How Long Should You Make Him Wait For Sex?
Stacey revealed in her Smooth Magazine feature from a few years ago:
I slept with all my husbands on the first night. And [a week later] they said, “Marry Me" and I said, “yes." [But] I'm not doing that anymore. At the moment, I'm holding the kitty hostage. I'm trying to do things differently.I don't know [when it's the right time to have sex]. It's not something that I predict, but it's something that I'm trying to figure out. I've been engaged six times and married three, so this is my first time being single. What I'm trying to figure out is how to get to know someone when the attraction is not strong at first. Does it come over time? I don't know. There are these men that you meet and the attraction is instant. You just want to bed with them right there. But I'm not doing that. I'm trying to see where the middle ground is at.
Yandy Harris said she made hubby Mendeecees wait two whole years before she slept with him. Before becoming Mrs. Beatz, Alicia Keys said she made ex-boyfriend Kerry "Krucial Keys" Brothers wait a year before sleeping with him. She stated back then:
"I made him wait a year because my body is too beautiful to be violated by someone who doesn't deserve it."
Keri Hilson is another believer in waiting. She revealed a few years back that she made an ex-boyfriend wait nine months for her good loving, and that she isn't the type of chick you can pressure into having sex.
I absolutely do not [make it easy for guys]. My first relationship, we waited about nine months. [You gotta find out who they are and why]. I'm not the kind of woman that's afraid to say how I feel when I feel it. It's much to my demise a lot of times, but I'm just like, "No we're not for that." I'm brutally honest and I'll tell a guy how I really feel as opposed to sugarcoating it to please his ego or pride or whatever. He'll walk away with his tail between his legs before he's confused about something.
How long did you wait?
ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
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Adrienne Bailon Reveals The Price Of Parenthood After Spending 'Over A Million' On IVF Treatments
Adrienne Bailon-Houghton is opening up the hidden expenses behind becoming a parent.
For PEOPLE, the former Cheetah Girl spoke candidly about how she and her husband, Israel Houghton spent "easily over a million" dollars on their journey to conceive their first child together.
The former The Real host acknowledged that this hefty sum is not attainable for most people, noting, "And that is not realistic for the average person. And I recognize that.”
Adrienne Bailon-Houghton revealed that in addition to enduring several “cycles of IVF,” she underwent numerous other fertility treatments over a challenging six-year period in her journey to conceive her son.
"I only did eight cycles of IVF, but that doesn't include the amount of IUIs I did and every other kind of imaginable treatments that you could imagine for fertility," Bailon-Houghton told the publication. "So it was a pretty tough six years of trying to have my son."
For years, the 3LW singer has expressed her acceptance of waiting for motherhood to align with divine timing, despite the discouragement she faced. In 2018, she shared with her The Real co-hosts, "I've had to come to peace with that it'll happen when it's God's timing, and I believe in that, and I have faith in all of that," she said. "But it can be really discouraging, and it can be really frustrating.”
Upon announcing the arrival of her son, Ever James, via surrogate in 2022, she reflected in an Instagram caption on the challenging journey, emphasizing her gratitude for their newborn amidst years of tears, disappointments, and medical procedures.
"Our baby boy is here & we are so in love! If you have followed our love story… you know that our journey to baby has been very challenging - But God is true to His word and His promises. We have quietly prayed while sitting on this most magnificent secret for the last 9 months," she wrote.
"He is worth every tear, every disappointment, every delayed prayer, every IVF cycle, every miscarriage. Everything. All we feel is joy and overwhelming love & gratitude," she continued.
"Grateful to God, to our angel surrogate and to all of our friends and family who have stood with us for over 5 years on this journey. He's here and we have never been happier to lose sleep! #HappilyEverHoughton 🤍"
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