8 Kinds Of Sex Every Couple Should Have In Their Rotation
When it comes to sex, you can never have too many tricks up your sleeve. A long-term relationship can quickly become boring, and nothing kills desire faster than boredom. When people get comfortable in long-term relationships, they often lose their spark. Relationships are like monthly subscription services. You get the first month for free, but after that, you have to actually start investing in order to continue to reap the benefits.
It is possible to rekindle the sexual spark in your life if the flame has fizzled out. There are a lot of easy fixes that are enjoyable. Getting out of a bedroom funk can be challenging, so here's what you need to do.
1.Scheduled Sex
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Yes, I know! Scheduling sex may not sound sexy, but it is important for people with busy lives to schedule sex regularly in order to maintain a healthy relationship. The act of scheduling sex is a great way for partners to maintain intimacy and satisfaction. Every other aspect of our lives is scheduled; vacations, lunch dates, birthdays, and holiday gatherings. Why not add sex to the list? Intentionally setting aside time for sex shows your partner that sex is important to you.
2.Spontaneous Sex
Yes, I just talked about scheduling sex, but couples should also have spontaneous sex! There's nothing better than spontaneous, out-of-the-blue sex! Seize sexual opportunities when they arise unexpectedly. Unscripted sex always reminds a couple of the fun they used to have at the beginning of their relationship.
3.Morning Sex
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Even though you may not have the freshest breath in the morning, sometimes you need more than an alarm clock to get you started. Plus, getting it on before sunrise has many benefits. The endorphins released during morning sex allow you to start your day feeling relaxed and energized.
4.Try-Something-New Sex
Once a quarter, every couple should try something new in the bedroom. A Google search and/or a trip to a sex shop are almost always required for this type of sex. There is nothing like trying out a new position or discovering different types of foreplay or having sex somewhere other than your bed to expand your sexual experience. Be adventurous and try things you haven't tried before.
5.Make-up Sex
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My toxic trait is fighting with my partner and then having wild make-up sex afterward. One minute you're hot with anger, and the next you're rolling around making passionate love like Yvette and Jody in Baby Boy. Fighting causes dopamine and adrenaline levels to rise, making you and your partner excitable in more ways than one. The reason why make-up sex works is that you are raw, exposed, and vulnerable after a fight, which makes for an ideal combination for hot, steamy sex.
6.Outdoor Sex
There is something exciting, fun, and risky about outdoor sex. It's something about the possibility of getting caught that gets people's sexual juices flowing. Outdoor sex feels naughty and rebellious. Although you may feel brazen, outdoor sex is all about avoiding getting caught. Almost all states prohibit public sex. Hence, plan ahead. Locate a place to get your rocks off that won't land you in jail
7.Romantic Sex
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Every now and then, we all like to be romanced. There is nothing like romantic sex to make you feel passionate, steamy, and intimate. It's all about foreplay, anticipation, and connection. You can connect with your partner by taking it slow and enjoying every moment. Make the mood more romantic by lighting candles, playing music, or having a few drinks.
8.Vacation Sex
Like Thanksgiving and turkey, vacations and sex go hand in hand. Vacations are perfect for rekindling a relationship as they give you more time for each other. Vacations should provide you with the opportunity to renew your sexual intimacy. Imagine yourself in a private room, disconnected from the daily routine of your daily life. Getting away from your usual routine is the thrill of vacation sex.
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This Black Woman-Owned Creative Agency Shows Us The Art Of Rebranding
Rebranding is an intricate process and very important to the success of businesses that want to change. However, before a business owner makes this decision, they should determine whether it's a rebrand or an evolution.
That's where people like Lola Adewuya come in. Lola is the founder and CEO of The Brand Doula, a brand development studio with a multidisciplinary approach to branding, social media, marketing, and design.
While an evolution is a natural progression that happens as businesses grow, a rebrand is a total change. Lola tells xoNecole, "A total rebrand is necessary when a business’s current reputation/what it’s known for is at odds with the business’s vision or direction.
"For example, if you’ve fundamentally changed what your product is and does, it’s likely that your brand is out of alignment with the business. Or, if you find your company is developing a reputation that doesn’t serve it, it might be time to pump the brakes and figure out what needs to change.
She continues, "Sometimes you’ll see companies (especially startups) announce a name change that comes with updated messaging, visuals, etc. That usually means their vision has changed or expanded, and their previous branding was too narrow/couldn’t encompass everything they planned to do."
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The Brand Doula was born in 2019, and its focus is on putting "the experiences, goals, and needs of women of color founders first," as well as brands with "culture-shifting missions."
According to Lola, culture-shifting is "the act of influencing dominant behavior, beliefs, or experiences in a community or group (ideally, for the better)."
"At The Brand Doula, we work with companies and leaders that set out to challenge the status quo in their industries and communities. They’re here to make an impact that sends ripples across the market," she says.
"We help the problem solvers of the world — the ones who aren't satisfied with 'this is how it's always been' and instead ask 'how could this be better?' Our clients build for impact, reimagining tools, systems, and ways of living to move cultures forward."
The Brand Doula has worked with many brands, including Too Collective, to assist with their collaboration with Selena Gomez's Rare Beauty and Balanced Black Girl for a "refresh," aka rebrand. For businesses looking to rebrand, Lola shares four essential steps.
1. Do an audit of your current brand experience — what’s still relevant and what needs to change? Reflect on why you’re doing the rebrand in the first place and what success would look like after relaunching.
2. Tackle the overall strategy first — before you start redesigning logos and websites, align on a new vision for your brand. How do you want your company to be positioned moving forward? Has your audience changed at all? Will your company have a fresh personality and voice?
3. Bring your audience along the journey — there’s no need to move in secret. Inviting your current audience into the journey can actually help them feel more connected to and invested in your story, enough to stick around as changes are being made.
4. Keep business moving — one of my biggest pet peeves is when companies take down their websites as soon as they have the idea to rebrand, then have a Coming Soon page up for months! You lose a lot of momentum and interest by doing that. If you’re still in business and generating income, continue to operate while you work on your rebrand behind the scenes. You don’t want to cut existing customers off out of the blue, and you also don’t want so much downtime that folks forget your business exists or start looking for other solutions.
While determining whether the rebrand was successful may take a few months, Lola says a clear sign that it is unsuccessful is negative feedback from your target audience. "Customers are typically more vocal about what they don’t like more than what they do like," she says.
But some good signs to look out for are improvements in engagement with your marketing, positive reviews, press and increase in retention, and overall feeling aligned with the new branding.
For more information about Lola and The Brand Doula, visit her website, thebranddoula.com.
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'Power Book II: Ghost' Star LaToya Tonodeo Doesn't Think Her Character's Mom Is A Toxic Parent
The Power Book II: Ghost finale episodes resumed on Friday, Sept 6, and the Tejadas appear to be in deep trouble. Spoiler alert: Diana Tejada, played by LaToya Tonodeo, is pregnant with Tariq St. Patrick's (Michael Rainey Jr.) baby while simultaneously dealing with her family's new arrangement with dirty cop Don Carter (Michael Ealy).
Diana doesn't want her child near the drug game, but due to her family and her child's father's active roles in that lifestyle, she may not have a choice. In a xoNecole exclusive, LaToya opens up about the reality of Diana's options.
"My advice would be like, girl, you better pray about it and make the best decision. But in actuality, like looking at the circumstances, I don't necessarily think it's best for her right now to leave her support system," she admits.
"She needs all the support she can get. It just doesn't make sense. You're saying you don't want Tariq to be a part of the life, but that's clearly what he is doing in his path. And then you're a Tejada, your family is a part of that life. And then you're in school. How are you going to support yourself and a child off the candy store like it's not going to work.
She continues, "So you need to keep, in my opinion, I would say, keep the family as close as you can, because regardless of who they are and how they operate, it's definitely beneficial for her."
"So you need to keep, in my opinion, I would say, keep the family as close as you can, because regardless of who they are and how they operate, it's definitely beneficial for her."
If you watch Power Book II: Ghost, then you are familiar with the family dynamic between the Tejadas. The family's matriarch, Monét, played by R&B legend Mary J. Blige, groomed her kids to be gangsters and help her run their drug empire.
But her parenting has often caused a wedge between her kids Diana, Dru (Lovell Adams-Gray), and Cain (Woody McClain), especially after she killed their father. This led to Diana and Dru recruiting Tariq to kill Monét, but it was unsuccessful and now, Monét is now trying to repair her relationship with her kids.
While Monét ticks off many of the boxes of what a toxic parent may look like, LaToya has another point of view. "I feel like even though, on the outside, it could look like she's a toxic parent, I believe that we try to show that there's still elements of love there, and there are moments where Diana, for the sake of family, still will forgive all the things that, like if she feels blamed for certain things," she explains.
"Like the time, I think it was last season or season three, when Monét actually went into Diana's dorm room and apologized and all the things-- she's okay with it, because Diana really wants family."
She continues, "And at the end of the day, Diana wants her mother to see her. So it might sound toxic to say that I don't believe she's fully toxic, but Diana is okay with giving chances, and maybe that's to her detriment, but she's okay with giving chances, and the growth between them is a push and pull, but Diana needs it."
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