How To Manifest The Life Of Your Dreams In 5 Steps
Manifestation can be as simple as just seeing what you want and believing that it will happen, but becoming a master manifestor involves more effort.
Repeating certain mantras and affirmations are great ways to manifest happenings in your world. These things engage the law of attraction. When you think about something enough, you end up actually attracting said things into your life.
What you constantly dwell on will be what you create in your reality.
Manifestation is the process of closing the gap between your desires and your reality. The fabric of our manifestations are being weaved together, even if it's outside of our realm of perception. The key is to set your intentions and remove any fear or impatience surrounding your goal. This read will show you how to manifest the things you need or desire in your life in five steps!
In order to become a Master Manifestor you must:
*Two important things you must remember is, that the day you plant the seed is not the same day you eat the fruit. And secondly, you must be able to realize when a manifestation has taken form. What you expect might not end up looking like what you thought. You have to be able to realize that what you have received is what you asked for.
Step 1: Proclaim or Ask
What are you setting your intentions on? Is it more money, a better job, a specific job title, or career change, a new relationship, or just more confidence? Do you have short-term goals and long-term goals? Whatever you are looking to manifest, you either have to ask the universe for it directly, or you must announce to the universe what it is you need it to provide. Say it out loud.
Words carry vibrations, and instructions.
If you speak your proclamations out loud, you send your direct intentions out into the universe like an order. Some orders are manifested instantly, and others take longer to be delivered. Depending on the perplexity of the intention, you must allow the universe to work its magic.
If you require a particular sum of money to open a business, proclaim:
"Dear Universe/Source/God/Spirit, I require [X amount of money] to start up my company."
Perhaps you are in need of a new living arrangement, proclaim:
"Dear Universe/Source/God/Spirit, it is time for me to find a better living arrangement that serves my highest good at this present time."
If you would like to manifest something that is more arbitrary or inexact, and you don't know exactly what to ask for, then proclaim something like this, for example:
"Dear Universe/Source/God/Spirit, I proclaim that I will manifest more self-confidence, and I ask that you show me the way to achieve this." or "I wish to increase my visibility online, please provide a way."
Maybe you need to manifest spiritual growth, say:
"Dear Universe/Source/God/Spirit, I want to be more attuned and aligned so that I may be able to transmute negatives into positives more quickly, and with more ease."
Step 2: Visualize
This is a very important step because it is here where you engage your third eye and energetically cause your emotional, mental, and ethereal body to enter a vibration of what it is you want to manifest.
Think intensely on what you want to manifest. Get into a comfortable position, either sitting or lying down. Close your eyes and enter a meditative state. Go through some breathing exercises. Once you have become completely comfortable and aware of the heaviness of your entire body, shift your focus inward onto your third eye.
In this state of consciousness, paint a picture in your mind's eye of receiving that $X amount for your company. Maybe you receive a grant, a loan, or win the lottery. Imagine seeing that amount of money in your bank account. See yourself purchasing everything you need for your business. See the numbers on your brand account rising and rising to your goal. See yourself looking and feeling your best. Envision yourself on that very much-needed vacation.
If you are seeking to manifest a new relationship. See in your mind's eye meeting them for the first time. How familiar does this person's soul look when you stare in their eyes? Allow your higher self to guide you to any scenario. Imagine being a goofball with your partner, or dancing for your partner as they longingly gaze at you. Hear what their laugh sounds like. Feel how good it is to embrace them. Get very specific.
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Once you are done, come out of that space and just buzz in the vibration you have created. In this daydream-like state, you may very well tap into future timelines of your manifestation.
Step 3: Affirm
In this step, you repeat affirming mantras about what it is you want to manifest. As mentioned above, words carry vibrations and instructions. Affirming your intentions are like sending them out into the universe with reinforcements. I like to categorize my affirmations into: Self, Love/Friendships, and Abundance.
Sit in the vibration of the first two steps, and try some of the following affirmations:
Self-Love
- Today, I choose me.
- I love my body and all it does for me.
- My inner world creates my outer world.
- I alone am whole.
- I have everything I need within myself.
- I have the power to change my world.
- I have much to celebrate about myself and my life.
- I choose to stop apologizing for being me.
- I let go of negative self-talk.
- I believe in me.
Love/Friendships
- I attract relationships to me that are for the highest good of all.
- I love sharing amazing conversations with my friends, family, and lover.
- I enjoy and thrive in the company of great friends.
- I love laughing and having fun in my relationships.
- I love that my relationships are in harmony with my highest good.
- I accept that I am loved and treasured for who I really AM.
- I give and receive love freely and fully in all my relationships.
- I love being supported by my friends, family, and relationships.
- I enjoy sharing the real me in relationships.
- I know with every fiber of my being that the Universe is bringing me only the most supportive, loving, and awesome relationships!
Abundance
- I always have whatever I need. The Universe takes good care of me.
- Money flows in my life with abundance.
- All my actions lead to abundance and prosperity.
- The whole Universe and entire mankind is conspiring to make me prosperous and abundant.
- My job/business is an all consuming love affair and I attract whatever I need through it.
- I am thankful for the abundance and prosperity in my life.
- I allow all good things to come into my life and I enjoy them.
- Abundance and prosperity is my birthright and I have it.
- I was prosperous, I am prosperous, and I will always be prosperous.
- The Universe is my endless supply.
Step 4: Write it Down
Octavia Butler is one of the world's most successful Black women authors who wrote down all of her goals and aspirations by hand. She was VERY specific about every detail of everything she wanted to accomplish. She wrote down how she would be a bestselling author and listed multiple best sellers' lists. She wrote that her work would reach millions of people.
She wrote about her future goals to help young, disenfranchised Black youth. She unapologetically and sternly wrote down all of her convictions in a positive and all-knowing manner. She repeatedly wrote the powerful words: "I will find the way to do this. So be it! See to it!" It's important that you do the same when trying to manifest your best life so make sure to start your sentences with "I Am" and "I Will" and get as specific as you possibly can with your desires.
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Btw, Octavia Butler fulfilled everything on her list!
Step 5: Act
Now that you have proclaimed or asked for, visualized, affirmed, and wrote your intentions down, it is time for you to act. The Bible says, "Faith without works is dead." Your actions should not be in a manner of force, fear, lack, or limit. They should be made in flow. You should not carry any resistance in your actions. If your business needs a business plan, just write it! The energy you put into creating this document will draw the right opportunities to you. Send that email or create that new blog.
If you are seeking unconditional love in a new relationship, treat yourself how you will your future partner. Do something nice for yourself. Take yourself on a date. Constantly pour love into yourself. Go with the flow of life. If you feel an urge to move to a new place, go to an event, or meet up with a new friend, just go.
Let your light shine. You'll never know that fulfillment of your manifestation is just on the other side of action.
Don't push or force anything, because you'll only invite the opposite of what you wish to manifest. Though the universe does send things your way, you must be willing to go out there and retrieve it. The universe gives you the waves of intuition and knowingness, but it's up to you to ride them.
If you do these things frequently, you will be manifesting in no time.
So what are you waiting for? Get to manifesting your best life!
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When discussing the topic of raising children, discipline is often the first thing that comes to mind. Children need discipline. Full stop. But what is discipline? And how do we draw the line between discipline and revenge?
The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
And the parent isn’t wrong. Talking often doesn’t work the first, the third, or the even the 10th time. And the reason is directly tied to brain development.
Children cannot and do not process information the way an adult can. Auditory processing is not fully developed until a child is 14 or 15 years old. And even then, if a child has auditory processing delays or Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), they may always struggle with processing auditory commands. According to Susie S. Loraine, MA, CCC-SLP, the term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four-step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening.
Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:Â Â
​Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
​Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
​Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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