This Is How Each Zodiac Sign Pairs With Libra In Matters Of The Heart
Libra is the definition of love. They are ruled by Venus herself, the planet of love, and they put a lot of focus on this area of their life as well.
Libra in Love & Relationships
A Libra in a relationship is one of the best partners to have, as they put their relationships first in life. They provide a lot of value and care into their relationships, and love itself means everything to them. They love the feeling of being in a partnership with someone and mirroring each other and are the example of two becoming one. With Venus being the planetary ruler of both Libra and Taurus, Libra effortlessly matches Venusian energy.
Venus is all about love, beauty, harmony, sex, creativity, and attraction. The power of attraction for Libra is strong, and this is a flirty sign that doesn’t have a problem meeting someone or attracting love into their life.
There are two types of Libras when it comes to love. A Libra in a relationship and a Libra in a situationship. Some Libras do have a pattern of not committing and having a more flaky or laissez-faire attitude in their relationships.
That’s not to say they aren’t completely loving and romantic in the process, but they may not be the first ones to bring up making the relationship official, let's just say that. On the other side, there are also those Libras that have planned out their wedding day since they were a child and are serial daters. Let’s not forget that Libra rules the 7th house, which is the house of marriage. You will often always find a Libra in a relationship and they are that perfect spouse someone is looking for.
Either way, a Libra almost always has someone in their vicinity, and if they don’t, they won't feel like themselves. This doesn’t mean they are the most committed sign of the zodiac, as a Libra will run free and have its fun unless they are really at that place in their life to commit.
Libra Love Compatibility: Best & Worst Love Matches in the Zodiac
All in all, Libras are the type of partner to wow you. They will take note of everything you like, dislike, enjoy, love, and will make it their mission to provide that for you. They want to meet you where you are and will shower you with a type of love and affection that is truly unforgettable. They are genuine with the affection they show, and they will always consider their partners' thoughts, values, and interests.
Libras are one of the best romantic partners to have, however, read below to see what signs Libras are most compatible with.
Who Are Libras Most Compatible With?
Libra + Aries Love Compatibility
Libra and Aries are the definitions of opposites attract. They are sister signs of the zodiac and are on complete opposite sides of the zodiac wheel. They have a magnetic attraction toward each other and they often don’t know why or where it is coming from. Libra and Aries are very different from each other but they give and take where needed. This pairing is that of yin and yang, and when they are in balance with each other this is a very fulfilling partnership.
Libra gives Aries the love and attention they crave but don’t always necessarily express, and Aries helps Libra feel empowered and focused. Not to mention, they are both cardinal signs and will have a lot of fun and passion in the relationship, especially in the beginning.
Libra + Taurus Love Compatibility
Libra and Taurus is a match you wouldn’t expect right away, but they actually go together pretty well. Being both ruled by Venus, the planet of love, they both have expectations in a relationship that they can meet. They deeply align with their values in life and will bring a lot of care, dedication, and warmth into this relationship. This couple loves to do nothing together or spend their time in leisure activities which makes for a fun and relaxing partnership.
However, their differences arise when it comes to communication style, and Taurus can be too stubborn for Libra’s more easygoing demeanor. They may often question each other and think too much into things which can lead to the downfall of the partnership. All in all, this couple has Venus on their side and this relationship can definitely work and be filled with love.
Libra + Gemini Love Compatibility
Libra and Gemini are a match made in heaven. If anyone can handle a Gemini, it is a Libra, and they would do so happily. Libras see something in Gemini that most don’t, and they are often very intrigued by them. When these two come together, it’s easy for them to get on the same page and they flow through life with a type of unique synergy.
Being both air signs, they don’t take things too seriously so commitment within this pairing may be a little difficult, but if they both are at that place in life then it would definitely be a different story. Overall, this is one of Libra’s best matches in the zodiac, and this is a very exciting, thoughtful, and communicative pairing.
Libra + Cancer Love Compatibility
Libra and Cancer compatibility is hit or miss. Libra and Cancer have a lot in common, however, how they go about things is completely different. Libra and Cancer are both the type of partners to give. This energy is beneficial however, it can lead to some laziness in the relationship and not a lot of progress as they both don’t want to rock the boat. Libra needs love and affection which Cancer provides, but Cancer needs stability and emotional security, which may be too tight-knit for free spirit Libra. Cancer thinks with their emotions, Libra with their head, so they will often have to find the middle ground in the relationship in order to be on the same page.
Libra + Leo Love Compatibility
Libra and Leo are a notoriously good match in Astrology. They often tend to have an instant connection and attraction toward each other, and this pairing can go the distance. The compatibility of Libra and Leo together is that of a couple who are both best friends and lovers. Their energy and connection are unmatched, and they have a good rapport. With both of these individuals enamored by love, they love to have fun, be out and about, and this relationship tends to be more flashy than most. Public displays of affection are likely with this couple, not to mention they often just look good together and are a couple that people want to be around.
Libra + Virgo Love Compatibility
Libra and Virgo are a couple that you wouldn’t immediately think of going together, however, you do see this pairing often as well. What works in this connection is their mindset and modes of communication. Both signs are very logical which makes for great conversation and inspiring each other, however, this relationship can get stale or stagnant if there is nothing else being brought to the table other than good conversation. Virgo requires more stability than Libra, and Libra isn’t the easiest sign to get to settle down. Virgo loves a mission, however, after a while, these two may realize they have more that’s keeping them apart rather than together.
Libra + Libra Love Compatibility
Surprisingly, this is a very common duo. Now, most signs can not do the same sign relationship thing, as this energy can get competitive and to be honest, kind of boring sometimes. However, Libra is the exception here as a Libra and Libra duo is often a sexy surprise. The thing about Libra is that they mirror people. They see themselves in others and will match the energy of people. So it’s not hard to see why a Libra would be attracted to dating someone similar to themselves, as they already feel like they are one with the person they are in a relationship with. Although this relationship may get shaky in the long haul and they both will have to put in the work, there is something enticing about a Libra and Libra match and they are both drawn to each other.
Libra + Scorpio Love Compatibility
A Libra and a Scorpio relationship can be sexy or scary and there is really no in-between here. Libra and Scorpio, although next to each other on the zodiac wheel, have really nothing in common. They are both more relationship-oriented which is a plus, however, Scorpio’s power-focused mindset tends to make Libra’s balanced-focused mindset feel uneasy. Scorpio can be too abrasive for Libra as Libra likes things sweet and soft, whereas Scorpio is all about being bold and passionate. It’s hard to get these two on the same page, and although they will probably respect each other and admire each other in different ways, air and water energy aren't the easiest to come together and this compatibility isn’t the best.
Libra + Sagittarius Love Compatibility
A Libra and Sagittarius pairing is a power couple. Sagittarius broadens the mind of a Libra and takes them places they never thought they would be. Sagittarius and Libra both value their space and freedom, which is why this relationship is full of lightness, ease, laughter, and humility. They aren’t ones to take things too seriously, however, and this could be more of a fling than a long-term partnership. If they do see each other working out in the future and aligning with their life goals, then this will work, but they both need to check in often within this relationship to make sure they are still on the same page and have the same intentions for the relationship.
Libra + Capricorn Love Compatibility
The compatibility of a Libra and Capricorn is better than most air and earth sign duos. This is because both Libra and Capricorn enjoy the finer things in life, and have a refined nature of going about things and about their expectations in a relationship. Capricorn values tradition and Libra values things such as love, marriage, and partnership, which makes it easy for this couple to set goals within the relationship and evolve together. Capricorn may be too cold for Libra at times and Libra too up in the air for Capricorn, but they will find that their weaknesses are often each other's strengths and they can learn a lot from each other in this relationship.
Libra + Aquarius Love Compatibility
Libra and Aquarius give off soulmate energy. They both need a lot of the same things in a relationship and they don’t have to put that much energy into making it work since they already have such a good connection, to begin with. This couple has a lot of fun together and they are also the type of couple to still hang out with their friends; you can find them often hanging out with other couples as well. They are all about sharing the love and this relationship tends to be a progressive one. Libra definitely meets their match here when it comes to commitment in the relationship, however, and it can be hard to define this relationship. All in all, this is one of Libra's best matches for a partner.
Libra + Pisces Love Compatibility
A Libra and Pisces relationship can get messy. There is an attraction there, however, it’s often very hard for them to understand each other. Libra and Pisces both tend to be pacifists and this can make the relationship of a couple who are very nice and kind to each other, but they both might not be getting what they need to thrive and grow together. Kind gestures only go so far, and if the energy isn’t right or Pisces isn’t feeling that excitement or mystery in the relationship, then Pisces tends to lose interest and wander off. It can be hard to keep up with each other and this compatibility will only work if it is meant to.
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Tayler Barakat is a Mystic who has studied Astrology for over a decade. She does intuitive astrology and tarot readings for people all over the world, and her work focuses on healing and empowering individuals. Follow her on Instagram @taylerbarakat_ and check out her website www.listentothevirgo.com.
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Do You Want To Be A Wife? Or Do You Just Want To Have A Wedding?
Even though it’s my life, sometimes I look at it and totally trip out over certain things.
For instance, even though I am aware that both Hebrew and African cultures put a lot of stock in the name of a child (because they believe it speaks to their purpose; so do I) and I know that my name is pretty much Hebrew for divine covenant, it’s still wild that in a couple of years, I will have been working with married couples for a whopping two decades — and boy, is it an honor when they will say something like, “Shellie, we’ve seen [professionally] multiple people and no one has been nearly as effective as you have been.”
Yep, me. Little ole’ never-been-married-before me. Yeah, y’all better quit letting people tell you what you’re called to do in this world. That is between you and the One who made you.
Okay, but let me stay on track. When it comes to the engaged couples specifically, who have crossed my path, something that I believe I’ve said to each and every one of them (especially the bride-to-be) is — “You better enjoy every single minute of your wedding day because you deserve a big ‘ole party for all of the work that you’re about to do.” And then I look at the woman as intensely as I can and say, “And you? Remember, you are a bride for a day. You are a wife for the rest of your life.”
Why do I emphasize that point so much? It’s because those two things are not one and the same. Hmph. Let me tell it, a huge reason why 70 percent of divorces are initiated by women, however, is because a lot of them think that it is. And so, in the effort to do my part to help make marriages last longer and cause the divorce rate to go down, I think it’s important for more women to ponder if they really want to be a wife — or if they just want to throw a big party (a wedding), go on a trip (a honeymoon) and not much more than that.
Buckle in. This one might be a bit of a ride (for some, at least).
It’s Time to Stop “Living for the Fairy Tale”
GiphyIf you’ve been reading my content for a while (and if so, thank you), it will not shock you in the least that I’ve spent many years studying the origins of things as they directly relate to marriage. I know that the engagement ring is not about love but about a jewelry company that was about to go bust. So, they came up with the slogan “A diamond is forever” and then made some serious bank from it (you can read about that here).
I know that white wedding dresses have nothing to do with purity and virtue; in fact, women in the Bible often wore lots of bright colors during their more-than-one-day wedding celebrations. Actually, white comes from Queen Victoria making it famous back in the 1840s. I also know that a lot of people were pretty obsessed with evil spirits back in the day because things like wearing a wedding veil and bridesmaids wearing the same dresses were all about hiding from said spirits. Another pretty popular wedding day tradition? Well, I’ll just let you read Insider’s “Here's the horrifying truth about why grooms carry brides across the threshold,” if you’re interested.
And as far as marriage goes, don’t even get me started on the whole “I’m living for the fairy tale” narrative that gets pushed incessantly. I’ve said in other articles before that "fairy tale" literally means “a story, usually for children, about elves, hobgoblins, dragons, fairies, or other magical creatures” and “an incredible or misleading statement, account, or belief.” Who wants to live for childish stories that are incredibly misleading? And the ones that have a character like Prince Charming in it? The Bible literally says that “charm is deceitful” (Proverbs 31:30).
Know what else the Bible says? It states that death and life are in the power of the tongue (Proverbs 18:21). So, what’s up with all of this wedding/marriage rhetoric that’s so popular and also, so… “silly” is the first word that comes to mind, “unrealistic” is the second and “unnecessary” is the third?
Why are there so many expectations, especially when it comes to the wedding day, that push folks to the point where a whopping 49 percent of couples end up going into debt right after jumping the broom — all because they wanted to live for the fairy tale and throw a big party that they basically couldn’t afford? SMDH.
It really is wild, just how much human nature tends to do things without even really knowing WHY it does it — even when it comes to marriage. And so, if you are someone who desires this type of union, be honest with yourself: what is your “why”?
When it comes to becoming a wife someday, WHY do you want to do that?
A man needing to spend three times his salary on an engagement ring, WHY?
When it comes to having a big traditional wedding, WHY is it necessary?
Marriage is a goal for you (and don’t get me wrong, marriage is a beautiful thing) — WHY is that the case?
When it comes to being married, WHY do you think it will better serve you than your single state?
Motivational speaker Eric Thomas once said, “When you find your ‘why’, you will find a way to make it happen.” And when it comes to something as big (and supposed to be lifetime lasting) as marriage, perhaps a big part of the reason WHY so many of them do not go the distance is because there aren’t enough “why” questions, on the front end, that are asked (which is why you should partake in premarital counseling before your wedding day). Oh, but there should be.
Because saying “why” you want a huge wedding is nothing more than “because I want to” or “why” you chose the man that you did is simply “I love him” — I’ve been doing this couples work thing long enough to assure you that those answers simply aren’t good enough. You need to know what it means to be a wife and why a marriage and a wedding are not the same thing…not by the longest country mile that you can imagine.
What It Means to Be a Wife
GiphyIf you’ve been reading my content for a while now, you know that I’m good for throwing some Scripture in; it’s a part of my foundation and I make no apologies for it. And so, when it comes to what it means to be a wife, the first word that’s used to define it in the Bible is “helpmate” (Genesis 2:18). A helpmate is a companion, a helper and someone who assists another individual — in this case, a husband.
While we’re here, a helper is not helping unless the help is actually needed and it’s good. Lawd, I can’t tell you how many wife clients I’ve had who have totally missed that part. So, what does “good help” look like?
- A good helper ASKS the person they are assisting what they need.
- A good helper does not try to control another person or make them do what they want.
- A good helper gets that needs can shift based on what is transpiring at any given time.
- A good helper makes things easier and less stressful.
- A good helper learns how to master good listening, effective communication, and wise timing.
And yes, in many ways, this is what it means to be a good wife. So, if you are someone who desires marriage, when it comes to what is required to be not just a wife but a GOOD WIFE, how much have you factored helping your man into the dynamic?
Not mothering him. Not bossing him around. Not trying to manipulate him into being a version of a husband that you would prefer. No, how much thought have you put into “Am I equipped to help another person be their best self? Am I ready to be supportive, encouraging, and nurturing? Was it even modeled to me, while growing up, to know what a proper helpmate looks like? Have I realized how much sacrifice goes into that type of role? Am I even selfless enough to be a consistent helper?”
I know this is probably gonna ruffle some feathers yet, you know something that I’m not big on? Women saying that their man should give them the “princess treatment.” Every time I hear that, the first thought that comes to my mind is “Fathers make their daughters princesses while men make their wives a queen” — and little girls are treated differently than grown women. And to that, Proverbs 12:4(NKJV) says, “An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones.”
My point? There is a MATURITY that is to come from going from princess to queen. A queen does have more privileges, yet, at the same time, she also has way more responsibility. It’s not about sitting around and being catered to all day long. Queens have work to do — and it’s not always comfortable or pretty. Same thing goes for being a wife.
Y’all, I could go on and on (and on and on and on) about what it means to be a wife in a marriage. For now, I’ll just end this part of the article with, “If you’re not ready to help, each and every day of your relationship, you’re not ready to be a wife.” Plain and simple.
Weddings Are Not Marriages (and Vice Versa)
GiphySo, why do so many people jump brooms (I’m writing this with Black folks in mind first; jumping brooms is for us only), only to turn around and get divorced a few years later? Oh, I could go on and on as well about how a lot of people don’t have much integrity when it comes to the promises that they make. Listen singles, when you’re dating someone, pay very close attention to whether the person you’re seeing keeps their word — and if you do the same.
It makes absolutely no sense to keep letting someone slide when it comes to reneging now, only to act shocked when they do the same thing after saying “I do.” And while we’re here, being a man or woman of your word is a character issue. Maybe folks are not strong in character when it comes to this.
Yet another reason why folks will get all dolled up, stand before God, family, and friends, look someone straight in the eye, and promise to never leave, only to do just that, is because many people honestly don’t see past their wedding (and maybe their newlywed years). That is why you will hear so many people describe their perfect wedding day, down to the last detail, and yet, if you ask what their five-year plan for their marriage is, they have absolutely not one clue.
I mean, I get it — to a certain extent. A wedding is a big party where you get to dress to the nines, have people come to celebrate you and you get to have everything go your way — down to the font on the programs and reception napkins. Oh, but what a “trick” that can be if you think that your marriage is going to move like that, all of the time, moving forward. I liken it to The Bachelor franchise. Who wouldn’t feel like they are falling for someone when they’re able to live in a mansion with no bills, have fantasy dates that cost thousands of dollars, and a big ole’ rock that a famed jeweler donates?
Meanwhile, folks should watchUnREAL (the television series from several years back where some former producers of the franchise talk about what really happens behind the scenes) to get a reality check. To a certain extent, the same thing goes for marriage: while weddings produce this belief that marriage will be one big party where everyone focuses on you and everything goes your way, that isn’t even close to being the reality of being married.
Honestly, the real deal is 1) if you don’t want to learn how to love on a supernatural level; 2) if you don’t want your strengths to be refined and your weaknesses to be challenged; 3) if you don’t want to be held accountable in ways that you would never be if you remained single; 4) if you don’t want to compromise on a daily basis and, 5) if you don’t want to be challenged to become a truly selfless individual — marriage isn’t for you.
You’d be far better off just throwing a big ass party for yourself, just because (and no, I don’t mean marry yourself; you are already “one” with you; no need for that), and call it a day. Spare yourself and another person the heartache of divorce because…divorce is A LOT to go through.
Lawd, I can only imagine how much drama could be spared if folks simply took into their spirit that weddings ARE NOT marriages and marriages ARE NOT weddings. Weddings are a party to celebrate your union — yet your union? That requires daily energy, effort, and time. It’s not a party. It’s a relationship. BIG DIFFERENCE.
Please Don’t Get Married Until You’re Sure That You Want…BOTH
GiphyAnd this is why, whenever someone tells me that they are going to get married, I don’t immediately respond with, “Congrats! That’s awesome.” NOPE. The very first thing that comes out of my mouth is something along the lines of, “For real. Why?” WHY? Because, it never fails that, about 7.5 times outta 10, folks will be caught off guard and say, “What do you mean ‘why’?” and then follow that up with, “Because I’m in love” or…they don’t really know what to say at all.
Is being in love a good answer? I mean, it explains why you picked the person that you did; it doesn’t really explain why you are choosing to commit to them for the rest of your life, on a marital level, though. Are you getting married because you know that the two of you will make each other better people? Are you getting married because you want to raise your children in a two-parent dynamic? Are you getting married for biblical reasons like wanting to love like Christ loves his bride (the Church and the Church sent him through A LOT — Ephesians 5)?
Are you getting married because you think you’ve gone as far as you can in your evolution as an individual without the assistance of another? Are you getting married because you want to serve another person as they do the same for you (perhaps not in the same ways because you’re both different people)?
Is that asking the most? Chile, that’s not asking enough. I don’t care how much people mock marriage in the media by changing partners like they change cars or homes. I don’t care how much divorce has been normalized. I don’t care how much folks like to act like a husband is a 2.0 boyfriend (it’s not) and having a wife is a 2.0 girlfriend (it’s not) — marriage is special, sacred, and needs to be honored as such. A wedding should be seen as a happy occasion where two people publicly acknowledge what I just said…not simply a time to get a lot of attention and presents only to come home and go from heaven to hell in six months.
And honestly, that’s a bit part of the reason why I do what I do: it’s because I actually think the covenant of marriage is SO MAGNIFICENT that I want to make sure that people know, as much as possible, what they are signing up for — not an endless wedding; a very real relationship that will challenge them and mature them like nothing else ever will in this lifetime.
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This was a lot. I already know. Still, it beats spending thousands of dollars on a wedding to stand before a chaplain only to spend thousands of more dollars several years later on a divorce lawyer and therapy while standing before a judge.
Weddings are awesome; you’ll get no argument from me there. Still, I think if I was to narrow all of this down into one statement, it would simply be this: “When it comes to marriage, if the thought of being a wife doesn’t excite you more than being a bride — wait. You’re not ready yet.”
Thank me later, sis. YOU WILL.
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