Most of us like to keep it cute when shedding a light on the history of our relationships. When discussing the beautiful beginnings, we excitedly dig through the archives to relive the firsts: the first time you two met, the kiss, the date. But what some of us fail to do is remove the fluff about those firsts. We don’t want to mention that our husband was unemployed at the time he wooed us. Or that he wasn’t the best dresser and he needed a bit of upgrading. Sometimes, who we end up with, isn’t who we met at the start of it all, but fortunately for us and our significant others, we can see through the poor style choices, financial situations or attitudes that might have turned our faces the other way. Thank goodness for the power of potential.
Just ask the First Lady of the United States.
In a special appearance on talk show, The Real, Michelle Obama was asked about her early beginnings with Barack, before the bling and the babies. Dishing the truth about who got better grades in, Mrs. Obama took all the credit before letting it be known that her husband would tell anyone the same thing. But it was a brief story FLOTUS would later share that not only backed her claims up, but had audience members and the co-hosts cracking up in the East Room of the White House.
“I mean, he will say it, it's not even close. Barack fooled around in high school. He's said it, he didn't take school seriously in high school, he barely got his work done – he was a bum. And it took him a second because, you know, he had to grow up a little bit. Now, he went to college, he went away right away, but it wasn't until his second year, he transferred from Occidental to Columbia College and he was like, ‘I gotta make something of my life. I gotta get it together.’”
Now POTUS wasn’t the kind of bum you’re probably thinking of and would label. No good, do nothing, sit in the house all day-kind of dude–nah, not Barack. FLOTUS has often spoke on her past with the former senator of Illinois and their rocky start. In 2012 she said,
“...He was still the guy who’d pick me up for our dates in a care that was so rusted out, I could actually see the pavement going by in a hole in the passenger side door. He was the guy whose proudest possesion was a coffee tablel he found in a dumpster, and who’s only pair of decent shoes was half a size too small.”
But through all of that, she’s always said she was more attracted to who he was as a person and it was his personality that helped reel him closer to her heart.
“What truly made me fall in love with Barack Obama was his character. You hear me? It was his character. It was his decency, his honesty, his compassion and conviction.”
Something Michelle may not have gotten to known since she was the type to separate business and personal and was reluctant to date Barack. After working at the Chicago branch of Sidley Austin as a first year attorney, the future FLOTUS became an advisor to Barack, who proceeded to ask her out on dates. He was curved on several occasions, but the Harvard grad must have repeatedly chanted his notable “Yes we can” slogan to himself as a mantra because he surely didn’t give up. Several attempts later and Barack successfully landed a couple of dates and ultimately, Michelle’s hand in marriage after three years of dating.
When they wed back in ‘92, Michelle said of their vows “Barack didn’t pledge riches, only a life that would be interesting. On that promise, he delivered.” It's been nearly 24 years since they said “I do” and Michelle has been Barack’s right hand, rocking with him every step of the away–riding around in beat up cars, to the Senate, to turning the White House black.
As he couple prepares to make their exit out of the White House, they leave behind history as the first ever African-American first family, but it won’t be the last time we see the inspiring couple. There’s a film being made in honor of their love story titled Southside with You, featuring Tika Sumpter playing Michelle and Parker Sawyers as President Obama.
Not too bad for a former bum turned one of the biggest presidents in American history.
This article is in partnership with Sensodyne.
Our teeth are connected to so many things - our nutrition, our confidence, and our overall mood. We often take for granted how important healthy teeth are, until issues like tooth sensitivity or gum recession come to remind us. Like most things related to our bodies, prevention is the best medicine. Here are five things you can do immediately to improve your oral hygiene, prevent tooth sensitivity, and avoid dental issues down the road.
1) Go Easy On the Rough Brushing: Brushing your teeth is and always will be priority number one in the oral hygiene department. No surprises there! However, there is such a thing as applying too much pressure when brushing…and that can lead to problems over time. Use a toothbrush with soft bristles and brush in smooth, circular motions. It may seem counterintuitive, but a gentle approach to brushing is the most effective way to clean those pearly whites without wearing away enamel and exposing sensitive areas of the teeth.
2) Use A Desensitizing Toothpaste: As everyone knows, mouth pain can be highly uncomfortable; but tooth sensitivity is a whole different beast. Hot weather favorites like ice cream and popsicles have the ability to trigger tooth sensitivity, which might make you want to stay away from icy foods altogether. But as always, prevention is the best medicine here. Switching to a toothpaste like Sensodyne’s Sensitivity & Gum toothpaste specifically designed for sensitive teeth will help build a protective layer over sensitive areas of the tooth. Over time, those sharp sensations that occur with extremely cold foods will subside, and you’ll be back to treating yourself to your icy faves like this one!
3) Floss, Rinse, Brush. (And In That Order!): Have you ever heard the saying, “It’s not what you do, but how you do it”? Well, the same thing applies to taking care of your teeth. Even if you are flossing and brushing religiously, you could be missing out on some of the benefits simply because you aren’t doing so in the right order. Flossing is best to do before brushing because it removes food particles and plaque from places your toothbrush can’t reach. After a proper flossing sesh, it is important to rinse out your mouth with water after. Finally, you can whip out your toothbrush and get to brushing. Though many of us commonly rinse with water after brushing to remove excess toothpaste, it may not be the best thing for our teeth. That’s because fluoride, the active ingredient in toothpaste that protects your enamel, works best when it gets to sit on the teeth and continue working its magic. Rinsing with water after brushing doesn’t let the toothpaste go to work like it really can. Changing up your order may take some getting used to, but over time, you’ll see the difference.
4) Stay Hydrated: Upping your water supply is a no-fail way to level up your health overall, and your teeth are no exception to this rule. Drinking water not only helps maintain a healthy pH balance in your mouth, but it also washes away residue and acids that can cause enamel erosion. It also helps you steer clear of dry mouth, which is a gateway to bad breath. And who needs that?
5) Show Your Gums Some Love: When it comes to improving your smile, you may be laser-focused on getting your teeth whiter, straighter, and overall healthier. Rightfully so, as these are all attributes of a megawatt smile; but you certainly don’t want to leave gum health out of the equation. If you neglect your gums, you’ll start to notice the effects of plaque buildup, which can irritate the gums and cause gingivitis, the earliest stage of gum disease. Seeing blood while brushing and flossing is a tell-tale sign that your gums are suffering. You may also experience gum recession — a condition where the gum tissue surrounding your teeth pulls back, exposing more of your tooth. Brushing at least twice a day with a gum-protecting toothpaste like Sensodyne Sensitivity and Gum, coupled with regular dentist visits, will keep your gums shining as bright as those pearly whites.
We, as women, pray to God for the type of husband we want, but do we pray for the type of friends we need? Many women often imitate singer Ciara’s prayer, hoping it will, too, lead them to their “Russell Wilson” – an equally yoked partner.
Yes, finding a life partner is a dream many hold close to their hearts, but how often do we put the same energy into asking for the friends that resonate with our souls? As with romantic relationships, our circle of friends can make or break us. Therefore, it is important to pray for our "tribe" with as much intention as we do for a life partner.
Our friends aren't just companions for brunches and spa days. They deeply influence our daily decisions, shape our outlook on life, and play a crucial role in our emotional well-being. True friends can elevate our spirits during life's troughs and cheer us on during its peaks. On the other hand, friendships that harbor negativity or toxicity can sap our energy, hinder our aspirations, and diminish our self-worth. This underscores the imperative of surrounding ourselves with the right tribe, a circle that fosters growth, ensures mental well-being, and champions genuine happiness.
Wouldn’t you want to be seen as a prize by your friends, like you wish to be seen as one by your future man?
When Ciara navigated the painful waters of her breakup with rapper Future, the “Level Up” singer didn’t leave her future to chance; she envisioned her ideal partner. She actively, consciously, and spiritually prayed for the type of man she wanted as a partner. This wasn't just about a rebound or a short-term fix. It was about intention, clarity, and knowing her worth. The universe answered in the form of Russell Wilson, a beacon of their love story many now admire.
And after years of women wondering what exactly she said in her prayers, she finally revealed it. The singer recorded her purported prayer on Summer Walker’s sophomore album, “Still Over It,” released in November 2021.
Her words had social media in a chokehold, as women and men alike uttered her words in every relationship video they would post.
Choosing Your Friends Wisely
It is pivotal for us to visualize the friends we desire. Consider: Are they genuinely supportive? Are they the kind of friends who push us forward without pushing us down? Do they offer loyalty without conditions? By detailing these attributes in our prayers or intentions, we offer a roadmap to the universe, directing it to the companions we seek.
While it might be tempting to seek out friends who fit into societal molds of “fun” or “popular,” genuine connection demands more. We should crave friendships that go beyond the superficial, where understanding transcends words, where challenges breed growth, and where loyalty isn't seasonal. It's not merely about someone to share mimosas with but about nurturing connections that understand and amplify our life's journey.
When our tribe aligns with our spirit, the transformation is holistic. With the right friends, our confidence doesn't just grow; it soars. We're exposed to broader perspectives, and our horizons expand beyond the familiar. The positivity emanating from such a tribe influences every corner of our lives, creating ripples of change and growth.
However, you must also ensure you’re ready for what you’re praying for. In my opinion, it is unfair to ask God to deliver friends who pour into you, but you do not pour into them. While prayer sets our intentions, our actions seal the deal. Seeking the right tribe means putting ourselves in environments that reflect our values and interests. Whether attending themed events, volunteering for a cause close to our hearts, or joining groups with shared interests, our actions echo our prayers, resonating with the universe.
Embarking to find the perfect partner holds depth, but equally significant is the odyssey of curating our tribe. The right friends don't just accompany us; they shape our lives in unparalleled ways. When we direct our intentions and actions toward finding our tribe, we aren't merely forming bonds; we're crafting our destiny. The adage goes: "Show me your friends, and I'll unveil your future." Elevate your tribe to a priority, nurture those bonds, and behold the transformative magic unfold.
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