The Secret To Feeling More Motivated When You're Stuck In Life
Motivation can feel hard to come by when you get to a place in life where you no longer feel moved to operate at your full capacity.
The things that pushed you to hop out of bed each day can make you feel stressed, overwhelmed, or resentful when you lose sight of your "why" or worse: realize that you haven't found your "why" at all.
Motivation stems from three areas of your life: autonomy, competence, and relationships. When you lose touch of these areas, you may feel stuck and unable to move forward.
Event planner Champagne Braswell felt all of the feels of being stuck and unmotivated when her life changed dramatically in 2020. "Last year, COVID messed up my income. I lost a lot of business, my home went into foreclosure, and I didn't know what I was going to do," she says.
Braswell felt pressure and anxiety because instead of fearing the unknown, she was staring directly at it in the face. "I knew I had to pivot and use my resources to survive," she said.
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Set Specific Goals
"What can I do to keep myself focused?" is the question that Mija asked herself when she realized she was getting off track. She created laser-focused goals that kept her preoccupied as she coped with her loss.
The American Psychological Association shares that people who set specific and challenging goals are 90 percent more likely to achieve what they've set their mind to do. The more detailed and out of reach a goal may feel, the more adrenaline you'll receive to bring it to life.
Incorporate Mediation and Journaling Into Your Routine
After losing what felt like everything, Champagne began to incorporate meditation and journaling into her life.
"Daily meditation helped me visualize what I was going to do that day. I started a journal because it helps me talk through things and how I feel. I hope my thoughts can eventually help somebody else.'"
Research shows that meditating for as little as 20 minutes can increase your focus and allow you to achieve more. People who journal each day experience a 22 percent increase in performance and achievement.
Pay Attention to Your Body
Sometimes the root of a lack of motivation may stem from physiological or mental issues. For example, if you have anemia, you may experience decreased motivation from iron deficiencies. If you are experiencing mental issues, you may experience avolition. This condition is a total lack of motivation due to mental illness or medicines used to treat mental illnesses.
Consult with a doctor to see if the changes in your body are the root of changes in your motivation. It may be easy to lose and hard to gain, however, you have to re-explore your why and pivot if necessary to preserve your sanity and peace of mind.
Motivation will manifest when you put yourself in a position to understand what is making you feel stuck and detail a master plan on how to get back on the saddle and ride.
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La La Anthony Shows Us How To Get The Perfect Glowy Summer Skin
Since landing her big break in the entertainment industry as an MTV VJ over two decades ago, La La Anthony has captivated fans with her effortless looks and ageless appearance.
Just one look at her Instagram page, and you'll see why Anthony is that girl. The BMF actress has no shame putting her beauty and body on front street, and now she's sharing her beauty secrets with us. In Vogue's Beauty Secrets. , the 41-year-old gave insight into her regular skincare routine and how she accomplishes her infamous glowy bronze makeup look.
Skincare
Makeup Wipes
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At the start of the video, Anthony begins her skincare tutorial by informing her fans that before applying any products to her face, she removes any excess dirt and makeup that could be lingering around using Neutrogena makeup wipes.
"You can see my skin is a little bit red because I'm way too aggressive with these," she said. "This is the Neutrogena makeup wipes. I start with that always. I wipe the makeup off, and always when you think your face is so clean, it never really is because, look, there's still makeup."
Cleanser, Serum, and Eye Cream
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In the next step of her skincare regimen, Anthony applies Shani Darden Cleansing Serum on her face and uses a wet compressed facial sponge by Gainwell to spread the cleanser around.
While applying the cleanser on her neck, the Power star revealed that she started using the Shani Darden Cleansing Serum because of her best friend and singer Kelly Rowland's rave reviews of the product.
"So then I use the Shani Darden Cleansing Serum that Kelly Rowland told me about because she is obsessed with this," she stated.
After using the cleanser, Anthony rubbed a few drops of the Caudalie Vinoperfect Brightening Glycolic Essence serum throughout her face and neck. Following that step, the mother of one applied Shani Darden intensive eye renewal cream to her eyes.
An advantage of using cleansers is to remove additional dirt, oil, and dead skin cells. While a serum helps bring moisture back into one skin.
Hyaluronic Acid Serum and Vitamin C8 Serum
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Further into the video, Anthony provided insight into the early stages of her best friend Kim Kardashian's skincare brand SKKN by Kim, as she applied her hyaluronic acid serum and Vitamin C8 serum.
"I love to use that SKKN By Kim. This is the hyaluronic acid serum," she said while mentioning some of the serums' best qualities. "I knew about the SKKN By Kim line before it came out, and yes, I got to see some of the products, test them, [and] smell them. Then the Vitamin C8 serum. So I do those two things, and I don't know if you can tell, but my face is like glowing now. Also, the redness is going down a little bit."
Moisturizer
Anthony completed her regimen by applying Shani Darden's moisturizer.
During that time, the mother of one disclosed that her skincare routine could differ depending on whether she must attend any red carpet or special events. The reason behind the different skincare regimen is that Anthony wants to be camera ready when she steps out.
"I use the weightless oil-free moisturizer," she stated. "When it's something big like a red carpet or a Met Ball, I try to at least go get a facial, and my face really, really clean, prepped, and ready. That's important, especially if there is going to be a lot of cameras and stuff like that."
Hair
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Before delving into her bronzy makeup tutorial, Anthony shares that she prioritizes regularly applying her hair care brand Inala Rice Water Power Potion on her hair, mainly her edges.
The entrepreneur added that she created the product during the pandemic after experimenting with rice water in an attempt to restore her hair.
"My next step is just a little quick thing for my hair. My product Inala. This is the power potion. It's a 100% rice water complex," she stated. "During the pandemic, I was experimenting a lot with rice water because my hair was a wreck. I grew my edges back. I grew my hair. I always take a little bit in the dropper. I always at least, at the least, put some in my edges because no one wants to have no edges. That's not the look."
Makeup
Eyebrows
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Following the brief pause to ensure that her edges remained intact, Anthony began her makeup tutorial by lining and shaping her eyebrows with Benefit Cosmetics Precisely My Brow Pencil and giving her fans a fair warning regarding her makeup skills.
"Let me preface this by saying I am not a makeup artist. For those of you that struggle like me, let's give this a whirl," she said. "Alright, so first, brows. This is by Benefit. It's called Precisely My Brows Pencil."
The Perfect Find star added that she prefers a more natural look when doing her eyebrows while also applying Anastasia Beverly Hills Brow Definer.
"The good thing is I do have brows. I don't have to go too crazy... I like it to look more natural," she said.
Foundation
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In the next step, while using Giorgio Armani Luminous Silk Foundation, Anthony explains why she loves using this product compared to other brands.
"One of the favorite foundations that I love that one of my favorite makeup artists told me about was the Giorgio Armani Luminous Silk," she said. "I feel like when I'm doing makeup myself, it's easy. It's not a lot of steps involved."
Anthony also revealed that one thing she had learned since working with other makeup artists is that all foundations will always appear a tone darker on an individual's skin when it is first applied, and over time, it will become "the right color."
"You know what I learned about foundation is when you first put it on. You see how it looks a little darker. Apparently, the makeup artists say it has to oxidize into your skin, and then it like becomes the right color," she stated.
Following the foundation application, Anthony pats it down with a makeup sponge and applies it to her neck.
"Then I take this [makeup sponge]. I kind of pat it in, and I think that's when the oxidizing or whatever starts," she said. "But you want to make sure you go down the neck and do this everywhere. You don't want to have splotches and stuff."
Concealer
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After the foundation, Anthony blended two shades of Tarte Shape Tape Full Coverage Concealer to hide any dark circles or blemishes and listed the particular order in which she would apply each product.
"I really love this Tarte concealer. I usually use two colors and kind of blend them. Medium sand and tan sand. So I always start with the medium," she stated. "I'm going to blend this in first because one thing about concealer that I'm learning if you don't blend it quickly, it will dry, and it will start creasing. Nobody wants to walk around with creases under their eye...Then now I will go over it with the medium a little bit lighter."
Before setting her face with powder, Anthony defined her eyebrows by applying a "tiny bit of concealer" under her eyebrow.
Powder And Contour
To set her face, the former television host used Laura Mercier Translucent Loose Setting Powder and placed it under her eyes with a makeup sponge. Anthony contoured her face with Milk Makeup Flex Foundation Stick by creating three different lines on the outer layers of her face before blending it all with a makeup brush.
Powder, Eye Shadow, and Mascara
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After setting and contouring her face, Anthony applies Fenty Beauty Pro Filt'r Soft Matte Powder Foundation to enhance her features.
"Fenty has the greatest pro filt'r soft powders. So then I take this and go over what I already contoured," she said.
During the conversation, The Chi star spoke highly of her friend group and claimed she often gets style inspiration from them. Some of Anthony's inner circle consist of Ciara, Kelly Rowland, Kim Kardashian, and Serena Williams.
"I think all my friends are so great at what they do. Ciara, Kelly [Rowland], Kim [Kardashian], Serena [Williams]," she stated. "I think they pull it together extremely well. So I definitely look to them for style inspo."
Following the praise, Anthony applied two different types of glittery eyeshadows before beginning the highlighting process.
Highlighter And Eye Highlight
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To highlight her face, Anthony used two different brands to get the glowy bronze look. Anthony first applied the Fenty Beauty Killawatt Freestyle Highlighter and explained that she often achieves this look by using her hands to spread out the product.
"So first, I'm going to hit with the Fenty beauty. This is the mean money and the hussle baby. This is the Kilawatt," she stated. "Just a little bit here. The bronziness I like...Don't be afraid to use your fingers if you have to. It's your own face who cares."
The You People star revealed that if she's feeling a little crazy with her bronze look, she would also add Makeup By Mario Master Crystal Reflector on top of the Fenty highlighter. To finish it off, Anthony applied a little bit of the Fenty highlighter on her eyes and cheeks and used Fenty Beauty Full Frontal Volume, Lift & Curl Mascara on her eyelashes.
Lip Liner and Lip Gloss
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To complete the look, Anthony used MAC Cosmetics Lip Pencil to outline her lips, seemingly giving them a fuller appearance, and applied various lip glosses.
The list included Fenty Beauty Gloss Bomb Universal Lip Luminizer and Too Faced Lip Injection Extreme Hydrating Lip Plumper.
The actress shared her love for clear glosses.
"I'm a clear gloss girl. I have every clear gloss ever invented on this planet. So [this] is Fenty. This is the glass slipper. I love this Too Faced-Lip Injection because it gives you like that plumping feeling," she said.
Toward the end of the video, Anthony sprinkled the Charlotte Tilbury Airbrush Flawless Setting Spray throughout her face to enhance the longevity of her makeup. Anthony also applied Fenty Beauty Body Lava Luminizer Who Needs Clothes on her body to add more shine.
Anthony ultimately wrapped up her tutorial using Ciara and Russell Wilson's R&C The Fragrance Duo perfume.
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