Butt Skincare Is A Thing & These Are The Products You Need
*cues "She Got a Donk" by Soulja Boy* Small booties, big booties, or average booties — all booties matter. They matter so much that we need to incorporate them into our beauty routine. It's a hot-healed-girl summer full of events where we might literally be showing our ass. At last, it's time to put our best ass forward.
Over the past year, we have seen booty beauty become a thing, and rightfully so. Even taking the time to tell your derrière how much you appreciate the way it holds you down is important. With all of our imperfections, we ultimately desire smoother skin from head to toe. There are ways to combat these blemishes. Without further ado, check out these products we have rounded up to bask in this Summer of Buns.
That Booty Tho The Original Booty Scrub
This product is known to help the people with stretch marks and wrinkles while also providing a rich amount of antioxidants and essential fatty acids. The three hydrating oils are equivalent to a nourishing butt grab. "By using That Booty Tho 2-3 times per week to polish your butt, you can say bye to acne, slay stretch marks, and tell cellulite to take a hike." Your bottom is guaranteed to be smoother after each and every use.
Squeeze It Butt Mask
I received this mask in a Fashion Week gift bag once and boy was I grateful. Bawdy Beauty is the home of the original butt mask and its mission is to provide tools to help everyone experience unapologetic body freedom through touch and play. Consider this sheet mask the new facelift for your butt. The ingredients are 100 percent natural and infused with plants. The whole experience of applying a sheet mask to your ass is one that everyone should encounter.
Power To The Peach
I got my peaches out in Georgia drenched in this oil or whatever Justin Bieber said. Made up of peach and apricot kernel oils, this oil is packed with collagen-boosting powers that firm and tone your peach like no other. The selling point? It is blessed with our favorite crystal, rose quartz, meaning you're giving your bottom all kinds of unconditional love.
Brazilian Bum Bum Cream
Sol de Janeiro's Brazilian Bum Bum Cream has received awards for being the ultimate Brazilian Beauty Secret. Brazilian Babe Tip, "Pronounced 'boom boom' in Brazil, the bum bum is a nation-wide obsession. It's ALL about body joy and taking care of ourselves head-to-toe, which is why Brazil has the smallest bikinis and best-fitting jeans. And beautiful bum bums have a secret—a cream, created with caffeine-rich Guaraná." There's no denying that this cream is transformative.
Clay Butt Mask
This is the only "stick" that should be near your tush. It's easy to use and gives your bum the plump, plump, plump. Heralded as a luxurious treatment, the butt mask includes Kaolin and montmorillonite which purifies and exfoliates while the Willow Bark reduces fine lines and hyaluronate hydrates. If you're struggling with acne-prone skin, it's time to add this product to your booty beauty ritual.
Smoothing Butt Polish
It may look like sherbert ice cream but it's really the polish dedicated to firming up your booty. Brightening, tightening, and moisturizing is what you can expect from Buns Of Glowry. Fans of the product say they have never experienced their buns being so soft. You can use it in the shower or the bath by mixing it with water to create a grandeur lather. Before you know it, the wheat protein is decreasing cellulite and the watermelon extract is serving up major hydration.
Le Tush Butt Mask
Every now and then you just gotta give your ass a facial. Le Tush does just that especially if you struggle with Keratosis Pilaris, "a common, harmless skin condition that causes dry, rough patches and tiny bumps, often on the upper arms, thighs, cheeks or buttocks." The girls consider this to be the holy grail of booty beauty because it will change your life. It could be the glycolic, malic, and azelaic acids combined with the willow bark and squalane that truly leave your tush in radiant shape.
Glow & Tighten Butt Serum
Butt serum? Who said that? *in Porsha Williams voice* Move over face serums, butt serums are here to elevate your booty glow-up. The bitter orange and apricot paired together tackle cell deterioration and give your skin the aesthetic it TRULY deserves. Much like face serums, you apply this product in between your cleanser and moisturizer. The brand also offers a Worry-Free Guarantee so if you're pleased, they promise to make it right.
ExfoliMATE® 2.0 POCKET | Aqua
Invite this new mate into the shower with you to clean out your pores for healthier skin. Your washcloth is tired so what better bathtime BFF than the ExfoliMATE. "And because friends don't let friends have bad skin, ExfoliMate sloughs away dead skin cells and bacteria to boast a blemish-free body and restore your youthful glow."
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Joce Blake is a womanist who loves fashion, Beyonce and Hot Cheetos. The sophistiratchet enthusiast is based in Brooklyn, NY but has southern belle roots as she was born and raised in Memphis, TN. Keep up with her on Instagram @joce_blake and on Twitter @SaraJessicaBee.
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Honestly, I don’t know if it will surprise y’all or not to know that a few years back, Vice published an article entitled, “Women Get Bored in Bed Faster Than Men.” When it comes to the clients I work with, what I will say is men tend to underestimate how creative women can be while women seem to overlook that men fake orgasms just about as much as they do. My grand takeaway from all of this? Folks need to be intentional when it comes to keeping the spice alive in their sex life; especially if they’re in a long-term relationship.
That’s why, when one couple came to me and asked what was something that they could do to light the fire (pun intended) in their own bedroom, the first thing that I asked was if they had ever tried wax play before. You should’ve seen the expression on their faces. LOL.
When it comes to things like that, I think that it’s still taboo for some, simply because they’ve only seen it on a movie screen or heard about it in true extreme sexual contexts — and so, they don’t think that it’s something that is “for them” when, the reality is, with the right tips in tow, wax play can be for pretty much anyone…and everyone.
So today, let’s add something new to some of y’all’s boudoir list of activities. Here are 10 things that will, hopefully, help you to see the flames of wax play (I’ve got puns all over the place today) in a whole new light.
1. Anticipation Does Wonders for Sexual Arousal
GiphyI once read an article by a mental health expert who said that anticipation is probably the greatest aphrodisiac of all. It builds excitement. It fuels curiosity. At the end of the day, it’s like a mental form of edging because you’re getting close to something that you look forward to — although you’re not quite there yet. Listen, he’s not off base because even science says that anticipation can give you a dopamine hit that can ultimately improve your sexual experiences.
Keeping this point in mind, how can watching hot wax drip from a candle and head toward your body not fuel some level of anticipation? Especially if it’s your first few times trying it? A woman by the name of Ana Monnar once said, “Anticipation is sometimes more exciting than actual events.” Just something to consider, when it comes to entertaining bringing wax play into your world, my dear.
2. Wax Play Is Peak-Level Foreplay
GiphyWe all know what foreplay is, right? Just to be sure that we’re all on the same page, a very basic definition is it’s something that typically happens right before sex in order to arouse the people who are about to have it. And since foreplay is pretty much the prelude to copulation, it’s important that “the appetizer” is damn near as good as the “main course.” Wax play can help to ensure that because, aside from what I just said about anticipation, it can also help you and your partner tap into your more sensual and seductive sides. It’s hot. It requires being mindful. And since so much give and take is involved, it requires both people to be very into the moment. Lawd. Wax play is sexy to even just think about!
3. Temperature Pleasure Is Lots of Fun
GiphyOkay, say that you’ve never played with wax (in this way) before. Have you ever incorporated ice cubes? I ain’t gonna let y’all get ALL up in my business, so…let me just say (for now) that some ice during oral sex ain’t neva hurt nobody…quite the contrary! There’s something about the unexpected cool that mixes around with the warmth of a mouth that is truly unmatched. Along these same lines, wax play brings in the heat and, what makes temperature pleasure/play so awesome is, that it uses the sensations of different temperatures to bring out different forms of stimulation.
Another thing that’s worth noting about temperature pleasure is if you’re someone who considers yourself to be on the sexually conservative side yet you do like this type of activity, whether you realize it or not, you’re low-key participating in a form of kink (yep!). This brings me to my next point.
4. Wax Play Is an Introduction to Kink
GiphyIt’s kind of interesting how some people clam up at the thought of a (sexual) kink when the reality is, at the end of the day, it’s about having a certain type of sexual experience (as opposed to a fetish that focuses on objects or body parts; like a foot fetish, for example). So, if it’s that simple, why does it intimidate a lot of folks? Well, kinks tend to delve into people’s fantasies or unconventional ways of thinking (like BDSM or voyeurism).
At the same time, the cool thing about kinks is you control how deep you want to go. Just know that if you do participate in wax play, there’s no point in turning up your nose to the whole kink thing; wax play technically qualifies.
5. Soy Does One Thing. Paraffin Does Another.
GiphyOkay, so let’s spend a couple of moments talking about the things that you need to get the most out of your wax play experience. First, please don’t be out here imitating movies. While they will have you believing that you should pull a taper candle from your dining room table and go ham with it, it’s best to go with massage candles; they are specifically designed for wax play and body massages (The Knot has a recommendation list here and Women’s Health has a list of their own here).
When it comes to candles, in general, I’m always a fan of soy because they burn cleaner and last longer. However, when it comes to wax play, two other reasons why soy is best is it’s natural and “burns lower;” this simply means that once the wax hits your body, it won’t be as hot as, say, paraffin wax will (because it has a higher burning point).
What all of this means is if you want a more comfortable experience, go with a soy (or even a shea butter or beeswax) candle. If you want to play with the big (wax play) kids, try paraffin.
Oh, and if you’re wondering if you can never use “regular” candles — I mean, it’s your body. All I’m saying is some candles are designed for wax play; birthday candles? They are not. Feel me?
6. Massage Candles Feel Incredible on Your Muscles and Joints
GiphySo, here’s the thing about massage candles: If you’ve ever had a professional massage before, your massage therapist may have used them. And if you’ve gotten a high-end mani/pedi, some paraffin wax may have come into play (no pun intended). That’s because the wax from both types of candles has health benefits that include relaxing muscles, improving joint mobility, and increasing blood flow throughout the body. And when you factor in the fact that the better you physically feel before sex, the better sex will be during it — isn’t that just one more plus for and perk of wax play? I definitely think so.
7. The Aromatherapy Is Incomparable
GiphySomething else that’s awesome about most massage candles is they have a wonderfully alluring scent to them, by design. Yes, that matters too because there is plenty of data out here to support the fact that aromatherapy does everything from reduce stress and relieve bodily discomfort to treat headaches and fight off infections (word on the street is that it may even help with menstrual cramps and menopause).
As far as your sex life goes, aromatherapy is supreme because certain essential oils double up as aphrodisiacs. Lavender, neroli, and rose are proven to improve your sexual function. Geranium reduces anxiety. And listen, if climaxing is your ultimate goal, check out “Ultimate Climax Hack? 10 Scents That Make It So Much Easier To Orgasm” and then look for massage oils that smell like, say, vanilla, saffron or jasmine. Bottom line, a good massage candle that smells amazing is going to be worth every cent that you spent to purchase it.
8. You Will Learn Communication (and Dirty Talk) on a Whole ‘Nother Level
GiphyOne of the reasons why I once penned, “Are You Ready To Apply Your Love Language To Your Sex Life?” for the platform is because, if there’s one thing that I think is so awesome about sex, is it finds a way to incorporate all five of your senses (sight, touch, taste, sound and hearing) as well as your top love languages (words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, physical touch and gifts — if you’re open to it).
And when it comes to hearing (and words of affirmation), this is another area where wax play can be a winner because, as you’re learning what works for your partner and they learn what works for you, words have to be exchanged… perhaps even dirty ones.
And why is dirty talk so damn effective? According to scientific research, it has the ability to activate your entire brain (the biggest sex organ that you have) and when this is going on while you’re being physically stimulated — chile, the sky truly is the limit!
9. Wax Play Is Completely Customizable
GiphyYou know back when I was talking about soy candles vs. paraffin ones? Something that I didn’t mention, by design at the time, is that, although I will forever be Team Massage Candles when it comes to this particular topic, there are some known as wax play candles too. What’s the difference? Wax play candles tend to remain pretty hard (after being lit up) while massage candles are designed to melt into a liquid that you can massage on your partner’s body.
Why am I bringing this all up now? Well, it’s to serve as a reminder that wax play can be “dialed up” or “turned down” based on what you want to do. If you just want to put a twist on a massage, you can do that. If you’d like to test your partner’s tolerance level by applying more heat for longer, do that.
Just make sure that you use the kind of wax that doesn’t fully melt on shaved areas of the body (pretty sure why is self-explanatory), that you moisturize your skin beforehand (it’s easier to remove the wax…or whatever is leftover) that way and that you pour around 15-20 inches away from your partner’s body; that gives it time to cool somewhat on the way down. Oh, and if you don’t want to jack up your sheets, you might want to lay down a protective drop cloth (like this one here).
10. It Sure As Hell Ain’t Boring
Season 1 Friends GIF - Find & Share on GIPHYGiphyLast point — and it brings all of this full circle. Now that you’ve read all of the ways that wax play can benefit your sex life, how in the world could you associate it with “boring” on any level? Anything that can get you hype, cultivate eagerness, and enhance what you’ve already got going on…that is worth putting on your sex bucket list and trying at least one time, wouldn’t you say? And why can’t that time be…TONIGHT? Shoot your man a pick of a massage candle with a heart and watch him beat you home.
Then report back (with edits…LOL).
Something tells me that you’ll become a wax play fan — SOON.
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