrodisiac — one that is perfect for this time of the year. While consuming it helps to boost testosterone levels in both men and women, the floral bittersweet smell that it produces can help to reduce stress while promoting relaxation (like most floral scents do) — and the more relaxed you are, the easier it is to climax.
7. Nutmeg
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Another signature seasoning during the holiday season is nutmeg. It’s perfect in Thanksgiving sweet potato (or pumpkin) pie and Christmas morning French toast. And yes, it can also make your sex life better. If you consume it, it can intensify your libido and, overall, its warm-meets-spicy-meets-sweet smell is so inviting that it is considered to be a pretty seductive scent.
8. Cloves
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I ain’t got not one lie to tell you — if you’ve got a toothache, put some clove oil on that bad boy and send me a Christmas present for putting you on game. Aside from that, as I round all of this out, cloves are another holiday scent that can do wonders for your sex life. For men, it has the ability to significantly increase sexual arousal and improve stamina and endurance. For men and women alike, it also has a reputation for strengthening sexual desire. And for women solely? Well, if you want an all-natural way to increase natural lubrication down below — the scent and and feel (in DILUTED oil form) can make that happen. It can make the holidays especially special…if you know what I mean.
Ah yes — the atmosphere of the holidays and what it can do.
Take it all in! Scent ‘n whatever stimulating that comes with it! #wink
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