It can be overwhelming. Luckily, I’ve tried and tested a number of body products, both editor-recommended and influencer-approved, so you don’t have to. Below are my six favorite products that’ll give you the summer body glow you deserve.
Keys Soulcare Sacred Body Oil
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Being the all-natural queen she is, Alicia Keys’ body oil is exactly what I expected. Soulcare’s Sacred Body Oil is simple, minimalistic, and light. It’s the perfect day-to-day addition to establishing the “your skin always looks so healthy” reputation. I’m not a huge fan of the marula oil’s earthy scent, but wearing it over my Vaseline Intensive Care Cocoa Radiant Lotion breaks it down. They also play nicely together as hydrators since the Sacred Body Oil includes baobab and jojoba oil. I appreciate the dropper style of distribution so I have better control of the amount used compared to pump bottles.
Bonus points for a little bit going a long way. When I tell you my skin looks like I just stepped out of a natural spring…chef’s kiss.
Refy Body Glow
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If you were a 2023 Glaze Donut nail girly, you’ll appreciate Refy’s Body Glow. It’s described as a “lightweight moisturizer,” which is definitely true, but the real highlight is its pearly pigment that literally turns you into a walking glazed donut. The Body Glow only comes in the shade Topaz but is complimentary to all skin tones. Personally on my dark skin, I looked both glowy and slightly bronzed.
It’s a thicker consistency than the others on our list but isn’t heavy or greasy.
There is a very light shimmer that you only really see in the sunlight. If even that subtlety still isn’t your thing, you might opt for the next up on our list.
Kopari Sun Shield Body Glow
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Kopari’s Body Glow is another pearly goodie but without the shimmer. It melts into and enhances your skin’s richness more than anything else. The best thing is its UVA and UVB ray protection components. All three shades contain SPFs of different ranges – Rose Gold 45 (pictured), Gold 50, and Amber 30. Of course, everything has its cons. I found myself re-applying it almost every hour to look refreshed.
A trick I found helpful à la TikTok recommended topping it off with setting spray. I got the best results from Urban Decay’s All Nighter with Hyaluronic Acid and Milk Makeup’s Hydro Grip Spray. They’re both water-based, with over 10 hours of long-lasting results.
Pixi On-The-Glow Bronzer + Laneige Glowy Makeup Serum
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Here’s a 2 for 1. For the girlies who like a bronzed, dewy look, this one's for you. Pixi’s On-The-Glow Bronzer takes a turn from the previous products. It’s in the form of a stick so I apply it directly from the tube and blend it with my fingers. I honestly wish Pixi made a jumbo stick for the full body. This less than an ounce tube is best used on the face, neck, collarbone, and (if you’re feeling extra) cleavage. Buildable colors like “RichGlow” (pictured) and “BeachGlow” are ideal for deep skin tones and are perfect for adding warmth to your face instead of using contour products.
Aside from looking like Laneige literally crushed up diamonds for this formula, the Glowy Makeup Serum is just as beneficial as it is pretty. Directions include adding drops to your foundation for long-lasting wear or using it as a makeup primer. I prefer to use it as the final step to my skincare even after sunscreen if I’m in a minimal makeup mood. Honestly, I haven’t used a face serum that’s kept my skin this hydrated for hours.
ILIA Liquid Light Serum Highlighter
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Remember the Twilight friend I mentioned? ILIA’s Liquid Light Serum Highlighter is her in a bottle. You know how we add highlighter under our brows to enhance the arch and illuminate our eyes? Imagine that effect all over your body with the addition of ultra shimmer. At first glance, I didn’t expect to see a difference between any of the three shades – “Nova,” “Atomic,” and “Astrid” (recommended for deep tones). But there actually are noticeable subtle changes in their gold hues. I stayed away from Nova (soft gold) because I noticed a bit of a white cast after applying it, but “Atomic” (pink pearl) wasn’t as unforgiving.
Pro tip: add a small dot to your foundation before applying it to your face and neck to keep the look even. Thank me later.
Gorgeous skin doesn’t stop at your face. Your body deserves to shine, too! Treat yourself to one or all of these goodies and let your summer skin get its glow on.
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“What’s not said is not understood” is one of my favorite coined mottos. Manifesting my best soft girl life doesn’t include biting my tongue from asking necessary questions and sticking to ego-stroking facts of what a great school he went to or how cute that his first son must share his first name. It includes having a partner who’s ready and willing to not only match my energy but also contribute to my lifestyle. So tell me, how I’m supposed to do that if we’re busy talking about how his favorite thing to do is go to Lakers games? (Like, honestly, who really cares?)
Now, I’m not saying start going into dates, guns blazing, asking about credit scores, and how many kids he wants. But that’s not to say you shouldn’t want to have an idea of his financial setup and goals. The key is subtlety. While I’m no dating expert and quite single, I’ve found myself wasting less time by wording questions in a deliberate way that helps sift through the Prince Charmings and Mr. Right Nows. These are a few I recommend:
“Tell me a red flag about yourself that you think I should know.”
You know how job interviewers ask you to describe your biggest weakness? This is the same idea. It’s an opportunity to show vulnerability and self-awareness. Follow up by asking if he’s actively working on improving. Whatever the response, it’s up to you to decide if it’s alarming enough to either run or stay. But I can’t emphasize this enough: PLEASE don’t take this as a charming challenge of “I can change him.” He’s (fill in the blank) years old. He’s had (fill in the blank) amount of years to change. If he hasn’t, he has no desire to.
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“Do you do your work for the money or because of passion?”
I like this question because it indicates how attached he is to his career. I’ve found men who do what they do because of passion are more willing to sacrifice quality time for work. Passion is admirable, yes, but you’re looking for a romantic partner – not a business consultant. You’ll get an idea of his work-life balance. Is he the type to take time off for a couple’s vacation? Or will you spend your summer Saturdays local because he can’t pull himself away? While the ones who work for money may have more free time, are contrarily miserable and up to start a new career path at some point. The new question is, are you willing to stand beside the financial stall that it might put him through?
“What do you want your ideal household with your partner to look like, responsibility-wise?”
If you want to know if he’s the type to take care of all the bills or expects you to go 50/50, ask this question. It’s worded perfectly for him to answer however he interprets. Whether it defines who pays the bills to who takes out the garbage. However, if he’s not sure how to answer, elaborate by saying, “Do you prefer your partner to have the more traditional role of only taking care of the house, or do you look forward to sharing all of the responsibilities down the middle?” He’ll most likely ask you in turn, and it’s up to you to be as honest about your expectations as you feel at that moment. I gently communicate my preferences even if they differ from his because I don’t want to create false expectations for myself, trying to gain his favor.
“How much of an influence does your family have on your love life?”
We love a family man. It’s the cornerstone of healthy relationships. But for some, there is such a thing as too much family. It’s important to know how close they are so you’ll get an idea of how much their opinions can affect the relationship. Consider the following: Will there be tension if you skip family events? How willing is he to create boundaries necessary for your comfort? Can you rely on him to put his foot down when his sisters are being overprotective?
Then, once we’re in a more comfortable place, I’ll even ask how his family handled the end of his last relationship. His answer can indicate how emotionally involved they were, so listen for hints of them missing her or having complete disdain. (How they talk about her is how they’ll talk about you.)
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“When did you realize you were ready to settle down?”
This question can be scary to answer but only depending on his true intentions. It assumes that you’re both on the same page. Just the thought of a serious relationship will make the biggest serial dater squirm and accidentally admit that he’s not interested in anything serious after all. He may also pull the nonchalant card by reciting the “I’m just vibing” script. *gag* Whereas, a man of intention will straight up say exactly how he knows he’s prepared to enter a committed partnership. Don’t take this as 100% Bible, though. Continue to make sure his actions match his words because there’s nothing worse than being tricked into a situationship based on empty promises.
Really, all we can do is be intentional, learn lessons, and apply those lessons along the way. There’s no foolproof way of dating, so we can’t afford to waste time not asking the right questions. While knowing his zodiac sign is arguably quite important, let’s make sure we’re setting up our futures for everything we deserve and more.
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For years, I fought against getting a perm. Health concerns aside, it just felt categorically “anti-Black.” On the other hand, I was completely over my 4B hair and the disrespect it came with: constant frizz, never behaving, and never blending with my sew-ins. My frustration became a gateway into damaging habits. For a time, I got sew-ins and resorted to perming my leave out just to avoid the hassle. It was desperate (and embarrassing), but had to be done in order to withhold what an HU woman represented.
Moving to Los Angeles birthed an even more empowered version of myself. If you’ve ever been a Black woman living in LA, you know the standard of beauty is very monolithic. Ironically, the shared resentment we have from being mistreated based on misogyny is also what bonds us. Sometimes, it feels like wearing our type 4 hair loud and proud is a boisterous “F you” to society. Unfortunately, that pride comes with a lot of responsibility.
Keratin treatment
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Black women have an unspoken duty to love themselves no matter what. We side-eye women who wear colored contacts. We categorize women who get BBLs. And people with nose jobs or Botox? Straight to jail. It felt impossible to find a safe place to be vulnerable about any of my physical insecurities. Let’s be real. How can you picture something nicknamed “creamy crack” being socially acceptable? Many will say, “it’s just hair.”
But the conversation is bigger than that. Admitting I didn’t like one of the most obvious things that connected me to my culture was a painful reality to accept. I wasn’t allowed to feel or complain about it. I definitely wasn’t allowed to change it because I’d be “giving into the patriarchy’s standard of beauty,” meaning I didn’t love myself. So I forced myself to suffer through self-consciousness, afraid of displeasing MY people. That was until I heard about keratin treatments.
Applying keratin treatment
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Keratin treatments hit the scene in a very dramatic way. Primarily by people warning consumers about the risks that come with it. Many people don’t acknowledge that keratin is a protein that the body produces naturally. The treatment uses a keratin-based product that produces straighter and/or smoother hair (results vary depending on thickness and length). The formula typically has little to no smell, and rather than getting washed out, like the perming process, it’s sealed in with heat using a blowdryer, followed by several passes with a flat iron.
Call it fate (or TikTok’s algorithm), but the hysteria around it was too intriguing to ignore. A treatment that reduces frizz, adds shine, and can loosen curls with reduced breakage as the cherry on top? It sounded like the hair gods were finally listening. I had to get one.
Monica Jones of Beauty by Monica took me into her chair and under her wing. Though she educated me on the misconceptions behind keratin treatments and brought awareness to formaldehyde chemicals, my only thoughts were, is this actually going to work for me? Is this cheating? Can I still call myself a natural hair girly? Then it hit me. Does any of that really matter?
Hair washed after applying keratin treatment
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My hair is mine to do whatever I choose to do with it. Every crown is unique; no one’s is one size fits all. After the first keratin treatment, my confidence blossomed. Yes, partly because my curls were visibly a level looser and allowed more versatile styles. But also because I evolved as a woman. Every relationship changes as we grow, whether for better or worse. I choose to take control of my relationships including the one with my hair. We got to re-introduce ourselves to each other, allowing a clean slate with more patience and compromise.
I threw away the outside noise that made me question my blackness. Embracing my natural hair was considered “living in my truth,” but ironically, that wasn’t the case for me. I was lying to myself and did more harm mentally with the pressures I adopted. We already face challenges day-to-day that are out of our control. We need to be open-minded to people with basically no "c" hair getting braids because “Black people can’t own a hairstyle.” We have to support non-Black women getting surgery to create the physical attributes Black women naturally have and were once called “ugly” for. We’re to be understanding of people getting spray tans cosplaying as mixed race to be racially ambiguous.
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Meanwhile, dark-skinned women are still getting blocked from certain nightclubs. For some reason, it’s socially acceptable for other ethnicities to not “live in their truth,” but not Black people. The short end of the stick is constantly handed to us by others with the expectation of just being grateful for an opportunity, acknowledgment, etc. If no one’s going to give us grace, we must grant it to ourselves.
There’s nothing shameful about wanting to change something about ourselves, whether it’s internal or external. Black women are the strongest people on this Earth. And while strength is found in acceptance, it also lives in vulnerability and our unapologetic pursuit of pleasing ourselves before anyone else.
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