If you and your partner are looking for a new way to spice up your sex life, I highly recommend using a sex swing. Sex swings have been around for a while and are hella fun. I bought a sex swing during the height of the pandemic. Because I was bored, home alone, and in need of something to do during a nationwide shutdown, buying a sex swing made perfect sense. Sex swings come in a variety of styles and prices; I purchased one relatively cheap that I could hang over my door. With what I know now, I probably would have chosen a higher quality, slightly more expensive brand, but the one I bought worked just fine.
If you are a newbie like I was, prepare for some trial and error. You’ll probably have to stop several times to adjust and find your groove. The best thing I loved about my sex swing was the complete freedom of movement it provided. With total freedom, the possibilities are truly limitless when it comes to sex positions. Plus, swings tend to be a great tool for individuals with knee or hip issues. However, the swing I purchased does not fit women with hips or large bottoms, which is my only complaint. Similar to narrow stadium seating, the swing has a narrow cut that digs into my hips, which becomes uncomfortable after a while.
Having a sex swing is probably the coolest thing in my sex toy chest. Most men are eagerly excited to use it, and it makes you seem freaky even if you’re not. So if you’re interested in exploring this unique piece of sex furniture, this article is for you. I have created a list of some of the best sex swings on the market and the features that make them stand out.
The Fetish Fantasy Series Sex Swing
This sex swing is a great option for beginners. It’s easy to assemble and is designed for couples who are just starting to explore this aspect of their sexuality. The swing can support up to 350 pounds, so it’s suitable for most couples. One of its standout features is that it comes with a built-in seat that provides comfortable support.
The Sportsheets Sex Swing
This sex swing is more advanced and is suitable for couples who are looking for a more intense experience. It’s designed to hold up to 400 pounds, and it comes with comfortable wrist and ankle cuffs for added support. The swing can be adjusted to different positions, allowing you and your partner to experiment with different angles.
The Adam & Eve Naughty Couples Door Swing
The Adam & Eve Naughty Couples Door Swing is designed to be used on a door. It’s quick and easy to set up, and it can support up to 300 pounds. It comes with adjustable straps that allow you to customize the swing’s height. The swing is great for couples who want to try something new but don’t have a lot of space.
Fetish Fantasy Series Deluxe Fantasy Door Swing
This sex swing is one of the best on the market. The Fetish Fantasy Series Deluxe Fantasy Door Swing is designed to be used on a door and can support up to 300 pounds. It comes with comfortable padded straps that provide great support. The swing also allows you to experiment with different positions, making it a popular choice for couples who want to take their sexual experiences to new heights.
The Trinity 360 Spinning Sex Swing
This advanced sex swing is designed for couples who are looking for a more dominant-submissive dynamic. The Trinity 360 Spinning Sex Swing is versatile, can spin 360 degrees, and can be used in different positions, making it an ideal choice for couples who want to experiment with different sexual scenarios. The swing can support up to 400 pounds and is made from high-quality materials that are designed to last.
Tied Tight Bondage Swing
If you and your lover are looking for an exciting way to take your bedroom sessions to new heights, then the Tied Tight Bondage Swing is definitely worth checking out. Not only does this sex swing offer excellent support, but it also allows you to restrain your partner in any position that you like. The Tied Tight Bondage Swing is easy to install, and it can hold up to 350 pounds of weight.
Its angled bar is designed to accommodate the varying height and weights of partners, making it a great choice for couples who want to perform complex sexual poses that normally wouldn't be possible on their own.
Sex swings can take your sexual experiences to a whole new level, and with the wide variety of options available on the market, there’s something for everyone. From beginner-level options to advanced models, there’s a sex swing to suit every couple’s needs.
Whether you’re looking to add some new excitement to your sex life or explore your dominant and submissive sides, a sex swing can help you achieve your goals. So go ahead, take the plunge, and experience the thrill of a sex swing!
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From Monogamy To Polyamory: 'I'm In An Asexual Poly Marriage With My Husband Of 7 Years'
Have you ever wondered what it's like to be asexual and in an open marriage? Relationship Coach Mikki Bey shared her first-hand experience with us as well as answered some of our burning questions.
Like a lot of people, Mikki met her now husband, Raheem Ali, online. As soon as they met, they instantly fell in love and got engaged on their first date. Just 90 days after they met, the couple tied the knot and have now been married for seven years. Raheem and Mikki aren’t your typical married couple, and despite being married for almost a decade, their marriage is anything but traditional. Mikki and Raheem have what she calls an "asexual polyamorous marriage."
Defining Her Sexuality
It wasn't until last summer that Mikki found the language to define her sexuality. "I didn't have the language for it until last summer," she explained to xoNecole. "Looking back, I just thought sex wasn't my thing. It was never enjoyable for me, and I'd go years without even noticing.”
Mikki always thought she was broken because she had no interest in sex. Mikki noticed after her friends came to visit and started discussing their sexual fantasies that she realized something was different about her. “At that point, I knew something was definitely different about me since I do not have sexual fantasies at all. It was truly news to me that people are at work thinking about sex! That was not my experience.” This led to Mikki researching asexuality, which she soon realized fit her to a T. “It felt like breathing new air when I was able to call it by name," said Mikki.
"Looking back, I just thought sex wasn't my thing. It was never enjoyable for me, and I'd go years without even noticing it."
Asexuality refers to people who experience little or no sexual attraction, experience attraction without acting on it sexually, or experience sexual attraction differently based on other factors. Like most things, asexuality falls on a spectrum and encompasses many other identities. It's important to remember, however, that attraction and action are not always synonymous: some asexuals may reject the idea of sexual contact, but others may be sex-neutral and engage in sexual activity.
It's possible that some asexuals will have sex with someone else despite not having a libido or masturbating, but others will have sex with a partner because it brings a sense of connection.
From a Traditional Marriage to Kitchen Table Polyamory
Although Mikki never really had a high sex drive, it wasn’t until after the birth of her son, that she noticed her sex drive took a real nosedive. “I never had a high sex drive, but about a year after my son was born, I realized I had zero desire. My husband has a high sex drive, and I knew that it would not be sustainable to not have sex in our marriage at that time.”
She was determined to find an alternative to divorce and stumbled upon a polyamory conversation on Clubhouse. Upon doing her own research, she brought up the idea to their husband, who was receptive. “It’s so interesting to me that people weigh sex so heavily in relationships when even if you are having a ton of sex, it’s still a very small percentage of the relationship activity," Mikki shared.
They chose polyamory because Mikki still wanted to be married, but she also wanted to make sure that Raheem was getting his individual needs and desires met, even if that meant meeting them with someone else. “I think that we have been programmed to think that our spouses need to be our 'everything.' We do not operate like that. There is no one way that fits all when it comes to relationships, despite what society may try to tell you. Their path to doing this thing called life together may be different from yours, but they found what works for them. We have chosen to design a marriage that works for us,” Mikki explained.
"We have chosen to design a marriage that works for us. We both consent to each of us having everything from casual sex partners to lifetime partners if it should go there. We believe love is abundant and do not limit ourselves or each other on how we express it."
She continued, “We both consent to each of us having everything from casual sexual partners to lifetime partners if it should get there. We believe love is abundant and do not limit ourselves or each other on how we express it. Our dynamic is parallel with kitchen table poly aspirations.”
Kitchen table polyamory (KTP) is a polyamorous relationship in which all participants are on friendly terms enough to share a meal at the kitchen table. Basically, it means you have some form of relationship with your partner’s other partner, whether as a group or individually. A lot of times, KTP relationships are highly personal and rooted in mutual respect, communication, and friendship.
Intimacy in an Asexual Polyamorous Marriage
Mikki says she and her husband, Raheem, still share intimate moments despite being in a polyamorous marriage. “Our intimacy is emotional, intellectual, spiritual, and physical, although non-sexual. We are intentional about date nights weekly, surprising and delighting each other daily, and most of all, we communicate our needs regularly. In my opinion, our intimacy is top-tier! I give my husband full-body massages, mani-pedis and make sure I am giving him small physical touches/kisses throughout the day. He is also very intentional about showing me his love and affection.”
Raheem and Mikki now use their lives as examples for others. On their website, thepolycouplenextdoor.com, they coach people interested in learning how to be consensually non-monogamous. “We are both relationship coaches. I specialized in emotional regulation, and Raheem specializes in communication and conflict resolution. The same tools we use in our marriage help our clients succeed in polyamory."
Mikki advises people who may be asexual or seeking non-monogamy to communicate their needs openly and to consider seeking sex therapy or intimacy coaching. Building a strong relationship with a non-sexual partner requires both empathy and compassion.
For more of Mikki, follow her on Instagram @getmikkibey. Follow the couple's platform on Instagram @thepolycouplenextdoor.
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