

Looking like a snack is the current trend, but Nicole Murphy says that our bodies are gardens. If you take care of it, it'll feed you forever. After five kids, the 50-year-old model and reality star still has cakes by the pound, and she recently revealed on Sway In The Morning how she's succeeded in serving us body goals for decades at a time. Nicole said that, unlike most women, she didn't see any significant changes in her body after her first child, but as her family's roster grew, so did her insecurity.
"When I first had my first baby, I wasn't even thinking about working out. I didn't go to the gym and this and that. And no one told me, 'Hey, it's possible that your belly will never be the same. Your body's going to look different. You might have stretch marks.' I didn't even think like that. I was blessed in the beginning. I just went back into my normal shape. And then the more kids I started having, it was like, 'Yoooo, I need to work out 'cause I'm not the same.' I could see my little faults so I was like, 'I'm in the gym, I gotta work out.'"
Nicole says that this desire for a positive self-image was even more important, because like all women, she wanted to look her best for her partner.
"At the time, I was married so I was like, 'I always want to look good for my man.' I didn't want to get comfortable like some people do in a relationship and let themselves go. I know a few people like that and I'm like, me, honestly, that would turn me off. I always wanted to look good. So I've always been into it. I've been into eating right. Well, I do mess up, I'm not even gonna lie."
Her insecurity and negative self-image led Nicole to take her health journey more seriously, and that included solidifying a plan for fitness based on her lifestyle. No matter how chaotic or intense our daily schedules get, Nicole. She said:
"Just work out. It's only one hour out of your day. One hour out of my day. I can even do it at home. There's no excuse."
Although it's essential to your health journey to stay active, the mother of five says that one of the most important decisions she made was learning how to eat based on what made her feel good, not just what looked good. Studies show that what you eat is far more important than how you work it off, but that can mean redefining your diet completely, especially if your history of food choices has been consistently poor in the past, and Nicole said that old habits sometimes die hard. When asked one of her biggest challenges, she had this to say:
"Just learning how to eat properly. That took a minute because I didn't know. My mother's British so it's all about bread and lots of butter, lots of sauces on your food, potatoes and that. That's how I grew up. But the older I got, I figured it out."
With discipline and determination, you too can be as fine as Nicole Murphy at age 50. She says that despite unrealistic images constantly perpetuated in the media regarding society's idea of beauty, she's only working to be her best self and to inspire others to do the same thing.
"I want to maintain. I'm 50 now. I just turned 50 years old. So I want to inspire other women. Just because you're 50 doesn't mean it's over. I'm not trying to look 21 but I want to look good for myself — and whoever my mate is going to be."
Despite Nicole's insecurity in her self-image early in life, she took control of her narrative and made wellness a priority because she understood that a garden that is well-kept can produce a harvest beyond her imagination.
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Taylor "Pretty" Honore is a spiritually centered and equally provocative rapper from Baton Rouge, Louisiana with a love for people and storytelling. You can probably find me planting herbs in your local community garden, blasting "Back That Thang Up" from my mini speaker. Let's get to know each other: @prettyhonore.
'He Said, She Said': Love Stories Put To The Test At A Weekend For Love
At the A Weekend For Love retreat, we sat down with four couples to explore their love stories in a playful but revealing way with #HeSaidSheSaid. From first encounters to life-changing moments, we tested their memories to see if their versions of events aligned—because, as they say, every story has three sides: his, hers, and the truth.
Do these couples remember their love stories the same way? Press play to find out.
Episode 1: Indira & Desmond – Love Across the Miles
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but for Indira & Desmond, love made it stronger. Every mile apart deepened their bond, reinforcing the unshakable foundation of their relationship. From their first "I love you" to the moment they knew they had found home in each other, their journey is a beautiful testament to the endurance of true love.
Episode 2: Jay & Tia – A Love Story Straight Out of a Rom-Com
If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
Episode 3: Larencia & Mykel – Through the Highs and Lows
A date night with police helicopters overhead? Now that’s a story! Larencia & Mykel have faced unexpected surprises, major life changes, and 14 years of choosing each other every single day. But after all this time, do they actually remember things the same way? Their episode is sure to bring some eye-opening revelations and a lot of laughs.
Episode 4: Soy & Osei – A Love Aligned in Purpose
From a chance meeting at the front door to 15 years of unwavering love, faith, and growth, Soy & Osei prove that when two souls are aligned in love and purpose, nothing can shake their foundation. Their journey is a powerful reminder that true love is built on mutual support, shared values, and a deep connection that only strengthens with time.
Each of these couples has a unique and inspiring story to tell, but do their memories match up? Watch #HeSaidSheSaid to find out!
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There’s caviar, and then there’s Black-owned caviar. With the recent explosion of #CaviarTikTok, this luxury delicacy seems to be everywhere these days. I can’t scroll through my feed without seeing our favorite celebs and influencers diving headfirst into extravagant caviar spreads.
From Rihanna pairing her caviar with chicken nuggets (I wonder if our Fenty queen shares with RZA and Riot Rose or if this is just for mama) to Bethenny Frankel educating us on caviar with her series "Caviar University," there’s just no escaping it.
And let’s not forget the elite king himself, DeAndre Brown, indulging in fried chicken and caviar! From videos with caviar-topped burgers, potato latkes, deviled eggs, and pasta dishes—folks are topping everything with caviar. Yet, I had not come across any Black-owned caviar brands until I discovered Caviar Dream.
My Introduction Into Caviar
I started off eating caviar in undergrad on top of sushi, exploring with a variety of roe and tobiko but as an adult, I knew I was ready to try something a little more refined. The first time I fell in love with caviar was in grad school at a southern Italian restaurant in Flatiron.
I tried an appetizer that featured caviar on bruschetta, served with thick garlic bread and burrata cheese, and from that moment, I was hooked. That has become my favorite way to enjoy caviar next to this filet mignon crostini appetizer that I served recently at a dinner party.
Everything You Need To Know About Caviar Dream
Caviar Dream is the first nationally distributed Black and woman-owned caviar business, redefining how people experience caviar. Founded by Kendra Anderson, a Chicago based chef and sommelier, the company’s mission is to make caviar more accessible and inclusive, breaking down barriers and demystifying this delicacy.
@caviardreamkendra so you’ve got your Caviar Dream…now what to eat it with? i’ve probably had cavi with just about anything you can imagine at this point {topped some fried cheese curds with my California White a few months ago and it was 💥} but i gotta say that i have some on my scrambled eggs every week 😌 no need to get fancy — just scramble your eggs however you usually do and scoop that cavi right on top 🤤 you can upgrade from there in a few ways: ✨ add a dollop of crème frâiche {see my previous video for a 30 second make-at-home recipe} ✨ sprinkle some chopped chives or green onions on top ✨ put the whole caviar / scrambled egg situation on a toasted + buttered bagel, croissant or onion bun! p.s.: i love our Smoked Trout Roe with scrambled eggs too 💖 if you try any of these combos, let me know what you think! 🩵💭✨👩🏽🍳 #CaviarDream #caviarforthepeople #putsomecaviaronit #caviar #caviartok #fyp #caviarparty #caviarnight #affordableluxury #chicagotiktok #homecooking #galentines #valentinesday #tiktokuniversity #cooking #easyrecipe #caviar101
What Caviar I Tried
Caviar Dream Kaluga Hybrid ($105-$420 depending on the ounce)
How I Experienced The Caviar:
For this review, I opted for a more traditional approach by pairing Caviar Dream's Kaluga Hybrid with crème fraîche, blinis, and my favorite Black-owned champagne, Le KOOL Champagne by Robert Kool Bell.
My Honest Review:
I do not say this lightly - this was by far the best caviar I’ve ever had in my life. It was buttery, had no aftertaste, and truly felt as luxurious as it looked.
Prior to this, my favorite caviar was Imperial Caviar. I’ve tried many brands, from well-known to affordable, while recreating my favorite decadent appetizers at home or enjoying caviar bumps at parties with my friends and they were my favorite until now.
Caviar Dream boasts that chefs are obsessed with this versatile hybrid, which tastes more expensive than it actually is—and they were right. This buttery caviar would pair well with any recipe, especially if you’re looking to impress someone or even treat yourself.
As a Black woman, a business owner, and someone who understands that an extension of financial wellness is circulating our dollars, I recognize the importance of incorporating Black-owned businesses throughout every aspect of my life. From my skincare to my favorite sustainable wine, my bank, and even indulgent experiences like caviar, it matters.
As we celebrate culinary innovation and expand our palates, let’s also take the extra step to support Black-owned businesses while doing it. So the next time you’re tempted by the allure of caviar, order from Caviar Dream—it just might become your new favorite.
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