#NoShame: Butt Hair Is A Thing… And Here’s How To Get Rid Of It
As embarrassing as it is, butt hair exists. And whoever says they don't have it is lying.
While some of us rock hair wherever it grows, there's another group of us that are busy getting rid of the hair on our legs, under arms and vajayjays. Meanwhile, our butts are sitting there like, "You missed a spot."
While I'm on this trek of getting to know myself inside and out, I came across butt hair that I wasn't necessarily crazy about. And after doing a quick Google search, I realized this is nothing new. But how do we get rid of it? There's definitely an answer for those of us that can be super self-conscious about it.
Get It Gone For Good
Like hair on other parts of our bodies, laser hair removal is the trick to get it gone for good. Of course, considering this method is as permanent as it comes, it's not the cheapest way to go when it comes to telling your butt hair to get lost. But it's certainly effective. Apparently, a super intense laser is what does the trick for not only butt hair but hair everywhere else. If this is the route you decide to go, get ready to clear your schedule for the day. But hey, at least there won't be any more hair on that side of "down there" ever again.
Wax Off
If you're already into waxing, this is a no brainer. To be honest, I didn't even know this was an option until I got waxed just days before my wedding. One of my friends asked, "Did you get the rootie to the tootie?" And I was proud to tell her I sure did. But of course, the hair has grown back a million times over since then. So, waxing is certainly an option, you'll just have to be okay with going consistently if that's your thing. A plus is that even though it's more painful than laser hair removal (raise your hand if you snap at the person doing your waxes every time), your wallet will still be smiling at you when it's all said in done…even if your butt isn't.
Classic Shave
While there should be, there's no book called How to Shave Your Butt for Dummies. So this tacic definitely takes a lot of skill. While I'm a proud shaver, I know I'm not that coordinated. One recommendation I've seen is to use a mirror and of course a high-quality razor to make sure you don't accidentally injure yourself. But I feel like if we can shave our vaginas, which are arguably much more sensitive than any other part of our bodies, we can definitely shave our booties. It just takes a little more hand-eye coordination and focus. And after all that effort, don't be surprised when new hair makes its comeback a few days later. Seriously, who approved for hair to grow there to begin with?
Moisture Moments
So however you decide to remove your butt hair, the key is to keep that area moisturized at all times. This will certainly help ease any potential pain when it comes to waxing, shaving or using a laser to remove it temporarily or for good. Keep in mind that butt hair is pretty much like pubic hair on our vaginas, it's just in a different spot. So staying moisturized (things like lotion or coconut oil will do just fine) will help prevent inflammation, damaged skin or worse… razor burns and ingrown hairs. Ick. On top of all of that, don't be afraid to dab a little aftershave on it to make sure that it doesn't dry up.
Dermatologist Vibes
If butt hair is something that you're concerned about, or just freaks you out, it's never a bad idea to talk to your dermatologist about it. They can definitely give you the best removal methods that best suits your body. Or they could just make you feel better about rocking it to your heart's content. After all, if most of us didn't know it was really there to begin with, what difference would it make if we don't remove it? For me, it's just all about preference, sis. If you're going for a smooth body from the "rootie to the tootie," then yeah, definitely remove your butt hair. But if you're indifferent or don't even care, that's cool too!
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Charmaine Patterson is a journalist, lifestyle blogger, and a lover of all things pop culture. While she has much experience in covering top entertainment news stories, she aims to share her everyday life experiences, old and new, with other women who can relate, laugh, and love along with her. Follow Char on Twitter @charjpatterson, Instagram @charpatterson, and keep up with her journey at CharJPatterson.com .
ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
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When discussing the topic of raising children, discipline is often the first thing that comes to mind. Children need discipline. Full stop. But what is discipline? And how do we draw the line between discipline and revenge?
The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
And the parent isn’t wrong. Talking often doesn’t work the first, the third, or the even the 10th time. And the reason is directly tied to brain development.
Children cannot and do not process information the way an adult can. Auditory processing is not fully developed until a child is 14 or 15 years old. And even then, if a child has auditory processing delays or Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), they may always struggle with processing auditory commands. According to Susie S. Loraine, MA, CCC-SLP, the term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four-step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening.
Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:
Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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