
There is something that you should always keep in mind when it comes to your hair and scalp — they aren’t exactly like the rest of your body. What I mean by that is, as far as your hair is concerned, what’s inside of your hair follicle is living (which is why you can feel it when you pull a strand of hair out of your head); however, the rest of your hair? It’s dead (which is why you don’t feel it whenever you cut it).
And your scalp? If you ever hear “it needs to breathe” — well, there is some truth and some exaggeration that come with that.
Yes, your scalp requires oxygen and care because it is skin — and, in some ways, it needs to be handled with even more intention and care than other parts of your body (check out “Your Scalp Ages Six Times Faster Than Your Face. Why It Matters.”); however, does it need to breathe like, say, your lungs do? Nope. And that is why you can feel perfectly fine about wearing your wigs or weaves without worrying that you are damaging your scalp in the process.
There is a caveat to what I just said, though: It’s important that you do some “pre-” and “post-” care for your scalp, just so that it remains in optimal health while you are choosing these particular types of hairstyles. And that is what we’re going to explore today — how to properly care for your scalp before putting on a wig or weave and…after you remove ‘em.
PRE-WIG/WEAVE
A Scalp Treatment
If either you don’t know what a scalp treatment is or you can’t remember the last time that you got one — it’s past time for you to put this on your priority list. Honestly, whether you rock wigs or weaves or not, it’s a good idea to go to a (reputable) salon to get your scalp professionally massaged and exfoliated because the massaging will increase blood circulation to your scalp (which makes your scalp and hair healthier) and the exfoliating will help to remove scalp build-up, unclog your hair follicles and get rid of any dandruff flakes that you may have.
Plus, a thorough scalp treatment can reduce your chances of experiencing hair thinning or loss from your wigs or weaves — and you definitely need to stay on top of that. That said, if you’d prefer to do a scalp treatment at home, some cool recipes can be found here. It’s a good idea to give yourself one 3-5 days before installing your wig or weave.
A Moisturizing Shampoo
Remember how I said in the intro that your scalp typically ages at a much faster rate than the rest of your skin does? A part of that is because scalps tend to be parched — and that’s because we’re not proactive enough about providing it with the moisture that it so desperately needs.
One way to hydrate it is to wash your scalp and hair with a deeply moisturizing shampoo. Those are dope because not only do they not strip your scalp of its natural sebum, they also help to keep the pH balance of your scalp where it needs to be. Amazon has a wide variety of hydrating shampoos listed here.
A Tea Tree and Lavender Oil Blend
I really hope that you don’t forego the scalp treatment tip (especially if you plan on wearing your wig or weave for more than a few days at a time); however, if you do, definitely make sure to create a blend of tea tree oil, lavender oil and a carrier oil — all of these work together to nourish and protect your scalp. Tea tree oil is great because it contains anti-inflammatory and antifungal properties that can reduce bacteria and help to prevent scalp irritation from occurring.
Lavender oil is awesome because it has antimicrobial properties that can reduce itching, inflammation and dandruff. A carrier oil like rosemary will increase blood circulation to your scalp while one like avocado oil can deeply moisturize your scalp. Apply it to your scalp before your installation and keep it on tap for “touch ups” (where you can reach your scalp) along the way as well.
A Silk-Lined Wig Cap
When it comes to wigs, specifically, make sure that your wig cap is one that comes with silk lining. Not only will that help to reduce the friction of your wig (which could lead to frizz and even breakage of your natural hair), it can also help to keep your natural hair from drying out (which can also cause breakage over time). As a bonus, a silk-lined cap is a breathable fabric that can “cushion” your scalp, so that it doesn’t become irritated and inflamed by your wig. A variety of options to choose from are located here and here.
A Quality Wig/A Professional Weave
Wigs these days have come a LONG way, chile. I mean, just think about it — some of them can stay on your head for as much as 4-6 weeks at a time! And that is why it is so important — crucial, even — that you only invest in quality wigs: ones that are lightweight, fit well and are customizable. Some other things to look out for are wigs that shed very little and are advertised to last 1-3 years (if it’s human hair) and no less than 3-6 months (if it’s synthetic). All of these tips will not only help you to get the most out of your wig — it will keep your scalp in tip-top shape for a longer period of time too.
As far as weaves go — listen, YouTube and TikTok will have you out here thinking that you can build a house let alone install a weave. Still, for the sake of your scalp’s overall health and well-being (especially if you plan on keeping your weave in for several weeks at a time), invest in having a professional do it. They can recommend the best hair to use, they are trained to install your weave in a way that is comfortable on your head (and doesn’t pull too tight on your edges and nape) and typically know how to give your scalp some “breathing room,” so that you can care for it while your weave is in.
POST-WIG/WEAVE
A Scalp Detox
If there has been a wig or weave sitting on your scalp for weeks at a time, you absolutely need to detox your scalp once you remove it. Back in the day, I actually wrote an article on this topic entitled, “Treat Your Scalp To A Little Bit Of Detoxing This Weekend.” However, I can also give you some quickie tips here: after taking off your wig or weave, wash your hair and scalp with a clarifying shampoo (to remove any sebum, sweat or product build-up); apply a scalp mask (to deeply cleanse your scalp); rinse your hair and scalp with an apple cider vinegar mixture (to restore your scalp’s pH balance), and consider steaming your scalp (in order to deeply hydrate it).
A Scalp Massage
With a wig or tracks in the way, it’s hard to really get to your scalp — and that’s why it’s always a good idea to either get or give yourself a scalp massage once you remove your “other” hair. Scalp massages are super beneficial because not only do they reduce stress and tension, they also help to get the blood circulation going in your scalp, so that your hair follicles are able to receive even more of the nutrients that they need in order for your hair to be/remain healthy and strong.
Another bonus that comes with a scalp massage is it helps your scalp to produce natural sebum which can condition that part of your body as well. Plus, they feel amazing.
A Hot Oil Treatment
While you’re in the process of getting or giving yourself a scalp massage, it will serve you oh so very well to apply a hot oil treatment to your scalp too. Aside from the fact that hot oil treatments feel wonderful, they can help to reduce hair frizzing, they encourage blood circulation to your scalp and they are ideal for removing scalp flakes that may have made their way to your scalp while you had your wig or weave on.
And which oils should you use for this particular treatment? Jojoba oil helps to balance your scalp’s sebum levels. Castor oil helps to protect your scalp’s follicles. Grapeseed contains antioxidants and vitamin E that can help to heal your scalp. Essential oils like peppermint and ginger help to stimulate your scalp and encourage hair growth and strength.
A Zinc Spray
Zinc is a mineral that can benefit you in a myriad of different ways. It can boost your immunity. It can reduce the stress that is within your system. Due to its powerful anti-inflammatory properties, it can also help to speed up the healing process of acne as well. And when it’s in the form that’s known as zinc pyrithione, the antifungal, antibacterial and antimicrobial properties that are in it can help to clear up any fungal or bacteria-related issues that may have transpired on your scalp while you were wearing your wigs or weaves.
So, whether it’s in the form of a shampoo or spray, you can’t go wrong with applying zinc pyrithione to your scalp (if you’re not allergic to it, that is).
A Thorough Wig Cleansing
I once heard someone say that getting back with an ex is like hopping out of the shower and putting the same underwear back on. SMDH. LOL. While that is semi-debatable (I mean, check out “I'm Thrilled That Ryan Destiny & Keith Powers Are Back Together. 5 Things Before Reuniting With Your Ex, Tho.”), I won’t lie — that is exactly what came to my mind when I thought about this last tip: because what’s the point in following all of these scalp care tips — if you’re just going to turn around and put a dirty wig back onto your clean scalp? RIDICULOUS.
So yes, definitely make sure that you take out a couple of hours to really — and I mean, really — cleanse your wig. There are some videos that can help you out here, here, and here.
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Are wigs and weaves considered to be protective styles? They are. However, what’s the point in using them for that purpose if your natural hair and scalp are suffering in the process?
Hopefully, these tips will help to prevent that from ever being an issue — because, in the long run, a wig or weave is only as beautiful as the hair it protects. Straight up.
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Because We Are Still IT, Girl: It Girl 100 Returns
Last year, when our xoNecole team dropped our inaugural It Girl 100 honoree list, the world felt, ahem, a bit brighter.
It was March 2024, and we still had a Black woman as the Vice President of the United States. DEI rollbacks weren’t being tossed around like confetti. And more than 300,000 Black women were still gainfully employed in the workforce.
Though that was just nineteen months ago, things were different. Perhaps the world then felt more receptive to our light as Black women.
At the time, we launched It Girl 100 to spotlight the huge motion we were making as dope, GenZennial Black women leaving our mark on culture. The girls were on the rise, flourishing, drinking their water, minding their business, leading companies, and learning to do it all softly, in rest. We wanted to celebrate that momentum—because we love that for us.
So, we handpicked one hundred It Girls who embody that palpable It Factor moving through us as young Black women, the kind of motion lighting up the world both IRL and across the internet.
It Girl 100 became xoNecole’s most successful program, with the hashtag organically reaching more than forty million impressions on Instagram in just twenty-four hours. Yes, it caught on like wildfire because we celebrated some of the most brilliant and influential GenZennial women of color setting trends and shaping culture. But more than that, it resonated because the women we celebrated felt seen.
Many were already known in their industries for keeping this generation fly and lit, but rarely received recognition or flowers. It Girl 100 became a safe space to be uplifted, and for us as Black women to bask in what felt like an era of our brilliance, beauty, and boundless influence on full display.
And then, almost overnight, it was as if the rug was pulled from under us as Black women, as the It Girls of the world.
Our much-needed, much-deserved season of ease and soft living quickly metamorphosed into a time of self-preservation and survival. Our motion and economic progression seemed strategically slowed, our light under siege.
The air feels heavier now. The headlines colder. Our Black girl magic is being picked apart and politicized for simply existing.
With that climate shift, as we prepare to launch our second annual It Girl 100 honoree list, our team has had to dig deep on the purpose and intention behind this year’s list. Knowing the spirit of It Girl 100 is about motion, sauce, strides, and progression, how do we celebrate amid uncertainty and collective grief when the juice feels like it is being squeezed out of us?
As we wrestled with that question, we were reminded that this tension isn’t new. Black women have always had to find joy in the midst of struggle, to create light even in the darkest corners. We have carried the weight of scrutiny for generations, expected to be strong, to serve, to smile through the sting. But this moment feels different. It feels deeply personal.
We are living at the intersection of liberation and backlash. We are learning to take off our capes, to say no when we are tired, to embrace softness without apology.
And somehow, the world has found new ways to punish us for it.

In lifestyle, women like Kayla Nicole and Ayesha Curry have been ridiculed for daring to choose themselves. Tracee Ellis Ross was labeled bitter for speaking her truth about love. Meghan Markle, still, cannot breathe without critique.
In politics, Kamala Harris, Letitia James, and Jasmine Crockett are dragged through the mud for standing tall in rooms not built for them.
In sports, Angel Reese, Coco Gauff, and Taylor Townsend have been reminded that even excellence will not shield you from racism or judgment.

In business, visionaries like Diarrha N’Diaye-Mbaye and Melissa Butler are fighting to keep their dreams alive in an economy that too often forgets us first.
Even our icons, Beyoncé, Serena, and SZA, have faced criticism simply for evolving beyond the boxes society tried to keep them in.
From everyday women to cultural phenoms, the pattern is the same. Our light is being tested.

And yet, somehow, through it all, we are still showing up as that girl, and that deserves to be celebrated.
Because while the world debates our worth, we keep raising our value. And that proof is all around us.
This year alone, Naomi Osaka returned from motherhood and mental health challenges to reach the semifinals of the US Open. A’ja Wilson claimed another MVP, reminding us that beauty and dominance can coexist. Brandy and Monica are snatching our edges on tour. Kahlana Barfield Brown sold out her new line in the face of a retailer that had been canceled. And Melissa Butler’s company, The Lip Bar, is projecting a forty percent surge in sales.

We are no longer defining strength by how much pain we can endure. We are defining it by the unbreakable light we continue to radiate.
We are the women walking our daily steps and also continuing to run solid businesses. We are growing in love, taking solo trips, laughing until it hurts, raising babies and ideas, drinking our green juice, and praying our peace back into existence.
We are rediscovering the joy of rest and realizing that softness is not weakness, it is strategy.
And through it all, we continue to lift one another. Emma Grede is creating seats at the table. Valeisha Butterfield has started a fund for jobless Black women. Arian Simone is leading in media with fearless conviction. We are pouring into each other in ways the world rarely sees but always feels.

So yes, we are in the midst of societal warfare. Yes, we are being tested. Yes, we are facing economic strain, political targeting, and public scrutiny. But even war cannot dim a light that is divinely ours.
And we are still shining.
And we are still softening.
And we are still creating.
And we are still It.

That is the quiet magic of Black womanhood, our ability to hold both truth and triumph in the same breath, to say yes, and to life’s contradictions.
It is no coincidence that this year, as SheaMoisture embraces the message “Yes, And,” they stand beside us as partners in celebrating this class of It Girls. Because that phrase, those two simple words, capture the very essence of this moment.
Yes, we are tired. And we are still rising.
Yes, we are questioned. And we are the answer.
Yes, we are bruised. And we are still beautiful.

This year’s It Girl 100 is more than a list. It is a love letter to every Black woman who dares to live out loud in a world that would rather she whisper. This year’s class is living proof of “Yes, And,” women who are finding ways to thrive and to heal, to build and to rest, to lead and to love, all at once.
It is proof that our joy is not naive, our success not accidental. It is the reminder that our light has never needed permission.
So without further ado, we celebrate the It Girl 100 Class of 2025–2026.
We celebrate the millions of us who keep doing it with grace, grit, and glory.
Because despite it all, we still shine.
Because we are still her.
Because we are still IT, girl.
Meet all 100 women shaping culture in the It Girl 100 Class of 2025. View the complete list of honorees here.
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How Les Alfred & Kayla Greaves Built Their "It Girl" Brands With Intention
It’s not always easy being an “It Girl,” but Les Alfred, host of She’s So Lucky podcast, and Kayla Greaves, beauty expert, reporter and consultant, never promised it would be. Instead, the two creators are forging their own paths based on resilience. Les originally launched her podcast, formerly Balanced Black Girl, from her bedroom in Seattle after creating fitness content elsewhere online.
Last year, she left her corporate job to scale the Dear Media-hosted series, which she rebranded earlier this year. Meanwhile, Kayla has worked as a journalist and editor, including for InStyle as Executive Beauty Editor. In 2023, she left the company to focus on consulting, hosting and speaking engagements.
Despite launching media careers from different pathways, the two New York-based women have forged a friendship where they can discuss their ambitions and challenges.
Both women are part of xoNecole’s It Girl 100 Class of 2025, recognized in the Viral Voices category for the impact they’ve made through storytelling, creativity, and authenticity. Together, they represent what it means to build an "It Girl" brand with integrity and depth. In the spirit of SheaMoisture’s "Yes, And" ethos, Les and Kayla embody the freedom to be multi-layered as women evolving boldly into every version of themselves.
This conversation has been condensed and lightly edited for clarity
On Forging Their Own Paths
Les Alfred: Being a Jane of all trades is incredibly challenging. And one of the challenges I've faced is that the scope of what podcasters now need to do has increased so much. When I first interviewed you in 2019, I was still very new at it, but I remember being on a Skype call with you from my bedroom in Seattle. That was how I ran the show. And that was good enough. That is absolutely not good enough these days. The scope and the quality keeps increasing, but the resources that you have don't necessarily increase in order to remain competitive.
I get asked so many questions from people who want to get into podcasts and they want to get started. Most of the time, I'm just like, 'I don't have tips for you.' Because, one, I don't know what it's like to start in this current environment. Two, I know what it takes to contend and be consistent in this environment. The barrier of entry is a lot higher in terms of having something of quality than it was before.
On Balancing Ambition and Rest
Kayla Greaves: I've had to make a very clear effort to slow down and just not take on as much. Yes, you're running a business, but you're also living your life. I had one of those days yesterday. I just laid down and listened to white noise for hours because I just needed my brain to just be clear. I called a friend. I cried.
I'm starting over again today. The sun is out. It's a new day. And that's just sometimes what you have to do. You can't show up for your audience or for other people, if you can't show for yourself. I think that creativity comes from a place of living your life and having genuine experiences, and then sharing those experiences through your art.
"I had to give myself permission to let myself grow publicly in ways that I'd already done personally."

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On Evolving Through Growth and Rebranding
Les: I didn't create Balanced Black Girl until 2018, but I started blogging and creating content and doing things under the Balanced brand in 2014. I was 24 years old at the time. Now, I'm 36. The things that were important to me, the perspective that I had and the stories I wanted to tell were entirely different. I think I had to give myself permission to let myself grow publicly in ways that I'd already done personally. The show isn't really about wellness anymore. And that shift started happening a couple of years ago.
When we started expanding into more lifestyle topics, more self-help topics [and] talking about entrepreneurship, the audience responded really well. That was when the show really started to grow and take off. And that was what got so much more engagement than the episodes back in 2020 when I was doing hour-long deep dives on gut health.
Rebranding the show was something I've been thinking about for a long time. When I was finally like, 'Oh, I need to do this,' honestly, was the 2024 presidential election. I was like, these people are about to be in here acting crazy. I do not feel safe with my business name being what it is. I don't want to be targeted for any BS. We saw what they did to the Fearless Fund.
"You have to balance your integrity with your income."

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On Integrity Over Income
Kayla: I have many other interests aside from beauty. I'm growing and I'm changing as a person. I'm not the same person I was when I started at InStyle in 2019 before the pandemic rocked everybody's world. I don't think reviewing every single lipstick that comes out is exciting or interesting, because everybody does it now, and everybody feels like they're qualified to speak on things that they're not qualified to speak on. I'm currently in that pain point of growth.
I don't think I have always been in environments where I've been encouraged to branch out on my own ideas. I finished Ina Garten’s memoir maybe a month ago. She kept repeating this quote in her book. She said, ‘What goes in early, goes in deep.’ Now that I'm on my own and I don't have the resources of a traditional media company, which is what I have become accustomed to, sometimes it's difficult for me to be like, 'Okay, just go ahead with the thing.'
I think, Les, just the other day, you reposted somebody saying that they let go of a five-figure deal and then got double the next day because it just didn't feel aligned for them. Those are the things that happen. I have to find a balance of, 'Okay, how do I keep myself afloat?' And that may mean I may not be balling out of control just yet, but I'm okay for now. I can buy myself nice things every once in a while, but you have to balance your integrity with your income.
Les: There are just certain lines that I'm not willing to cross. Especially when I created more wellness content, one of those lines was I will not promote any sort of weight loss product. All of these GLP-1s all want to advertise on my podcast. I actually have nothing against those types of products, but I don't ever want someone to look at what I'm putting into the world and think that I'm saying that they need to feel a certain way about their bodies.
Even if the money is great, that's not for me to say, and that's not the type of message that I want to put out here. Or, I had another kind of brand deal come through that would have required me to divulge things about my personal life that I just don't really want my audience knowing about me, and bringing them along on journeys that I just find personal and I want to keep offline. I don’t want to be known for dragging my mess all over the internet for a buck.
I don't want to be known for being an influencer. I would love to be 1,000% in on my podcast, scale it, have it grow to be a media empire where I'm producing and putting out other bodies of work. For now, until that other side of the business really picks up and gets to the point where I want it to be, I kind of need to play the influencer game a little bit to live in this expensive city. But I'm gonna do it on my terms. It's a constant compromise that I'm coming to with myself.
"You can never make a big vision come to fruition if you're sitting and you're waiting for somebody else to tell you exactly what to do."

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On Mutual Admiration and Friendship
Les: Something that I really admire about you in having known you for the past couple of years is you don't wait for a roadmap. You jump in, you roll up your sleeves, and you do it. You can never make a big vision come to fruition if you're sitting and you're waiting for somebody else to tell you exactly what to do.
Kayla: Well, first of all, I want to say thank you for saying that, because that means so much to me, and it's very affirming. That's exactly how I feel about you. I remember, even at your first live show, you're like, ‘Oh my god, I'm so stressed. I don't know what I'm doing.’ And, the shit sold out. And, you know, and now, like, you see the growth of the podcast. And you have nearly 61,000 subscribers on YouTube. I just checked recently.
I talk a lot about people that really just need to not say anything on the internet, because it's so frustrating as somebody who grew up as a traditional journalist. You want people to fact check and ask thoughtful questions and have good conversations. I've never said that about you. I've always loved your podcast. And I've sent a lot of your episodes to friends when they're going through specific things that you're talking about.
This season has been a little bit slower to me, so you've been a constant source of inspiration, and it's just been such a pleasure to see your podcast grow despite the challenges you've had. I know it's not easy, but you continue to grow and continue to push through, and I really admire that as somebody who sat and cried yesterday and listened to white noise.
And this is why I tell you all the time, you really do inspire me. I love you a lot.
Les: Oh my gosh, I love you a lot. I'm so glad that the podcast brought us together.
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