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I don't know who needs to hear this but almost never counts, sis. It was me. I needed to hear that. I am guilty of over-loving and overcompensating for a man who almost could have been the one. I've fallen in love with the idea of who a man could be instead of the man himself and I'd give it zero stars.

Would not recommend.

With every breakup comes a lesson and a blessing, and for LisaRaye, she says that it was marrying her ex-husband, former Turks and Caicos Prime Minister Michael Misick, for potential. On her recent appearance on Claudia Jordan's show, Out Loud, when asked about her biggest shortcomings, LisaRaye had this to say:

"For me, hands down, I should have married for love."

The actress, who met her former spouse in 2005 and tied the knot a year later, explained that because she was dating with the intention of marriage, she accepted hoping that she would later grow to fall in love with her partner.

"It was the potential of falling in love, but I should have been in that before the marriage. The dream he sold me was, 'I want to date you in our marriage.' I had never heard of that before and I was thinking, that's kind of clever!"

LisaRaye explained that she was making a lifetime commitment to someone she wasn't quite in love with, the idea of building a life with mutual goals was too intriguing to reject:

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"And we're going towards that way anyway, so OK. We can accomplish what we're trying to accomplish sooner in a partnership. In a partnership. A partnership is what I thought I was getting into."

LisaRaye said that although sh*t was sweet up until that point, she later found that she didn't know her partner at all:

"Then I got in there and sh-t changed and switched and it was like, 'Who are you?' I'm sure he asked who am I as well."

LisaRaye explained that the couple, who ultimately divorced in 2009, experienced problems with finances and infidelity that were ultimately irreconcilable. Lisa said that she may have been able to work through the pitfalls in their relationship if she had taken the time to fall in love with her former partner before meeting him at the altar.

"But if you have that love, that foundation, then you can weather a storm that you wouldn't necessarily weather…I would have stayed a little longer if my heart was involved. It wasn't there."

To watch the full clip, click below!

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