

You are finally fed up with your boss and feeling undervalued and unappreciated. You are tired of making less money than you know you deserve and not receiving a promotion. Hell, you've barely received a pay increase (the small raise that you get once a year is beyond disrespectful). You now understand that your time is valuable, so why would you continue to give it to your company? Yep, it's time to chunk up the deuces.
Unless you have a lot of money saved up, quitting your job is not ideal if you don't have another one lined up. Although some people have quit their current job without having one, most people don't because of bills that need to be paid, families that need to be taken care of, and a host of other responsibilities. Looking for a job while you are still employed is not an easy task. You work a 40-hour work week, so when do you have time to job hunt and interview?
If you are looking for a way out from your current job, you can do so as long as you are strategic. Here are 7 tips on how you can successfully search and interview for other jobs, without getting noticed or getting fired.
1. Do your work while you are at work
Although it may be tempting to job search while at work, please refrain from doing so. While you are at your current job, continue to work very hard and deliver the best results. You never know when or if you will need to use your current employer for a reference. Prioritize your life and take time to fill out applications and submit resumes on the weekends, in the evening, or if you can, at a different location during your lunch break (we will talk about this soon).
2. Do not use your work computer or work equipment for your job search
Most companies monitor their employees internet usage so if I were you, I wouldn't gamble on using the work computer to search for jobs. Even if you do it when you are technically not at work (like on your lunch break), it is still against company policy to use your employer's electronic resources. Not only is job searching on the company's computer against policy, but it will distract you from doing the job that you are getting paid to do.
3. Utilize the power of your smartphone
There are so many mobile apps that are making the job search journey easier, including Switch and Jobr. Rayanne Thorn, Vice President of Product Marketing and Strategy at Technomedia Talent Management predicts that online job applications will be the new black.
"More and more people are using mobile for all computing and online activities — online job applications are the norm now. Gone are the days of simply walking into a workplace and filling out an application," says Thorn. "Applying online is now requisite in most pre-hire situations, and with over 7 billion mobile devices out there, applying via mobile should be an obvious standard."
In addition, many companies are realizing that more people use their mobile device for everything and are making it easier for applicants to apply for jobs. For example, LinkedIn allows companies to post jobs through their site. When a company posts their job, they can choose to either make the applicant apply directly from the company's site, or from LinkedIn. If you have a LinkedIn profile, you can easily utilize this advantage and apply for jobs with the convenience of your own phone. Another thing that you can do is download the LinkedIn Jobs app through your mobile app marketplace and apply for jobs through this app as well.
4. Keep your mouth closed
Just when you thought you had found your BFF at work, think again. People will screw you over, so you cannot go around trusting everyone. Even if you have been interviewing with another company and receive a "soft offer" or a contingent offer once your background and reference checks are complete, do not go around bragging about a potential job that you have before you sign on the dotted line. On another note, please do not feel obligated to tell your boss about your job search even if the two of you are close. Once you have received an offer, then you should give a courteous two-week (or more) notice.
5. Do not use your current boss as a reference (or anyone else at your company)
On most job applications, you will get the question of whether or not you are employed and if your current employer can be contacted. Always check the "no" box. It is important to be as discreet as possible until a firm offer is given and you have signed off of an offer letter. Most companies will understand why you are wanting to keep things confidential if you are still employed. Do not ever feel obligated to pass along your boss' information until your job offer is finalized.
6. Stay true to the workplace attire
At most companies, the dress attire is business casual, and unfortunately when you interview, you are expected to dress business professional (unless told otherwise). If you decide to take a half day and leave from work for the interview, wear something that meets your current workplace attire, but can be easily transformed into business professional fashion. For example, if you typically wear slacks and a button down shirt to work, keep your blazer in your car and pull it on before the interview.
7. Do not schedule conflicting interviews
Now this is the hardest thing to do, but it can be done. The best way to schedule your interview is to schedule it on a day that you are off. If you are planning to have a phone interview, only schedule it during work if you have a set lunch hour that will not change. For most companies, a preliminary phone interview is conducted first. During the phone interview, you want to make sure you are in a quiet place that is not distracting. It will not look good if you poorly schedule the phone interview, and the recruiter hears the background of the wind and your car while you are interviewing. If you have any personal or vacation days available, utilize those to arrange the interviews. If you choose to not take the whole day off, leave a little wiggle room when putting in a few hours off for your interview.
If you have ever looked for another job while still employed, share your secrets on how you have job searched. We want to know!
Brittani Hunter is a proud PVAMU alumni and the founder of The Mogul Millennial, a business and career platform for Black Millennials. Meet Brittani on Twitter and on the Gram at @BrittaniLHunter and @mogulmillennial.
Eva Marcille On Starring In 'Jason’s Lyric Live' & Being An Audacious Black Woman
Eva Marcille has taken her talents to the stage. The model-turned-actress is starring in her first play, Jason’s Lyric Live alongside Allen Payne, K. Michelle, Treach, and others.
The play, produced by Je’Caryous Johnson, is an adaptation of the film, which starred Allen Payne as Jason and Jada Pinkett Smith as Lyric. Allen reprised his role as Jason for the play and Eva plays Lyric.
While speaking to xoNecole, Eva shares that she’s a lot like the beloved 1994 character in many ways. “Lyric is so me. She's the odd flower. A flower nonetheless, but definitely not a peony,” she tells us.
“She's not the average flower you see presented, and so she reminds me of myself. I'm a sunflower, beautiful, but different. And what I loved about her character then, and even more so now, is that she was very sure of herself.
"Sure of what she wanted in life and okay to sacrifice her moments right now, to get what she knew she deserved later. And that is me. I'm not an instant gratification kind of a person. I am a long game. I'm not a sprinter, I'm a marathon.
America first fell in love with Eva when she graced our screens on cycle 3 of America’s Next Top Model in 2004, which she emerged as the winner. Since then, she's ventured into different avenues, from acting on various TV series like House of Payne to starring on Real Housewives of Atlanta.
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Eva praises her castmates and the play’s producer, Je’Caryous for her positive experience. “You know what? Je’Caryous fuels my audacity car daily, ‘cause I consider myself an extremely audacious woman, and I believe in what I know, even if no one else knows it, because God gave it to me. So I know what I know. That is who Je’Caryous is.”
But the mom of three isn’t the only one in the family who enjoys acting. Eva reveals her daughter Marley has also caught the acting bug.
“It is the most adorable thing you can ever see. She’s got a part in her school play. She's in her chorus, and she loves it,” she says. “I don't know if she loves it, because it's like, mommy does it, so maybe I should do it, but there is something about her.”
Overall, Eva hopes that her contribution to the role and the play as a whole serves as motivation for others to reach for the stars.
“I want them to walk out with hope. I want them to re-vision their dreams. Whatever they were. Whatever they are. To re-see them and then have that thing inside of them say, ‘You know what? I'm going to do that. Whatever dream you put on the back burner, go pick it up.
"Whatever dream you've accomplished, make a new dream, but continue to reach for the stars. Continue to reach for what is beyond what people say we can do, especially as [a] Black collective but especially as Black women. When it comes to us and who we are and what we accept and what we're worth, it's not about having seen it before. It's about knowing that I deserve it.”
This interview has been edited for length and clarity.
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Does hearing the phrase, “you’re such a good girl,” during sex turn you on? If so, you might have a “praise kink.” When I hear the term praise kink, the church girl in me wants to immediately play “The Lady, Her Lover and Lord” while riding reverse cowgirl. But that’s not what is meant by the term praise kink.
A “praise kink” is a sexual fetish that focuses on overt praise, exaggerated compliments, and an outpouring of verbal affection.
What Is a Praise Kink?
The concept of praise kinks isn't new, but thanks to TikTok, a lot of people are now realizing they might identify as praise kinksters. Currently, the hashtag #praisek1nk is trending with 568.9 million views, with tons of creators posting about their love for compliments and words of affirmation during sex. I, too, love a good compliment during sex. I once had a lover sing my praises about how good I was at a certain bedroom activity. His affirmations gave me WAP, but does that categorize me as having a praise kink?
How To Know if You Have a Praise Kink
Just because you love receiving praise doesn’t mean you have a praise kink. Someone with a praise kink experiences an intense level of sexual excitement from being praised or verbally affirmed by their partner during sex. You might have a praise kink if hearing your partner tell you how pretty you are makes you cum or if the thing that makes sex go from good to great is hearing your partner's thoughts about how good you are at giving head. And if, during solo play, the thing that gets you all hot and bothered is recalling the times your partner called you a good girl, it’s probably a praise kink.
Generally, a kink is a sexual activity that is needed for someone to enjoy sex. When it comes specifically to praise kinks, if you need reassurance from your partner that you're sexy, or good in bed in order to orgasm, you have a praise kink.
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Examples of Praise Kink Phrases To Try With Your Partner
If you’re new to the term and looking to explore, you probably have questions about what phrases to use. It may take a lot of communication and some trial and error to figure out what phrases work best for you and your partner. Ultimately, the best phrases to use vary from person to person and are based on what sex acts you and your partner enjoy, or what parts of their body they like complimented.
To get you started, here are some generic praise kink examples to try out with your partner:
Praise Kink Examples:
- You're such a good girl/boy.
- You're so good at [insert skill].
- You look so hot when you [insert activity].
- Your [insert body part] is irresistible.
- You taste so good. I can't get enough of you.
- You just have the perfect [body part].
- Just like that… you’re doing so good.
- Who taught you how to be so good at [something?]
While many examples of praise kink involve specific verbal affirmations, praise can also come in the form of brief words or phrases like “yes,” “keep going,” or simply a moan. No matter what type you prefer, praise kink is all about finding what feels good and exciting, and turns you and your partner on the most.
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Originally published on November 4, 2022