Sometimes, relocation for a fresh start is the right move, especially when it comes to your career. Whether it's due to a pay raise, a promotion, better schools for your children, or a career change, moving for a job might be the best option. But there are times when relocating for a new job opportunity is simply a big mistake.
Many have decided against doing so, and in fact, during the first three months of last year, the rate of Americans moving for work fell to a record low of just 1.6%, according to executive outplacement firm Challenger, Gray & Christmas.
Here are a few good reasons or scenarios where moving for a new job is just not a good idea:
1. You just bought a house and you're stuck in a mortgage.
Black women and millennials have been found to be "leaders" in homeownership in recent years, with homeownership among Black women seeing an average year-over-year growth rate of 10.4% between October 2018 and September 2021. As many as 800,000 fewer moves occurred last year, The New York Times reports, which is “a direct result of what economists call the ‘rate lock effect’ or the ‘golden handcuffs.'"
Families have postponed moving to larger homes, and households “hoping to trade up” have paused plans. And a lot of people have been “sitting on the sidelines, waiting and watching.”
If you're among those who have recently bought a home, it might be a better idea to simply find new work within your community or a neighboring community versus uprooting your family (and waiting on a very tricky real estate market for your home to sell). Another idea: Get a remote job.
On the other hand, if you're okay with renting your home out short-term via Airbnb or even long-term as an investment property while you solidify your new spot, and the new company is willing to cover your moving expenses, consider the relocation. There are several risks with this, but it's something to think about if you're a homeowner who's dead set on getting a fresh career start elsewhere.
2. Your expected quality of life and pay might shift in a way that's just not worth it, especially for an international move.
There's always a lot of banter about "elevating" your quality of life by working abroad, but there are several things to consider before doing that, especially when it comes to pay.
A Harvard Business Review survey found that MBA graduates, for example, who had moved internationally “once or twice after their MBAs” saw their pay increase less than graduates who stayed in the U.S. Researchers further stated that the findings “challenge the notion that broader international experience will automatically be rewarded with higher compensation.”
Also, a move abroad can mean giving up major things you care about to gain other things. Does working near a beach involve higher prices for everyday groceries you're accustomed to? What about easy access to Wifi, electricity, and water?
Will you be paying more compensation for infrastructure issues than you would if you've remained in the U.S.? What does a good quality of life really look like for you outside of work? What amenities and freedoms do you value, and how much do those things cost in comparison to what you're used to paying for them? If all of this will cost more than what it's worth, a move abroad to work might not be a good fit for you.
3. You work remote, so your location is already flexible.
If you're already working a good remote job, why relocate for a new gig? Experts say that remote jobs are “still plentiful for white-collar workers,” and if you're among those professionals, you already have a bit of a leg up when it comes to flexibility anyway. You can basically find another position, working fully remote, and you won't be locked into one location.
If you're looking for a more traditional way of working, where you're in an office, face-to-face with teammates, and going to happy hour after you clock out, moving for a new gig after remote work burnout sounds like a good idea. But if your issues are due to your remote job not paying enough or the type of remote work you're doing, it's a better idea to simply look for remote work at a different company, apply for different roles, or go freelance to allow yourself more creative authority.
4. The new company offers no financial assistance to move.
If 64% of professionals reported receiving compensation to move last year, trust me, there are companies that will cover some if not all of your expenses. Remember you're uprooting your life and that of your family members, so getting those expenses covered is a must. If you're already struggling financially (or a major move to another city, state, or country for work will cut into a huge chunk of your savings), reconsider a move if the company won't offer at least reimbursement for your moving fees.
Also, oftentimes, companies that don't offer such perks also skimp on prioritizing work-life balance, competitive healthcare benefits, and other basic amenities that should be afforded to quality talent such as yourself. Take the warning and look elsewhere.
Relocating for work can be a great experience and the best decision of your life, but if there are major red flags that are either telling you to stay where you are or, at the very least, postpone a move until your circumstances allow for it, it's best to take heed.
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Claudia Jordan, Demetria McKinney & Jill Marie Jones On 'Games Women Play' & Dating Over 40
What do you get when you mix unfiltered truths, high-stakes romance, and a few well-timed one-liners? You get Games Women Play—the sizzling new stage play by Je’Caryous Johnson that’s part relationship rollercoaster, part grown-woman group chat.
With a powerhouse cast that includes Claudia Jordan, Demetria McKinney, Jill Marie Jones, Carl Payne, Chico Bean, and Brian J. White, the play dives headfirst into the messy, hilarious, and heart-wrenching games people play for love, power, and peace of mind. And the women leading this story? They’re bringing their whole selves to the stage—and leaving nothing behind.
From Script to Spotlight
The road to Games Women Play started over 20 years ago—literally.
“This script was written 20 years ago,” Jill Marie Jones said with a smile. “It was originally called Men, Money & Gold Diggers, and I was in the film version. So when Je’Caryous called me to bring it to the stage, I was like, ‘Let’s go.’” Now reimagined for 2025, the play is updated with sharp dialogue and modern relationship dynamics that feel all too real.
Demetria McKinney, no stranger to Je’Caryous Johnson’s productions, jumped at the opportunity to join the cast once again. “This is my third time working with him,” she shared. “It was an opportunity to stretch. I’d never been directed by Carl Payne before, and the chance to work with talent I admire—Jill, Claudia, Chico—it was a no-brainer.”
Claudia Jordan joked that she originally saw the role as just another check. “I didn’t take it that seriously at first,” she admitted. “But this is my first full-on tour—and now I’ve got a whole new respect for how hard people work in theater. This ain’t easy.”
Modern Love, Stage Left
The play doesn’t hold back when it comes to the messier parts of love. One jaw-dropping moment comes when a live podcast proposal flips into a prenup bombshell—leaving the audience (and the characters) gasping.
Demetria broke it down with honesty. “People don’t ask the real questions when they date. Like, ‘Do you want kids? How do you feel about money?’ These convos aren’t happening, and then everyone’s confused. That moment in the play—it’s real. That happens all the time.”
Jill chimed in, noting how the play speaks to emotional disconnect. “We’re giving each other different tokens of love. Men might offer security and money. Women, we’re giving our hearts. But there’s a disconnect—and that’s where things fall apart.”
And then Claudia, of course, took it all the way there. “These men don’t even want to sign our prenups now!” she laughed. “They want to live the soft life, too. Wearing units, gloss, getting their brows done. We can’t have nothing! Y’all want to be like us? Then get a damn period and go through menopause.”
Dating Over 40: “You Better Come Correct”
When the conversation turned to real-life relationships, all three women lit up. Their experiences dating in their 40s and 50s have given them both clarity—and zero tolerance for games.
“I feel sexier than I’ve ever felt,” said Jill, who proudly turned 50 in January. “I say what I want. I mean what I say. I’m inside my woman, and I’m not apologizing for it.”
Demetria added that dating now comes with deeper self-awareness. “Anybody in my life is there because I want them there. I’ve worked hard to need nobody. But I’m open to love—as long as you keep doing what got me there in the first place.”
For Claudia, the bar is high—and the peace is priceless. “I’ve worked hard for my peace,” she said. “I’m not dating for food. I’m dating because I want to spend time with you. And honestly, if being with you isn’t better than being alone with my candles and fountains and cats? Then no thanks.”
Channeling Strength & Icon Status
Each actress brings something different to the play—but all of them deliver.
“I actually wish I could be messier on stage,” Claudia joked. “But I think about my grandmother—she was born in 1929, couldn’t even vote or buy a house without a man, and didn’t give a damn. She was fearless. That’s where my strength comes from.”
For Jill, the comparisons to her iconic Girlfriends character Toni Childs aren’t far off—but this role gave her a chance to dig deeper. “If you really understood Toni, you’d see how layered she was. And Paisley is the same—misunderstood, but strong. There’s more to her than people see at first glance.”
Demetria, who juggles singing and acting seamlessly, shared that live theater pushes her in a new way. “Every moment on stage counts. You can’t redo anything. It’s a different kind of love and discipline. You have to give the performance away—live, in the moment—and trust that it lands.”
Laughter, Lessons & Black Girl Gems
The show has plenty of laugh-out-loud moments—and the cast isn’t shy about who steals scenes.
“Chico Bean gets a lot of gasps and laughs,” Claudia said. “And Naomi Booker? Every scene she’s in—she’s hilarious.”
But the play isn’t just about humor. It leaves space for reflection—especially for Black women.
“I hope we get back to the foundation of love and communication,” said Demetria. “A lot of us are in protector mode. But that’s turned into survival mode. We’ve lost softness. We’ve lost connection.”
Claudia agreed. “We’re doing it all—but it’s not because we want to be strong all the time. It’s because we have to be. And I just want women to know: You can have peace, you can be soft. But stop bringing your old pain into new love. Don’t let past heartbreak build walls so high that the right person can’t climb over.”
Final Act: Pack the House
If there’s one thing this cast agrees on, it’s that this play isn’t just entertainment—it’s necessary.
“Atlanta is the Black entertainment hub,” Claudia said. “We need y’all to show up for this play. Support the arts. Support each other. Because when we pack the house, we make space for more stories like this.”
Games Women Play is more than a play—it’s a mirror. You’ll see yourself, your friends, your exes, and maybe even your next chapter. So get ready to laugh, reflect, and maybe even heal—because the games are on.
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Keke Palmer Once Filed For Bankruptcy, Now She Says Living Below Her Means Is Her Top Financial Habit
Keke "Keep A Job" Palmer isn't known as the hustler blueprint for naught. At 31, the child star turned Hollywood heavy-hitter, singer, podcaster, host, producer, author, and founder of her own digital network (hey, KeyTV!) has built an enviable career and legacy. But what's our girl's most underrated flex? Her unshakeable commitment to financial discipline.
In a recent interview with CNBC Make It, the "Confessions" singer confessed that her biggest financial habit isn't so much about earning more as it is about spending less. Keke is Team Live Below Your Means, no matter the tax bracket.
“I Live Under My Means”: Keke Palmer’s Money Mantra
"I live under my means. I think it's incredibly important," she told the outlet. "If I have $1 million in my pocket, my rent is going to be $1,500 — that's how underneath my means I'm talking. My car note is going to be $340. I don't need a [Bentley] Bentayga, I'll ride in a Lexus."
Her money mindset wasn't just taught to her, it was earned. Just last year, Keke opened up about filing for bankruptcy at 18-19 years old. At the Building Wealth for Tomorrow Financial Empowerment summit in October 2024, Keke shared with the audience about her experience, "I was so spooked. I was like, 'What went wrong?'"
Despite Keke starting her career in her childhood and acting as the main breadwinner in her family at a young age, the early money didn't stop her from experiencing financial hardship. Like many of us, her relationship with money was trial and error. Keke had the support of her family and the guidance of a business manager that was hired when she was 12, yet still she learned some of her biggest money lessons firsthand.
That experience changed everything. And now Keke lives her best life by keeping her expenses low, making it clear that more money doesn't have to mean more problems if you handle your business.
"If I got $10,000 in the bank, then my house would be $500 a month. That’s how under I mean, because I can probably afford something $2,500 maybe, but I’m going way under," she told the audience at the 2024 summit.
She continued, "You know why? Because I wanna invest in my business. So if I wanna invest in my business, then the material things that I’m having currently might have to take a short back. Instead of wearing Gucci, I’m wearing Zara. I live in a good place. I drive a cool car, ’cause my money is going elsewhere… I got a Toyota right now in my driveway."
Keke's lifestyle isn't about depriving herself, it's about prioritizing what's really important.
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