

An Intimate Conversation With Keke Palmer On Growing Pains, Embracing Change And Perception
The gag is, Keke Palmer just spoke an entire word and it's not even Sunday.
That's all I could think of when I wrapped up my interview with the beauty and mega star. I must admit, going into my interview with Keke Palmer I expected the obvious: the laughs, some positive affirmations, and an all around cool vibe per her onscreen characters and offscreen persona as portrayed by the press and social media.
Keke Palmer is the all-around cool chick. A guy's girl. A girl's girl. The role model that's safe enough for you and your 12-year-old sister to both be a fan of. She steers clear of being in any real drama, yet remains relevant enough to snag everything from leading movie roles to hosting daytime talk shows, all the while appearing to have it all together.
Which-- considering the scandals most celebs often find themselves caught up in as part of the propaganda used to help propel them from transitioning child stars into a space of relevancy for their forthcoming years-- is a rarity.
But that's Keke for you. A class act. Sweet. Rare, and aware that she is rare, but still humble at the same time.
But today, I met Lauren. Lauren "Keke" Palmer.
Wise beyond her years, unapologetically Black, and refreshingly transparent of her fears and flaws in an effort to teach others. A young woman who has been famous for longer than she hasn't. Whose success at an early age earned her access to a certain lifestyle fairly young, including a desirable salary and owning a house while still in high school--a home she'd d later go half on with her live-in boyfriend while still just a teen and barely legal herself.
And with that in mind, it's only natural that the actress would have more than a few lessons worth learning and listening to, ranging on everything from love and perception to power and respect while I found myself taking notes from the candid "Keeks." I think one of the biggest mistakes one can make is to think that a person of status can't relate to their problems, and don't have the answers to "real" life. But who better to take notes from than someone who embodies empowerment and success? After all, the hardest part about fame is not becoming famous, but rather, remaining relevant.
And with that being said, you may want to bust out a pen and prepare to learn a thing or ten!
xoNecole: You're definitely personable. Aside from the fame and having been successful from a young age, you're relatable on many levels. When you say you were in your own way, do you have any advice for how people can get out of their own way, with themselves?
Keke Palmer: Stop telling yourself what you can't do. I so often kept telling myself that "I can't do this, I can't do this," yes you can! Sit down and think about what it is that you want and why you want it. You have to check if your reasoning is coming from a pure place. Then you get your plan together. How am I going to do this? So it's just about taking yourself through the process and going through a list. Why do I want to do something and is it coming from a pure place? Then move forward and figure out how you're going to get it done. It's just steps and steps and steps and taking it one day at a time.
A lot of times we'll look at things from the full point of view too soon, and from the end game and then we scare ourselves half to death.
When you're building a house, you don't think about the windows you're painting. You don't think about if you're going to have a nice couch or an oval couch. You're thinking about making sure you lay the bricks down. Brick by brick by brick. The foundation. And that's how you have to think about it in terms of going through your goals, take it one step at a time. That's all you gotta do, take it one step at a time. That's all you need to do--one step at a time.
xoNecole: Michael B. Jordan said something very interesting, but I think it got lost in translation unfortunately. He said he doesn't just want to do 'Black roles'; it's already known that he's a Black man and he embraces that, but he just wants to be cast as a "man," in a role. So with that said, what are your dreams for yourself, as an actress? What are your dreams for your roles, in the future, not limited to race or culture?
Keke: I know what Michael B. Jordan is saying. He's saying that he doesn't want every character that he plays to have the idea over it that 'I am [just] playing a Black man.' Here is the thing, when you look at me, you can tell I'm an African-American woman. So that's already going to come with what your perspective or experience with African-American people or African-American women has been.
In my work, what I want to depict is the people you haven't seen. That's what's important to me. So right now I'm working on a script with a couple of guys and it's like a buddy-stoner film. It puts you in the mind of a Seth Rogan movie and Friday mixed together. And for me, that's not anything that you've seen a woman do before. So you haven't seen that type of film, let alone with a woman, and let alone with an African-American woman before.
I love being Black. And people are not going to ever look at me and not see that. It's obvious that I'm an African-American woman. What's important to me is showing the different images that people have of "Black." Showing the different things outside of that, not keeping it just one way. You've seen someone do it this way before. You've seen people do that before, but let me introduce to something new and different. Because these characters exist too. There are other character types of women. Other character types of Black women. Other character types of young people. There are millions of them and I'll about showing the ones--especially as I get behind the scenes as well, I want to created those roles that allow you to see people in different lights. The way I see them everyday. The way people that go to HBCUs see each other.
That's why I always wanted to go to Howard. Because when you go to an HBCU, you see Black people that you never even knew existed, because that's not what is being shown to you. Therefore, if you're not seeing it, you don't know it exists. And that's what I'm about. And I want everybody to have an opportunity to do that someday.
xoNecole: In regards to your role on Scream Queens, I think one thing I admire is your attempt to change the negative stigmas that come with "stereotypes," and I think you do that with your role with Zayday.
Keke: Ultimately the character that I envisioned Zayday to be is a cool, chill, smart young girl. We talked about her being a mix between Michelle Obama and Beyoncé. To me, if that's not a beautiful young woman, then I don't know what would be. But having said that, I think Michelle Obama knows what "ratchet" means, I think Michelle Obama knows what's going with the Black youth today. You know what I mean? Her being educated doesn't mean she she is not a part of Black culture or what American Black culture could be described as. I feel like sometimes there is a lot of sensitivity because Black people, we don't get a lot of images on TV.
So therefore when we do see images, sometimes we can be extra, extra critical. That's not just with my character on Scream Queens, that's with characters on Empire, characters on Scandal, but I think ultimately we have to take a step back and look at the bigger picture and the barriers that are being knocked down when you have Black women on television and when you have the diversity.
I could not have expected the support I have been given with my character Zayday from Scream Queens. Every episode my character has been trending and I'm so blown away by that, and that is the support from my community and I think that let's people know that people want to see this images on television. They want to see something they can relate to. Every African-American character I play isn't going to be like Zayday. I mean, every character is different, but in this particular show Zayday is supposed to be depicting a young, African-American millennial today. So she is going to say stuff that's going to make her seem 'familiar,' but that doesn't make her stereotypical. That makes her like you.
Black culture is amazing if you look at the show, anything you say Zayday does that is portrayed as “black culture", it is portrayed in the most interesting light. I mean honestly, if we're going to talk about anything “stereotypical" that she is doing, I mean, she's cool, she said fun, she's fly. She's a the positive stuff! She's every perfect thing you can think of in a stereotype damn near.
xoNecole: Just to kind of piggyback off of the comments you had about getting out of your own way--have you ever felt a sense of fear when it comes to trying new things that might take you to the next step in life, and how do you get over it?
Keke: We have a choice. I feel like sometimes in our existence, in our society, we feel we don't have a choice in how we feel. Fear is a choice.That is something you can either choose to feel or not. That is not to say that you're not going to have dangerous situations, or situations that have multiple [bad] outcomes, but ultimately you get to choose how you feel about it and how you choose to feel about it will help propel you forward in how that situation goes.
If I perceive a situation to be bad, my experience might as well be bad. But if I perceive a situation to be good, there is nothing that is going to stop me from having a good time because that is what I want the situation to be. So I think the first thing to overcome fear is to understand that you have a choice with how you choose to feel and how you want to feel about something and fear falls under that. So ultimately, fear doesn't have to be real if you don't want it to be. I look at my situation from this point of view and that's what helps me and guides me.
Perception is big. Perception is one of the biggest things that is guiding our world right now. I mean, from the looks of Instagram, from the looks of Twitter, from the looks of Snapchat, perception is a big thing, but it doesn't have to be negative. If you look at the power that perception is having on our generation right now, you can look at so many positive ways it can be flipped into your personal life.
xoNecole: I love that. And thank you. I appreciate that for myself and for our readers because I'm definitely putting that in there.
Keke: And another thing I'll say on top of that is that "change," is another one of those things. Change in who you are. Change in your life, in your relationship. Change in your job. Change is something that we are so afraid of. We pray and we pray for things to happen, 'I want this change to happen in my life,' but the moment that, that change happens, we are dumbfounded. We are horrified. We are backtracking. We are trying to put our lives back into the pieces of who we thought we were.
Change is the best damn thing that can happen to you! If your life isn't changing, if your life isn't constantly under construction, well baby we need to get to moving. Baby, we need to do some stuff.
When I embraced change--whew *takes a deep breath*--that's when I got on Broadway. Change--that's when I did [my single] "I Don't Belong to You", Change--that's when I did Scream Queens, because before then, that's when I was trying to keep whatever life I thought was good and comfortable for me before, I was trying to keep that together.
But when I realized that my change [and changes in my life] was the answer to my previous prayers, is when I realized losses are necessary. Some things are necessary for me to lose. It was meant for me to lose that. I was meant to not have this or that. Once you accept things that you necessarily didn't want to accept before, once you accept them, that's when you can move forward. A lot of times we are holding on but we also need to learn and accept to let go.
Letting go--it can seem much more difficult in the moment of it but when you do, that's when doors also open.
xoNecole: Keke, you're about to make me cry. I don't even know if you realized what you just said.
Keke: And I'm so glad that you felt that. And that's really how I feel. I feel that ultimately all of us are going through the same thing. We all are experiencing the same thing in our own different ways. Mine may have an industry background. Soraya, yours may have a journalism background. But it's all the same thing. I'm telling you, we're all experiencing growing pains. But it's all only for the moment-positive or negative- and it's going to be okay.
xoNecole: You seem to be a woman that embraces her body image as a beautiful, natural woman, even though you do have access to do these enhancements and all these things that young girls who are rich and successful sometimes do, have you ever felt a pressure with your body image and how do you go about embracing that in a time where being "natural" is like old school now?
Keke: That is kind of funny to me. I do see sometimes where people maybe would expect something more or something extra but my body is natural. This is my natural body. I mean, I work out and stuff like that but for me, enhancements--and no offense to anyone else--enhancements haven't really been something I've been into. Ultimately for me as a spiritual thing, I really don't want to have any surgeries if I don't have to. I don't want anything foreign going into my temple unless I have to.
That's not to say on certain days I'm not like, 'Damn, I wish I was a little bit taller. Or damn, I wish I was a little bit thinner.' Whatever, we all have our moments. But ultimately it's about loving who you are. I'm happy with who I am. So none of that outside stuff can really phase me. At the end of the day, you either love me or you don't. You either like me or you don't. So I'm not going to change or tweak myself thinking it's going to make you like me more. That's not to say that other people are doing that because they think it'll make somebody like them more. I think surgery has become very trendy now. It's a part of our pop culture.
It doesn't bother me that I don't have it. And it doesn't make me think that I'm better than anybody because I haven't had surgery. It's just not my thing.
xoNecole: You're a role model. You don't shy or scare or away from being a role model, but do you ever feel pressure not just as a role model, but specifically as a young, black role model? Because so many people feel that aside from you, and the Zendaya's and Amandla Stenberg's, there aren't really that many young, Black female role models. So do you ever feel pressure to maintain a certain image?
Keke: I feel pressure to be myself. Me ultimately, I'm never going to do something that I'm not proud of, or that I can't talk about or that I'm ashamed about, that's number one. Whatever I do, I'm going to be able to talk about and I'm going to be okay with it. That's number one. So all my decisions are based on whether I'm comfortable with them. And if I'm comfortable with them, I have no problems sharing them. Now, on another note, do I feel pressure being a "role model"? I mean, I do and then I don't.
xoNecole: It's not a trick question, I promise. [laughs]
Keke: No, I know. This is the thing. I feel pressure in a good way. I don't look at the people that are looking me and think that they want to see me lose. I look at the people looking at me as saying that they want to see me win. And that's what propels me forward. To have the gumption to always checking where I'm coming from. I've been in this industry for 13 years and I have kids and I have people that look up to me in my career, that support keeps me on my toes to always make the best decisions.
But ultimately I'm the one making that decision, and as long as I feel good about it, that's what matters the most. But people looking at me and having eyes on me, I use it as a good support and a positive way for me to continue to do well and stay on my path.
xoNecole: What was the inspiration behind the song and video for "I Don't Belong to You"?
Keke: The inspiration behind the song is kind of just life lessons, like relationship stuff and work stuff. Like I experience a lot of change in my life. It was right during the time that I did TLC and I was doing Brotherly Love. A lot of changes were happening and I had just gotten out of a long relationship that I had been in. And then I had many changes in my work and getting back into film. I had done TrueJackson, VP for such a long time so it was kind of just transitioning into different roles and now that I was an adult, figuring out what type of stuff I wanted to do.
I was experiencing difficulty with change, and so during the course of that time I was gearing up to start back with music. I was working with London and Natalie Simms and we were just in there working and coming up with stuff, and on the second day of work he had produced the track for "I Don't Belong to You", and we're in there laying down melodies and I went into the booth and literally all the stuff and all the feelings just started to manifest itself into the song. I didn't know really that it was going to mean that much to me until after we recorded the song. After we recorded the song and I heard the song, I was like, 'damn this is good.' I love the song. I feel it.
The song kept living with me. I did the song over a year ago and it kept coming back into my mind. And then I ultimately realized that it was kind of the epitome of that transitioning time for me. And that's why it felt so close to me.
I don't belong to anyone else but myself.
I have to make my own decisions. Happiness is defined by me. My sexuality is defined by me. And that can change and this can change and I can make it what I want to make it because I'm the one who makes that choice. So that's what "I Don't Belong to You," is saying. This song feels right. It feels right and it's telling who I am. And it captures my identity.
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Smile, Sis! These Five Improvements Can Upgrade Your Oral Hygiene Instantly
This article is in partnership with Sensodyne.
Our teeth are connected to so many things - our nutrition, our confidence, and our overall mood. We often take for granted how important healthy teeth are, until issues like tooth sensitivity or gum recession come to remind us. Like most things related to our bodies, prevention is the best medicine. Here are five things you can do immediately to improve your oral hygiene, prevent tooth sensitivity, and avoid dental issues down the road.
1) Go Easy On the Rough Brushing: Brushing your teeth is and always will be priority number one in the oral hygiene department. No surprises there! However, there is such a thing as applying too much pressure when brushing…and that can lead to problems over time. Use a toothbrush with soft bristles and brush in smooth, circular motions. It may seem counterintuitive, but a gentle approach to brushing is the most effective way to clean those pearly whites without wearing away enamel and exposing sensitive areas of the teeth.
2) Use A Desensitizing Toothpaste: As everyone knows, mouth pain can be highly uncomfortable; but tooth sensitivity is a whole different beast. Hot weather favorites like ice cream and popsicles have the ability to trigger tooth sensitivity, which might make you want to stay away from icy foods altogether. But as always, prevention is the best medicine here. Switching to a toothpaste like Sensodyne’s Sensitivity & Gum toothpaste specifically designed for sensitive teeth will help build a protective layer over sensitive areas of the tooth. Over time, those sharp sensations that occur with extremely cold foods will subside, and you’ll be back to treating yourself to your icy faves like this one!
3) Floss, Rinse, Brush. (And In That Order!): Have you ever heard the saying, “It’s not what you do, but how you do it”? Well, the same thing applies to taking care of your teeth. Even if you are flossing and brushing religiously, you could be missing out on some of the benefits simply because you aren’t doing so in the right order. Flossing is best to do before brushing because it removes food particles and plaque from places your toothbrush can’t reach. After a proper flossing sesh, it is important to rinse out your mouth with water after. Finally, you can whip out your toothbrush and get to brushing. Though many of us commonly rinse with water after brushing to remove excess toothpaste, it may not be the best thing for our teeth. That’s because fluoride, the active ingredient in toothpaste that protects your enamel, works best when it gets to sit on the teeth and continue working its magic. Rinsing with water after brushing doesn’t let the toothpaste go to work like it really can. Changing up your order may take some getting used to, but over time, you’ll see the difference.
4) Stay Hydrated: Upping your water supply is a no-fail way to level up your health overall, and your teeth are no exception to this rule. Drinking water not only helps maintain a healthy pH balance in your mouth, but it also washes away residue and acids that can cause enamel erosion. It also helps you steer clear of dry mouth, which is a gateway to bad breath. And who needs that?
5) Show Your Gums Some Love: When it comes to improving your smile, you may be laser-focused on getting your teeth whiter, straighter, and overall healthier. Rightfully so, as these are all attributes of a megawatt smile; but you certainly don’t want to leave gum health out of the equation. If you neglect your gums, you’ll start to notice the effects of plaque buildup, which can irritate the gums and cause gingivitis, the earliest stage of gum disease. Seeing blood while brushing and flossing is a tell-tale sign that your gums are suffering. You may also experience gum recession — a condition where the gum tissue surrounding your teeth pulls back, exposing more of your tooth. Brushing at least twice a day with a gum-protecting toothpaste like Sensodyne Sensitivity and Gum, coupled with regular dentist visits, will keep your gums shining as bright as those pearly whites.
Is Once Ever Enough To See Beyoncé's "Renaissance World Tour?"
Many have wondered if one time is ever enough to see Queen Bey. Some argue yes. However, many of us on the opposite end of the spectrum, including myself, would disagree. Beyoncé's "Renaissance World Tour" is a universal yet varying experience for everyone who attends. In the words of Oprah Winfrey, the concert is "transcendent." For millennials, we have over two decades of her catalog that has served as the soundtrack for many of our lives and painted a personal portrait of our most coveted thoughts. Her music provides mental clarity and self-expression by serving as a universal language that has united fans from all walks of life through community, fashion, self-acceptance, and healing.
With a multi-layered approach to her artistry, just as she did on that winter day in December 2013 with the infamous digital drop of her self-titled album, she changed the game again on February 1, 2023, when she announced her world tour in support of Renaissance, her seventh studio album. Her cultural impact set the internet ablaze, with everyone trying to gather their coins, barter for presale codes, and figure out which cities to attend. The group chats were lit, and the Beyhive was stressed trying to get their hands on tickets.
Beyoncé's Renaissance tour stop in L.A.
Photo courtesy of Dontaira Terrell
Unfortunately, I was in that number. As the concert dates passed by and the one in my city drawing near all roads led to disappointment. With time ticking on the day of the Miami show and less than two hours to spare, my wallet bit the bullet, and I purchased three last-minute tickets, costing roughly $700.00 a piece (including fees) for me, my 9-year-old and 16-year-old nieces in Section 121 at the Hard Rock Stadium. With 10 minutes before showtime, we eagerly awaited the Queen to take the stage. A sea of metallic fringes, cowboy hats, disco fans, and western boots were in full effect and filled the entire stadium.
Dontaira with her nieces at Beyoncé's Renaissance tour stop in Miami.
Photo courtesy of Dontaira Terrell
As the lights dimmed, a flood of emotions instantly overtook my body. It continued with each note she belted, along with nearly 50,000 roaring fans. The reverberating sound of the music through the stadium transported me from one era of my life to the next. As a teen girl in her bedroom daydreaming about her first love to blossoming into an unapologetic Black woman who is still on a road of self-discovery while learning to lean into the power anthem of "You won't break my soul." For over two hours, and with each set, I felt joy, love, peace, and a commanderie with fellow concertgoers. It was therapeutic as I danced like no one was watching and sang as if I were alone in my bathroom mirror.
There were no bars held, and I realized at that moment, "Nobody can judge me but me." The "Renaissance World Tour" proved to be so vast, and my Black girl joy was re-invigorated. It was magnetic and liberating, and I had to attend again, but this time, I needed to be up close and personal; I needed to be on the floor. In the days that passed, I watched more social media clips in different cities and asked myself if I would really splurge again to attend another Renaissance show.
Beyoncé's Renaissance tour stop in Miami.
Photo courtesy of Dontaira Terrell
After all, this would be my thirteenth time (maybe more because I lost count) seeing Beyoncé live, whether she was on tour with Destiny's Child, as a solo artist, or doing a live appearance. I contemplated for a while, but it worked itself out on its own. I was gifted two tickets and the next thing I knew, I was off to LA to attend another Renaissance show with floor seats at SoFi Stadium during Beyonce's 42nd birthday weekend! This time, things were different: no kids were allowed. It was adults only this go round.
Although the energy at the Miami and Los Angeles shows was empowering, infectious, and a celebration of life, happiness, and identity, they each provided their own unique experience. However, both concerts were what I needed for my well-being, leaving me with sore feet from dancing the night away, on vocal rest for the next few days from screaming at the top of my lungs, and on an indefinite high on life.
My introduction and love for Beyoncé began in 1996, while my older sister lived in Houston, TX, right before Bey hit the scene in 1998 with "No, No, No" as a budding R&B member. Her evolution twenty-seven years later as an international superstar and into womanhood has been an incredible journey to witness. As Mrs. Carter reminds each of us in the audience every night before the curtain closes, "I want you to remember this moment, where you're standing, who you came with, and take it with you. I hope you feel inspired."
I truly felt inspired, so thank you, Queen Bey. You awakened my inner child, and I will definitely remember these moments and take them with me.
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