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Stacey revealed in her Smooth Magazine feature from a few years ago:

I slept with all my husbands on the first night. And [a week later] they said, “Marry Me" and I said, “yes." [But] I'm not doing that anymore. At the moment, I'm holding the kitty hostage. I'm trying to do things differently.I don't know [when it's the right time to have sex]. It's not something that I predict, but it's something that I'm trying to figure out. I've been engaged six times and married three, so this is my first time being single. What I'm trying to figure out is how to get to know someone when the attraction is not strong at first. Does it come over time? I don't know. There are these men that you meet and the attraction is instant. You just want to bed with them right there. But I'm not doing that. I'm trying to see where the middle ground is at.

Yandy Harris said she made hubby Mendeecees wait two whole years before she slept with him. Before becoming Mrs. Beatz, Alicia Keys said she made ex-boyfriend Kerry "Krucial Keys" Brothers wait a year before sleeping with him. She stated back then:

"I made him wait a year because my body is too beautiful to be violated by someone who doesn't deserve it."

Keri Hilson is another believer in waiting. She revealed a few years back that she made an ex-boyfriend wait nine months for her good loving, and that she isn't the type of chick you can pressure into having sex.

I absolutely do not [make it easy for guys]. My first relationship, we waited about nine months. [You gotta find out who they are and why]. I'm not the kind of woman that's afraid to say how I feel when I feel it. It's much to my demise a lot of times, but I'm just like, "No we're not for that." I'm brutally honest and I'll tell a guy how I really feel as opposed to sugarcoating it to please his ego or pride or whatever. He'll walk away with his tail between his legs before he's confused about something.

How long did you wait?

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