Many of us have come to love Jackie Aina over the years because of her fun personality, extra-ness, and skills when it comes to hair and makeup.
With 1.1 million followers on Instagram and 2.7 million subscribers on YouTube, in her sleep, she gives women the tools to glam up and be their own personal Beyoncé. This beauty guru gave ELLE Magazine a glimpse into her daily morning routine via video, where we get yet another glimpse into her tips and tricks, similar to videos she has been posting since 2009. Jackie explains:
"When I got to college, I started discovering color and pigment, that was when YouTube was popular, and I started doing my tutorials at a time where I kinda needed that inspiration and honestly, I never looked back since then."
Jackie is no stranger to serving the real tea on beauty products and uses her voice to advocate for more products to be produced for the likes of women of color, resulting in the expansion of shades in the popular Too Faced Cosmetics line. And though incredibly talented, at her core Jackie is just like each of us, wanting to slay but pressed for time and patience in the morning. This peek into her routine gives us guidance on how to squeeze in a smidgen of self-care and a lot of slaying in a little bit of time.
Jackie does not skimp on her skincare before makeup application. She makes sure to cleanse with Olay Daily Clean 4 - in - 1 Water Activated Cleansing Cloths, applies serum, and even squeezes in a quick mask before she goes in for an iconic beat.
"If you are a multi-tasker like me, what you can do is put on your sheet mask and then make your morning tea, your morning coffee, check your emails, that way you can really maximize your time in the morning."
Jackie understands that the condition of one's skin underneath all of the high-quality makeup that we love to invest in is what is most valuable. Besides never allowing herself to break the number one beauty rule in the book, she also knows a thing or two about relying on a good hyaluronic acid like Olay Deep Hydrating Eye Gel with Hyaluronic Acid to indulge her skincare needs:
"No matter how much I travel or how far I go, it is super important to never sleep in your makeup. I like to wash my face! I like to tone - I'm using a spray toner. Whoever makes travel sized stuff...like you really do have my heart. Ain't nobody has time to be carrying around some Costco bulk level stuff. I love hyaluronic acid. It really helps with the balance and moisture to your skin."
When it comes to a perfectly beat face, Jackie advises us to make sure to layer our products with each other to result in a longer lasting application, so that means never skipping your primer and investing in a clutch setting spray. In her video, she goes with a simple yet pigmented eye and her signature inner corner highlight from her favorite eye shadow palette, PAT MCGRATH LABS' Mothership V Eyeshadow Palette in Bronze Seduction. However, she admits her false lashes are what seals the deal:
"It takes a lot of practice in perfecting the lash application but once you get it down, you can conquer the world...I always feel like a brand new woman after I put on my lashes. "
Hopefully tomorrow morning you can prioritize to rise at least 30 minutes earlier with these tips and tricks and walk into your job like you own the place. Don't hurt nobody! Thanks Jackie!
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The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
And the parent isn’t wrong. Talking often doesn’t work the first, the third, or the even the 10th time. And the reason is directly tied to brain development.
Children cannot and do not process information the way an adult can. Auditory processing is not fully developed until a child is 14 or 15 years old. And even then, if a child has auditory processing delays or Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), they may always struggle with processing auditory commands. According to Susie S. Loraine, MA, CCC-SLP, the term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four-step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening.
Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:Â Â
​Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
​Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
​Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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