What It Really Means To Go With The Flow
Sometimes it seems that we live our lives on autopilot, unable to absorb the blessing in each moment. Or that we're buzzed on symbolic caffeine, and I can't stop "doing". Our world encourages us to constantly be constructive, and even when we do get some much needed R&R, we still somehow get roped up into doing something!
In truth, one of the only ways to get in tune with self, is to tune out. And to truly live in the present moment means to recognize and connect deeply with the energies around you.
Ultimately, this is a deep understanding that you are individually an incarnation of all that exists and connected to the universal oneness.
3 Reasons To Go With The Flow & Stay Present In Life
1.You'll Find Joy In Being Present
By understanding I AM Presence, God is not only a being that you acknowledge as a higher power, or a "man in the heavens," rather, you awaken to that higher power within yourself.
One way to actively be present is to become childlike. When you look at children playing, they are enjoying the world from a limitless perception. Their innocence allows them to find divine joy in their existence alone and is the reason why children find joy in just being.
The use of their imagination is connected to the I AM presence because they are more sensitive to energy, and are amazed by the most trivial things. They react to colors, movement, animals, sounds, and other people with zero ego (or separation of self), and pure wonderment.
As adults, we lose these innate senses. But undergoing Spiritual Awakening allows us to get back to the very essence of what our souls are made of. We then feel truly fulfilled by just being.
2.You Stop Sweating The Small Stuff
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If you think about how nature works, you realize that everything just happens. The sun just rises, and the moon sets. None of these entities require extra work to be to be done for this cycle to function.
This doesn't mean that you don't have to get up, make a living, make things happen, and achieve your goals. Living in flow does not mean you are a passer-byer in your own life. In fact, it's quite the opposite. When you are living in flow, you are actively creating your own reality and manifesting the desires of your heart.
Manifestation happens when you set your intentions towards your highest good, and you allow the universe to deliver your order. As you live your life day by day, you actively work towards the highest vision you have for your life, and you watch in amazement as the universe delivers all that you asked for in flow.
How many things have come about in your life so seamlessly that it didn't make any sense, or it felt too perfect?
This is ebb and flow, and just like things in nature, your life just happens.
3.You'll Become One With Your Intuition
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Another way to benefit from the vibration of being present, is to just be still. Quieting your mind helps clear the clutter of confusion, scattered emotions, thoughts, and other energetic noise. It is often through silence that you hear what your higher self is trying to transpire to your soul.
Instead of watching TV, or even reading a book sometimes, just sit with yourself. Close your eyes, or even stare at the wall. Go outside in nature, and do your best to just think about nothing. Look at the birds flying by, or the trees blowing in the wind. Feel your connection to nature. Enter into a vibration of the "wave realizing that it is also the whole ocean."
Meditate in this frequency. Tap into your internal guidance to see what it has to tell you.
Auntie O says:
"Every one of us has an internal guidance, a GPS, an intuition, a heart print, a heart song that speaks to us. Your only job is to be able to listen and discern when it's speaking versus your head and your personality speaking, and if you follow that, you will be led to the highest good for you, always."
So on that note, be present and be in flow.
Featured image by Jakob Owens on Unsplash
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Elaine Welteroth Recalls The ‘Humbling’ Hospital Experience That Sparked Her Maternal Advocacy
Elaine Welteroth is shedding light on the traumatic doctor’s experience that pushed her to advocate for expecting mothers of color.
In an interview with PEOPLE, the former editor-in-chief of Teen Vogue gave a transparent recount of her experience navigating the medical system as a first-time mom.
“I think pregnancy is the most vulnerable time for any woman,” Welteroth said. “I came into childbirth and pregnancy really naive. I was kind of shocked by how little I knew about birth and navigating the medical system.”
She adds, “I thought, I've done hard things in my life. How hard could it be to have a baby? You find a doctor, you go to the hospital, you get the epidural, you have the baby.”
Upon relocating to Los Angeles with her husband, Jonathan Singletary, Welteroth was met with “humbling” encounters with medical professionals while in search of a doctor.
She recalls one occasion with a doctor who cut her off during questioning, enforcing a limit on inquiries per visit. “I had one doctor literally stand up in the middle of a question I was asking, and cut me off and tell me that I exceeded their two to three question max per visit,” she says. “And she walked out on me, and this was the eighth doctor I’d met with.”
“I was asking very straightforward questions like, what's your intervention rate? What's your C-section rate? These are questions every birthing person should be asking of their care provider. I was asking, could I eat or drink water during labor.”
Shockingly, “The doctor literally laughed at me and said, ‘What do you think this is? You can't just walk into a hospital, pop a squat, and have a baby,’ and dismissively walked out of the room.”
Welerorth’s is just one of the many examples of Black women’s growing plea for support and advocacy during pregnancy and childbirth.
According to a 2021 study by the CDC, “the maternal mortality rate for non-Hispanic Black women was 69.9 deaths per 100,000 live births, 2.6 times the rate for non-Hispanic White women.” The NLM also reports that “Black women in the United States (U.S.) disproportionately experience adverse pregnancy outcomes, including maternal mortality, compared to women of other racial and ethnic groups.”
To combat this disparity, Welteroth has launched the BirthFund initiative to help provide midwifery care and support for families and address the alarming maternal mortality rates in the United States, particularly among Black women.
Welteroth’s dream team of “founding funders” include Savannah James, Kelly Rowland, Serena Williams, Ayesha Curry, and more.
“The beauty of this initiative is that it really does meet people where they're at. It’s a grassroots fundraising effort,” she says. “These are women and privileged folks who understand how broken this system is because of their own personal experiences, and we all come together and agree that we need a change.”
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