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Generation To Generation: Courtney Adeleye On Black Hair, Healing, And Choice
Feb 13, 2026 10:10 AM EST
This article is in partnership with Target.
For many Black women, getting a relaxer was a rite of passage, an inheritance passed down from the generation before us, and perhaps even before her. It marked the transition from Black girlhood to adolescence. Tight coils, twisted plaits, and the clickety-clack of barrettes were traded for chemical perms and the familiar sting of scalp burns.
A Black girl ushering in her era of straight hair was an unspoken but understood tradition, a legacy shaped by women who learned that relaxers were the key to manageability and beauty, as society had defined it.
Though relaxers were a product of their time, the memories many of us share from that era of creamy-white, no-lye formulas also carry a collective trauma. It was one endured in the name of beauty standards we didn’t question until we did. It’s an experience that Courtney Adeleye, founder and CEO of Watch & Sea Beauty, knows all too well. And one that ultimately shaped her path into the hair care space.
In xoNecole’s Generation to Generation, created in partnership with Target, Courtney reflects on her hair journey alongside her daughter during a BTS video from their mother-daughter photoshoot. As she is seen applying product to her daughter’s braids, she begins talking about her experience with perms before going natural. Her daughter pauses and asks a simple yet revealing question: “What’s a relaxer?”

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Courtney explains that it’s a chemical process that makes Black hair “pretty much permanently straight.” She then recalls getting her first relaxer at 13, a moment that remains vivid in her memory decades later. “My head was on fire,” she says in the video. “It’s nothing I remember in a good way. It’s something I’m like, ‘This can’t be.’” Their exchange is as striking as it is revelatory.
Unlike generations before her, Courtney’s daughter will never have to know relaxers as the rite of passage that once felt inevitable for so many Black girls. Thanks to entrepreneurs like Courtney, natural hair is no longer treated as the exception but upheld as the standard. As something to be celebrated, nurtured, and protected.
Generation to generation, her work helps ensure that Black girls can grow up with hair journeys rooted in appreciation, care, and choice, instead of one etched in pain, trauma, or assimilation.
In that way, Courtney isn’t just changing how we care for our hair; she’s paying it forward, crafting a legacy her daughters and future generations of Black women after them get to inherit.
That legacy didn’t begin with hair. Courtney credits her own mother, a nurse like she once was, for being the blueprint for what entrepreneurship could look like. “I got a chance to see my mother take a sheet of paper, cut it up in little rectangles, take that to a printing shop, and turn it into a card game,” she tells her daughter in a different scene. Those early lessons planted the seeds for what would later become The Mane Choice, a hair care brand born from her desire to create safer, healthier alternatives for Black hair that didn't compromise on performance.
After starting The Mane Choice in 2013 with just $500, Courtney worked tirelessly to build a hair empire that would go on to surpass $100 million in sales in only six years. She later sold the brand in 2019 for an undisclosed amount, cementing her place among the Black women entrepreneurs who have turned purpose and vision into industry-defining impact.
“Everything that we do is a stepping stone,” Courtney says in the video. “So how do I take what I’ve done as a nurse and turn it into what I’m doing?”

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Today, that full circle is the gift that gives, and Black history is still being written, not just by women like Courtney, but by the little Black girls watching, learning, and asking questions that open new doors. Watch & Sea Beauty marks a return for the entrepreneur that reflects purpose, growth, resilience, and trust built over time.
From generation to generation, the way we love and care for our hair tells a bigger story: one of healing, innovation, and what we now have the freedom to choose for ourselves. Courtney’s contributions to Black hair and beauty are truly unmatched, not simply because of what she’s built, but because of what she’s shifted our hair stories: the narrative, the standard, and the future.
Her work is the legacy that lives in what we make possible for the women who come next.
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It's unusual to see an artist who built her career on social media abruptly abandon the scene. PinkPantheress, who prioritizes her mental health over fame, demonstrates the value of using social media for career advancement, as well as how to put it aside for one's mental health. PinkPantheress' origins begin with her getting her big break on TikTok using 2000s music samples, but it is far from the conclusion of the story.
With hits like "Boy's a liar Pt. 2," PinkPantheress is demonstrating that she is a contender in the new music scene two years after her refreshing breakout as she enters the Billboard top 100 and quickly starts releasing albums and EPs. It's about time you heard about the new TikTok sensation, since her lyricism and whisper-like voice will soon be played in more venues than they already have. Check out the six things you should know about the new internet phenomenon, and quickly become a fan.
PinkPantheress’ Real Name & the Meaning Behind Her Stage Name
PinkPantheress is one of several contemporary artists whose stage identities are quite different from their real names. PinkPantheress, whose real name is Victoria Beverly Walker, received her nickname while watching a television show. PinkPantheress' stage name was derived from her TikTok account of the same name, which was motivated by the Pink Panther movie franchise and a game show question from The Chase in the UK.
According to PopSugar, PinkPantheress shared, "When I was picking a TikTok username, which ended up being the catalyst for this whole situation that I seem to find myself in now, I tried to just go for 'pantheress' because I'd heard it in a game show where the question was 'What is a female panther called?' and I was like, 'That's sick.'" PinkPantheress explained, "I tried to have it as my username and it was taken so I just put 'pink' in front of it, because Pink Panther is a great film."
PinkPantheress' Parents & Early Life in England
In 2001, PinkPantheress was born across the pond in Bath, England. The singer, songwriter, and record producer was born to a Kenyan mother who worked as a caregiver and an English father who taught statistics. Eventually, she and her family moved to Kent, England, where she spent most of her adolescence. Afterward, PinkPanthress moved to South London where she started studying film at the University of the Arts London until 2022 when she made the choice to discontinue.
PinkPantheress Likes Her Privacy
PinkPantheress prides herself on maintaining privacy in her personal life. Even her real name wasn't known to admirers until a year ago. Surprisingly, despite her TikTok fame, PinkPantheress' need for attention is still modest. In a 2021 BBC interview, she claimed social media to be "a very crowded place." Later on stating, "I don't feel like I need to overshare and I really do respect my own privacy." The interview, which takes from two years ago, reveals this to still be the case as the new social starlight's interests and personal life still remain little to mostly unknown.
PinkPantheress Credits Green Day and Paramore As Big Musical Influences
PinkPantheress, a self-described pop-punk enthusiast, has mentioned My Chemical Romance as one of her all-time favorite bands, as well as Green Day and Paramore as influences. She adores the songwriting of the well-known emo-punk bands, and in her teenage years, she often covered a number of their songs. In addition to emo music, horror films inspired PinkPantheress' foreboding aesthetic. PinkPantheress demonstrates how well horror can influence art by drawing inspiration for her debut mixtape, To Hell with It, from timeless horror movie posters and 90s cartoons.
PinkPantheress' "New Nostalgia" Sound
PinkPantheress describes her music as "new nostalgia," with strong influences from the music of the 1990s and 2000s. Not to mention that the majority of her compositions were created utilizing samples of other songs from the UK garage, DnB, and pop scenes, which PinkPantheress' ethereal vocals then layered over. She adds her unique spin to each sample by either slowing the music down or adjusting the tone to show a different milieu within an existing sound, even if this does not imply that her tracks lack originality. Because of how different this music is, one can even speculate that this new retro atmosphere may be a separate genre.
The Success of "Boy's a liar Pt. 2"
The idea of a rapper and emo-grunge pop artist seems out of place at first, but with its cool unflappable tone and unabashedly mocking of oneself, it's just right. Over a Jersey dance beat, produced by Mura Masa, Ice Spice gives bars that are funny responses to a partner who turned out not to be worth the effort. Meanwhile, PinkPantheress glides over the track in a hypnotic, breathless melody that will leave you in a trance with a sad realization: boys are liars.
Number 5 on the Billboard, and having reached the highest of 3 thus far, "Boys a liar Pt. 2" is steadily climbing the charts. With only five weeks on the chart, PinkPantheress and Ice Spice have made this conversation between two friends a seamless, contagious bop. Short and sweet, this song will have you uncontrollably dancing in your seat. PinkPantheress provides a remix we hadn't known we needed, but so desperately crave.
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8 Tank And The Bangas Songs To Add To Your Playlist If You're Feeling "DM Pretty"
Mar 15, 2023 06:00 AM EST
In 2019, Grammy-nominated Tank and the Bangas released their second live album, Live Vibes 2 (Live). On this album, Tank begins her song “DM Pretty,” with a spoken word poem that discusses the problem of being seen as beautiful only on social media or being told about it only through secrecy. Early this year, her infamous riff of “this boy be in my DM say I’m pretty,” took TikTok by storm and became the new audio clip worth putting on any video of a beautiful girl’s page.
The poem and clip conclude with Tank stating that although the compliment was appreciated, it was unnecessary, because “she already knew that.” Her beauty is not and would not be defined by someone’s late-night 2 a.m. discovery.
Tank and the Bangas - Full Set | Best of the Beat 2020New Orleans favorite Tank and the Bangas deliver a stellar set for OffBeat Magazine's 2020 Best of the Beat Awards. The band ...
Now, many wonder who this trailblazer is, igniting herself and others in a relentless form of self-love and setting the bar for those who shower her in misguided affection. To understand who Tank truly is, it’s time to get out of her DMs and into her discography.
Here are the top 8 Tank and the Bangas songs that will keep you out of her DMs, unless it is to state that her music should have been found years ago.
1. "To Be Real" (feat. Hasizzle, Keedy Black & Big Choo)
In 2020, during the height of the pandemic, Tank and the Bangas had me by the throat when they released the EP Friend Goals. On this EP was the track “To Be Real,” a song that from the moment it begins will have you bobbing from side to side, only to get up and shake your ass a minute later. Her lyrics tell of a house party, her music makes you feel like you’re having one in New Orleans, Louisiana. By the time the song ends, you will be out of breath and happy for the dance break.
2. "Spaceships"
“Money. Look at all the money. Look at the money, money fallin’’ from the sky.”
This song is just plain fun, as it should be given its theme. This song is like a pat on the back when one understands they have finally accomplished their goal of reaching the charts. Tank and her crew choose to simply throw their money up and enjoy their riches, rediscovering themselves back home, where it all began, rather than lavishly spending it and wasting it on expensive items and destinations. Though, she does consider the idea of pointlessly wasting it all. Thanks to Mark Batson's incredible beat, the children's catchy chorus, and the pure delight of oneself, this song will be in your head for days.
3. "Boxes and Squares"
One thing about Tank is that she is extremely aware of her value; in fact, she is occasionally forced to remind her suitor when he forgets. In this song, she takes the time to tell her ex all of the wonderful things she could have been for him. She is no longer interested in the nothingness he can offer, however, as a result of his constant falsehoods, jokes, closed-off demeanor, and immature desires. He simply offers empty boxes and loops of never-ending mediocrity, while she embodies everything that healthy cultivation entails. Tank makes it abundantly clear, she's the bar.
4. "Dope Girl Magic"
It's crazy how simple things may seem when you're really good at them. Tank tells her audience that being this dope is almost too simple as she slickly follows along with the music. She may grow a little tired of it all because it is so simple. Yet, that doesn't stop her from being boastful and bragging about how talented she and her bangas are. She is limitless. She is extraordinary, and she is only beginning. Her group is distinct in its excellence, and she knows it. Some might be great, but their type of great is so different that it's unattainable by others.
5. "No ID"
What a groovy song, and an even better message. "No ID" sends the crystal-clear message to any would-be suitor: I'm not interested. Tank compares her admirer to someone who thinks she is so simple-minded that she will just fall for his old tactics with the help of some clever tropes. But she has dealt with men who seem to want her without truly working for it before, and she is too busy now to deal with them. Particularly when she is so familiar with the game's outcome. He needs to demonstrate his desire for her more clearly than he has, and he most definitely needs to provide proper ID.
6. "Heavy"
What a fantastic soulful track to accompany a fantastic soulful album. Tank and the Bangas is excellent because she feels confident in her abilities and desire. She knows exactly what she wants; in this case, she wants everything to hit her heavily. She desires an almost crushing pressure of connection, trust, communication, and love. She has a healthy longing for every moment to be remembered and cherished and a lover who wants the same.
7. "Fluff" (feat. DUCKWRTH)
In "Fluff," Tank and DUCKWRTH watch a young lady who seems to be addicted to fluff. She wants all of the drugs, the parties, the festivals, and everything else that is simply unimportant. In the end, they come to the realization that the girl is looking for something in all of life's joy, but is not successful in finding anything enjoyable. She sings about a woman who can never be satisfied and should be left behind over another 70s groove.
8. "Nice Things"
Tank's only goal in this song is to gain appreciation. She, therefore, implores her lover to show her some kindness. He ought to take her dining out, shopping, to the beach, among other things. She merely wants some nice things, because she is conscious of her value.
Must See: NPR Tiny Desk, Tank and the Bangas (NPR Performers of 2017)
Take a moment to actually be entertained by Tank and the Bangas' Tiny Desk NPR Performance. You will smile nonstop for about 25 minutes thanks to the band's chemistry, showmanship, and musical prowess. Once you're done watching, you'll see why they won performers of the year.
Tank and the Bangas' Pretty Poems EP is available now on all platforms.
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