

“I Don’t Live Just To Work”: Jovian Zayne On Using The Weekend For Self-Care
As a part of our Friday Nights, Saturday Mornings feature, we're talking to some of our favorite boss ladies about their weekends, their way. How do they relax, recharge and refuel? As we all know, life shouldn't be all about work. It's what we do beyond business and career that help keep us motivated and able to dominate for the week ahead.
Meet Jovian Zayne - an international speaker, coach, and founder of the OnPurpose Movement®. Here Jovian reflects on why self-care is so important and why taking time to fill ourselves up will allow for blessings to overflow in other areas of our lives.
This is what she had to say about her weekend, her way.
The perfect Friday Night:
"I see why growing up, my mama would tell me to just go take a nap somewhere. At the end of a long week, that's all I want! I believe naps, a good meal and some prayer can truly change things! It's also my belief that my greatest act of self-care is honoring the purpose over my life so I consider self-care to be any act that I can do to edify my spirit, mind, body and soul.
"I use the Self-Journal as a great tool to reflect on lessons learned, and progress I've made for the week. On any given Friday night, you can catch me cuddled up with my husband for our weekly date night (We - don't - miss - it!) eating at a new restaurant, watching a movie or falling down a YouTube rabbit hole."
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"My greatest act of self-care is honoring the purpose over my life so I consider self-care to be any act that I can do to edify my spirit, mind, body and soul."
How she powers up on Saturday Mornings:
"As my friend, fellow wife and entrepreneur Desiree has said, 'The ministry of home is REAL.' I try to hold my weekends sacred, doing little to NO work and prioritizing activities that keep my house in order, my marriage front and center and my spirit relaxed. I know that I can't give what I don't have, so I use my weekends as my time to replenish for the week ahead. I sometimes think about them as mini vacations and live by the 'Must Do vs. Nice to Do' rule.
"If it's not a 'Jovian, you absolutely have to do this' type of thing, it'll have to wait until next week. I want my Saturdays to feel fun and unbothered by the agenda I follow during the week. If it keeps me energized and moving towards my best, then I'm doing it on a Saturday. If it's wearing me out, I'm not. This mindset helps me prioritize important things like taking a nap, hitting the gym and [spending] quality time with family and friends."
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"I try to hold my weekends sacred, doing little to NO work and prioritizing activities that keep my house in order, my marriage front and center and my spirit relaxed. I know that I can't give what I don't have, so I use my weekends as my time to replenish for the week ahead."
The ideal Girls' Night:
"I LOVE MY GIRLS! With us being spread out all over the world, we love a good group FaceTime and are constantly talking on group texts and GroupMe. We share weekly wins every Wednesday aka 'WINSday' and prayer requests. My recipe for a great girls night: comfortable ambiance, good food, wine and intimate conversation.
"We'll celebrate any and everything together: promotions, new haircuts, cheekbones and breakups. For people looking for fun ways to spend quality time with their girls, I suggest inexpensive trips to new places in the US, watch parties at someone's house, themed dinners, brunch parties and worship circles."
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"My recipe for a great girls night: comfortable ambiance, good food, wine and intimate conversation."
How recharging helped her business:
"I've been reminded that I work to live the full life I want to experience. I don't live just to work. My life is only as full as my commitment to honor the purpose I see God has put on my life. I know that my purpose extends far beyond my career. I'm grateful that I love my work. I see direct connection to my purpose in my current career, but I also recognize that spending time with my family and friends, developing new healthy habits and exploring the world are a part of how I can honor God with the life that I have.
"It's important to remember that you can't give what you don't have. In order to give my best to my business, I must give my best to other areas of my life. That ultimately allows me to show up more present and connected in my business. I've learned from my mentors, sages and older guides that this mindset is critical to owning and living my definition of success."
Connect with Jovian on Instagram @jovianzayne.
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Meagan Good Says She Was ‘Pigeonholed’ As The ‘Young Sexy Girl’ After Shedding Her Child Star Image
Meagan Good is speaking out about the challenges she encountered in her career as she transitioned from a child star to an adult actress.
The 41-year-old has been a part of the entertainment industry for over three decades but didn't gain recognition until her teen years when she starred in the 1997 film Eve's Bayou alongside Lynn Whitfield, Samuel L. Jackson, and Jurnee Smollett.
Since then, Good has been in about 83 projects, which consisted of movies and television shows, according to IMDb. The star's most recent work includes the hit Amazon series Harlem and Shazam! Fury of the Gods.
In a recent interview with TV One's Uncensored, Good opened up about the extremes she had to take to shed the image that comes along with being a child star and how she felt being typecasted as the "young sexy girl" as she looked for acting roles in her 20s.
Meagan On Transitioning Into An Adult Actress
During the discussion, Good shared that when she was about 21 to 22 years old, she continuously got teenage roles. So as an attempt to seek out more age-appropriate projects, Good decided to star in 50 Cent's "21 Questions" music video, released in 2003. The Intruder star claimed that she used the music video as an opportunity to showcase to everyone that she has "arrived as a young woman," which she admitted worked in her favor.
"When I started getting 21, 22, and I was still playing 16, 17, I was trying to figure out like how do I make this transition because we all go through this awkward stage, and sometimes it's really hard to transition out of it into the next phase of your career. But how do I get people to see me as like a young woman?" said Good.
"Really, one of the things that I used as a tool that ended up being a blessing was the '21 Questions' video. You know, I was 21, and I thought, 'How do I get people to see me as older?' and I was like, 'Oh, I'll use a video as a national commercial saying I have arrived as a young woman in essence.' That's what I set out to do, and boy, did it work."
Meagan On Being Typecasted
Good revealed that although the music video helped change how people viewed her in the entertainment industry, it also created a setback.
The Think Like a Man actress disclosed that throughout her 20s, she was typecasted as the seductive girl in most of her projects, and when she sought out other opportunities that could potentially challenge her abilities, she was discouraged from auditioning or participating in any meetings.
"But then when it worked, it worked so well that I kind of got pigeonholed in that kind of space it was like, 'oh, well, she's the young sexy girl. So let's just let her do that in everything,' she continued. “Then when I would look at other material that was more serious or way more challenging and all these things, and I would be more excited to audition and meet on that, they’re like, 'no, you're just the sexy girl. Like don't think too hard.'"
Good added that although she was typecasted and had to find her way out of the "box" many people had placed her in, she didn't regret the overall experience because she had some "great" moments.
"Throughout my 20s, there were points where I enjoyed it, and then there were others parts where it was like they tried to put the glass ceiling and just like put me in a box and say 'just be this one thing.' It was an interesting time because it was both great and both really, really challenging," she said.
To this day, Good continues to move away from the sexy girl image by displaying her talents as an actor, producer, and director in various projects.
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