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Is It Possible To Be Best Friends With An Ex? Erykah Badu Says 'Yes'

"He's one of my best friends on the planet."

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Erykah Badu and Andre 3000 (Andre Benjamin) are synonymous to many things: grade-A co-parents. [Ex] Lovers and friends.

They're each equally as precious and necessary to black culture as the other, with eventually back in the day, linking up and having one of the most famous love affairs in 90s Hip-Hop. And recently, their relationship was carefully described as so much more.

Because according to Badu, her and the Outkast rapper are best friends.

In a Rolling Stone interview with Summer Walker, Badu addressed the current state of their relationship:

"He just left Dallas, actually. He came down for my grandma's memorial. He's one of my best friends on the planet. I care for him so very much, about his livelihood, his art, his feelings. And I'm a super big fan of him. I'm assuming he's also a fan of my music. We're really close."

She went on to add that their relationship fits any dynamic or anything that life throws their way.

"We laugh all the time, talk about things. It's brother and sister, it's grandmother and grandson, it's father and daughter. It's so many different things depending on what the situation calls for."

All to which Summer Walker called "beautiful".

Since their initial relationship, Badu and Andre have had a son, Seven, 23, who is famously damn near identical to his dad. They've featured the other in their music, and publicly shouted each other (and their love) out on various platforms. From Andre infamously referencing their breakup in "Ms. Jackson", to Badu joining Outkast on stage and exclaiming, "That's my baby daddy!"

She even wished him a happy birthday on Instagram with the caption:

"Glad you were born, friend.
5/27/1200bc THIS IS SPARTA!!!! Lol HBD 3. ...❤️badu"

Badu continued on about their relationship:

"He's one of the most caring people that I know. [Our son] Seven adopted this same energy from him. They both have this look on their face as if they're saying, 'I hope it works for you.' No matter what it is. They're nonjudgmental people. We respect each other's art. We're snobs when it comes to art and literature, but I never hear him putting people down at all. He gives everything the benefit of the doubt and consideration. He wants it to work out for people."

Their rapport is unmatched and basically the co-parenting goals we all want in our lives, as Andre 3000 has expressed the same sentiments. He once told Vibe:

"Erykah and I are cool friends, man. We talk on the phone. She even asks my advice on relationships. She's like a cool sister more than anything. The first thing people would think about us is, 'Oh, they don't get along.' But there are always feelings when people grow apart. It's something you have to get through. But man, we are cool."

But Badu and Benjamin aren't the only ex-couple who are good friends, couples such as Lisa Bonet and Lenny Kravitz are also part of the scarce group of celebrity exes who are good friends. The two famously share a daughter, Zoe Kravitz, and since their split up in 1993, they've manage to navigate a divorce and find their way to friendship.

Kravitz once told The Times:

"You go through a marriage with somebody, you break up and it's very difficult. But [Lisa and I] put the work in and we took the time so that we could become best friends again. Our families are blended."

Kravitz even shares matching rings with Bonet's current husband, actor Jason Momoa, who gifted them as a gesture of friendship.

We love to see it!

However we choose to maneuver through life, if kids are involved, may we all reach this level of maturity to successfully rebuild friendships with an ex-lover for the healthiness, and betterment, of our lives.

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