Finding Your Perfect Match: A Guide To Sex Toy Shopping

Finding Your Perfect Match: A Guide To Sex Toy Shopping

Have you ever walked into a sex toy store and didn’t know what the hell to buy because everything looked fun and intimidating all at once? Sex toy stores are a vibrator overload; there are pink ones, twirling ones, remote-controlled ones, and ones that look like penises. Can you say overwhelming? As a former sex store employee, I can’t begin to tell you how many customers I would see walk into my store with that “deer in headlights” look on their faces. I mean, I get it–there are sex toys EVERYwhere!

And all of them claim to have promising features designed to take your pleasure to the next level. I loved working at the sex store, mainly because I love all things sex toys, and secondly, I absolutely loved helping the customers that came into our store find their perfect match. I made it my personal mission to make sure each and every customer left feeling more informed and less nervous than they did before entering. When shopping for a new sex toy, there's a lot to consider. With so many options, it can be hard to decide which option is best on your own– especially if you are new to this scene– but it doesn’t have to be a daunting task.

A sex toy purchase should be a well-thought-out decision. Before you even set foot in a store, there are things you must ask yourself, such as what you want from your new toy. Will the toy be used with a partner? Decide whether you wish to purchase your vibrator in-store or online, the materials you prefer, and the price range. Knowing what you’re looking for beforehand can save you both time and money. But don't worry, you're not in this alone.

Consider me your personal sex toy Fairy Godmother who's here to hold your hand every step of the way. And by holding your hand, I mean I’ve created my own “how to” guide just for you below.

Know Your Needs:

Whether you’re buying your first sex toy or adding to your collection, it's essential to understand what you want. Are you looking for something to use solo or with a partner? Do you prefer clitoral or G-spot stimulation? Or do you crave something that can do all the work for you? Once you’ve identified your needs, it becomes easier to narrow down your choices when shopping.

Research Is Key:

Before walking into a store or making a purchase online, take some time to research the toy you want. Check the reviews and the product description to know what others have to say about the product. This is important since the experience of others can help you make an informed decision.

Set a Budget: 

Sex toys come in different price ranges, so it's always a good idea to set a budget. It's easy to get carried away and overspend, but it's important to remember that expensive doesn't always mean better.

Size Does Matter:

Sex toys come in different sizes, shapes, and textures, so finding one that fits your body and preferences is vital. Don't be afraid to pick it up, feel the texture of the material, and read the product’s measurements to ensure you make the right choice.

Ask for Help: 

Sex toy shops have amazing assistants that are always ready to help you make a decision. They can provide you with informative suggestions while ensuring your privacy is maintained. Don't hesitate to ask them about the products' features, how to use them, and how to clean them.

Sex toy stores are not scary places. Remember to take some time to understand your desires, do your research, set a budget, know what size you prefer, and don’t hesitate to ask for help. Sex toys can be a game-changer for your sexual experience, and with these tips, you'll be on the path to finding your perfect match.

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