

You are finally fed up with your boss and feeling undervalued and unappreciated. You are tired of making less money than you know you deserve and not receiving a promotion. Hell, you've barely received a pay increase (the small raise that you get once a year is beyond disrespectful). You now understand that your time is valuable, so why would you continue to give it to your company? Yep, it's time to chunk up the deuces.
Unless you have a lot of money saved up, quitting your job is not ideal if you don't have another one lined up. Although some people have quit their current job without having one, most people don't because of bills that need to be paid, families that need to be taken care of, and a host of other responsibilities. Looking for a job while you are still employed is not an easy task. You work a 40-hour work week, so when do you have time to job hunt and interview?
If you are looking for a way out from your current job, you can do so as long as you are strategic. Here are 7 tips on how you can successfully search and interview for other jobs, without getting noticed or getting fired.
1. Do your work while you are at work
Although it may be tempting to job search while at work, please refrain from doing so. While you are at your current job, continue to work very hard and deliver the best results. You never know when or if you will need to use your current employer for a reference. Prioritize your life and take time to fill out applications and submit resumes on the weekends, in the evening, or if you can, at a different location during your lunch break (we will talk about this soon).
2. Do not use your work computer or work equipment for your job search
Most companies monitor their employees internet usage so if I were you, I wouldn't gamble on using the work computer to search for jobs. Even if you do it when you are technically not at work (like on your lunch break), it is still against company policy to use your employer's electronic resources. Not only is job searching on the company's computer against policy, but it will distract you from doing the job that you are getting paid to do.
3. Utilize the power of your smartphone
There are so many mobile apps that are making the job search journey easier, including Switch and Jobr. Rayanne Thorn, Vice President of Product Marketing and Strategy at Technomedia Talent Management predicts that online job applications will be the new black.
"More and more people are using mobile for all computing and online activities — online job applications are the norm now. Gone are the days of simply walking into a workplace and filling out an application," says Thorn. "Applying online is now requisite in most pre-hire situations, and with over 7 billion mobile devices out there, applying via mobile should be an obvious standard."
In addition, many companies are realizing that more people use their mobile device for everything and are making it easier for applicants to apply for jobs. For example, LinkedIn allows companies to post jobs through their site. When a company posts their job, they can choose to either make the applicant apply directly from the company's site, or from LinkedIn. If you have a LinkedIn profile, you can easily utilize this advantage and apply for jobs with the convenience of your own phone. Another thing that you can do is download the LinkedIn Jobs app through your mobile app marketplace and apply for jobs through this app as well.
4. Keep your mouth closed
Just when you thought you had found your BFF at work, think again. People will screw you over, so you cannot go around trusting everyone. Even if you have been interviewing with another company and receive a "soft offer" or a contingent offer once your background and reference checks are complete, do not go around bragging about a potential job that you have before you sign on the dotted line. On another note, please do not feel obligated to tell your boss about your job search even if the two of you are close. Once you have received an offer, then you should give a courteous two-week (or more) notice.
5. Do not use your current boss as a reference (or anyone else at your company)
On most job applications, you will get the question of whether or not you are employed and if your current employer can be contacted. Always check the "no" box. It is important to be as discreet as possible until a firm offer is given and you have signed off of an offer letter. Most companies will understand why you are wanting to keep things confidential if you are still employed. Do not ever feel obligated to pass along your boss' information until your job offer is finalized.
6. Stay true to the workplace attire
At most companies, the dress attire is business casual, and unfortunately when you interview, you are expected to dress business professional (unless told otherwise). If you decide to take a half day and leave from work for the interview, wear something that meets your current workplace attire, but can be easily transformed into business professional fashion. For example, if you typically wear slacks and a button down shirt to work, keep your blazer in your car and pull it on before the interview.
7. Do not schedule conflicting interviews
Now this is the hardest thing to do, but it can be done. The best way to schedule your interview is to schedule it on a day that you are off. If you are planning to have a phone interview, only schedule it during work if you have a set lunch hour that will not change. For most companies, a preliminary phone interview is conducted first. During the phone interview, you want to make sure you are in a quiet place that is not distracting. It will not look good if you poorly schedule the phone interview, and the recruiter hears the background of the wind and your car while you are interviewing. If you have any personal or vacation days available, utilize those to arrange the interviews. If you choose to not take the whole day off, leave a little wiggle room when putting in a few hours off for your interview.
If you have ever looked for another job while still employed, share your secrets on how you have job searched. We want to know!
Adrian Marcel On Purpose, Sacrifice, And The 'Signs Of Life'
In this week's episode of xoMAN, host Kiara Walker talked with R&B artist Adrian Marcel, who opened up, full of heart and authenticity, about his personal evolution. He discussed his days transitioning from a young Bay Area singer on the come-up to becoming a grounded husband and father of four.
With honesty and introspection, Marcel reflected on how life, love, and loss have shaped the man he is today.
On ‘Life’s Subtle Signals’
Much of the conversation centered around purpose, sacrifice, and listening to life’s subtle signals. “I think that you really have to pay attention to the signs of life,” Marcel said. “Because as much as we need to make money, we are not necessarily on this Earth for that sole purpose, you know what I mean?” While he acknowledged his ambitions, adding, “that is not me saying at all I’m not trying to ball out,” he emphasized that fulfillment goes deeper.
“We are here to be happy. We are here [to] fulfill a purpose that we are put on here for.”
On Passion vs. Survival
Adrian spoke candidly about the tension between passion and survival, describing how hardship can sometimes point us away from misaligned paths. “If you find it’s constantly hurting you… that’s telling you something. That’s telling you that you’re going outside of your purpose.”
Marcel’s path hasn’t been without detours. A promising athlete in his youth, he recalled, “Early on in my career, I was still doing sports… I was good… I had a scholarship.” An injury changed everything. “My femur broke. Hence why I always say, you know, I’m gonna keep you hip like a femur.” After the injury, he pivoted to explore other careers, including teaching and corporate jobs.
“It just did not get me—even with any success that happened in anything—those times, back then, I was so unhappy. And you know, to a different degree. Like not just like, ‘I really want to be a singer so that’s why I’m unhappy.’ Nah, it was like, it was not fulfilling me in any form or fashion.”
On Connection Between Pursuing Music & Fatherhood
He recalled performing old-school songs at age 12 to impress girls, then his father challenged him: “You can lie to these girls all you want, but you're really just lying to yourself. You ain't growing.” That push led him to the piano—and eventually, to his truth. “Music is my love,” Marcel affirmed. “I wouldn’t be a happy husband if I was here trying to do anything else just to appease her [his wife].”
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You Don’t Have To Choose: How Black Women Can Care For Others Without Self-Sacrifice
One of the primary instructions we receive before a flight takes off is to prioritize putting on your life vest first if there’s an emergency, even before assisting others. It’s funny how this rule rarely translates to the daily routine of women.
As women we are taught, directly and indirectly, to put others first. Whether it’s our romantic partners, kids, parents, friends, or even our jobs. Mental health survivor and founder of Sista Afya Community Care, Camesha Jones-Brandon is challenging that narrative by using her platform to advocate for Black women and their right to self-care.
Camesha created the organization after her struggles with mental health and the lack of community she experienced. The Chicago native explains how she created Sista Afya to be rooted in “culturally grounded care.”
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“So at my organization, Sista Afya Community Care, we focus on providing mental health care through a cultural and gender lens,” she tells xoNecole. “So when we think about the term intersectionality, coined by Kimberlé Crenshaw, we think about the multiple identities that lead to certain experiences and outcomes as it relates to Black women.
“So in the context of culturally grounded care, being aware of the cultural history, the cultural values, and then also the current issues that impact mental health outcomes.”
Words like “strong” and “independent” have long been associated with Black women for some time and many of us have begun to embrace the soft life and are using rest as a form of resistance. However, some of us still struggle with putting ourselves first and overall shedding the tainted image of the “strong, Black woman” that had been forced on us.
Camesha shares that while there’s more and more communities being created around empowerment and shared interests like running, she still questions, “are Black women really comfortable with being vulnerable about sharing their experiences?”
Being vulnerable with ourselves and others play an important role in healing the instinctive nature of always being “on” for everyone. “I'm currently facilitating a group on high functioning depression, and yesterday, we talked about how when Black women may be struggling or have shared their concerns with other people. They may be minimized, or they're told to just be strong, or it's not so bad, or I went through something worse back in Jim Crow era, so you should be thankful,” she explains.
“So I think there's a challenge with Black women being able to be honest, to be vulnerable and to receive the support that they need in the same capacity as how much they give support to other people. So that is probably a very common theme. I think we've made a lot of progress when we talk about the superwoman syndrome, the mammy stereotype, the working hard stereotype, the nurturing stereotype. I think we're beginning to unpack those things, but I still see that we have definitely a long way to go in that area.”
I think there's a challenge with Black women being able to be honest, to be vulnerable and to receive the support that they need in the same capacity as how much they give support to other people.
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While we’re unpacking those things, we know that we’re still women at the end of the day. So as we continue to serve in various roles like mothers, daughters, sisters, and caretakers, we have to make caring for ourselves a priority. Camesha reveals four ways we can still care for others without abandoning ourselves.
Trust
First things first, trust. Camesha explains, “Some of the burdens that Black women have can be linked to not feeling like you can trust people to carry the load with you.
“It's hard because people experience trauma or being let down or different experiences, but one of the things that I found personally is the more that I'm able to practice trust, the more I'm able to get my needs met. Then, to also show up as my best to care for other Black women.”
Know Your Limitations
Another thing Camesha highlighted is Black women knowing their limitations. “The other thing that I would like to bring up in terms of a way to care for yourself is to really know your limitations, or know how much you can give and what you need to receive,” she says.
“So often, what I see with Black women is giving, giving, giving, giving, giving to the point that you're not feeling well, and then not receiving what you need in return to be able to feel well and whole individually. So I really think it's important to know your limitations and know your capacity and to identify what it is that you need to be well.”
Don’t Take On A Lot Of Responsibilities
Next on the list is not taking on so many responsibilities, sharing herself as an example. “The other thing is taking on too much responsibility, especially in a time of vulnerability.
“One thing that I personally struggled with was being so passionate about community mental health for Black women, and saying yes to everything and taking on so much responsibility,” she reveals. “That affected me to do well in serving Black women and then also impacting my own well being.”
Practice Self-Care
Lastly, she notes the importance of practicing self-care. “The last thing is really practicing regular self care, regular community care, so that it's embedded into your daily life. So for me, having prepared meals, going to the gym, getting eight hours of sleep, spending time with friends and family, all of those things are part of my self care that keep me at my best,” she explains.
“Then community care, leaning into social networks or social groups, or spending time with other interests or hobbies. That's a part of my community care that keeps me going, so that I can take care of my needs, but also to be able to show up best in care for others.”
Find out more about Camesha and Sista Afya Community Care at communitycare.sistaafya.com.
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