Meagan Good Gets Real About Freezing Her Eggs While Deciding If She Wants Kids
Egg freezing, also known as mature oocyte cryopreservation, is a method used to save women's ability to get pregnant in the future. Eggs harvested from your ovaries are frozen unfertilized and stored for later use. A frozen egg can be thawed, combined with sperm in a lab and implanted in your uterus via IVF, or in vitro fertilization.
Think of it as an insurance policy that's there to catch you in the event that when life calms down, you decide to move forward with having a family. Freezing eggs has become more and more popular over the years, as science has normalized the process thus making it less taboo.
Meagan Good was in her late 30's when she decided to take the plunge and freeze her eggs.
And now, with turning 40 years old this year, she is taking the time to determine if kids are in her immediate future. She tells Romper:
"When you say you're not sure you want to be a mom, people look at you like you're a bad person. As if something's wrong with you. But I was never really that girl who said, 'I can't wait to get married,' 'I can't wait to be a mother.' I was very much a tomboy, and I started my career so young that I'd always been very business-oriented."
In fact, Good says, it wasn't until she got married to husband DeVon Franklin, who she wed in 2012, that Meagan even gave having children a second thought.
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"It wasn't until I got married that I even considered having a family. My husband and I talked in the beginning, like, 'Do you want kids down the road?' And I said, 'I think I do.' But it was never 'right now' or 'soon.' I think we both knew that we wanted to wait a few years and really grow as a couple first, solidify the marriage. He started getting the itch way before me, definitely, but it was a very open conversation, which I loved and appreciated. Even though he was ready, he didn't pressure me or make me feel bad because I wasn't there yet."
And with the times and expectations of women in motherhood evolving, data shows that Good isn't the only one who has moved forward with the process. In fact, more women have frozen their eggs during the pandemic than have ever in the past, a number expected to grow 25 percent annually for the next few years.
As far as how the process was for her, Good says, "it wasn't a nightmare at all."
"I froze my eggs three years ago. I think everyone's different, but for me, it wasn't a nightmare at all. The process gave me peace of mind, 100%. I have my faith, and freezing my eggs, to be proactive instead of reactive, is me putting in work with my faith. You'll never regret doing it, but you might really regret not doing it."
Ultimately, our girl is on track to becoming a mommy.
"I want to be a mom and I want a family and I'm just now to a place where I think it's about that time. We were looking to start this year, but then the pandemic happened. But I'm excited! Because I can't wait to get to it now. That's a very new thing for me. It's a really cool feeling."
We're sending all the love as you embark on your journey to motherhood, Meagan!
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ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
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According To TikTok, This Wellness Concoction Is The Cheat Code To Getting That 'Slip N Slide'
Being a woman is no easy feat. Don’t get me wrong, I love it here – I do! But, it’s not for the faint of heart. And, by faint of heart, I mean men.
Here’s the short list of things we navigate (in no particular order) that make me know God is, in fact, a woman: menstruation, men (good, bad, and ugly), motherhood, and maintaining the motherfucking magic in our relationships. We hold shit down. We get shit done.
There’s simply no denying that, at our best, women are godly! We’re also imaginative, crafty, and intuitive when we allow ourselves to be. We listen to and know our bodies like no other. Though, with Western medicine and generally being displaced from our roots, I think many of us have become out of touch with what’s natural to us and for us. However, I believe we’re attempting to return to what feels right–what feels natural.
TikTok has made it a bit easier as we’ve been able to hear first-person accounts of natural remedies such as okra water and its benefits for all things womanly, and then some. You’ve seen what I’m talking about–all the hype around okra water providing additional vaginal lubrication for women and also, its ability to make for easier labor for expecting mothers.
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Benefits of Drinking Okra Water
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Between its believed contributions to digestive health and blood sugar control, drinking okra water has a lot going for itself in terms of possible health benefits. One of its most sought-after benefits is the helping hand it lends to those laboring children. Though there isn't a lot of science to support these claims, there’s lots of talk about how okra water can assist with the birthing process, with labor said to be easier through reduced pain, and the added lubrication is thought to help the baby "slide out" during the actual birth.
The believed increase in vaginal lubrication that the concoction is said to create is believed to be another benefit of regularly consuming okra water. Let me add there have been women warning against just how much additional lubrication (Smuckers, gushy-gushy, that wet-wet) it can cause. And, I would say heed this warning if you are someone who feels embarrassed by maybe the idea of squirting and excessive wetness.
The bulk of the knowledge around these particular health benefits is anecdotal, and while there does seem to be other health benefits, we can’t be certain of which ones and the quantity of nutrients being infused into the water in this form.
How To Make Okra Water
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Making okra water is a rather straightforward process. The simplest way is taking okra pods (frozen or fresh but preferably organic) and putting them in an encapsulated bottle with water to soak for up to 24 hours. Once you’ve made it, rest assured it will have a very thick and slimy texture–this is where it gets subjective. I could try it and tell you my experience, but I’ve seen some people say the flavor isn’t that bad while others say that they can’t handle the texture.
But, once you’ve made the okra water, feel free to mix it in with drinks like lemonade or a complimentary tea. And, as a pro tip, you can even add mint to infuse with your water to further enhance the taste. Though, I’m thinking when people are trying to enhance the taste it’s the texture they’re trying to distract from as many people seem to think the flavor is manageable–texture? Not so much.
You can also add okra water to smoothies, or make popsicles from it – the sky’s the limit when you’re an okra pod.
I know there’s this natural urge to be distrustful of things that haven’t been proven by…well…Western medicine. Though the research is not there in that regard, it seems to be common knowledge and a useful remedy amongst the African community.
I want to point out that our ancestors disseminated and passed along information for generations anecdotally. They shared their first-hand accounts of what worked and what didn’t work. So now, here I am, sharing the stories of others because this is how we get the recipes back! I do encourage everyone to do their due diligence when going the holistic route.
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