Whether we like it or not, TikTok is somewhat of a beauty haven. Now, are all of the trends floating around worth it—or even safe—to try? That answer changes daily. But in the case of one beauty hack trending, we’d say you could try this one without worrying if you’ve knocked your skin barrier out of whack.
Meet the blush-on-the-go trend. There is some debate about who should be credited for starting this trend on the platform. But makeup maven Avonna Sunshine is the first creator to show us how she uses this hack. But we do want to note this makeup technique has been on the scene for many years. So, let’s get into it.
The Blush Hack TikTok Trend
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So, this hack is all about waking up the face when you only have seconds to get out the door without eyeshadow. Avonna Sunshine used a pretty duo blush palette from Juvia’s Place in Vol 1 and swiped in a circular motion around the eyes and the contour just above her cheeks. In seconds her face was brighter, and she looked refreshed.
My Experience Trying the TikTok Blush Hack
Bianca using the blush technique with only blush.
Bianca Lambert
These days, I mostly use liquid blushes. But a powdered formula is what I used to test the waters. To create a foundation, I used a little skin tint and powder. Next, I went in with my blush. I tried this with one color, but a duo I realized is the best way to get that brightly-hued multidimensional pop of color. And if you’re like me and tend to use more plum-shaded blushes, you’ll definitely need a brighter color in the mix with the deep plums.
If you like liquid or oil blushes like me, you can still make this hack work. For your cream blush (think: Rare Beauty), apply it to the back of your hand first, then use the same twirling technique to work the color in. For an oil blush (think: youthforia), I applied it directly to the spots where I wanted to brighten (with a light hand first) and worked it in with my brush.
When trying this technique, start with a little and add more. Because we’re not all makeup experts like Avonna Sunshine, going from awake to circus could quickly happen.
Final Thoughts
Bianca pairing the blush technique with bronzer.
Bianca Lambert
Blush can wake up the face. So when you’re in a pinch, this breezy technique can make you look put together in seconds. And, if bronzer is more your style, you can apply the same rules. But instead of bronzer with a more mattifying finish, I recommend one with brightening, gold undertones.
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The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
And the parent isn’t wrong. Talking often doesn’t work the first, the third, or the even the 10th time. And the reason is directly tied to brain development.
Children cannot and do not process information the way an adult can. Auditory processing is not fully developed until a child is 14 or 15 years old. And even then, if a child has auditory processing delays or Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), they may always struggle with processing auditory commands. According to Susie S. Loraine, MA, CCC-SLP, the term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four-step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening.
Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:
Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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