I'll show you how to do this hun!
From her role as Lakeisha in Starz's hit show Power, to her Motives Cosmetics line - La La is making major moves in the game and it's all well deserved. Starting from the bottom working for free, she credits her experiences as an intern for helping her get her foot through the door and successfully working her way up the entertainment ladder.
Over the years she's dished on some important and "powerful" tips for women hoping to reach a certain level of success that we want to share. Grab a paper and pen!
1. The Power of Distractions: Be Careful!
A lot of times with the people I talk to, we let our circumstances- how we grew up, our families, the guys in our lives, the girls in our lives- dictate where our life goes instead of finding our own power.
I don't think there is one blueprint that anyone could follow but I do think everyone has to figure out what their path is. We all have the power to be great and most of us just don't know it and don't know how to access it.
[Tweet "We all have the power to be great and most of us just don't know it - @lala"]
2. The Power of Having Your Own
(Not Every Successful Woman with a Baller is "Sponsored" (She Didn't Even Want to Date Carmelo at First)
DJ Clue introduced [me and Carmelo]. He was like, 'Yo, my mans been watching you on TV and this and that. Yeah, Carmelo Anthony.' And I was just like- what? Nah. I'm not going to mess around with a basketball player.
But I just felt like they just come with such a stigma and I didn't want that.
My life didn't start like that (with money). My life started from having nothing and just building from there. I didn't come from a family with money, I didn't come from a family in the entertainment business. Nobody knew, my mom was like 'Wait, what? You're going to do what on the radio?' Nobody knew what that was. I worked my way up.
I think I have a different respect for [success] now because I literally had to work radio, then TV, then acting and each thing just to become great at it.
3. The Power in Working for Opportunity (AKA for free!):
[Interning was] very powerful for myself and Ludacris. We started as intern (in radio) s and we worked for free and had to do every and anything and it just helped us be disciplined from where we're at now in life. So if you look at me and Luda, we're always 
on time because we learned that from being interns that we apply now in our careers and stuff.
In the beginning, I was like, 'You're really going to give this radio career up to be a rapper?' It's not that I didn't think his raps weren't good but it's like, we had a good thing going [as radio hosts]. And he was literally saying he is getting in his car and selling his CDs out the trunk of his car. And I was like, 'Yo, you're going to give this job up to do [rapping]?' But I think he made the right decision."
I think power is finding something you love and going after it. [That's] powerful. I don't think money or status is powerful. Getting up and doing something you love every day is powerful. Doing something for others is powerful. It's not about having the most money and cars- I don't equate that
with power.
[Tweet "I don't think money or status is powerful. Power is finding something you love and going after it."]
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4. The Power in Failing: "It's OK. I fail a lot."
I don't have the perfect life... In the acting world, I fail a lot because I go on auditions and I don't get the job but I work so hard. For a lot of people, acting comes naturally. For me, I had to learn acting and learn how to be good at it. It wasn't just a natural thing for me. So auditioning, not getting the job, yeah, that's a sense of failure. You're going out there, you're putting yourself out there and then you are getting told no, you're not right for whatever reason. It's a letdown but I just gotta keep pushing forward and trying.
Last night, while everyone was chilling, I was in an acting workshop from 5pm until 9:30pm. Working, learning and people don't know that, that is what I'm doing in my spare time. I'm just trying to continue to grow.
I went out for Barbershop 3 and I really wanted that one because it felt like it could've been a great movie. I love Malcolm Lee and I always wanted to work with him. I got really close and when I didn't get that, you're disappointed. But you wish everybody the best and you have to believe what is for you is for you, and what's for somebody else is for somebody else. I was doing weaves and stuff. I liked it. I liked the role. But I'm sure the movie is going to be great [still].
5. The Power of Submission
She Learned the Hard Way To Submit to A Man
It is hard but I had to teach myself that you have to do that sometimes.
There is such thing as being "too independent" and I see that with a lot of women that I'm around that are successful and have careers, like you want to wear the pants in a sense and you can't take that from your man or take that from whoever you're dating and I had to learn that.
I think you should be submissive at times to any man that you respect. If you respect him, then you have to let him 'be the man' at different times. Now if you don't respect him, you can [play] him all day. That's a whole different thing. But if you respect him then you kind of have to know when to fall back.
[Tweet "You should be submissive at times to any man that you respect. You have to let him 'be the man'."]
6. The Power of Pacing: You Have to be Careful Not to Overwork- "I almost had a breakdown"
Sometimes I overdo it and I don't think about myself and I just think about my family...I started to feel like I was about to break down. I have to remind myself that I have to take care of me too. Because if I'm not good, I'm not going to be good for work, for Kiyan for Mel. So I have to keep it in perspective because I'm such a workaholic that sometimes I go overboard.
7.The Natural Born Power: All Women Have It!
P***y is power. I'm just saying. I wrote a book called 'The Power Playbook.' It's just unfortunate that most women don't understand that and don't know how to use it to get the power.
8. The Power of Self-Esteem
That is women in general. It's a constant struggle to try and keep everything together and I think all women go through that in different ways.
I just want to feel good about myself. I know when I'm falling off. I fell off the bandwagon for a little while so I'm starting a new program. I'm a chocolate fanatic and I like cheap chocolate like Kit Kats and Nestle Crunch.
So many gems!! Check out the full interview.
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At the top of 2022, I started diving deeper into human design and used it to harness my energy, avoid burnout, and attract aligned opportunities to my life. And, honestly, it has been life-changing! So let’s get into it!
While other self-discovery tools may help us understand how we are, human design can help us understand our core energy power and how we can optimize it to be who we are meant to be. The practice combines aspects of Astrology, numerology, Kabbalah, chakras, and I Ching to create a blueprint unique to each individual.
At its core, human design is based on the understanding that individuals are composed of nine energy centers or chakras, which are all interconnected. These centers influence various aspects of our lives, including relationships, career choices, health, and emotions. By understanding our personal energy centers, we can begin to recognize patterns within our lives that may no longer serve us and make informed decisions about changes we would like to make to create more balance and harmony. What’s not to love?
Well, while all of that sounds great, let’s get back to my main point: I really didn’t understand what any of that meant when I first looked up human design. If that’s you right now, I’ll break it down for you below.
Finding Your Human Design Type
Human design is based on five distinct energy types: Generators, Manifestors, Projectors, Reflectors, and Manifesting Generators. Each type brings a unique set of gifts and challenges, but all require a conscious approach to channeling one’s power to be successful.
You can quickly search human design calculator to find your type. All you’ll need is your date, time, and place of birth.
Now I will need you to get that time of birth precisely right because I fumbled mine by a few minutes and got a completely different type. (If you’re not sure when you were born, it’s time to call your mama!)
When you get your chart, it will say several things, but today, we will focus on each type’s strategy (how to align with your type’s unique power) and not-self theme (how you’ll know you’re not in alignment with your strategy).
The Five Human Design Types
hip hop squares intuition GIF by VH1Giphy1. Generators
We’re kicking it off with Generators because it’s likely that you are one. They make up about 70% of the planet (including manifesting generators); as the name implies, these folks have undeniable energy. They are the busy bees of the world and were made to build.
If you’re a Generator, your strategy is to respond, not to initiate! That can feel confusing because we usually hear we should go out and chase what we want. But you have a unique way you should go about it.
When looking at a human design chart, Generators will always have a defined sacral center. This gives you the capacity to generate energy for life and work. Your strategy to respond also means that you need to trust your intuition. Instead of chasing after any and everything because you can, you need to use your intuition and your endless supply of energy “to respond” to those opportunities that light you up.
Check your chart for your “authority,” which will give you deeper insight into your decision-making process.
And trust me, opportunities will come left and right because being a Generator means you have an open and enveloping aura constantly pulling life towards you.
When you ignore the above by initiating or chasing opportunities instead of responding, not checking in with your authority, and choosing opportunities that are just “okay,” you will activate your not-self theme of frustration, feeling “stuck,” and you can even end up quitting.
When a Generator lives in alignment with their human design, they will experience their signature: satisfaction.
2. Manifesting Generators
Manifesting Generators are part of that 70% of generators in the world. And much of what is true for a Generator is true for a Manifesting Generator. Similar to pure Generators, Manifesting Generators respond to life through their defined sacral center before initiating and they utilize a strategy of waiting to respond before initiating energy.
The difference between Generators and Manifesting Generators is that Manifesting Generators are designed to move from responding to initiating quickly—basically, they go in hot! For this reason, you can sometimes seem restless or impatient as your human design type is coupled with the desire to act even though there is an intrinsic need to wait.
But just like that spark can burst into a flame that will get you going on your next project, it can quickly burn out when it’s not the right project. So once again, tune in to your authority and respond to the right opportunities.
When a Manifesting Generator lives in alignment with their human design, they will experience their signature: freedom.
Snl Season 47 GIF by Saturday Night LiveGiphy3. Manifestors
Don’t shoot the messenger, but, Manifestors are the only ones that should be initiating. These folks make up about 9% of the world and are here to get things started! They are innovative, thriving off freedom and autonomy.
The unique Manifestor magic is in their strategy to inform. Not everyone's ready to handle a Manifestor's powerful impact. Your aura is naturally closed-off and repelling, which can be intimidating for some. Some folks may feel energetically off around a Manifestor and not even understand why. Others may perceive a Manifestor as arrogant.
But because you have a defined throat center in your chart, you are very influential when you speak. Opening up and informing other types about your big plans can relax the energy around you, allowing you to initiate in peace. While you may be tempted to move in silence, you’re not a sacral being like the Generators and may not have the energy to carry out your big plans.
Manifestors are among the types that are recommended to work less than 6 hours a day. Not only may you need to get buy-in for your plans, but not informing can set off your not-self theme anger which will only increase the resistance to your plans.
When Manifestor lives in alignment with their human design, they will experience their signature: peace.
4. Projectors
Now, remember how I told you to make sure you got the time right when calculating your type? Well, I first got a Manifestor, which is so dope, right? I’m the ONLY type that gets to initiate? Heck yes! Welp, I ended up being a Projector, and it turns out that instead of being able to initiate, my strategy was to…wait for an invitation? I was confused and lowkey disappointed, but now I get it!
To all my Projectors, we make up about 20% of the world. We are the seers and guides of society. We have an absorbing and penetrating aura that allows us to see deeply into people and things in a way that no other type can, so it’s easy for us to bring ideas to life by directing energy and helping others reach their potential. That’s why we make such fantastic leaders, guides, and advisors.
Our strategy is to wait for the invitation. While we may so easily see the inefficiencies at work or the incompatibility of our friend’s relationship, when we are not recognized and invited in to offer our two cents, we can quickly be hit with a “who asked you?” or worse, we are ignored.
Especially regarding careers, relationships, and big moves, we need to be recognized for our strengths and invited in to share more of them. That means we do not go out chasing opportunities, but instead, we work on embodying the kind of person invited to the opportunities we want and placing ourselves to be seen and recognized. Start tuning in. What are folks always telling you you’re good at, thanking you for, or telling you you should do? Those are already invitations for you from life.
This is hard because every message about success tells us to do the opposite. But what happens when you don’t do this? When you try to force things, and they inevitably don’t go as planned? We activate our not-self theme of bitterness.
But here’s the good news, when a Projector lives in alignment with their human design, they will experience their signature: success.
Serenity Now Meditation GIF by MOODMANGiphy5. Reflectors
Finally, we have the rarest of them all! Reflectors comprise just one percent of the population and are the ultimate chameleons. Reflectors have a unique ability to observe and discern their environment in profound ways, deeply understanding the people, places, and energy around them.
They don’t have defined centers, so they can both accurately reflect their observations and easily become influenced by outside energy sources. Because of this, their strategy is to wait a lunar cycle before making decisions.
Reflectors must use this innate sensitivity to carefully choose who they spend time with, investing in those who feel elevating and expansive while avoiding anything toxic or draining.
Additionally, solo time is fundamental for Reflectors so they can take the necessary breaks from absorbing others’ energies and reset.
When a reflector lives in alignment with their human design, they will experience their signature: harmony.
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Originally published on February 6, 2023