Happy New Year!
2018 greets us with a bright and juicy Cancer Full Moon that promises to bring emotional balance where it is needed. Cancer the sign of Home, Hearth and Family, governs the taproot that links us back to our ancestors. Classically, Cancer is the deepest part of our chart that we like to protect with the Crab's hard crusty shell. We're highly sensitive under this Full Moon as it illuminates the part of our lives that seeks to be nurtured while also fiercely defending nostalgic familial memories.
Cancer is the opposing and balancing sign to Capricorn, the sign where the Sun, Venus and Saturn have all been working hard together to get you to achieve your ambitions. Let this Cancer Full Moon pull you back to be balanced, nourished, and taken care of so that you'll have the energy to continue climbing your particular Saturn in Capricorn mountain.
Go home, Aries! That's right, close your laptop, or whatever work project you happened to bring home over the holidays. While you've found yourself mainly focused on your reputation and career ambitions, this Full Moon is bringing the focus back home. Time spent with family, close friends, or alone in your pajamas will recharge your batteries so that you can continue your ambitious mountain climb towards success.
You may want to make a few dates to hang out around the neighborhood, Taurus. Your mind has been focused on refining a new world view and seeing the bigger picture, but the Full Moon in Cancer wants to you invest some quality time around the way. Chat with your siblings or close relatives, absorb, and reflect upon new ideas and see what may fit into your burgeoning philosophies. You never know, a seemingly random conversation or encounter may be filled with meaningful wisdom.
Check in with your values and assets, Gemini. After spending time over the last weeks becoming more intimate with others, this Full Moon wants to illuminate what you have to put on the table. What's of importance to you, Gemini? What do you need take care of in order to feel emotionally secure and steady on your feet? You may see a fluctuation in money matters, especially concerning areas of shared resources, where you may want to, or be forced to, take a better look at how you've been doing.
The Moon is most at home in your sign, and you're usually completely in tune with her highly changeable emotion nature. This Full Moon is a powerful restart for you, illuminating all the ways you can nurture and take care of YOURSELF. When's the last time you had a good cry, cooked a hot meal, or took a long bath. Focusing on your needs first is a good kind of selfish, in doing so it makes it easier to do the relationship work with others without burning out. Pamper yourself Little Crab, let Mother Moon guide you back home to yourself.
Allow this Full Moon to bring you deep into your inner imaginative world. The best way to balance out all your efforts to create better health and harness your skills is to drift in the unseen world. Devote some energy towards meditation, prayer, visioning, and daydreaming to keep you going on your path towards holistic health and wellbeing. Emotionally connect with the sense of well-being you'd like to experience, then work towards it daily.
This Full Moon is highlighting the need for you to go out and socialize with some like-minded friends. Whatever you've been getting up to during your playtime - for example, creative endeavors - is asking to be shared with others so you can feel the emotional fulfillment that comes with sharing your gifts with those who share common interests and visions. Your family and friends can't wait to nurture your talents.
With so much emphasis happening around your home and private life, you're in a unique position to go out into the world to support others through your work and career. While this is a good time to gain emotional fulfillment through a job well done or new accolades, consider developing your reputation as a powerful protector and nurturer. Use your ability of knowing how to harmonize environments to bring peace to those around you.
You've been so deep in your books and topics that have caught your interest that this Full Moon will have you shifting your attention to the bigger picture. How is your voice and knowledge going to help change the narrative you see around you? There's a philosophy that you hold close to your heart that needs your attention. Should you rely on it, it will feed your endless curiosity on how to make it tangible, practical, and worth sharing with others.
Although so much of your work since Saturn left you for Capricorn has been about your finances and building a secure material base for yourself, Centaur, the Full Moon is demanding that you nurture what you share with others. It's easy to believe our self-worth is tied to our bank account. However, in reality, material wealth is merely a tool. It's the face to face time spent with loved ones and experiencing all the births, deaths, and all the intense moments in between. Mother your deep bonds and what's shared with others to get the most from this powerful Moon.
You've been doing so much work on refining and improving yourself, Capricorn, and that's a good thing! However, use this Full Moon to take care of some of your relationships. People have been looking for your attention lately, but you've been so busy doing you. The next time you're invited out for one on one time, say yes. Perhaps you'll get to enjoy a few comforting hugs and kisses as well as some feedback on all your personal growth.
Ideally, this Full Moon will help to illuminate the ways you can get out of your own head, Water Bearer. When facing underlying fears and doubts about your dreams, sometimes a daily schedule that pushes you to work past them is in order. Nurture the day-to-day routines
, and refine your unutilized skill sets to help you keep your mind on doing rather than stewing.
The key to being a great friend or asset to any organization is having a clear sense of what makes you shine so brilliantly. This Full Moon can help illuminate how you can tend to your personal hobbies and creative talents. You may want to spend some time with some children who help remind you to be joyous and what it feels like to take pride in just being you. Take comfort in your self-expression, Pisces. Turn up the music and crack open those old water colors and see what magic comes out!
What does your moonscope have you looking forward to in the new year? Let us know in the comments down below!
This was first evident more than a decade ago when she quit her job as the corporate executive of a Fortune 500 company during a Periscope livestream. “I’m not sure if there’s an alignment of [our] future trajectory. I’m going to work for myself. I'm promoting myself to work for myself,” she said at the time before flashing a smile at the viewing audience. As she resigned on camera, a constant stream of encouraging messages floated upwards on the screen.
By 2021, she’d fashioned her work as a corporate consultant and her personal life with her husband and three adopted daughters into a reality show, She’s The Boss, for USA Network. This year, she released the New York Times bestselling memoir Nothing Is Missing, written as she was in the process of getting a divorce and dealing with her eldest daughter’s struggles with substance use.
Convinced that there’s no way the 39-year-old has achieved all of this without intentional strategic planning, I asked her about it when we spoke less than a week before Christmas. I’d seen videos on social media of her working on 2024 planning for other brands, and I wanted to know what that looked like following her own year of success.
She listed a number of goals, including ensuring that the projects she takes on in the new year align with her identity “as a Black woman, as an African woman, as a mother, as someone who has lived a [rebuilding] season and is now trying to live boldly and entirely as themselves.” But, I was shocked by how much of her business planning also prioritized rest.
Despite the bestselling book, a self-titled podcast, and working with numerous corporations, Walters said she’s been taking Fridays off. This year, she doesn’t want to work on Mondays, either.
“A lot of us think we work hard until retirement hits. I want to progress towards retirement,” she said, noting that she’ll check in with herself around March to see how successful this plan has been. The goal, Walters said, is to only be working on Tuesdays and Thursdays by sometime in 2025. “It is intentionally building out what I know I would like to have happen and not waiting for exhaustion to be the trigger of change.”
"A lot of us think we work hard until retirement hits. I want to progress towards retirement... It is intentionally building out what I know I would like to happen and not waiting for exhaustion to be the trigger of change."
Walters said the decision to progressively work less was partially in response to her previously held notions about her career, especially as an entrepreneur. “When I first started, I thought burnout was a part of it,” she said. “What I didn’t realize is that even if you’re able to bounce out of burnout or get back to it, there’s a cumulative impact on your body. If you think of your body as a tree and every time you go through burnout, you are taking a hack out of your trunk, yes, that trunk will heal over, and the tree will continue to grow, but it doesn't mean that you don’t have a weakened stem.”
But, the desire for increased rest was also in response to the major shifts that occurred three years ago when she was experiencing major changes in her family and realized her metaphorical tree was “bending all the way over.”
“One of the things we have to recognize, especially as Black women, is that there is this engrained, societal, systemic notion that our worth is built around our productivity,” she added. “That is some language that I think is just now starting to really get unpacked.” In recent years, there’s been an increased awareness of achieving balance in life, with Tricia Hersey’s “The Nap Ministry” gaining attention based on the idea that rest, especially for Black women, is a form of resistance. Even online phrases such as “soft life” and “quiet quitting” have hinted at a cultural shift in prioritizing leisure over professional ambition.
"One of the things we have to recognize, especially as Black women, is that there is this engrained, societal, systemic notion that our worth is built around our productivity."
If companies are lining up to consult with Walters about their brands and products, then women have been looking to her for guidance on starting over since she invited them to livestream her resignation 12 years ago. As viewers continue to demand more from content creators in the form of intimate, personal details, Walters has navigated her personal brand with a sense of transparency without oversharing the vulnerable details about her life, especially when it comes to her family.
The entrepreneur said she’d been approached to write a book for several years and was initially convinced she was finally ready to write one about business. “I started to do that, and then I went through my divorce. When that happened, I said, why would I write a book telling people to get the life that I have when I’m not sure about the life that I have,” she said.
Instead, she decided to write Nothing Is Missing and provide a closer look at her life, starting with being born to immigrant Ghanaian parents (“You need to know my childhood to know why I’m passionate about entrepreneurship.”) through the adoption of her three daughters and eventual divorce. Despite her desire to share, however, she said she felt protective of the privacy of her family, including her ex-husband.
When discussing this with me, Walters said she was reminded of a lesson she learned from actress Kerry Washington, who released her own memoir, Thicker Than Water, just a week before Walters’ book release. Washington’s memoir grapples with family secrets, too, specifically the fact that she was conceived using a sperm donor and didn’t learn about it until she was already a successful TV star. While Washington reflects on how the decision and subsequent deception impacted her, she’s also careful to hold space for her parents’ experiences, too. “A lot of things she said was that she had to recognize where she was the supporting character and where she was the main character,” Walter said.
This is something Walter worked to do in Nothing Is Missing when discussing her daughter’s struggles with addiction. “I was very intentional about making sure that I did not reveal more than what was required,” she said. “If I say something about someone’s addiction, I don’t need to go into the list of the substances they used, how they used them, what I found. [I don’t need to] walk into a room and paint a picture of what it looked like for people to understand.”
Walters said some of the most vulnerable moments in the book barely made a ripple once it was released. She was extremely nervous to write about getting an abortion, she said. But no one has asked her about this in the months since the book was released. Instead, people have been more interested in quirkier revelations, such as the fact that she once appeared on Wheel of Fortune.
“I have bared my soul about this thing I went through in my youth that has changed me for people, and people are like, ‘So how heavy was the wheel when you spun it?’” she said, chuckling. “It just goes to show that people never worry about the thing that you worry about.”
With the success of Nothing Is Missing, Walters said she still isn’t planning to release a business book at the moment. But, as she navigates parenting a teenager and two adult children while also navigating a relationship with her new fiancé, Walters said she believes she has at least one or two more books to write about her personal journey. “There is sort of an arc of where my life has gone that I know I’ve got something more to say about this that I think is important, relevant and necessary,” she said.
In just three years, Walters’ life has undergone a major transformation. There’s no telling what the next three years will have in store for her, but it seems likely she’ll retain an inspired audience wherever life takes her.
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Rumors about Jennifer Hudson and Common dating have been swirling since 2022 after having several outings together. However, they have been coy about their relationship. All of that came to a head yesterday when the rapper/ actor stopped by his alleged boo's talk show. Common joined the EGOT winner on The Jennifer Hudson Show, and the two dished on growing up in Chicago and their relationship--sort of. The "Glory" artist graced the set and brought the singer a bouquet of flowers, and the first question she asked him was if he was dating someone. While he didn't confirm that he was dating the singer, he dropped major hints that he was.
"I'm in a relationship that is one of the most beautiful people I've ever met in life. She's smart; she loves God. She has something real down to earth about her," he said. "She's talented, but I set my standard kinda high 'cause she had to have an EGOT. She had to win an Oscar on her first movie. I set my standards high; she had to have her own talk show."
And if that wasn't enough, he slyly referred to his relationship as a "happy place," which is the show's theme song.
Throughout the show, they continued to playfully ignore the obvious, which is they are dating each other, but there was no denying it. Jennifer made the comment that they "end up at a lot of the same places," which led to a conversation about their night out at Usher's Las Vegas residency. He even brought her a pair of sneakers after she said she liked them. How cute!
Who knows if they will ever officially say they are together, but until then, we'll take what we can get. The actors met on set of the film Breathe and from there have been spotted out grabbing dinner and even attending a NBA game. Initially, the Respect star shut down the dating rumors. However, in a November 2023 interview with CBS MorningsGayle King, she confirmed that she was seeing someone.
Before Common, Jennifer married professional wrestler David Otunga, and they share a 14-year-old son. Common's dating history has been an ongoing hot topic as he has been linked to Serena Williams, Taraji P. Henson, Tiffany Haddish, and more. He also has a 27-year-old daughter.
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