Social media shaming of all sorts is something that is inescapable in this day and age. Some people will criticize literally every little thing about you on social media from your weight to your parenting skills. Quite frankly, most of us are over it.
On an episode of The Real, Adrienne Bailon brought up a different type of shaming that has become very prominent on social media--makeup shaming. Women are using the hashtags #ThePowerOfMakeup and #MakeupShaming to clap back (in a positive way) to women who shame other women for wearing makeup. Joining in on the movement first started by makeup artist and beauty vlogger NikkieTutorials, women are sharing half glamed up/ half natural selfies to combat makeup shamers and allow women who love to wear makeup to live their lives beautifully beat!
Makeup shamers feel as though women who choose to wear makeup do it for the following reasons:
- Because they are insecure and have low self esteem
- They want attention, especially from the men
- They don't love themselves
Women who love to wear makeup (myself included) say they actually do it for the following reasons:
- It's a fun way of expressing yourself
- It gives that extra boost of confidence that you may need when your not feeling all that hot (physical, emotionally and spiritually)
- It's none of your business!
Beauty vlogger Shalom Blac's story is a true testament to #ThePowerofMakeup. She's been using makeup as a teen to cover her burn scars, but learned to love herself and accept that her scars are a part of who she is.
I'm absolutely no stranger to makeup shaming. I've been into makeup for basically my whole life and I've definitely crossed paths with a few shamers along the way. Since I was a little girl, I struggled with expressing myself and was always on the hunt to find an outlet that I could stick to. I took piano lessons; I was no Alicia Keys. My artwork looked like I drew with my feet. I tried guitar and went home everyday with calluses on my fingers. I actually loved dancing but I was sick of people underestimating me because I was bigger than the other kids. One day I began dabbling in makeup and we've been best friends ever since.
In high school, when I was finally allowed to wear makeup out of the house, you could catch me prancing down the halls with a bright lippie, blush and even possibly a coat of blue mascara on my lashes (yes, blue mascara). I loved the compliments that I got but that was absolutely never the reason why I would wake up a 30 extra minutes to apply it. It was all for ME, and it still is.
I had this one particular shamer that I wish to this day I gave a piece of my mind; not because of the horrible things that she would say about my makeup but because she was my “friend." She would call me Ru Paul or a tranny and all sorts of mean things just because I enjoyed wearing and doing makeup. But (there's always a but) she would run out and purchase similar products that I would use and emulate some of the things that I would do. I was absolutely baffled, but as Adrienne Bailon said some women makeup shame other women simply because they don't know how to properly apply makeup themselves. Present day, I often find that same shamer liking some of my selfies displaying my face beat to the GAWDS on instagram.
Me showing #ThePowerofMakeUp
I now work as a beauty consultant for Clinique and absolutely love spreading #ThePowerOfMakeup and confidence to my clients. Women come to me on a regular basis wanting to learn the tricks of the trade; sometimes they just simply want to learn because they were never taught or they may be at some new stage in their lives and they're just looking to feel and look refreshed. Wearing makeup is honestly no different than revamping you're wardrobe in my opinion.
One particular client story over the years of why she chooses to wear makeup has stuck with me. A few years back my client was diagnosed with lupus, which has left her skin blotchy with very noticeable red rashes on her fair skin. She wears makeup primarily to cover the rashes of course, but also to not have a constant reminder of the disease that she is battling every time she looks in the mirror.
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As far a confidence goes, yes makeup can be used as a booster, but at the end of the day you need to genuinely happy with whom you are. Work on the inner before even attempting to alter your outer appearance. And if makeup just isn't your thing, there is no reason to shame someone who loves it.
What are your personal thoughts on makeup shaming? Share them with us along with some of your #PowerOfMakeup selfies, and check out the gallery below of some beauties showing #ThePowerofMakeUp.
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The show is exactly what you’d expect when you put a media pro and a sports legend together—a mix of real talk, unfiltered moments, and guest interviews that feel like family kickbacks. As the duo wraps up their first season, Rocsi sat down with xoNecole to talk about teaming up with Deion, the wildest moments on set, and why streaming platforms like Tubi are shaking up the talk show world.
Scoring the Gig & Clicking Instantly with Deion
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Deion Sanders had been dreaming of hosting a talk show, and when Tubi came calling, it was only right he made it happen. But before he found the perfect co-host, he held auditions with different women for the spot.
Lucky for us, Rocsi threw her hat in the ring, and the connection was instant. “You just can’t buy chemistry like we have,” she tells us. “We are legit like big brother, little sister—fighting, cracking jokes, telling each other off. When you watch the show, it’s like watching family.”
Mixing News, Culture & Sports—Minus the Snooze
With We Got Time Today, Rocsi and Deion cover everything from the latest headlines to celebrity tea and, of course, sports. But instead of stiff, rehearsed segments, the show keeps it loose and unpredictable.
“We’re not breaking the mold—it’s not rocket science,” Rocsi jokes. “We just bring our own flair, our authenticity, and our personalities to it. Deion has firsthand experience in sports, so when we talk about athletes, he brings a different perspective.”
And the best part? Unlike traditional talk shows that rush through quick interviews, We Got Time Today actually takes its time. “A lot of shows might give you one or two segments with a guest,” Rocsi says. “With us, we actually sit down and have real-life conversations.”
Her Top Guests (So Far!)
From music icons to relationship experts, the show has already had some unforgettable guests—but a few stand out for Rocsi.
“Ice Cube was our first guest, and he’s just legendary,” she says. “Kirk Franklin had us cracking up when he broke into a full choir freestyle for our Christmas special. And anytime we get Dr. Bryant on to put Deion in the hot seat? That’s my favorite!”
And of course, there’s Nick Cannon. “Nick was amazing,” she adds. “You already know he’s going to bring the energy and say something wild.”
Tag-Team Hosting with Deion: The Inside Scoop
While Deion Sanders is best known for his football greatness, Rocsi says he’s also one of the funniest people she’s ever worked with.
“He’s goofy—like, really goofy,” she laughs. “A lot of people didn’t know that side of him, but now they do. He can crack a joke, and if you’re too sensitive, good luck, because he will go in. But the best part? I throw it right back at him! Sometimes we just look at each other like, ‘Okay, that was a good one.’”
But beyond the laughs, she admires his insane work ethic. “Watching him juggle everything he does is just super admirable,” she says.
How "We Got Time Today" Brings That "106 & Park" Energy
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For those wondering if We Got Time Today feels like 106 & Park 2.0, Rocsi says it’s a whole different vibe.
“The only comparison I’d make is that it’s a destination for the culture,” she explains. “It’s a platform where our people can come, feel safe, and have real conversations. But other than that, this is Deion’s world—we’re just having fun in it.”
The Talk Show Shake-Up: Why This Show Hits Different
Unlike traditional networks, We Got Time Today lives exclusively on Tubi, proving that streaming platforms are changing how we watch talk shows.
“Tubi is giving more people opportunities and making content more accessible,” Rocsi says. “Deion is a huge Tubi fan—he literally loves Black cinema—so it just made sense for him. And honestly? He’s got me watching it too!”
Real Ones Only: Women Holding Each Other Down
Rocsi credits her best friend, Chantelle, for always keeping her grounded. “She kept pouring into me, reminding me of who I am,” she shares. Even Deion Sanders makes sure to give her flowers, often calling her “the hostess with the most.”
In the industry, she’s built lasting bonds with women like Julissa Bermundez, Angie Martinez, and Angela Yee. “Julissa and I still kick it—her house is basically Sephora, so I just shop there,” she jokes. She also cherishes her friendships with Melyssa Ford and Robin Roberts, who have offered unwavering support. “Robin has always been there for me,” Rocsi says, reflecting on the wisdom she’s gained from the legendary journalist.
With the show’s first season wrapping up, Rocsi is grateful for the experience and excited for what’s next. “We’re having a good time, and the audience can feel that,” she says.
And if you haven’t tuned in yet? Well, Rocsi and Deion got time—so you might as well make some too.
Catch We Got Time Today now streaming on Tubi!
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While speaking to xoNecole, Eva shares that she’s a lot like the beloved 1994 character in many ways. “Lyric is so me. She's the odd flower. A flower nonetheless, but definitely not a peony,” she tells us.
“She's not the average flower you see presented, and so she reminds me of myself. I'm a sunflower, beautiful, but different. And what I loved about her character then, and even more so now, is that she was very sure of herself.
"Sure of what she wanted in life and okay to sacrifice her moments right now, to get what she knew she deserved later. And that is me. I'm not an instant gratification kind of a person. I am a long game. I'm not a sprinter, I'm a marathon.
America first fell in love with Eva when she graced our screens on cycle 3 of America’s Next Top Model in 2004, which she emerged as the winner. Since then, she's ventured into different avenues, from acting on various TV series like House of Payne to starring on Real Housewives of Atlanta.
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Eva praises her castmates and the play’s producer, Je’Caryous for her positive experience. “You know what? Je’Caryous fuels my audacity car daily, ‘cause I consider myself an extremely audacious woman, and I believe in what I know, even if no one else knows it, because God gave it to me. So I know what I know. That is who Je’Caryous is.”
But the mom of three isn’t the only one in the family who enjoys acting. Eva reveals her daughter Marley has also caught the acting bug.
“It is the most adorable thing you can ever see. She’s got a part in her school play. She's in her chorus, and she loves it,” she says. “I don't know if she loves it, because it's like, mommy does it, so maybe I should do it, but there is something about her.”
Overall, Eva hopes that her contribution to the role and the play as a whole serves as motivation for others to reach for the stars.
“I want them to walk out with hope. I want them to re-vision their dreams. Whatever they were. Whatever they are. To re-see them and then have that thing inside of them say, ‘You know what? I'm going to do that. Whatever dream you put on the back burner, go pick it up.
"Whatever dream you've accomplished, make a new dream, but continue to reach for the stars. Continue to reach for what is beyond what people say we can do, especially as [a] Black collective but especially as Black women. When it comes to us and who we are and what we accept and what we're worth, it's not about having seen it before. It's about knowing that I deserve it.”
This interview has been edited for length and clarity.
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