6 Years After Her Miscarriage, Porsha Williams Is In Love & Expecting A New Baby
Finding out you're pregnant can be one of the most exciting and emotion-filled moments of a woman's life.
But that excitement might quickly fade for women who have had trouble carrying a baby to term in the past. The reality of a possible miscarriage sets in, which can easily cause a woman to go from happy to fearful, and experience all of the emotions in between.
For Real Housewives of Atlanta star Porsha Williams, her newly discovered pregnancy brought up some mixed feelings. In an exclusive interview with People Magazine, the reality star opened up about her struggles with conceiving in the past and shared details on the moment she discovered she was expecting:
"When I found out I was pregnant, I was excited [but] I had mixed feelings. The other feeling that I had beside excitement was fear."
The RHOA star revealed that she suffered a miscarriage about 6 years ago. She has been open about the loss in the past, and has even spoken out about her battle with fibroids. The Dish Network host also shared that at one point, she even had to have a myomectomy, which she hoped wouldn't hinder her ability to have children in the future.
All of her fears are understandable, and infertility is such a sensitive subject for many women. With Porsha revealing her condition, she gives hope to many other women going through the same thing. She told People:
"I've had a miscarriage before in my past, which I've also been open about because I suffer with fibroids and had to have a myomectomy… So just the fear of, 'Is the baby going to be okay? Will I make it full term?' All those questions that you ask if you've had a miscarriage before."
RHOA fans have seen Porsha through her troubled first marriage, failed attempts at dating, and even basically saying she's given up on finding love. Now, she has a new man and is ready to embark on a brand new future with endless possibilities.
The 37-year-old says that once she stopped looking for love, she connected with her boo Dennis Mckinley. She said:
"And that's how it happens, it's always when you're not looking anymore. It's when you go ahead and give up … I stopped looking, and he arrived. I gave up, honey, and bought cats online. They on the way, Ima have to cancel the order. I was ready to just let it go,"
Williams revealed news that she was expecting to her other half on his birthday in July. She even says that McKinley has been more emotional throughout the process than she has:
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"I believe he's probably shed more tears during the process than me… It's just the sweetest moment of my life right now."
The whirlwind romance and pregnancy might seem rushed to some but Williams says that they've both been praying and working really hard at building a solid foundation in order to support their growing family. The Go Naked Hair founder gushes:
"The pregnancy came from the left, but it definitely has brought us closer together because you realize when it sets in that you are actually bringing a life to this world, that you have become family overnight… So now a lot of the things that we had talked about are a reality, and we work really hard at wanting to be a good couple and build a strong foundation for our new family that we're going to have. "
When you let go and let God, you might be surprised at how fast He comes through for you. Williams told People:
"The thought of me getting that blessing after praying for it for so long and getting that blessing with someone who is just as excited as me — it's Dennis' first child, just like me — and it's something we've both always wanted … It's like a dream come true."
This will be the couple's first child, and McKinley seems just as ready to start a family as Williams. The two have known each other for years but only began dating within the last year. Nevertheless, the couple is excited and ready to begin their new lives together.
In her post on Instagram, the RHOA star revealed that she is "happy, healthy… and pregnant! #BabyMckinley."
Fellow cast members and other stars quickly hopped into her comment section to offer their congratulations. Nene Leakes, Kenya Moore, Cynthia Bailey, Tamar Braxton, Tiny Harris, and a slew of other blue checks welcomed her to motherhood and offered their well wishes after the big announcement.
If anyone has perfected the surprise pregnancy reveal, Porsha definitely did that. Just six days prior to her announcement, she was on Instagram promoting a 7-day weight loss supplement with her sister Lauren, and the two were looking snatched as ever.
It just goes to show you, everyone's journey to motherhood is different but the blessing is just as sweet.
Congratulations, Porsha!
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Michelle Schmitz is a writer and editor based in Washington, DC originally from Ft Lauderdale, FL. A self-described ambivert, you can find her figuring out ways to read more than her monthly limit of The New York Times, attending concerts, and being a badass, multi-tasking supermom. She also runs her own blog MichelleSasha.com. Keep up with her latest moves on IG: @michellesashawrites and Twitter: @michellesashas
ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
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I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
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Another season of Love Is Blind has come to a close, and almost two months later we’re still unpacking the drama that is Clay and AD. The finale, reunion, and post-interviews with Clay and AD after season six of Love Is Blind left millions of people wondering - why couldn’t AD see the signs? Clay told her he had a fear of marriage, his parents experienced infidelity, and he seemed to have many doubts about saying, "I do."
After changing his mind at the altar and hearing AD question why she feels like she’s never enough, I was finished watching. I didn’t need to hear anything else because, at that moment, I realized this wasn’t about Clay; this was about AD feeling inadequate before she ever met Clay.
If I’m honest, I don’t watch much dating television. TikTok keeps me updated with the clips that I need to see in order to be kept in the loop, but it’s difficult for me to watch an entire season of dating TV because seeing Black women settle for less and questioning their beauty is a trigger for me. In many ways, there were points in my life where I was AD, settling and ignoring red flags because I wanted to be loved.
Now, on the other side, it doesn’t feel good to see Black women lower their standards on national television. There have been many hot takes on this couple and who was in the wrong. Did Clay play in AD’s face or did she not listen to the truth of what he told her from day one? Was his reason for joining the show to promote his business and not to find the one?
We’ll never know the truth, but what we can do is learn tactics to better our self-worth. Founder and CEO of The Self Love Organization Denise Francis shared her expertise with xoNecole on what tangible steps to take to improve feelings of worthiness. “Self-love blooms in a garden where self-worth is planted, nourished, and whole. However, when your self-worth is challenged, displaced, or broken, it could be difficult to rebuild," Denise explains.
How To Rebuild Self-Worth
During her self-love coaching sessions, Denise likes to walk her clients through the cornerstones of rebuilding self-worth: grace and self-compassion. To her, self-worth is never lost, it's only displaced, so practicing self-compassion and giving yourself grace is a must. "We tend to place our self-worth in entities and people of ourselves such as relationship status, physical appearance, material possessions, social media followings, what others think of us, and more. Self-worth is not something to be measured by anyone or anything outside of ourselves because we all innately hold value and worth.
"Self-worth is not something to be measured by anyone or anything outside of ourselves because we all innately hold value and worth."
"When we place our value into people or things, we tend to feel that we are not enough, worth it, special, or important when relationship status, job titles, friendships, and physical appearances are lost or changed. We then tend to feel lost within ourselves because we’ve placed our value outside of ourselves. Using grace and compassion, you can rebuild your self-worth by returning home to who you are at your core," she concludes.
How To Return Home To Yourself
Denise advises taking a step back and using self-reflection through journaling by answering the following journaling prompts:
First, ask yourself, "What do you tend to attach your self-worth to and why?"
Is it your relationships, your job title, your finances, your appearance, etc.? Why do you think you place so much emphasis on external status? How does it make you feel when you are defining yourself through these entities and/or people outside of yourself?
Then, ask yourself, "Without these things, who am I?"
Once you have your answers, show yourself kindness, remove the shame, and, as Denise says, "Redefine yourself by detaching your value from the things and people you have no control over and no longer serve you. Challenge yourself to define yourself outside of titles and societal values."
"By returning home to your core, you find value in who you are as a person. You begin to find value in the way you love instead of your relationship status, your compassion instead of your popularity, your drive instead of your income/job title, and your heart instead of your physical appearance," she adds.
"By returning home to your core, you find value in who you are as a person."
"Be intentional with healing your self-worth by leaning into the people and things that nourish your core values. Surround yourself with the people who love and cherish you, they will always remind you just how valuable you truly are."
It all goes back to self-compassion and grace. As Denise explains, leading with those two things as you heal and rebuild your self-worth allows you to reduce negative self-talk that might come up for you. "This weakens thoughts like, 'I am not enough... why am I never enough?'" she shares, "And 'I don't deserve this while strengthening thoughts like 'I deserve better,' 'I am enough,' and 'I am worth it.'"
Denise continues, "Once you return home and remember the irreplaceable person you are, you can rebuild your self-worth by placing it back where it belongs. It belongs to you."
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