Ashanti has been experiencing a beautiful resurgence in her career over the last few years. The Grammy award-winning artist became a household name after dropping her debut self-titled album in 2002 and from there the singer/songwriter has given us hits after hits. Now at 41 years of age, the “Foolish” artist has been reclaiming the spotlight with viral moments such as her thirst-trapping photos on social media and performing during the Verzuz battle between Ja Rule and Fat Joe which resulted in an awkward exchange with her ex Nelly. But probably one of her most monumental occasions is receiving a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame in April.
Another major moment for the R&B star was finally receiving recognition for her writing and singing on two of Jennifer Lopez’s biggest tracks “I’m Real” and “Ain’t It Funny.” Founding her own independent record label, Written Ent., Ashanti is a boss and continues to thrive in the ever-changing music industry by remaining the same person that everyone fell in love with in 2002. The Guinness World Record holder recently covered HelloBeautiful where she talked about her illustrious 20-year career.
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Ashanti on Finally Being Recognized For Her Background Vocals On Jennifer Lopez’s Records:
“It always feels good to get recognition. I was always really proud that I had the opportunity to do what I did. And have people recognize it and look at how I handled the situation. It’s always good to get love from the people, regardless of whatever the situation is.”
Ashanti on Protecting Her Energy:
"I think it's really important. This industry is really corrupt. It's really cutthroat. There could be some dark moments. So I think it's really important to protect because that can prove who you are."
Ashanti on Keeping Her Personal Life Private:
“I just feel like it’s really important to keep certain things private, to yourself for yourself. As an artist, we give so much to the public and so much to the world, there have to be some things that are just for you. I just find that it’s better that way to take a lot of people out of your business because sometimes people want to infiltrate for the wrong reasons.”
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Ashanti on Her Natural Body:
"I've always been a person to take care of myself inside and out. I think it's important that we show it's okay to not be perfect and to still embrace being natural. And maybe you don't have the biggest booty or the biggest boobs, but it's yours. And it's natural. And when you are natural, you're proud because you, you work for it. You work out, you eat right, you diet, or not even diet, you try to be healthy."
"When I moved to Atlanta, I was considered super skinny. I'm sure every woman has gone through being different or looking different or being compared. For me, I've always been happy and proud."
Ashanti on Working with Larenz Tate in the “Rain On Me” Video:
"I'd never done anything like that before. But he's so cool. We went out on maybe two dates. We weren't messing around or anything but just warmed up to each other before shooting. That's my bro. Obviously, I had been a fan already. He's very humble. And he just made me super comfortable. We were laughing a lot. I was actually chewing gum in the window."
Read the full cover story on HelloBeautiful here.
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October 2025 Astrology: An Overview
Mercury enters Scorpio on October 6, and Mercury in Scorpio only knows depth. The conversations being had this month are inspiring, transformative, and a little more blunt than usual. This energy is good for the power of persuasion and for asking for what you want, especially within business and financial matters. On the same day, we have a Supermoon in Aries, and this is a powerful Full Moon for reflection, owning your power, and letting go of the insecurities that don’t resonate with what you want for yourself and your future.
Venus, the planet of love, moves into Libra on October 13 after being in Virgo for the past month, and after some time of healing and clarity in love, Libra is here to bring in the romance. Venus loves being in Libra, and this energy creates new beginnings within relationships and provides a little extra magic in this area of life. With Pluto going direct in Aquarius on the same day after being retrograde since May, life and love move forward mid-October, helping provide more stable and nurturing foundations in your personal life and community as well.
The New Moon of the month occurs in Libra on October 21, making it a beautiful time for manifesting romance, balance, and harmony in your world.
This New Moon aligns with the Sun in Libra, and it’s all about letting a new beginning transform your world and the love in your life for the better. Scorpio Season officially begins on October 22, and Neptune retrograde enters Pisces on the same day, bringing in some water sign energy into the mix. As we close out the month, it’s time to renew, honor the transformations occurring, and know that your dreams aren’t as far out of reach as they may seem at times.
Read for your sun and rising sign below to see what October 2025 has in store for you.
What October 2025 Has In Store For Your Zodiac Sign
ARIES
AriesKyra Jay for xoNecoleOctober is all about perspective, Aries. This is the month to trust the divine timing of your life, and not let the what-ifs overwhelm you. With the Sun in Libra, your sister sign, for most of the month, October is about building connections, finding your balance in love, and knowing that you are worthy of what your heart is seeking right now. We have a Supermoon in your sign on October 6, and emotions are a little heavier this month, but also healing. Give yourself grace, and let go of what isn’t working for you.
Venus is in your house of love from October 13 until November 6, and there is a lot to look forward to when it comes to romance and the relationship dynamics in your life as you move through the month. It’s about being confident in your power of attraction and letting love come to you right now. Before October comes to an end, we have a New Moon in your 7th house of love as well, and with all this energy in your relationship zone, life changes for you in love for the better in October.
TAURUS
TaurusKyra Jay for xoNecoleOctober is a spiritual month for you, Taurus. You are thinking a lot about your next steps ahead, and are getting organized, focused, and aligned. The Supermoon on October 6 is a time of reflection for you, and you are entering the month ready to let go of the past, heal, and create space for something new in your life. This month is all about trusting your intuition and letting your wisdom guide you in your personal growth and evolution.
You are more than where you have been, and this month is a reminder of that.
With Mars in Scorpio and in your 7th house of love all month, you are motivated by the partnerships in your life right now. Your love life and relationships are where the action is for you this month, and you are honoring your passion and direction here. Venus, your planetary ruler, moves into your house of health mid-month and into November, and you are leaving October seeking healthier habits, daily routines, and relationships. Overall, this month is helping you align with your vision.
GEMINI
GeminiKyra Jay for xoNecoleThis month is a fresh start for you, Gemini. Your heart is free, love is beaming, and you are feeling larger than life. This month is about taking a leap of faith in yourself, honoring your confidence in life, and being your biggest advocate. With the Sun in your 5th house of self-expression, romance, and happiness, and with Venus entering this same area of your chart mid-October, there is a lot to look forward to right now, and things are looking up for you.
On October 21, we have a New Moon in a fellow air sign, and this is a good time to set your intentions for creative projects, hobbies, romance, and your overall happiness in life. There are a lot of little moments of magic unfolding for you this month, and this New Moon is one of them. Before October comes to an end, Mercury, your ruling planet, enters Sagittarius, and this brings open communication into your relationships, and you are having lively conversations and insights.
CANCER
CancerKyra Jay for xoNecoleThis is a transformative month for you, Cancer. You are moving through closure, healing, and depth as you navigate the opportunities that are coming into your life, with the stability you are seeking. With the Sun in your 4th house of home and family in October, this is the month to spend more time in your safe spaces, connect with your loved ones, and get grounded. You are also more focused on your financial world right now, and this is a good time for building new foundations for yourself and looking at the bigger picture when it comes to your career and life goals.
Mars is in your house of romance and happiness for the entire month, and this is one of the highlights of your life right now. You are passionate about your joy and all the things that light you up inside, and you are protecting your peace and giving more of your energy to your pleasure. Before the month ends, we have a New Moon in Libra, highlighting your home life, and some Cancers may be moving at the end of the month or getting the opportunity to turn a page here. Overall, this is your month to reflect, go within, and make sense of what has been restricting you from feeling stable.
LEO
LeoKyra Jay for xoNecoleOctober is about taking things one day at a time and being patient with what is presenting itself to you, Leo. This month, you are getting your ducks in a row and gaining the clarity needed to create a new beginning in your life. The month begins with a Supermoon in a fellow fire sign on October 6, aligning in harmony with you and fueling your need for adventure. You are going over the wisdom you have gained as of late and how it has shifted the way you navigate your life and see the world around you.
On October 13, Pluto goes direct in your 7th house of love, after being retrograde here since May. This is bringing in more balance, empowerment, and passion into your love life, and this is a positive change of energy for you after a time of some power struggles within your relationships. Before the month comes to an end, we have a New Moon in Libra, and this New Moon is the best time to set intentions for clarity, communication, and connection. October is about taking your time with things and knowing that everything is working out in your favor at the end of the day.
VIRGO
VirgoKyra Jay for xoNecoleThis October is about finding your balance, Virgo. There is a lot of energy when it comes to your finances this month, but you may be overworking or overcommitting yourself in the process. Honor the opportunities and responsibilities in your life, but make sure you are equally taking care of your health and prioritizing your time and energy so that you don’t burn out. Venus, the planet of love, is in your sign until October 13; use this energy to your benefit and let things come to you.
You are a magnet for abundance, romance, and support if you allow yourself to receive it.
On October 13, Venus moves into your 2nd house of income, and your relationships are a supportive place for you to lean on right now. Your love life and partnerships are where your financial world is evolving this month, and this is a good time to ask for what you want; you never know what may happen. At the end of the month, Neptune goes retrograde in your sister sign, Pisces, and you are taking a step back and reassessing what love means for you right now. Overall, October is about remembering that you don’t have to do it all alone, Virgo.
LIBRA
LibraKyra Jay for xoNecoleLibra Season is here, and it’s your time to shine and thrive! This Libra Season changes everything for you, and October is when you really begin to feel this shift in your life. The Sun is in your sign until October 22, and it’s time to put yourself first. With a Supermoon in Aries as we begin the month as well, you are letting go of any unhealthy attachments or relationship dynamics that take you away from yourself, and are moving into deeper clarity.
On October 13, Venus, your planetary ruler, enters your sign, where it loves to be the most. With Venus in your sign for the rest of the month, love takes on a new tone, and you are feeling more love for yourself and where life is taking you right now. To end the month, we have a New Moon in Libra, and it’s time to set your intentions for where you want life to grow for you over the next year. This is a month of embarking on a new journey of self, and allowing what is inspiring you right now to build your confidence in yourself and your relationships.
SCORPIO
ScorpioKyra Jay for xoNecoleOctober is about honoring your freedom and your power to decide, Scorpio. A lot is going on for you this month, and you have the passion and energy to see things through. Mercury, the planet of communication, moves into your sign at the beginning of the month on October 6, and this is going to help you get your ideas across, making it a good month for business matters, networking, and getting inspired. With Mars also in your sign for the entire month, life moves forward for you in transformative ways in October, and you are a force to be reckoned with.
On October 13, Venus moves into your house of closure, healing, and endings, and you are ready to close one chapter of love and create space for a new one. You are in a contemplative space when it comes to matters of the heart, and you are ready to let go of any heaviness you have been feeling here. Scorpio Season officially begins on October 22, and you are ready to begin again. This Scorpio Season is about owning your confidence in life while letting go of insecurities or self-doubts that have been getting in the way of that.
SAGITTARIUS
SagittariusKyra Jay for xoNecoleEverything unfolds for you in a beautiful way this month, Sagittarius. You are flowing well with the energy of October, and life opens up to you. With the Sun in your 11th house of aspirations, dreams, manifestations, and community, you are feeling in balance with your desires and your reality, and are bridging the gap here. This is a month of friendship, believing in your dreams, and creating space for love. With Juno also entering your sign at the beginning of the month until the end of the year, you are attracting soulmates into your life.
On October 6, we have a Supermoon in a fellow fire sign, allowing you some closure in love and a chance at healing. Your heart is feeling renewed, and you are owning your power in creating happiness in your life. Before the month ends, Mercury moves into Sagittarius, where it will be until mid-November, and inspiration is heightened. Pay attention to the guidance you are receiving this month, the conversations you are having, and the light bulb moments that are going off for you right now.
CAPRICORN
CapricornKyra Jay for xoNecoleOctober is about going within and connecting with the guidance of your soul, Capricorn. You are taking more time for yourself this month, and rightly so, as you need time to fully process what has happened so far this year. Pluto goes direct in your 2nd house of income, and this moves things forward when it comes to your earning potential, abundance, and values.
The key this month is in valuing yourself, your perspective, and what you are building in your life right now.
On October 21, we have a New Moon happening in your career zone, and this is a good time to manifest your goals within your professional world. Put yourself out there, show up, and know that you are worthy of success and that your dreams aren’t too big for you. As we close out the month, Mercury moves into your house of closure, even further facilitating your desire for contemplation and alone time this month. Overall, October is about taking care of your mental health, owning your successes, and finding your peace.
AQUARIUS
AquariusKyra Jay for xoNecoleOctober is a new beginning for you in love and in life, Aquarius. Your heart is feeling inspired, and there is a lot to look forward to right now. The Supermoon at the beginning of the month will be occurring in your 3rd house of communication, giving you the answers you have been looking for and helping you close the door on a chapter in your life that left you feeling misunderstood or misdirected. You are ready for a change of pace this month, and you are receiving that as we begin October.
Mid-October, Pluto goes direct in your sign after being retrograde since May, and this is a huge breath of fresh air for you and your path ahead. You may have been a little harder on yourself while Pluto was retrograde this year, and now you feel ready to forgive, move on, and own your power. Before the month comes to an end, we have a New Moon in Libra, and you are embarking on a new adventure. The end of the month is a good time for traveling, exploring, and gaining a new perspective.
PISCES
PiscesKyra Jay for xoNecoleThis month is giving you the guidance, perspective, and passion to see yourself with clear, loving eyes, Pisces. There is a sense of feeling more overwhelmed with life lately, and October is allowing you to gain the insight needed to move on from this energy, or at least see more of the gifts of what has occurred. On October 6, we have a Supermoon in an area of your chart having to do with self-worth, values, and income, and it’s time to see the gifts of what you have been investing in and valuing in your life, including yourself.
Let go of the need to play it small or count yourself out of important conversations, and know that you deserve a seat at the table.
With Pluto going direct in your 12th house of healing as we end the month, you are finally getting the answers you have been looking for emotionally, and it’s changing your perspective on your commitments in life and making you feel empowered. Before the month ends, Neptune goes retrograde in Pisces, and you are going to be moving through a personal revolution as we close out the year. You are inspired by change right now, and this month is what kicks starts this metamorphosis within you.
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According to an article that was featured on American Scientist, both men and women prefer leaders with a lower pitch to their voice (which also speaks to tone). And many professionals (including myself) who work with couples will be quick to say that if your tone ain’t right while speaking with your partner — something isn’t going to go as well as you would like it to. If not immediately, eventually.
And what all of this boils down to is, when our mother (or grandmother) told us, “Hey, watch your tone,” as we were growing up, they were actually onto something. Because if you want to be received fully and well, you’ve got to be willing to factor in how your tone comes across to other people.
What Does Your Tone of Voice Consist Of?
GiphyPitch. Pace. Volume. Timbre. This is pretty much what makes up your tone of voice. Pitch is about how high or low your voice is and there is research to support that a higher-pitched voice conveys either stress or intimidation. Pace is about the speed of your speech — and the faster you talk, the harder it is for people to comprehend and process what you are saying.
Volume is about how loud or soft you are — and while sometimes speaking louder can help to emphasize a point that you are making, it can also come across as aggressive and overbearing (which is usually a complete turn-off), if you’re not careful. And timbre? Timbre is all about how you are choosing to express your emotions and attitude (this is a big one); although this is a word that is oftentimes reserved for singing voices — in several ways, it translates over into talking as well.
Okay, so as we go a little bit deeper into what it means to communicate effectively with your tone of voice — consider the four things that I just shared (pitch, pace, volume and timbre) as we move into the next point.
Be Honest: Would You Want People to Speak to You How You Talk to Them?
GiphyI have a naturally loud voice — I am well aware. I also know that I’ve got quite a bit of “timbre” to me (LOL). And so, over the years, praise God for friends who would hold me accountable for making sure that both of these things became a bit more “even” — because as another male friend of mine once told me years ago, “You are so brilliant that when your tone is off, you kind of come off as an a*shole.”
Chile, I get it. If you’re not an idiot, your vocabulary is semi-vast and you come across with an elevated voice and some sarcasm or cynicism in your tone — I mean, who wants to hear any of that? What worked for me was taping myself sometimes while engaging with other people and yep — he was right: words typically don’t need a lot of volume and, as far as sarcasm goes? I once read an article that said the word comes from some Greek ones that actually mean “tearing of the flesh” (geeze).
And well, when you think about it, sarcasm really can oftentimes come across as being condescending or dismissive — and again, who really wants to interact with that type of energy? For me, I realized that once I was more intentional about lowering my voice and watching my timbre — the words I shared were easier for others to receive, even if they weren’t ones that they exactly easy to take or even agreed with. And boy, has this served me well in my life coaching practice.
You know, last year, I wrote an article for the platform entitled, “Texting Your Friends This One Question Will Reveal A Lot About Your Relationship.” Basically, it’s about asking your friends to give you one word to describe what you currently bring into their life. It’s one way for you to see how you are helping or even potentially harming them with your presence. Well, if you want to know how your tone comes across — ASK THEM that too.
It also can’t hurt to do what I did and record yourself talking to a few people. Then ask yourself, “Would I want them to speak to me the way that I am speaking to them?”. BE HONEST. The answer just might surprise you. Oh, and don’t get defensive when it comes to what your friends tell you about your tone. Ask for their thoughts on four parts of tone — pitch, pace, volume, timbre — along with why they feel the way that they do about it.
Based on their responses, I’m not saying that it will automatically or necessarily be a comfortable conversation; I do believe that it can be hella beneficial for you, though.
5 Hacks for Improving Your Tone
GiphySo, what if, after getting really real with yourself, you come to the conclusion that there are some things that you can stand to improve about your tone. What (else) can you do about that?
1. Think about the timbre that you wish to convey. While reading an article about tone, I thought it was interesting that the author said that there are “forms of tone” that we all tend to use — understanding, sincere, respectful, playful and encouraging were just some of the ones that she mentioned. Yeah, it really is a good idea to not just “give off a tone” without thinking which emotion that you want to get across, so when it comes to communicating effectively, consider this point first.
2. Speak with intention more than emotion. An author by the name of T.F. Hodge once said, “Intent is what establishes one's consequential outcomes" — and hear me when I say that if you INTEND to be heard well, it’s a good idea to be more focused on your words than your emotional state, especially if you are in the midst of a debate or an argument. It’s not because your emotions don’t matter; however, you’ve got to make sure that they aren’t so “big” that your words get lost in the sauce.
3. Make sure that your words and tone are “in agreement.” Harmony. Harmony is a word that speaks to balance. So, say that you are having a conversation with someone and you feel like you are being misunderstood. Yelling your point or being flippant and dismissive in your tone is probably going to put the other person on the defensive and, in turn, cause them to “turn up the volume” of their voice and/or attitude too.
That’s why a tone of wanting to give clarity is better than a tone of being pissed off — and that’s why restating your thoughts in a question tone like, “What part of what I said seems unclear?” instead of saying, “Nevermind! You never listen to me” with a tone of accusation is always going to be more beneficial in the long run.
4. Always strive to be “receivable.” The elders used to say that you can catch more flies with honey than vinegar — and when it comes to communication, a part of what this means is if your tone is pleasant, you can “get away with” saying a lot more than if it isn’t. So, before speaking, ask yourself if you are about to speak in a way that can be…received by who you are talking to. Are you using honey (smooth and sweet) or vinegar (harsh and bitter)?
5. Remember the “truth in love” rule. Ephesians 4:15 talks about the value of speaking “truth in love” — and that’s why I’m not a really big fan of the term “brutal honesty.” Already, if you are in the mindset of communicating that way, I’m pretty sure that, at the very least, your tone is going to be off-putting. Instead, go into conversations deciding that, no matter what truth you are about to speak, there will be some LOVE in it. I Corinthians 13 says that love has patience and kindness in it. How can you ever go wrong with that?
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A wise person once said, “Communicating is one thing, but your tone while communicating is everything.” If you live by that, you’ll be amazed by how much your communication skills with others will improve.
How much you will be heard, felt and respected — all because, yes, you watched your tone.
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