Your January 2019 Monthly Horoscopes Are Here!
January is an explosive month! 2019 has some huge things going on astrologically, which will either push or pull you in ways that are unexpected. There is a partial lunar eclipse happening this month. Lunar eclipses channel the closure of things and where that is, depends on your Sun sign. Take note of your rising sign as this affects your monthly horoscope as well.
What you do during this month will truly give roots to what happens to you in the summer.
Starting in mid to late December, we started to see major expansion shifts while Jupiter, the planet of abundance and generosity, did a little tap dance through our charts. Now that the new year is here and the effects of Jupiter are more integrated with our lives, we will see even more potentials for growth, learning, and joy. But along with the positive expansions of Jupiter, there will also be some negative push backs from important planetary transits. This can either be the push you need to get up and go, or a reason to stay in your comfort zone. Get ready my lovely sisters! We are off to a great start in the new year!
ARIES & ARIES RISING
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Your momentum keeps going at the start of the new year as you seek opportunities to connect with others in a more meaningful and emotional way. This is not just a one-way street though – as others will be attracted to you too as your vibes project out into your surroundings.
Pack your bags Aries! Travel might be the biggest theme for you starting January 7th. Although this travel bug might not end up with you going on your "dream trip", any excuse to get out of your normal routine will do your psyche good. Keep your ears perked for travel opportunities, such as a friend who invites you on a trip or maybe a last-minute chance to visit family.
Any travel during January and early February will result in increasing your opportunities for mind-expanding situations, which will greatly enhance your life going forward.
Has your boss been getting on your nerves lately? Planetary transits are encouraging you to confront your superiors this month. Yet, even though you are feeling quite empowered to confront authority, that doesn't mean you should! Calm your emotions and use your power to instead create a killer life plan to better your productivity or make a well-thought out plan to approach your boss for a raise.
Towards the end of the month is a great time to slow down a bit and spend more time with your friends who may have been feeling left behind as you attack your career and travel plans with wild abandon. In the coming months, you will experience even more of a desire to slow things down and connect with loved ones. This will be very good for your mental health, as you find that your nerves get to take a break while you take a breather.
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When discussing the topic of raising children, discipline is often the first thing that comes to mind. Children need discipline. Full stop. But what is discipline? And how do we draw the line between discipline and revenge?
The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
And the parent isn’t wrong. Talking often doesn’t work the first, the third, or the even the 10th time. And the reason is directly tied to brain development.
Children cannot and do not process information the way an adult can. Auditory processing is not fully developed until a child is 14 or 15 years old. And even then, if a child has auditory processing delays or Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), they may always struggle with processing auditory commands. According to Susie S. Loraine, MA, CCC-SLP, the term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four-step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening.
Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:
Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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