
So you've made it to the final round of those job interviews, and now they're talking money. You get excited at this point, especially because it's your dream job working for your dream company. You've beaten out the competition, and you're now meeting senior managers who make the final decision.
This can seem a bit intimidating since you really want the job, and these are key people you have to impress. Well, just remember, they need you, too. You're talented, skilled, and trained to do the job, so they aren't doing you a favor. It's business. And in that vein, you have to put on your business cap and start asking a few important money questions before even considering accepting a job offer.
I was once gaslit by a company to simply accept less money for more work, and I learned this lesson the hard way: Don't ever just accept a job simply because it's a power move. The money needs to be right, too, and you deserve it. Here are a few questions you should ask during your next job interview process to be sure you and your potential employer are on the same page:
1. "What final compensation range are you all offering for this position?"
First, please don't jump to answer this question if an interviewer asks this at the start of the interview. Kindly state that you'd like to know more about what the position entails and their expectations of you in order to give a sound and fair answer about compensation. When you do ask, be sure to use the words "range of compensation" when talking about salary versus saying, "What's the pay for this position?" There's tact needed and you want to be careful of the tone.
Get them to reiterate the salary range throughout the process so that you can be sure what they're offering is the same as the first round or other conversations you might have had with recruiters or managers along the way. And when reading the offer letter, make sure what was agreed upon (down to specifics about the hours and work that compensation covers) is clearly indicated and aligned.
If you're a newbie to the industry, just graduated college, or you're transitioning into a new career, this is still important because, again, you're still the prize. You'll need to be realistic and reasonable when it comes to your starting pay, but speak up and advocate for yourself in order to be more strategic about what you accept. This could affect your salary potential, quality of life, and work-life balance down the line. Sometimes, when you accept too low of a salary at the onset, it can be hard to get more from that same company later, even when promoted.

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2. "How are raises calculated, and when are they typically given?"
This is a very important question because you don't want to be stuck at a company that doesn't actually compensate their employees for growth and good work. Again, it's business. If the company is thriving and you've had a hand in that, you should be compensated. Find out details on their policies in order to make sure they align with your long-term goals as the ambitious, talented leader that you are.
Companies have various ways of rewarding their employees, so if that particular company's way is okay with you, move forward. If not, ask about incorporating accommodations for you in your hiring contract if your work experience and resume reflect a need for that.
3. "What are the guidelines related to bonuses and how are those given?"
This question can be very industry-specific (i.e., sales, retail, manufacturing, finance, IT), so if it doesn't apply to the industry you're in, you can skip this one. If it does, you definitely need to get the details on when, how, and how much. What factors affect quarterly, bi-annual, or annual bonuses?
The difference between a bonus and a raise is that bonuses, in some cases, are offered based on overall company performance, not an employee's.
There are performance-based bonuses as well, which work a bit differently from raises. A raise would be a long-term increase in your salary, while a bonus is a one-time incentive or addition to those funds. So, someone might, for example, get a 10% raise and a yearly bonus on top of that.
Just be sure you know what's what when it comes to this and consider how this factor might make or break meeting your financial goals, the type of work you do (and how), or the nature of the work you do (and how you're compensated for it.)
4. "What retirement fund options are available and does the company match any contributions?
If you're in your late 20s or early 30s, you might be thinking, "I'm too young to be worried about retirement savings," but take it from a so-called "geriatric millennial," you're not. Saving up for retirement is a must, and trust me, my 401K saved me in a clutch 10 years after I'd been mindlessly putting money away in it and had forgotten my company still had it. (And yes, there was a penalty for withdrawing from it early, but that's not the point. It truly was an emergency at the time.)
Some companies stopped matching contributions to 401Ks when recessions hit, but today, many have gone back to normal, offering matches on the funds that you put away via your paycheck.
Sometimes, companies won't match because they can't financially afford to, especially when it's a startup or a company that just isn't doing well financially. Keep this in mind when you're listening to their answer to this question.
Don't wait until the offer is signed to ask about this. Get the information you need now and be empowered to save up for your future. Even if the salary and other benefits are great and you want to take the job simply for those factors, at least you'll know what you need to do if the company doesn't offer retirement savings options.
5. "What is the process for compensation for overtime or work done outside the contracted work hours?"
Y'all, this one is key. Some company leaders will try to hit you with the okey-doke on this one, so stay vigilant and aware. I don't care what industry you're in or what position you're applying for. Get a clear understanding of their overtime policy before accepting the job. There's a lot written and talked about when it comes to burnout, and while we love being superwomen who can do multiple things well, we need to have a balanced approach to boundaries in the workplace.
You might not want to ask for money for every little extra task you do to get your job done. But you certainly don't want to be in the awkward position of coming back to your manager, after the fact, asking to be paid overtime for 20 hours of extra work you've done, only to find out the company does not offer it.
You also don't want to be taken advantage of simply because you don't know that your manager has you working extra hours, illegally or against company policy, without compensation (or even without the correct amount of compensation.)
And there's little to no guilt, at least for me, to say "No, respectfully, I cannot," when I know extra hours are being requested (or when a project requires a substantial number of additional hours) but I'm not going to be paid for it. It's against my contract or against policy. So, no, thank you.
I've made this mistake myself, many times, especially as a self-employed professional who did not initially set boundaries on this at the onset. I now have a sense of mental sanity and peace---as well as financial freedom not laced with resentment, burnout, and check-to-check drama--knowing I'm a stickler on asking this question at the onset before signing any contracts.
6. "What are the details of your standard benefits package?"
This is tied to money because it impacts your out-of-pocket expenses after you've been paid. So, it's vital to ask this one. The benefits that the company offers save you money, time, and stress in the long run, so be sure to consider all factors before saying yes to an offer. Do you need childcare? Do you need to work remote to do your best work or have time flexibility? Do you need more prescription drug coverage for a long-term illness you're managing? Are you caring for an elderly parent?
Are the insurance providers accessible and applicable to your healthcare providers? Is there a technology stipend to cover the technology or wifi you're using to do your work from home? Do they offer coverage, programs, partnerships, or discounts for wellness, counseling, or reproductive health?
Don't explicitly ask the potential employer the above questions, but keep them in mind for yourself when taking in all the information they're giving you about benefits. These are all things to consider when it comes to benefits, your money, and the quality of life you'd like to have when taking on a new professional role. Be sure you're advocating for yourself by asking the money questions that will provide answers for protecting your well-being and your future.
And if an interviewer seems a bit rude, off, vague, uninformed, or dismissive in answering the above, very standard, inquiries, consider interviewing elsewhere or accepting offers at companies that value the above and are equipped to handle a qualified, innovative, magnificent creature such as yourself.
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Exclusive: Viral It Girl Kayla Nicole Is Reclaiming The Mic—And The Narrative
It’s nice to have a podcast when you’re constantly trending online. One week after setting timelines ablaze on Halloween, Kayla Nicole released an episode of her Dear Media pop culture podcast, The Pre-Game, where she took listeners behind the scenes of her viral costume.
The 34-year-old had been torn between dressing up as Beyoncé or Toni Braxton, she says in the episode. She couldn’t decide which version of Bey she’d be, though. Two days before the holiday, she locked in her choice, filming a short recreation of Braxton’s “He Wasn’t Man Enough for Me” music video that has since garnered nearly 6.5M views on TikTok.
Kayla Nicole says she wore a dress that was once worn by Braxton herself for the Halloween costume. “It’s not a secret Toni is more on the petite side. I’m obsessed with all 5’2” of her,” she tells xoNecole via email. “But I’m 5’10'' and not missing any meals, honey, so to my surprise, when I got the dress and it actually fit, I knew it was destiny.”
The episode was the perfect way for the multihyphenate to take control of her own narrative. By addressing the viral moment on her own platform, she was able to stir the conversation and keep the focus on her adoration for Braxton, an artist she says she grew up listening to and who still makes her most-played playlist every year. Elsewhere, she likely would’ve received questions about whether or not the costume was a subliminal aimed at her ex-boyfriend and his pop star fiancée. “I think that people will try to project their own narratives, right?” she said, hinting at this in the episode. “But, for me personally – I think it’s very important to say this in this moment – I’m not in the business of tearing other women down. I’m in the business of celebrating them.”
Kayla Nicole is among xoNecole’s It Girl 100 Class of 2025, powered by SheaMoisture, recognized in the Viral Voices category for her work in media and the trends she sets on our timelines, all while prioritizing her own mental and physical health. As she puts it: “Yes, I’m curating conversations on my podcast The Pre-Game, and cultivating community with my wellness brand Tribe Therepē.”
Despite being the frequent topic of conversation online, Kayla Nicole says she’s learning to take advantage of her growing social media platform without becoming consumed by it. “I refuse to let the internet consume me. It’s supposed to be a resource and tool for connection, so if it becomes anything beyond that I will log out,” she says.
On The Pre-Game, which launched earlier this year, she has positioned herself as listeners “homegirl.” “There’s definitely a delicate dance between being genuine and oversharing, and I’ve had to learn that the hard way. Now I share from a place of reflection, not reaction,” she says. “If it can help someone feel seen or less alone, I’ll talk about it within reason. But I’ve certainly learned to protect parts of my life that I cherish most. I share what serves connection but doesn’t cost me peace.
"I refuse to let the internet consume me. It’s supposed to be a resource and tool for connection, so if it becomes anything beyond that I will log out."

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Throughout each episode, she sips a cocktail and addresses trending topics (even when they involve herself). It’s a platform the Pepperdine University alumnus has been preparing to have since she graduated with a degree in broadcast journalism, with a concentration in political science.
“I just knew I was going to end up on a local news network at the head anchor table, breaking high speed chases, and tossing it to the weather girl,” she says. Instead, she ended up working as an assistant at TMZ before covering sports as a freelance reporter. (She’s said she didn’t work for ESPN, despite previous reports saying otherwise.) The Pre-Game combines her love for pop culture and sports in a way that once felt inaccessible to her in traditional media.
She’s not just a podcaster, though. When she’s not behind the mic, taking acting classes or making her New York Fashion Week debut, Kayla Nicole is also busy elevating her wellness brand Tribe Therepē, where she shares her workouts and the workout equipment that helps her look chic while staying fit. She says the brand will add apparel to its line up in early 2026.
“Tribe Therepē has evolved into exactly what I have always envisioned. A community of women who care about being fit not just for the aesthetic, but for their mental and emotional well-being too. It’s grounded. It’s feminine. It’s strong,” she says. “And honestly, it's a reflection of where I am in my life right now. I feel so damn good - mentally, emotionally, and physically. And I am grateful to be in a space where I can pour that love and light back into the community that continues to pour into me.”
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This Is How To Keep 'Holiday Season Stress' From Infecting Your Relationship
Hmph. Maybe it’s just me, but it seems like there is something really weird happening in the fall season air (because winter doesn’t officially begin until December 21) that cuddle season is in full swing while break-up season is as well. In fact, did you know that break-ups are so popular during the holiday season that December 11 is deemed Break-Up Day?
The reasons why relationships shift around this time vary; however, I did both roll my eyes and chuckle when I read that a very popular one is because it’s an easy way to get out of getting one’s significant other a Christmas present. SMDH.
Anyway, I personally think that the less shallow folks out here may contemplate calling things “quits” or they at least distance themselves a bit from their partner (and what I’m referring to is serious relationships) due to all of the stress and strain that oftentimes comes with the holidays whether it be financial, familial, due to their tight schedules or something else.
Listen, I would hate for you and your man to miss the fun and happiness of experiencing this time of year, all because you are so overwhelmed or irritated that you can’t really enjoy it. That’s why I have a few practical tips for how to avoid allowing the typical holiday season stress from INFECTING your relationship.
Manage Your Expectations
GiphyUnmanaged expectations. If there is a main reason why the holiday season tends to be so stress-filled for so many people, I’d bet good money that this is the cause. And when you’re in a long-term relationship, expectations can manifest themselves in all sorts of cryptic and/or unexpected ways. You might have relatives who assume that you are going to be with them for Thanksgiving or Christmas when you have other plans in mind. You might be thinking that you are going to spend one amount for presents while your man is thinking something totally different. When it comes to scheduling, your signals may be crossed.
And you know what? To all of these scenarios, this is where clear and consistent communication come in. Don’t assume anything. Don’t dictate anything either. From now until New Year’s, mutually decide to check in once a week, just to make sure that you are both on the same page as it relates to the holidays and what you both are thinking will come along with it. The less blindsided you both feel, the less stressed out you will be. Trust me on this.
Set (and Keep) a Budget
GiphyOkay, so I read that last year, 36 percent of Americans incurred some type of holiday-related debt. Hmph. Last year, there was still some sense of normalcy in this country, chile, so I can only imagine what finances are gonna look like over the next several weeks. That said, since I don’t know a lot of people who don’t find being broke stressful, make sure that you and your bae set a budget and then stick to it this year — no ifs, ands or buts.
Because really, y’all — it doesn’t make sense to deplete savings and/or max out credit cards for a few days of giggles only to be damn near losing your mind because you don’t know how to make ends meet come Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Day.
And by the way, this tip doesn’t just speak to things like food and gifts; I also mean travel. If it doesn’t make a ton of sense (or cents) to be all over the place this year — DON’T BE.
Keep Matthew 5:37 at the Forefront
GiphyIf off the top of your head, you don’t know what Matthew 5:37 says, no worries, here ya go: “But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.” That verse right there? Oh, it’s a boundaries lifesaver! I say that because do you see “maybe” or “I’ll think about it” in there? Nope. LOL. It says that you should tell people “yes” or “no” and leave it at that — and that complements Anne Lamott’s quote, “’No’ is a complete sentence” impeccably well. Yeah, you’ve got to remember that anything beyond a yes or no to a request is privileged information; you don’t owe anyone details or an explanation.
Besides, if you are really honest with yourself, when someone asks you something and you give a “Umm, let me think about it” kind of reply, more times than not, you already know what your answer is going to be — so why not let you both off of the hook? Give your response. Commit to that. And let everyone (including yourself) get on with their lives and schedules.
I promise you that when it comes to those holiday parties, you are pissing more folks off by not RSVP’ing or doing so and not showing up than just saying, “Thank you but not this year” off the rip.
Remember That Your Personal Space Is Privilege Not a Right
GiphyA friend of mine recently bought a new house and invited me over to come see it. He’s a single man with no children, so as I was taking in all of the space that he had, especially as I walked through his finished basement, I joked about relatives coming to live with him. “Hell no” and “absolutely not” were pretty much his immediate responses as he went on to say that some folks even had the nerve to be offended when he told them that he had no intentions on taking DNA in.
Ain’t it wild how people think that your stuff is their right? And yes, that brings me to my next point. Your home is your sanctuary space. If you want to host folks this year — cool. If not, ALSO COOL. Please don’t let folks (family included) guilt you into how they want you to act or even into what they would do if the shoe was on the other foot. You are not them — and as one of my favorite quotes states, “If two people were exactly alike, one of them would be unnecessary.” (A man by the name Larry Dixon said that.)
Hell, my friends? They know that I am good for sending them random things that they need or even want all throughout the year. Coming over to hang out at my pace, though. Uh-uh. Chalk it up to being a card-carrying member of the ambivert club yet I like keeping my living space personal — and I sleep like a baby, each and every night, for feeling that way.
Always remember that your space, your time, your resources, your energy and shoot, yourself period (including your relationship), are all things that are your own. You get to choose how, when and why you want to share them. The holiday season is certainly no exception.
Cultivate Some “You Two Only” Traditions
GiphyIt’s not uncommon for some couples to hit me up after the holiday season to “detox.” Sometimes it’s due to the financial drama (and sometimes trauma) that they experienced. Sometimes it’s because they allowed their relatives (especially in-laws) to get more into their personal business than they should’ve. More than anything, though, it tends to be because they didn’t get enough quality time together and so ended up feeling “disconnected.”
Please don’t let that happen. Listen, I’m not even a holidays kind of woman and yet, I will absolutely sit myself down with some hot chocolate and chocolate chip cookies to enjoy a Hallmark holiday film or two. Aside from the fact that most of them are lighthearted and sweet, I also like that they usually focus on couples loving on each other amidst all of the holiday beauty and ambiance — which is something that all couples should set aside some time to do.
Maybe it’s a vacation. Maybe it’s a staycation. Or maybe it’s my personal favorite, A SEXCATION. Whether it’s for a few days, the weekend or even overnight — don’t you let the holidays go by without setting aside time for you and your man to celebrate one another. Don’t you dare (check out “Are You Ready To Have Some Very Merry 'Christmas Sex'?”).
GET. SOME. REST.
GiphyI once read that 8 out of 10 people get stressed out over the holidays and 3 out of 10 lose sleep during to it — and when you’re stress-filled and sleep-deprived, that can absolutely lead to hypersensitivity, making mountains out of molehills and even not being in the mood for sex.
Your relationship can’t afford to go through any of this, so definitely make sure to prioritize rest. I don’t care how unrealistic it might seem during this time, sleep should never be seen as a luxury; it will always and forever be a great necessity.
That said, try to get no less than six hours of shut-eye in (check out “6 Fascinating Ways Sex And Sleep Definitely Go Hand In Hand”) and even ask your bae to take a nap with you sometimes (check out “Wanna Have Some Next-Level Sex? Take A Nap, Sis.”). Not only will sleep help to restore your mind, body and spirit but, when it’s with your partner, it’s an act of intimacy that can make you both feel super connected, even in the midst of what might feel like chaos.
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Holiday season stress is real. Still, never give it the permission or power to throw your relationship off. Put you and your man first and let the holidays be what they are gonna be, chile.
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