
According to Miguel, his forthcoming album CAOS (out October 23) is his angriest, horniest, and most relatable body of work yet. In the eight years since the release of his last studio album, War & Leisure, the Grammy-winning artist has weathered the storm of a very public divorce, stepped into fatherhood, and even contemplated walking away from music altogether.
In a recent interview with The Breakfast Club, the "Banana Clip" vocalist gave fans an intimate glimpse into his process of endings, healing, and rebirth that shaped his time away from the spotlight and sparked the creation of CAOS.
"We've been through everything. We made it through the rapture, apparently," he half-joked. "It's everything everywhere all at once at all times... I feel we're doing the best we can; there's a lot of pressure right now. That's what really created the album, I think."
Miguel On Relearning His Why
Following some of the successes he experienced in his career with hits like "Adorn," "Sure Thing," and more recently, "Sky Walker," Miguel confessed that there came a shift in how he viewed his artistry.
"I think I entered into my career as a musician as an artist with the idea of becoming someone who was on the main stage and on the, you know, TV screen and getting the record," he told The Breakfast Club. "And we've been very blessed. I have an amazing audience and I love them deeply and they really made my music successful."
But over time, he realized there was a disconnect between creating for the love and chasing numbers. The success began to eclipse his purpose.
"I think that can really take priority of and really rinse the real purpose of creating from one's own motivation and it can kinda like cannibalize the whole experience... and I needed to take some time to figure out what was going to be my motivation moving forward."
That intentional pause became a turning point for the musician. And though he didn't stop releasing music—including a feature on K-pop artist J-Hope's "Sweet Dreams" released earlier this year—Miguel chose to spend most of his hiatus doing deep internal work.
"Relearning, re-finding my love and also doing some real hard work on me," he stated.
Through therapy, shadow work, and meditation, he found clarity and reconnected with his purpose.
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On Embracing His Heritage And Fatherhood
A part of that healing journey was leaning more fully into his Mexican heritage. For Miguel, figuring out how to own the parts of himself he used to keep at a distance was a natural extension of his self-work.
Though he was always proud of his mixed heritage (his father is Mexican, his mother is Black), his self-work pushed him more into that heritage and taught him to view it more as something to appreciate about himself versus a challenge to be overcome. The eight-year journey helped him value his racial identity as his "unique perspective" that he now sees as a gift.
That perspective deepened even more when he became a father.
"As you become a parent, you really start to look at the things that are great about your child," Miguel said. "You start to look at everything."
The 39-year-old recently shared with the world that he has a one-year-old son with partner Margaret Zhang. Fatherhood, he explained, gave him energy and clarity like nothing else in his life has. When sharing with The Breakfast Club what fatherhood was like, Miguel said, "It's incredible."
"I don't sleep but I'm the most-I've got the most energy I've ever had. I also I feel so much more sure about what is and what isn't for me...," he said. "Even my next 10 years, I'm the most clear... I think he's you know a catalyst for where I'm at and where I'm going."
"You have to be so clear with yourself,” Miguel added. “You have to have ultimate clarity about what you want. If you’re not clear, you’re susceptible to being pulled in and swayed in different directions."
Miguel On The Meaning Of 'Always Time,' Loyalty, And Letting Go
Another theme present in CAOS is one of heartbreak, something Miguel knows well. The R&B crooner opened up about the end of his nearly two-decade relationship with ex-wife, actress and model Nazanin Mandi that was a cornerstone for his growth and self-reflection.
"It was a big part of my experience as a human being this time around... I was with Naz when I was 19. It was a long time... It was a lot of learning. It's a lot of learning."
A track on the album titled "Always Time" was one he admitted to The Breakfast Club hosts was inspired by that chapter of his life. More specifically, the grief that comes with realizing love isn't enough to sustain a relationship and sometimes the best thing you can do is let go.
"That song was written because I was uncovering a lot of my values in real time. And one of those things I've always been -- the word loyal is crazy because loyalty, I saw my grandparents stay together all my entire life," he explained. "You know, they were loyal to the family. The loyalty, like were they happy? You know, I don't know. That's a crazy one."
Ultimately, within his own values, he has come to understand that loyalty and love are not always synonymous.
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"That song is about kind of like coming to terms with, 'I can't even be the right person for you,'" Miguel admitted. "And discovering that in real time is crazy work when you're like, 'Damn I thought the whole thing was like I'm supposed to fight it out...' and at some point when you stop and you go, 'You know what? The best thing I can do is actually let it go.'"
Even with the heartbreak, Miguel has a lot of gratitude for Nazanin and the love that they shared.
"I was so happy to be married when I was, whether or not I was able to be true to it, I think it's a beautiful idea. The words and the symbolism sometimes take away the purpose... the symbolism takes precedence over the actual core thing of what it's supposed to be."
In a moment of hindsight, Miguel made mention of how things could have been different if he was who he is now back then:
"We would have had a much better shot. But you know the past is, you look back... it's so much clearer. It would have been a different experience but you can't change the past...," he said. "I'm very happy that we've had adult, real [conversations], man... It's different when you're able to come to somebody and go, 'You know, I didn't realize I was doing this and I'm really sorry.'"
Miguel added, "To be able to say that doesn't erase it but it at least let's them know, there's real love here. And that's at the core. 'I just wasn't a big enough person. I wasn't an aware enough person to protect you from my automatic ways.'"
Miguel On Love, Healing & What's Next For Him
After everything, the heartbreak, becoming a father for the first time, and the self-work, Miguel's relationship with love has evolved. He shared with the hosts that he doesn't believe that there's only one person for every person. He believes in love and being in love, but doesn't think love is only true if there is a "one."
Despite alluding to being in a relationship with his child's mother, when asked if he is in love now though, his answer was refreshingly self-aware.
"In love? I need some healing to be in love. Right now, I'm working on being in love with me. If I'm being very, very honest," he said. "And I have to do that work for my son. But I love myself more and more every day because I'm proud of the decisions I've been making, and I lean on those... I'm getting closer and I do hope one day I can be in love again."
Though there is scrutiny around his personal life, Miguel is proud of where he stands now, especially in his decision to become a father.
"I did it with so much intention. I'm really am proud. I'm proud to be a father. I'm proud of my partner. She's incredible. He couldn't have a better mother. Life doesn't always happen the way that we imagine things to happen."
Don't let the name fool you, after years of transformation and self-discovery, with CAOS, Miguel isn't just returning to music. He's returned to himself. Within the CAOS, he's found peace.
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Because We Are Still IT, Girl: It Girl 100 Returns
Last year, when our xoNecole team dropped our inaugural It Girl 100 honoree list, the world felt, ahem, a bit brighter.
It was March 2024, and we still had a Black woman as the Vice President of the United States. DEI rollbacks weren’t being tossed around like confetti. And more than 300,000 Black women were still gainfully employed in the workforce.
Though that was just nineteen months ago, things were different. Perhaps the world then felt more receptive to our light as Black women.
At the time, we launched It Girl 100 to spotlight the huge motion we were making as dope, GenZennial Black women leaving our mark on culture. The girls were on the rise, flourishing, drinking their water, minding their business, leading companies, and learning to do it all softly, in rest. We wanted to celebrate that momentum—because we love that for us.
So, we handpicked one hundred It Girls who embody that palpable It Factor moving through us as young Black women, the kind of motion lighting up the world both IRL and across the internet.
It Girl 100 became xoNecole’s most successful program, with the hashtag organically reaching more than forty million impressions on Instagram in just twenty-four hours. Yes, it caught on like wildfire because we celebrated some of the most brilliant and influential GenZennial women of color setting trends and shaping culture. But more than that, it resonated because the women we celebrated felt seen.
Many were already known in their industries for keeping this generation fly and lit, but rarely received recognition or flowers. It Girl 100 became a safe space to be uplifted, and for us as Black women to bask in what felt like an era of our brilliance, beauty, and boundless influence on full display.
And then, almost overnight, it was as if the rug was pulled from under us as Black women, as the It Girls of the world.
Our much-needed, much-deserved season of ease and soft living quickly metamorphosed into a time of self-preservation and survival. Our motion and economic progression seemed strategically slowed, our light under siege.
The air feels heavier now. The headlines colder. Our Black girl magic is being picked apart and politicized for simply existing.
With that climate shift, as we prepare to launch our second annual It Girl 100 honoree list, our team has had to dig deep on the purpose and intention behind this year’s list. Knowing the spirit of It Girl 100 is about motion, sauce, strides, and progression, how do we celebrate amid uncertainty and collective grief when the juice feels like it is being squeezed out of us?
As we wrestled with that question, we were reminded that this tension isn’t new. Black women have always had to find joy in the midst of struggle, to create light even in the darkest corners. We have carried the weight of scrutiny for generations, expected to be strong, to serve, to smile through the sting. But this moment feels different. It feels deeply personal.
We are living at the intersection of liberation and backlash. We are learning to take off our capes, to say no when we are tired, to embrace softness without apology.
And somehow, the world has found new ways to punish us for it.

In lifestyle, women like Kayla Nicole and Ayesha Curry have been ridiculed for daring to choose themselves. Tracee Ellis Ross was labeled bitter for speaking her truth about love. Meghan Markle, still, cannot breathe without critique.
In politics, Kamala Harris, Letitia James, and Jasmine Crockett are dragged through the mud for standing tall in rooms not built for them.
In sports, Angel Reese, Coco Gauff, and Taylor Townsend have been reminded that even excellence will not shield you from racism or judgment.

In business, visionaries like Diarrha N’Diaye-Mbaye and Melissa Butler are fighting to keep their dreams alive in an economy that too often forgets us first.
Even our icons, Beyoncé, Serena, and SZA, have faced criticism simply for evolving beyond the boxes society tried to keep them in.
From everyday women to cultural phenoms, the pattern is the same. Our light is being tested.

And yet, somehow, through it all, we are still showing up as that girl, and that deserves to be celebrated.
Because while the world debates our worth, we keep raising our value. And that proof is all around us.
This year alone, Naomi Osaka returned from motherhood and mental health challenges to reach the semifinals of the US Open. A’ja Wilson claimed another MVP, reminding us that beauty and dominance can coexist. Brandy and Monica are snatching our edges on tour. Kahlana Barfield Brown sold out her new line in the face of a retailer that had been canceled. And Melissa Butler’s company, The Lip Bar, is projecting a forty percent surge in sales.

We are no longer defining strength by how much pain we can endure. We are defining it by the unbreakable light we continue to radiate.
We are the women walking our daily steps and also continuing to run solid businesses. We are growing in love, taking solo trips, laughing until it hurts, raising babies and ideas, drinking our green juice, and praying our peace back into existence.
We are rediscovering the joy of rest and realizing that softness is not weakness, it is strategy.
And through it all, we continue to lift one another. Emma Grede is creating seats at the table. Valeisha Butterfield has started a fund for jobless Black women. Arian Simone is leading in media with fearless conviction. We are pouring into each other in ways the world rarely sees but always feels.

So yes, we are in the midst of societal warfare. Yes, we are being tested. Yes, we are facing economic strain, political targeting, and public scrutiny. But even war cannot dim a light that is divinely ours.
And we are still shining.
And we are still softening.
And we are still creating.
And we are still It.

That is the quiet magic of Black womanhood, our ability to hold both truth and triumph in the same breath, to say yes, and to life’s contradictions.
It is no coincidence that this year, as SheaMoisture embraces the message “Yes, And,” they stand beside us as partners in celebrating this class of It Girls. Because that phrase, those two simple words, capture the very essence of this moment.
Yes, we are tired. And we are still rising.
Yes, we are questioned. And we are the answer.
Yes, we are bruised. And we are still beautiful.

This year’s It Girl 100 is more than a list. It is a love letter to every Black woman who dares to live out loud in a world that would rather she whisper. This year’s class is living proof of “Yes, And,” women who are finding ways to thrive and to heal, to build and to rest, to lead and to love, all at once.
It is proof that our joy is not naive, our success not accidental. It is the reminder that our light has never needed permission.
So without further ado, we celebrate the It Girl 100 Class of 2025–2026.
We celebrate the millions of us who keep doing it with grace, grit, and glory.
Because despite it all, we still shine.
Because we are still her.
Because we are still IT, girl.
Meet all 100 women shaping culture in the It Girl 100 Class of 2025. View the complete list of honorees here.
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Give Thanks: 10 Tips For Hosting An Absolutely Awesome Friendsgiving
If you’ve never checked out an episode of the ReLiving Single Podcast featuring Maxine and Synclaire — oops, I mean Erika Alexander and Kim Coles — it’s worth listening to an episode or two; especially if you’re someone like me who watches the Living Single reruns on TV One, sometimes, like they just came out. Good times.
And what does this even remotely have to do with Friendsgiving? Well, if you ever wondered what the origin story of this non-holiday-holiday is, legend has it that it’s mostly due to the combination of a 2007 tweet and the show that tries to act like it wasn’t birthed out of Living Single: Friends (I’m not the only one who feels this way either; you can read more about all of that here, here and here).
Apparently, there was a Thanksgiving episode that featured all of the friends having dinner together. And y’all, there was simply no way that I was going to mention the latter without shouting out the original (amen?).
Okay, so with that out of the way — Friendsgiving. Something that I appreciate about twists to holidays like this is that it’s a reminder that there is no one way to celebrate special occasions. And so, if, for whatever the reason, you will not or cannot be with family during the holiday season, there are certainly other alternatives at your disposal.
That being said, if the thought of spending time with friends this Thanksgiving is something that you’d like to do, yet you’re not sure how to host it in a way that will make Friendsgiving a fan favorite for your entire circle — I’ve got 10 suggestions that can make the planning process easy as pumpkin (or sweet potato) pie.
1. Position Chrysanthemums or Orchids for Your Table Décor

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Let’s start with décor first. Listen, aside from cleaning up your place, you don’t have to be over the top. If you put together a really nice centerpiece or put a flower at each table setting, honestly, you’re all good. And if you’re someone who is big on details and symbolism, my recommendation would be to go with some chrysanthemums and/or orchids.
When it comes to chrysanthemums, not only are they a peak fall flower, they represent things like friendship and happiness. And orchids? They tend to bloom during the fall and spring seasons and, not only are they about luxury, certain orchid colors also symbolize friendship (for the record, yellow roses symbolize friendship too). Perfect.
2. Incorporate Scents That Cultivate Gratitude
Speaking of cultivating a warm and inviting space, you can never go wrong with scented soy candles — or at least having an essential oil diffuser in a few spots. Some scents that actually help to bring in the spirit of gratitude include vanilla, jasmine, ginger, cedarwood and frankincense.
3. Use Upscale Paper Products to Dine With

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Let’s be real — a lot more of us would probably host events in our home if it wasn’t for the mess that is left behind in our kitchen once the festivities are over. Wanna avoid that? Use paper plates. No, I don’t mean the cheap Styrofoam ones. SMDH. These days, there are paper (and plastic) plate brands that will low-key blow your mind when it comes to how bougie they look. Some that are worth considering are located here, here and here.
4. Handwrite Thank-You Notes (Use Them As Place Settings)
If you’re like Tiffany (from the HBO series Insecure — what a time) was at that memorable dinner party when all hell broke loose between Lawrence and Issa and you’re pretty anal — I mean, particular — LOL — about place settings, it’s a nice touch to pick up some blank thank-you cards that you can write a personalized “I’m thankful for you because…” message in. Place each one where you’d like each friend to sit. They won’t see it coming and it’s a really nice touch.
5. Have Everyone Bring Their Favorite Homemade Dish

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Okay, and what if what has you on the fence about hosting is you don’t feel like doing a ton of cooking? Chile, this is where the concept of having a potluck comes in. Get everyone to bring the dish that they claim they cook the best and make sure to let them know how many individuals you plan on coming (so that they will make enough). You can even make a game out of it by having everyone anonymously vote for the first, second and third best dishes out of the bunch. Take it up a notch by having a prize for each winner.
6. Take a Warm Drink and Dessert Poll Beforehand
You know what isn’t discussed enough about dinner parties? Folks bringing desserts that other people don’t even like. SMDH. You can avoid this from becoming an issue at your Friendsgiving by sending an email (most people prefer that to group chats; let’s be real — and make sure to BCC everyone as well) asking everyone to share what their top three favorite desserts and warm drinks are. Then pick the top 2-3 out of the bunch. That way, you won’t have a ton of (for instance) coffee cake or apple cider lying around that no one even wanted in the first place.
7. Create a Signature Friendsgiving Mocktail and Cocktail

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Speaking of drinks, another way to make your Friendsgiving memorable is to come up with a signature mocktail (for those who don’t consume alcohol) and cocktail. For the mocktail, you can also poll your friends about their favorite mocktail or fruits and come up with a mixture of your own. For the cocktail — although National Friendship Day is actually in August, I did peep that there are certain drinks that have been created in its honor. Some of them are located here for you to do a bit of tweaking on (if you’d like).
8. Ask Everyone to Share Their “Favorite Friend Quality” of Another
You know how it’s customary for everyone to go around and share what they are truly thankful for before having dinner? Well, to continue along with the Friendsgiving theme, have each person share what their favorite friend quality is about the person to their right. If folks are just meeting each other for the first time, instead they can share what they value the most in friendship overall, along with a story of how it was displayed to them personally over the past 12 months.
9. Send Each of Your Guests Home with a Fresh Gratitude Journal

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Wanna send folks home with a nice parting gift? It would be so on-trend to give each of them a gratitude journal. Listen, we are in some crazy times right through here (at least in the States) and so, encouraging your friends to set some time aside, regularly, to think about and then outwardly express what they are grateful for? That helps to keep stress down, keep things in perspective and it reminds us all to maintain a positive mindset as much as possible.
10. Watch a Nostalgic Movie
While everyone is enjoying dessert and drinks, how about watching a movie that brings back fond memories? A list of some of the most popular movies to come out previous Thanksgiving weekends is located here and a list of some favorite Black holiday-themed films can be found here. It’s a way to wind down and share some laughs before everyone heads home.
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Friendsgiving. What a wonderful way to celebrate your friends while also observing Thanksgiving in a way that is totally on your terms. And now that you know how to put it together, what are you waiting for? Hit your friends up and let them know that, whether it’s on actual Thanksgiving Day or a few days before or after, you’ve got a special dinner in mind.
One that has a good time with amazing friends written ALL over it.
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