If you and your partner are looking for a new way to spice up your sex life, I highly recommend using a sex swing. Sex swings have been around for a while and are hella fun. I bought a sex swing during the height of the pandemic. Because I was bored, home alone, and in need of something to do during a nationwide shutdown, buying a sex swing made perfect sense. Sex swings come in a variety of styles and prices; I purchased one relatively cheap that I could hang over my door. With what I know now, I probably would have chosen a higher quality, slightly more expensive brand, but the one I bought worked just fine.
If you are a newbie like I was, prepare for some trial and error. You’ll probably have to stop several times to adjust and find your groove. The best thing I loved about my sex swing was the complete freedom of movement it provided. With total freedom, the possibilities are truly limitless when it comes to sex positions. Plus, swings tend to be a great tool for individuals with knee or hip issues. However, the swing I purchased does not fit women with hips or large bottoms, which is my only complaint. Similar to narrow stadium seating, the swing has a narrow cut that digs into my hips, which becomes uncomfortable after a while.
Having a sex swing is probably the coolest thing in my sex toy chest. Most men are eagerly excited to use it, and it makes you seem freaky even if you’re not. So if you’re interested in exploring this unique piece of sex furniture, this article is for you. I have created a list of some of the best sex swings on the market and the features that make them stand out.
The Fetish Fantasy Series Sex Swing
This sex swing is a great option for beginners. It’s easy to assemble and is designed for couples who are just starting to explore this aspect of their sexuality. The swing can support up to 350 pounds, so it’s suitable for most couples. One of its standout features is that it comes with a built-in seat that provides comfortable support.
The Sportsheets Sex Swing
This sex swing is more advanced and is suitable for couples who are looking for a more intense experience. It’s designed to hold up to 400 pounds, and it comes with comfortable wrist and ankle cuffs for added support. The swing can be adjusted to different positions, allowing you and your partner to experiment with different angles.
The Adam & Eve Naughty Couples Door Swing
The Adam & Eve Naughty Couples Door Swing is designed to be used on a door. It’s quick and easy to set up, and it can support up to 300 pounds. It comes with adjustable straps that allow you to customize the swing’s height. The swing is great for couples who want to try something new but don’t have a lot of space.
Fetish Fantasy Series Deluxe Fantasy Door Swing
This sex swing is one of the best on the market. The Fetish Fantasy Series Deluxe Fantasy Door Swing is designed to be used on a door and can support up to 300 pounds. It comes with comfortable padded straps that provide great support. The swing also allows you to experiment with different positions, making it a popular choice for couples who want to take their sexual experiences to new heights.
The Trinity 360 Spinning Sex Swing
This advanced sex swing is designed for couples who are looking for a more dominant-submissive dynamic. The Trinity 360 Spinning Sex Swing is versatile, can spin 360 degrees, and can be used in different positions, making it an ideal choice for couples who want to experiment with different sexual scenarios. The swing can support up to 400 pounds and is made from high-quality materials that are designed to last.
Tied Tight Bondage Swing
If you and your lover are looking for an exciting way to take your bedroom sessions to new heights, then the Tied Tight Bondage Swing is definitely worth checking out. Not only does this sex swing offer excellent support, but it also allows you to restrain your partner in any position that you like. The Tied Tight Bondage Swing is easy to install, and it can hold up to 350 pounds of weight.
Its angled bar is designed to accommodate the varying height and weights of partners, making it a great choice for couples who want to perform complex sexual poses that normally wouldn't be possible on their own.
Sex swings can take your sexual experiences to a whole new level, and with the wide variety of options available on the market, there’s something for everyone. From beginner-level options to advanced models, there’s a sex swing to suit every couple’s needs.
Whether you’re looking to add some new excitement to your sex life or explore your dominant and submissive sides, a sex swing can help you achieve your goals. So go ahead, take the plunge, and experience the thrill of a sex swing!
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Exclusive: Melanie Fiona On Making High-Vibrational Music & Saying Yes To Partnership
Melanie Fiona is back! After taking a little more than a decade-long hiatus, she has officially made her return to music and blessed us with two singles, “Say Yes” and “I Choose You.” While both singles are very different from each other, they both reflect who she is today and the type of music she wants to make. In our conversation, the mom of two expressed what she learned during her time away.
“It's interesting, even when I said it is like coming back, I don't ever feel like I really left because I was always still performing. I've still been public. It's not like I went into being this recluse person or version of myself, but the thing that I really learned in this process is that I think things take time,” Melanie says in a xoNecole exclusive.
“I think often we're so caught up in it, being on the timing of demand or popularity, or, like, striking while the iron is hot and the thing that I've learned is that everything is on God's time. That's it. Every time I thought I would have been ready, or, like, things were taking too long, I had to reship some things, personally, professionally, in my life. I also gave myself permission to make a living, not just make a living, but make a life for myself.”
Making a life for herself included getting married to Grammy-nominated songwriter Jared Cotter, starting a family, and embracing new landscapes, such as podcasting as a co-host of The Mama’s Den podcast. She also began doing more spiritual work and self-care practices like meditation, sound healing, Reiki, acupuncture, and boundary setting, which allowed her to get in touch with her inner voice.
“I wasn't putting out music, and I wasn't experiencing a number one record, but I was being a number one mom,” she says.
“I was experiencing things that were allowing me to heal and get in touch with myself so that I could make new music from a space of joy and freedom, and excitement again because I definitely feel like I did lose some excitement because of just politics and industry and what it can do to your mental health and even your physical health. So giving myself the space to really just say, ‘Hey, it's okay. Everything's right on time.’”
The joy and excitement are felt in one of two new singles, “I Choose You,” which is more of a lovers rock vibe, a tribute to Melanie’s Caribbean roots. While the Grammy award-winner is known for ballads like “It Kills Me” and “Fool For You,” she is becoming more intentional about the music she makes, calling it high-vibrational music. She says her music is a “reflection of my life,” as it captures every facet, from hanging out with friends to riding around in her car.
“Say Yes” has the classic R&B vibe Melanie is known for. However, both songs are inspired by her relationship. Melanie and Jared got married in December 2020, and the Toronto-bred artist dished on their relationship. Fun fact: he is featured in the “Say Yes” music video.
“When we first started dating, I had come into that relationship post a lot of self-work. I had gotten out of a long-term relationship, I had a year and a half to date and be by myself and do a lot of work on myself alone. And when we met, I remember feeling like this has to be my person because I feel it,” she says.
“And so when we went into that relationship, and we started dating, I was very clear. I was like, I know what I want. I'm very clear on what I need, and I'm not going to withhold my truth about myself in this process because of pride or fear of rejection. I know you love me, but I'm coming with my heart in my hand to let you know that if we're gonna get there, we have to put fear aside and say yes. So that was kind of like my open letter to him, which is why the video is us having a conversation.”
Melanie also shares that saying yes to her partner has empowered her in many ways, including motherhood and showing up for herself. Her new EP, also titled Say Yes, will be available at the top of 2025.
Check out the full interview below.
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Essence Atkins Shares Why Abstinence Is Her Path To Purpose And A 'Great Harvest'
Essence Atkins is having a very important conversation.
Known for her role on the hit show Half & Half, the actress appeared on Sherri to discuss her latest projects, her friendship with Tia Mowry, and spilling the tea on her personal life. Surprisingly, Essence revealed that she has been abstaining from sex for the past four years and plans to continue until she remarries.
The star met her first husband, Jaime Mendez, on Valentine's Day in 2008 through the online dating platform Match.com. Mendez was a former All-American collegiate football free safety. The couple wed in September 2009, with Atkins' co-star Valarie Pettiford performing at the reception. However, the marriage ended in divorce in 2016.
When talking about why she chose abstinence, Essence said, "It was something that I heard very clearly. I believe there's honor in what I'm doing, and my obedience is going to yield a great harvest."
And the benefits are real. "I have tremendous clarity. When I meet someone, I can really assess and listen with much better ears because I’m not distracted by the possibility [of physical intimacy]," the actress shared.
Most of all she believes her journey should serve as encouragement to young women. "It's important that we value ourselves and make sure that others are valuing us. Can you spend time with someone without physical companionship? Do they make you laugh? Are they joyful? Are they purposeful and intentional?"
Abstinence vs Celibacy
Abstinence is a temporary decision to avoid sexual activity, while celibacy is a lifestyle choice to abstain from sexual activity for an extended period of time, or even a lifetime.
The Girls Are Celibate
A recent survey conducted by BLK, a dating app designed for the Black community, has uncovered a growing trend of celibacy among Black Gen Z women. The survey's findings indicate that 64% of Black Gen Z women are currently practicing celibacy, with a significant majority (63%) having made this decision within the past six months.
61% of respondents chose celibacy as a means of self-improvement. Furthermore, 66% reported experiencing improved emotional well-being, and 87% found that celibacy either positively impacted or had no negative effect on their dating lives.
As a millennial woman who practiced celibacy for three years, it is a truly awakening experience because you get to wholly honor yourself. And with the dating pool having some pee and other unknown substances in it, it just feels good to make the decision for myself.
Dating apps that focus on specific communities, like BLK, have a unique opportunity. They can see and respond to changes in dating behavior, such as the growing trend of celibacy among Black Gen Z women. For these women, celibacy is a way to take control of their own stories, resist societal pressures, and build healthier relationships. By adapting to these needs, these apps can better serve these users and strengthen their connection with these important sub-communities.
4B Movement
CNN reports that following the news of Donald Trump's re-election as President of the United States, there has been a significant increase in interest in the US for the concept of "4B". The article says, “Young liberal women across TikTok and Instagram are discussing and sharing information about the South Korean feminist movement, in which straight women refuse to marry, have children, date or have sex with men.”
These women are furious after the majority of their male counterparts voted for a candidate who was found liable for sexual abuse. They are also frustrated that his appointment of three conservative Supreme Court justices overturned national abortion rights protections.
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