

Ashanti has been experiencing a beautiful resurgence in her career over the last few years. The Grammy award-winning artist became a household name after dropping her debut self-titled album in 2002 and from there the singer/songwriter has given us hits after hits. Now at 41 years of age, the “Foolish” artist has been reclaiming the spotlight with viral moments such as her thirst-trapping photos on social media and performing during the Verzuz battle between Ja Rule and Fat Joe which resulted in an awkward exchange with her ex Nelly. But probably one of her most monumental occasions is receiving a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame in April.
Another major moment for the R&B star was finally receiving recognition for her writing and singing on two of Jennifer Lopez’s biggest tracks “I’m Real” and “Ain’t It Funny.” Founding her own independent record label, Written Ent., Ashanti is a boss and continues to thrive in the ever-changing music industry by remaining the same person that everyone fell in love with in 2002. The Guinness World Record holder recently covered HelloBeautiful where she talked about her illustrious 20-year career.
JD Barnes for HelloBeautiful
Ashanti on Finally Being Recognized For Her Background Vocals On Jennifer Lopez’s Records:
“It always feels good to get recognition. I was always really proud that I had the opportunity to do what I did. And have people recognize it and look at how I handled the situation. It’s always good to get love from the people, regardless of whatever the situation is.”
Ashanti on Protecting Her Energy:
"I think it's really important. This industry is really corrupt. It's really cutthroat. There could be some dark moments. So I think it's really important to protect because that can prove who you are."
Ashanti on Keeping Her Personal Life Private:
“I just feel like it’s really important to keep certain things private, to yourself for yourself. As an artist, we give so much to the public and so much to the world, there have to be some things that are just for you. I just find that it’s better that way to take a lot of people out of your business because sometimes people want to infiltrate for the wrong reasons.”
JD Barnes for HelloBeautiful
Ashanti on Her Natural Body:
"I've always been a person to take care of myself inside and out. I think it's important that we show it's okay to not be perfect and to still embrace being natural. And maybe you don't have the biggest booty or the biggest boobs, but it's yours. And it's natural. And when you are natural, you're proud because you, you work for it. You work out, you eat right, you diet, or not even diet, you try to be healthy."
"When I moved to Atlanta, I was considered super skinny. I'm sure every woman has gone through being different or looking different or being compared. For me, I've always been happy and proud."
Ashanti on Working with Larenz Tate in the “Rain On Me” Video:
"I'd never done anything like that before. But he's so cool. We went out on maybe two dates. We weren't messing around or anything but just warmed up to each other before shooting. That's my bro. Obviously, I had been a fan already. He's very humble. And he just made me super comfortable. We were laughing a lot. I was actually chewing gum in the window."
Read the full cover story on HelloBeautiful here.
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'Sistas' Star Skyh Black On The Power Of Hypnotherapy & Emotional Vulnerability For Men
In this insightful episode of the xoMAN podcast, host Kiara Walker talked with Sistas star Skyh Black, as he opened up about his journey of emotional growth, resilience, and self-discovery. The episode touches on emotional availability, self-worth, masculinity, and the importance of therapy in overcoming personal struggles.
Skyh Black on Emotional Availability & Love
On Emotional Availability & Vulnerability
“My wife and I wouldn't be where we are today if both of us weren't emotionally available,” he shared about his wife and Sistas co-star KJ Smith, highlighting the value of vulnerability and emotional openness in a relationship. His approach to masculinity stands in contrast to the traditional, stoic ideals. Skyh is not afraid to embrace softness as part of his emotional expression.
On Overcoming Self-Doubt & Worthiness Issues
Skyh reflected on the self-doubt and worthiness issues that he struggled with, especially early in his career. He opens up about his time in Los Angeles, living what he calls the “LA struggle story”—in a one-bedroom with three roommates—and being homeless three times over the span of 16 years. “I always had this self-sabotaging thought process,” Skyh said. “For me, I feel therapy is essential, period. I have a regular therapist and I go to a hypnotherapist.”
How Therapy Helped Him Heal From Self-Doubt
On Hypnotherapy & Empowering Self-Acceptance
Skyh’s journey is a testament to the power of tapping into self-development despite life’s struggles and being open to growth. “I had to submit to the fact that God was doing good in my life, and that I'm worthy of it. I had a worthiness issue and I did not realize that. So, that’s what the hypnotherapy did. It brought me back to the core. What is wrong so that I can fix it?”
Watch the full podcast episode below:
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Quinta Brunson Gets Real About Divorce, Boundaries & Becoming
Quinta Brunson is the woman who chooses herself, even when the world is watching. And in her June 30 cover story for Bustle, she gives us a rare glimpse into the soft, centered place she's navigating her life from now. From leading one of television's most beloved series in the last decade to quietly moving through life shifts, the creator of Abbott Elementary is walking through a personal evolution and doing so with intention, grace, and a firm grip on her boundaries.
Back in March, the 35-year-old filed for divorce from Kevin Jay Anik after nearly three years of marriage, citing "irreconcilable differences." The news hit the headlines of news outlets fast, but Quinta hadn't planned to announce their dissolution to the public so quickly.
Quinta Brunson On Divorce, Public Scrutiny & Sacred Boundaries
"I remember seeing people be like, ‘She announced her divorce,’" she told Bustle. “I didn’t announce anything. I think people have this idea that people in the public eye want the public to know their every move. None of us do. I promise you. No one wants [everyone] to know when you buy a house, when you move, when a major change happens in your personal life. It’s just that that’s public record information."
In regards to her private moves becoming tabloid fodder, Quinta continued, "I hated that. I hate all of it."
"I Am An Artist First": Quinta On Cutting Her Hair & Reclaiming Herself
Still, the diminutive phenom holds her crown high in the face of change and is returning to the essence of who she is, especially as an artist. "Cutting my hair reminded me that I am an artist first. I want to feel things. I want to make choices. I want to be a person, and not just stuck in having to be a certain way for business." It's giving sacred rebirth. It's giving self-liberation. It's especially giving main character energy.
And while the headlines keep spinning their narratives, the one that Quinta is focused on is her own. For her, slowing down and nourishing herself in ways that feed her is what matters. "It’s a transitional time. I think it’s true for me and my personal life, and it’s how I feel about myself, my career, and the world," Quinta shared with Bustle. “I feel very serious about focusing on watering my own gardens, taking care of myself and the people around me who I actually interact with day-to-day."
That includes indulging in simple rituals that ground her like "making myself a meal" which has become "really, really important to me."
That spirit of agency doesn't stop at the personal. In her professional world, as the creator, executive producer, and lead actress of the critically-acclaimed Abbott Elementary, Quinta understands the weight her choices carry, both on- and off-screen. She revealed to Bustle, "People used to tell me at the beginning of this that the No. 1 on the call sheet sets the tone, and the producer sets the tone — and I’m both of those roles."
She continued, "I understand now, after doing this for four years, how important it was that I set the tone that I did when we first started."
Quinta doesn't just lead, she understands the importance of curating the energy of any space she enters. Even amid a season of shifts and shedding, her power speaks loudly. Sometimes that power looks like quiet resistance. Sometimes that power is soft leadership.
And sometimes that power looks like cutting your hair and taking back your name in rooms that have forgotten you were an artist long before you were a brand.
Read Quinta's cover story on Bustle here to witness the fullness of Quinta's becoming.
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