What happens when 50 black women found(h)ers come together for brunch the day after the ultimate festival of curls?
Magic doesn't even describe it.
On Sunday, September 22, xoNecole partnered with Aunt Jackie's to celebrate the Founders Of Curlfest who just brought their festival to Atlanta for the very first time and introduce them to the love and support of 50 other women found(h)ers in Atlanta.
Nicole Walters, Shanicia Boswell, Melissa Mitchell, Simone Mair, Gia Lowe, Charisse Higgins, Jardan Doneghy, Necole Kane, Dana Blair and Kayla Madonna
Shanicia Boswell (Black Moms Blog) & Christina Rice (Founder, Omnoire)
Hosted by xoNecole founder Necole Kane, the powerhouse women in attendance included Christina Rice (Omnoire), Brandi Harvey (Beyond Her), Koereyelle, Dayna Bolden, Kayla Madonna, Nicole Walters, Yandy Smith, Nikki Gilbert, Dr. Key Hallmon (Village Market), Dr. Joy (Therapy for Black Girls), Erica Pope, Dwan White (Founder, Aunt Jackie's) and many more.
The Founders of Curly Girl Collective & Curlfest attend xoNecole's Table of 50 Brunch
Brandi Harvey shows love to Arkeedah McCormick at xoNecole's Table of 50 Brunch honoring the Founders of Curlfest
Dr. Key Hallmon of The Village Market spotted giving the warmest of welcomes to The Founders of Curlfest
Melissa Mitchell, Yandy Smith and Yandy's mother Laura Smith were all smiles and love
Between dynamic conversations around business goals and genuine compliments on hairstyles and stylish ensembles, the room was full of Energy. With a capital E.
The brunch guests were greeted with the xoNecole infamous 'What I need' and 'What I offer' cards to kickstart their authentic networking conversations by filling in the blanks of their business needs and offerings. As the women headed to their seats at the table, each found(h)er was gifted with products from Aunt Jackie's new grapeseed collection and Melissa Mitchell (Abeille Creations) custom designs.
Melissa Mitchell gifted each guest with wearable art from her A Beille Creations collection
Guests were gifted with Aunt Jackie's new grapeseed collection
What's a boss babe brunch without a top-level meal to match? The ladies dined on Carolina Shrimp and grits, corn fritters, delicious French toast, and tasty mimosas while connecting with their fellow womenpreneurs. By the end of the afternoon, multiple women confessed to getting exactly what they needed just by being in the room, unplugged from their daily routines and surrounded by like-minded ambitious women.
The Founders of Curly Girl Collective thanked fellow founders for the warm welcome to Atlanta
Before heading out, the Curlfest Founders shared a heartfelt message of appreciation with the women in the room mentioning how important community is and how grateful they were for a warm Atlanta welcome. The Atlanta festival attracted over 10,000 attendees, just a month after their flagship New York festival had over 35,000 attendees.
xoNecole founder Necole Kane shared how inspired she's been by watching the growth and success of the brand seeing Curlfest grow from 1000 attendees during its first year into the mega-success it has become today.
Nicole Garner and Eugenia of Garner Circle PR posed with the xoNecole team at xoNecole's Table of 50 brunch honoring the Founders of Curlfest
Alicia Scott of Range Beauty attends xoNecole's Table of 50 Found(h)ers Brunch honoring The Founders of Curlfest
Kayla Madonna and Tamisha Harris (HLN/CNN) attends xoNecole's Table of 50 Found(h)ers Brunch
The afternoon was inspiring to say the least and the women in the room left with more intimate connections and motivation to keep grinding through the rest of the year. Let this serve as a reminder to you to take a moment and let your fellow female hustlers know that you see them, support them and celebrate them too!
Want more Curlfest x xoNecole action? Check out the video of the day's event below.
xoNecole's Table of 50 Brunch Honoring The Founders Of CurlFestyoutu.be
All photography by Carol Lee Rose
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Gee, I wish more folks did all of this when it comes to if a man needs to have a large penis to sexually satisfy a woman (he does not) and if a woman who has had multiple sex partners will ultimately end up with a vagina that is too large for smaller penises to please her (a lie).
Science totally has my back on debunking both of those things (more on that in a bit). Know what else does? A particular type of sex method that is becoming more popular by the day. One that just might convince you to, as they used to say back in the day, focus less on the “size of the wave” and ride out the “motion of the ocean” instead.
It’s called shallowing. Here’s what it’s all about.
What Is Shallowing?
GiphyIf there’s one thing that I wish folks would say more thoroughly when it comes to women and orgasms, it’s that when it comes to75 percent of women not being able to orgasm from only intercourse, the accurate statement is they struggle with achieving a vaginal orgasm without the assistance of some type of clitoral stimulation. Yeah, we’ve really got to remember that very few things in this life are a complete monolith — orgasms included (check out “U-Spot Orgasm, Fantasy Orgasm & 6 Other Orgasms You Should Try Tonight”).
In fact, it was while I was reading up on pairing — a word that is used for when clitoral stimulation transpires during penetration — that I decided to do some deep-diving into shallowing (because it was mentioned inone of the articles that I read).And what is it? Shallowing is when a penis, finger, tongue, or sex toy of some sort is used in order to ever so slightly penetrate the vaginal opening of a woman.
And why is shallowing not just a current sex trend but something that every woman on this planet should try? It’s because of what I’ve said, more than once, on this platform: it focuses on the most sensitive part of a woman’s vagina, which isthe first two inches of her vaginal opening.
When the emphasis is placed there, not only does it increase your chances of experiencing “the big O,” but it can also build up anticipation, which can intensify your orgasms too — yes, shallowing can also be seen as a form of edging.
Another thing that’s cool about shallowing is — and it really and truly can’t be said enough — something that makes vaginal and blended orgasms easier to achieve for some women really has little to do with the size of a man’s package or even his technique; it’s straight up anatomy. Yep, the closer that a woman’s clitoris is to her vaginal opening, the easier it is for a penis to stimulate both. So, science makes it possible for vaginal orgasms to be easier for some women than others.
At the same time, shallowing can make it possible for more women who want to see what a vaginal orgasm actually feels like (because it’s easier for the head of the penis to stimulate the opening of the vagina while the shaft can rub up against your clitoris; based on the position that you are in, of course — the missionary with some pillows propped under the lower part of your back is ideal for this).
Now that you see what shallowing actually is, do you get why I said that penis size doesn’t matter when it comes to doing it — and getting the kind of orgasms that you want? Contrary to popular belief, your vagina is only around four inches. In fact, some health experts say that it ranges between 2-4”. Anything larger, your body literally has to stretch out to accommodate; this includes penises and babies. So, if your vagina is “making room” for more than four inches, why in the world do you think you need a 10-inch man? Yeah…exactly. It really is time to get over the silliness. The average penis continues to be 5.5”. Makes sense when you take it all in (no pun intended).
Aight, so now that you know what shallowing is all about, let me try and hard sell you on why it’s a sex technique that you should try as soon as tonight (if you possibly can).
1. It takes the pressure off of you and your partner.
I’ve been working with couples for almost 20 years at this point. This means that the topic of sex comes up quite a bit. And if there’s one thing that continues to be an issue is inconsistent orgasms (check out “Why Do Orgasms So Often Seem Like A ‘Hit-Or-Miss’ Experience For Women?”).
Listen, no matter how many articles you read or sex positions you try, if you’re anxious, stressed out, or overthinking, it’s gonna get in the way of you experiencing high peaks of pleasure on a consistent basis. Since shallowing is something that can easily be done even in foreplay (via fingering and/ororal sex) if you get that first “release” off, that makes it easier to just sit back and enjoy the ones that (hopefully) are to follow.
2. It teaches you more about your vagina.
A part of the reason why I keep repeating certain facts about vaginas in these articles is that it’s amazing how little certain things are discussed en masse — like the size of the vaginal tube. And since shallowing helps you to stimulate the nerve endings at the entrance of your va-jay-jay along with your G-spot (which is housed a little ways from your opening), shallowing is a great way to explore that area of your body as you figure out what truly works for you and…what doesn’t.
3. It’s the perfect merging of foreplay and intercourse.
When you really stop to think about it, shallowing is like the bridge between foreplay and intercourse because you can use so many different things to do it. So, if you want to experiment with a new sex toy or you want a bit more time to “warm up the engine” before full-on penetration begins, shallowing is one of the most sexually arousing compromises there is.
4. It can help to increase your partner’s stamina.
A few years back, I penned an article for the site entitled, “We’ve Got Some All-Natural Ways To Increase Stamina & Sensitivity.” Listen, even though I onceread a GQ article that said that over 60 percent of the people they polled were fine with intercourse lasting no longer than 5-10 minutes — that poll doesn’t speak for all of us, chile.
So, if you would like your man to build up to going longer, shallowing can help to make that happen. Since he’s barely putting beyond the tip in, he can learn how to be in you for longer periods of time without being, well, in you.
5. It helps you to appreciate whatever “package” he has.
Again — and it really can’t be said enough — if shallowing is all about exploring the mere entrance of your vagina, you don’t need a man with BDE (check out “BDE: Please Let The 'It Needs To Be Huge' Myth Go”) or honestly, even anything close to it.
I mean, even though, reportedly, the size that the average woman says gives her the most orgasms is eight inches — I bet those women have never really tried shallowing before. 10”, 8”, or the average 5.5” can certainly get the job done. And well.
6. It feels A-MAZ-ING.
Okay,so now that you know about shallowing, I promise that if you put the word into your favorite search engine, you’re either gonna see articles on golfing (LOL) or sex, especially as of late. That’s because more couples are trying it out and getting mind-blowing results from it. So, if you’re looking for something new to try, give shallowing a shot.
Hey, anything that’s designed to stimulate your most intense vaginal nerve endings has got to be something for the record books. I mean, how could it not be? Lawd.
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