K. Michelle Regrets Her Butt Enhancements, And So Do A Lot Of Other Women
Are we currently witnessing the end of the bootylicious trend?
As the saying goes, more money, more problems. And it appears for singer K. Michelle, a bigger booty means a bigger headache.
Recently the singer known for her infamous curves sat down with B.Scott to reveal that she is over her "heavy bottom." The very candid and honest K. Michelle has been no stranger to opening up in the past about having gone under the knife to enhance her assets, even opening up last year to the Huffington Post about having had a few nips and tucks, from her breasts to her butt:
“I'm not going to be one of those women who says "I woke up like this. I'm so perfect. No, that's not me. I got my boobs done, I had fat transferred to my butt, I sucked out the stomach. You know, just normal women things."
Well, a lot can happen in a year. While sitting down with host B.Scott, the voluptuous Michelle admitted that she is completely over her enhancements and that in fact–she just wants that old thing back!
"For me, I want my normal shape back.I have like movies and different things [I’m working on], and...I hate being typecasted because my bottom is so heavy. Not saying I don’t love myself, but…you know.
For me, and my career right now, and me doing business—like really being on the frontline in business—I don’t need to have a man looking down at my ass when I’m trying to talk numbers. I don’t need to not be able to get the role. Like, I wanna be in Jurassic Park! Let me be in Jurassic Park! I don’t need to not be able to run through Jurassic Park because my ass is too heavy. Before the dinosaurs come to eat me, I need to be able to go!"
The 31-year-old singer further went on to admit that she "can't even wear designer clothes," due to her radical hip-waist ratio making it difficult for her to be cloaked in couture. K. also added that although she always felt she had a nice shape, for one reason or another, she wanted to add more:
“I took fat and did [my butt] and hips and all that. I just wanted [surgery]. I wanted that shape. That’s the shape that I wanted. I wanted to look like that. I think the older you get you get tired of having to hop into your jeans!”
She even offered up some advice to women who are considering surgery for the time being, letting them know that they must be weary making permanent decisions based on temporary emotions. That is, unless they can afford to reverse those decisions, of course!
“I would say if you have the coins to put it in, have the coins to take it out. That’s really what I would [say]. No, really — because it might be a phase! I would tell [other girls], don’t go and do what you see people doing. But, if that’s what you want to do — if that’s the body you want — go get the body you want! Nothing is wrong with it. But, if you won’t want it anymore — you just don’t want it anymore!"
That's something you can never take away from K–she keeps it real all day! And keeping that in mind, there are few things that the singer can say that might shock us, including this.
Although it's a bit of a surprise that K. Michelle would want to bid her booty "farewell" so soon, plastic surgery trends are always that–just trends.
In the 90's, breast augmentation was the big in-thing. With pop culture boasting larger breasts (everything from popular sitcom "Baywatch" to countless Men's Interest magazines such as Playboy and SportsIllustrated), young women flocked to get a boob job quicker than they could round up their tuition money. By the early 2000's, with the rise in popularity in certain ethnic women–such as Jennifer Lopez, Tyra Banks, Beyoncé, etc.–boobs were "out" and butts and hips were in! Some stars even went as far as removing their implants, including actress and boob-queen, Pamela Anderson.
Back in 2014, Basketball Wives LA star Draya Michele took to her Twitter to express regret over her breast implants, even saying she had plans to remove them by Fall of that year.
"Saying 'bye bye' to my girls in September! I'm tired of these boobs making everything look all skanky all the time... And take it from me, this fake tidday phase is outta style. I like natural boobs like Rihanna's."
Even Kylie Jenner, who has been accused of "mimicking Black woman," admitted last month that she was over her lip fillers, saying: "You know what's weird? I've been into small lips lately. Like, I want them to look small."
So why is it that we even bother getting surgery in the first place if it's bound to get old? Well, the desire to be desirable might be one. In the same way that some men feel the need to flash their money and fancy things to grasp the attention of women, some women also feel the pressures to be worth the attention as well! Not to mention, the media plays a major role in how we view and set certain beauty standards, thus why such features, especially those that are often tied in with being afrocentric or "ethnic" (e.g.: bigger butts, hips and lips) can go from NOT to HOT real quick, depending on who is rocking it *hint, hint*
However, in the case of K. Michelle, who admitted to already having had "a big butt" growing up, if some women are not careful, we may get a little delusional with what we think we need when it comes to surgery. Comedian and actor Sinbad recently stopped by The Breakfast Club and brought up a great point about the excess in Black women competing to enhance what is often already a God-given gift:
When did Black women start getting fake butts? We (Black women) were known for butts and now we can't even compete with the "white fake butt." So now you have Black women doing damage to the face and damage to the booty. We've flipped it so far, I don't even know if we can come back. It's dumb!
I guess in short–check yourself before you wreck yourself! At least in the case of the K. Michelle's and Draya's, these enhancements were done at the hand of professionals. And although that always minimizes the risks of most physical damage, that doesn't protect you from any psychological or emotional damage you may incur later.
Have you had any plastic surgery regrets?
A modest goddess who keeps it humble between mumbles. I'm a journalism graduate with a HERstory in digital media, print and radio. Roll the credits: Power 96, VH1, xoNecole, EBONY, SOHH. Deemed "Top 20 Women in Media" by Power 105. Bronx made me, Broward raised me.
ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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Some Signs Your Casual Relationship Is Getting Serious
In this modern era, establishing romantic connections has become increasingly challenging. From knowing what to say on the first date to knowing when to make things official, the rules have changed and this ain’t the same dating game that led to our parents falling in love and starting a family.
Because times are hard and dating is harder, we had to look to an expert to help us understand when that casual fling becomes something serious. So we chatted with Karina F. Daves, a relationship coach who has made it her mission to teach women how to enjoy more satisfying partnerships.
As a relationship coach, Daves leverages her experience as a former social worker and adjunct professor of women’s studies to teach women how to strategically evaluate their personal identity, values, and standards so that they can elevate their relationships and themselves.
She tells xoNecole, “You should not be with somebody for their potential. The key is being with somebody for their patterns. Instead of looking at it as one specific milestone, look at it as there are multiple patterns at which this person is showing you what role they want to play, what their values are.”
"You should not be with somebody for their potential. The key is being with somebody for their patterns."
Daves’ work has amassed more than 240,000 followers across her social media platforms, and her videos have reached close to 25 million and half a million alone this month.
According to the relationship coach, some key indicators that a relationship is going from casual to serious are:
“You talk about it going to a serious level, and you talk about intentions. Intentions are very clear in a relationship that is serious. At this point, you intend to date each other either for fun or you're dating for marriage. This is something that is very comfortably talked about.” She adds, “You enter each other's worlds fully. This means that you meet people in each other's world, but you also become part of their routine. You're not a task that they have to do, you are just a normal part of their day-to-day life."
“You're not a task that they have to do, you are just a normal part of their day-to-day life.”
In terms of how partners can communicate effectively about their expectations and intentions as a relationship becomes more serious, Daves shares:
“You will want to become serious by being vulnerable and having this conversation. Before the actual communication part occurs, you have to identify what it is that you want this relationship to be. What is it that you want out of a future partnership?”
Daves emphasizes the need for clear communication and suggests doing away with the potential you see in the person and instead focusing on what you want in love. "This is an opportunity for that person to say that's not who they are and that they can't give you that."
"Relationships should also be fun. We do not want to forget that these conversations can be serious, but also a source of fun and joy. They do not need to feel heavy. If you see that they are joyful, this can be a good indicator of what the rest of the relationship would be like when you're getting ready to have serious conversations," Daves concludes.
We know that specific milestones or stages in a relationship can help signify its deepening commitment; Daves has these tips for navigating these transitions:
Introducing one another to each other's worlds can be a big indicator that the relationship you share is getting serious. "When you start meeting each other’s friends and families, this is a big milestone and a vulnerable place to be." Another sign that things are getting serious is openly professing the "L" word. "Communication is significant as far as proclaiming that you love your partner. These are really big milestones that shouldn't be forced."
Speaking of communication, Daves adds that “another big indicator is how you overcome your first moment of misalignment. This is a huge indicator of the rest of the triumphs that you will face. Were you both open? Did you both feel safe sharing? Did you respect each other's point of view? How did you resolve the issue?”
"Communication is significant as far as proclaiming that you love your partner. These are really big milestones that shouldn't be forced."
Lastly, Daves suggests assessing one another's level of emotional investment:
One of the ways Daves suggests we assess the level of emotional investment is by doing a simple activity called “eggs in a basket.”
This activity involves discussing important and valued aspects of a relationship. Daves explains, “The way to assess the level of emotional investment is to test their heart posture. 'Heart posture' is referring to where their heart stands when it comes to this relationship and how it logically has made sense of it all.”
In those instances, ask each other the following questions:
- Do you feel clear about our intentions and where our relationship is going?
- Do you see me as a life partner?
- Are we past potentially seeing us together to understand each other's patterns and choosing to make that commitment?
- Are we a part of our life’s plan?
- Do you still have individual goals?
“This isn’t just about seeing their investment in the relationship but also how they’re choosing to invest in themselves as people. You don’t want a partner that will lose themselves in the relationship because you won’t have a partner anymore, you’ll have someone to parent,” Daves said.
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