LeToya Luckett On The Prayer Of Graditude That Led Her To Her Husband

"I don't want it to be what I want, I want it to be what you want for me."

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From Ciara and Russell to Teyana and Iman, you won't see these couples post a fire photo on Instagram without at least one comment asking the age-old question: "What was the prayer, sis?"

Although we've been fortunate to finally learn the confessions of the prayer closet from a few of our most beloved Black couples, you'll want to make room for this prayer request as told by singer/actress, LeToya Luckett, and her husband, Tommicus Walker.

In a recent chat during xoNecole's Pajamas & Lipstick virtual event, the couple shared how they've been learning and growing together during their time of quarantine.

The two opened up about how their walk with God has served as the anchor to their time in solitude and provided the foundation for where they are in their relationship today. After spending time with family and friends and observing the outward display of their blissful relationships, LeToya reached a point where she didn't want to carry the burden of her singlehood anymore, so she gave it to God.

"I just needed to talk to God. So I said, 'Lord, I'm giving this all over to you. It's too heavy of a burden for me. I don't like walking around with it. I don't like feeling lonely. I don't like feeling like I'm not good enough. I know you made me to be who you want me to be and I am enough. So I'm giving this over to you. This is not for me to figure out.'"

And for LeToya, gratitude was key:

"But I'm also letting you know that I'm so grateful for what you've done for me thus far. If I leave this earth and I'm never married. If I leave this earth and I never have a child, if I leave this earth and all the desires that I have don't come to pass, I'm grateful for what you've done thus far. You know what I want in a man, you know what I need in a man. I don't want it to be what I want, I want it to be what you want for me."

The couple also dropped key points about the "waiting" period and how essential that time can be when developing patience and preparing yourself for when God allows the right person to come into your life. Understanding that the person God has for you is also coming with their own set of experiences and differing backgrounds can teach you to appreciate the process, or as Tommicus came to learn, "You have to know that it's a marathon, not a race."

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What LeToya and Tommicus both came to learn is that the key to a healthy relationship is being willing to work with your partner through the process of learning and unlearning what it means to be loved fully.

"There's nothing wrong with wanting a covering. To know that here in the physical, I have someone that makes me feel protected. And for him to feel like when things aren't going right at work or when the world has beat him up, that he knows that he can come to the house and talk to me about anything. And I'm going to do my best to comfort him in any way I possibly can. I don't think there's anything wrong with desiring that."

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