There’s a lot of discourse around butt stuff…always. It’s just one of those forever taboo things. However, butt play is very nuanced, which means there’s lots of space to explore – it doesn’t have to, nor should it feel like some sort of hazing bit. Truth is, butt play has the potential to be very sensual. Butt play is a spectrum that ranges from external touch (read: massage) to internal play with toys, and for some, it can get a little kinkier.
Perhaps you’re completely disinterested in being penetrated by an actual penis but are curious – you might start with a finger. But maybe you’re someone who gets the ick when thinking about certain bodily fluids making contact with you. You might then find yourself interested in an option like butt plugs! And I’m not trying to be funny. I’m just trying to say there are options before you rule out butt play.
Butt plugs offer a build-up of pleasure and can make for mind-blowing foreplay and, thus, even better sex if you decide to go all the way, as I know some of you masochists love edging (bless your willpower). The anus has lots of nerves, so it makes sense that playing with this erogenous zone will send you over the moon in excruciating pleasure.
According to a Reddit rabbit hole I went down, a good butt plug is the best thing since apple pie!
I wanted to get an expert opinion, so I spoke with the plugs themselves – the team at Shop Enby, a Black, Trans-online shop, and the owner of Feelmore located in Oakland. Here are some approved butt plugs, and trust me, they’ve got range.
Protip: Accessorize your mini skirt with a butt plug (wear it) to provide easy access. Take it out for a spin, as every step increases the intensity and lubrication.
Mind you, this is simply from my rabbit hole on Reddit, but Shop Enby came through with tons more on the tip front. Here's what they, specifically, had to say.
“Exploring booty play can open up a hole 😈 new world of pleasure.” - Shop Enby
1. B-Vibe Anal Training Set
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Not sure exactly where to begin with your butt basics? This B-Vibe Anal Training Set comes highly recommended by Shop Enby. This is some bargain shopping for that ass as it comes “with three plugs of various weights and sizes, lube applicator, enema, travel bag, and a complete guide to anal play. This set is definitely worth it!” All of the plugs are made from body safe silicone and have a narrow tip, round that allows for easy insertion. In case you’re wondering, the enema that’s included allows for you to undergo a deep cleaning before opening Pandora's box.
2. Cute Little Fuckers - Princette Puppypus
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If you’re someone who is still uncertain about diving into butt play and not interested in investing money in quality toys that are solely for anal play – Princette Puppypus is going to be your BFF. Princette Puppypus by Cute Little Fuckers not only serves as a vibrating butt plug, but it can act as a “stand alone vibrator with a ring of independently buzzing legs on one side and a larger curved vibrating head on the other. Both the legs and the head make this easy to hold and can slide between fingers for an open-handed explorative grip.”
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3. B-Vibe Vibrating Snug Plug
The B-Vibe Vibrating Snug Plug’s body has a unique marshmallow shape that differs from so many of the others on this list. It’s my thought that this design allows the toy to provide the ultimate level of fullness. With four vibration levels and six vibration patterns, the snug plug offers an exhilarating sensation–maybe wilder than anything you’ve ever experienced.
4. ROMP Amp Anal Beads
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The Romp Amp are a set of anal beads and “the perfect place to start,” according to the Enby team. Now, you may be wondering how anal beads and plugs differ outside of the obvious (design). With plugs, the pleasure and stimulation come from the feeling of fullness and pressure. Whereas beads stimulate the nerve endings surrounding your anus. And as for this set of beads, well, they’re described as “small and flexible silicone anal bead, designed to be worn during play or pulled out at just the right moment to heighten orgasm.”
5. Vedo Bump Vibrating Anal (w/ Remote)
If you’re looking for good vibes only, the Vedo Bump has ten of them – “ten rhythms of vibration,” to be exact, with six intensity levels. Made from silicone, this plug is waterproof, allowing you to enjoy aquatic aerobics at your leisure. (But, leave the remote behind as that bit is not waterproof, and you’ll want to go manually with this go-round.) This fabulously phallic plug offers 5” in length!
6. njoy Pure Plug - Medium
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This medium-sized plug is coming in at a cool 1.25 inches (hey, there are exceptions to every rule) – allowing the njoy Pure Plug to heat things up both inside and outside of the bedroom. While the plug as a whole is medium, the head is rather large, offering a “delicious stretch of penetration.” It’s also crafted from stainless steel, making it hypoallergenic. But beware, though highly regarded, this toy is for “more advanced players.”
Enby Team Tip: Run under cold or hot water to add an element of temperature play, or grab the loop to rock the toy back and forth for even more mind-blowing sensations!
7. Anal Adventures Curve Plug
With a sleek design, this body-safe Anal Adventures Curve Plug offers immense pleasure as said curve is placed right at the tip. This placement offers optimal “prostate pressure” and, thus, pleasure. The other thing that stands out with this plus is that of its three insertable inches, the curves ebb and flow, making it the perfect toy to grow with as you have different girths to work with.
8. GLAS Candy Land Juicer
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The GLAS Candy Land Juicer offers an added layer of pleasure with the detailed glass, texture, and a rather larger circumference (that’s the head) of 4.75 inches. Though they didn’t say it themselves, I’m going to dare to say this toy falls more on the advanced side of the spectrum. Due to its material, this toy offers some hot-cold sensation play as you’re able to both heat and cool this toy at your leisure.
Enby Team Tip: Once inserted use the handle to rotate the toy whilst it's inside. The textured bumps offer an internal massage that will open up a whole new world of pleasure!”
Hopefully, this range of toys has minimized any uncertainty and anxiety you might feel around bringing butt play into your bedroom. Just like so many other things in regards to life but especially sex, there isn’t a binary but rather a spectrum. It doesn’t have to be all or nothing immediately. So give yourself grace and go for it.
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It Girl 100 became xoNecole’s most successful program, with the hashtag organically reaching more than forty million impressions on Instagram in just twenty-four hours. Yes, it caught on like wildfire because we celebrated some of the most brilliant and influential GenZennial women of color setting trends and shaping culture. But more than that, it resonated because the women we celebrated felt seen.
Many were already known in their industries for keeping this generation fly and lit, but rarely received recognition or flowers. It Girl 100 became a safe space to be uplifted, and for us as Black women to bask in what felt like an era of our brilliance, beauty, and boundless influence on full display.
And then, almost overnight, it was as if the rug was pulled from under us as Black women, as the It Girls of the world.
Our much-needed, much-deserved season of ease and soft living quickly metamorphosed into a time of self-preservation and survival. Our motion and economic progression seemed strategically slowed, our light under siege.
The air feels heavier now. The headlines colder. Our Black girl magic is being picked apart and politicized for simply existing.
With that climate shift, as we prepare to launch our second annual It Girl 100 honoree list, our team has had to dig deep on the purpose and intention behind this year’s list. Knowing the spirit of It Girl 100 is about motion, sauce, strides, and progression, how do we celebrate amid uncertainty and collective grief when the juice feels like it is being squeezed out of us?
As we wrestled with that question, we were reminded that this tension isn’t new. Black women have always had to find joy in the midst of struggle, to create light even in the darkest corners. We have carried the weight of scrutiny for generations, expected to be strong, to serve, to smile through the sting. But this moment feels different. It feels deeply personal.
We are living at the intersection of liberation and backlash. We are learning to take off our capes, to say no when we are tired, to embrace softness without apology.
And somehow, the world has found new ways to punish us for it.
In lifestyle, women like Kayla Nicole and Ayesha Curry have been ridiculed for daring to choose themselves. Tracee Ellis Ross was labeled bitter for speaking her truth about love. Meghan Markle, still, cannot breathe without critique.
In politics, Kamala Harris, Letitia James, and Jasmine Crockett are dragged through the mud for standing tall in rooms not built for them.
In sports, Angel Reese, Coco Gauff, and Taylor Townsend have been reminded that even excellence will not shield you from racism or judgment.
In business, visionaries like Diarrha N’Diaye-Mbaye and Melissa Butler are fighting to keep their dreams alive in an economy that too often forgets us first.
Even our icons, Beyoncé, Serena, and SZA, have faced criticism simply for evolving beyond the boxes society tried to keep them in.
From everyday women to cultural phenoms, the pattern is the same. Our light is being tested.
And yet, somehow, through it all, we are still showing up as that girl, and that deserves to be celebrated.
Because while the world debates our worth, we keep raising our value. And that proof is all around us.
This year alone, Naomi Osaka returned from motherhood and mental health challenges to reach the semifinals of the US Open. A’ja Wilson claimed another MVP, reminding us that beauty and dominance can coexist. Brandy and Monica are snatching our edges on tour. Kahlana Barfield Brown sold out her new line in the face of a retailer that had been canceled. And Melissa Butler’s company, The Lip Bar, is projecting a forty percent surge in sales.
We are no longer defining strength by how much pain we can endure. We are defining it by the unbreakable light we continue to radiate.
We are the women walking our daily steps and also continuing to run solid businesses. We are growing in love, taking solo trips, laughing until it hurts, raising babies and ideas, drinking our green juice, and praying our peace back into existence.
We are rediscovering the joy of rest and realizing that softness is not weakness, it is strategy.
And through it all, we continue to lift one another. Emma Grede is creating seats at the table. Valeisha Butterfield has started a fund for jobless Black women. Arian Simone is leading in media with fearless conviction. We are pouring into each other in ways the world rarely sees but always feels.
So yes, we are in the midst of societal warfare. Yes, we are being tested. Yes, we are facing economic strain, political targeting, and public scrutiny. But even war cannot dim a light that is divinely ours.
And we are still shining.
And we are still softening.
And we are still creating.
And we are still It.
That is the quiet magic of Black womanhood, our ability to hold both truth and triumph in the same breath, to say yes, and to life’s contradictions.
It is no coincidence that this year, as SheaMoisture embraces the message “Yes, And,” they stand beside us as partners in celebrating this class of It Girls. Because that phrase, those two simple words, capture the very essence of this moment.
Yes, we are tired. And we are still rising.
Yes, we are questioned. And we are the answer.
Yes, we are bruised. And we are still beautiful.
This year’s It Girl 100 is more than a list. It is a love letter to every Black woman who dares to live out loud in a world that would rather she whisper. This year’s class is living proof of “Yes, And,” women who are finding ways to thrive and to heal, to build and to rest, to lead and to love, all at once.
It is proof that our joy is not naive, our success not accidental. It is the reminder that our light has never needed permission.
So without further ado, we celebrate the It Girl 100 Class of 2025–2026.
We celebrate the millions of us who keep doing it with grace, grit, and glory.
Because despite it all, we still shine.
Because we are still her.
Because we are still IT, girl.
Meet all 100 women shaping culture in the It Girl 100 Class of 2025. View the complete list of honorees here.
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Fridays with Tab and Chance body collection
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xoNecole: How did you come up with the scents for the collection?
Tabitha Brown: We love warm scents that make you feel sexy and loved. [We’re] both fans of gourmand [scents], including bergamot, vanilla, tonka and chocolate.
xoN: If you could describe your working relationship in one word, what would it be and why?
Tabitha: It's our first time building a product line together and our first time working with fragrance. So having patience with the process and each other has been the best way to build.
xoN: What is your body care ritual?
Tabitha: Exfoliate with a scrub a few times a week, but using a moisturizing body wash daily. After a shower, I spray a body mist that compliments what scent I am choosing for the day. Most times vanilla mist wins because it’s a perfect base for layering. I then hydrate [my] skin with lotion. Then, once dressed, I layer my favorite fragrance, Her Business, first and then His Business on top.
Chance: [I’m] way more simple. Just body wash and lotion and then my cologne and I’m good to go.
xoN: We enjoy watching you two together online, whose idea was it to start 'Fridays with Tab & Chance'?
Tabitha: It actually happened by accident. Back in 2018, my fans had just been asking about how we met, so we did a video answering questions one Friday and people in the comments [asked], will y’all do it again next Friday? And so we did and the next thing you know Fridays with Tab & Chance was born.
xoN: In what other ways do you plan to expand Fridays? Restart the podcast? TV show?
Tabitha: We are working on a lifestyle content show vs the traditional Fridays podcast. More to come soon.
xoN: You do many things together, but what would you say is your favorite quality time activity and why?
Tabitha: We are really simple. We love watching movies or TV series together on the couch or in bed. It’s really one of our favorite things to do together.
xoN: What is your favorite thing about the other person?
Tabitha: I love that he makes me feel safe and how hard he works to be an amazing father.
Chance: I love that she is crazy enough to pursue her wildest dreams.
xoN: What is the key to a successful partnership in business and personal?
Tabitha: The key is knowing that you both are going to change, and giving each other grace, patience, and understanding during those changes.
See more on tabandchance.com.
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