

The Lip Bar's Latest Release Reminds Us That Being A Mama Is Hot
Mother's Day is a special time of year when we take a moment to celebrate the women that have molded us into who we are today. With that idea in mind, The Lip Bar not only released a new "fire engine red" lip color called "Hot Mama," but crafted a campaign around young women celebrating the beauty of motherhood.
According to a statement The Lip Bar revealed that "Hot Mama is an ode to motherhood and a celebration of one of the most impactful roles a woman can have, being a mother. The color red has often been identified with 'power' and we salute and intend to further solidify the power that lies within each woman who has given life."
The Lip Bar founder Melissa Butler wearing "Hot Mama"
Courtesy of The Lip Bar
The Hot Mama campaign features real-life mamas Adrienne, Jordan, Lauren, Desire, and Tasneem rocking the bold lippie in motherhood power stances.
In her portrait, Jordan can be seen breastfeeding her infant son Micah in bantu knots and full glam. The new mom shared, "I just got back to work and I've noticed that if I look good I feel good. So I make sure to make time in the morning to put on a little makeup, a power lip, and mascara, before I leave to drop the little one off at daycare. It provides me with some 'me time' (even though it's only about 5 minutes) and carries me for the rest of the day."
Hot Mama Jordan
Courtesy of The Lip Bar
"I feel like I can tackle anything that comes my way."
Hot Mama Desire
Courtesy of The Lip Bar
This release is a perfect match for the beauty brand as motherhood is embraced in different sizes, shades, and forms.
Desire, who also starred in the Hot Mama campaign, was pregnant at the time and shared that for her motherhood began in that instant. "I became a mom when I learned that I was pregnant. I say that because immediately my mind started thinking through and adjusting for all of the ways I needed to make space in my life and lifestyle for my baby. From thinking about what I could and couldn't eat to even beliefs I had about parenting, my mind immediately went into preparation mode. I had 39 weeks to adjust and ready myself and my environment, but I definitely consider the day I learned I was pregnant as the day I became a mom," she told the beauty brand.
The visuals are not only striking but challenge the stigmas around public breastfeed (which was finally made legal in all 50 states in 2018) and showcases the diversity of motherhood because it's not one size fits all. And being a mom doesn't mean you can't embrace things that make you feel both powerful and sexy, including a poppin' red lip.
Check out additional photos from The Lip Bar's Hot Mama campaign below:
The Hot Mama campaign features real-life mamas Adrienne, Jordan, Lauren, Desire, and Tasneem rocking the bold lippie in motherhood power stances. In her portrait, Jordan can be seen breastfeeding her infant son Micah in bantu knots and full glam. The new mom shared, "I just got back to work and I've noticed that if I look good I feel good. So I make sure to make time in the morning to put on a little makeup, a power lip, and mascara, before I leave to drop the little one off at daycare. It provides me with some 'me time' (even though it's only about 5 minutes) and carries me for the rest of the day."
"I feel like I can tackle anything that comes my way."
This is release is a perfect match for the beauty brand as motherhood is embraced in different sizes, shades, and forms. Desire, who also starred in the Hot Mama campaign, was pregnant at the time and shared that for her motherhood began in that instant. "I became a mom when I learned that I was pregnant. I say that because immediately my mind started thinking through and adjusting for all of the ways I needed to make space in my life and lifestyle for my baby. From thinking about what I could and couldn't eat to even beliefs I had about parenting, my mind immediately went into preparation mode. I had 39 weeks to adjust and ready myself and my environment, but I definitely consider the day I learned I was pregnant as the day I became a mom," she shared with the brand.
The visuals from the campaign are not only striking but challenge the stigmas around public breastfeed (which was finally made legal in all 50 states in 2018) and showcases the diversity of motherhood because it's not one size fits all and that being a mom doesn't mean you can't embrace things that make you feel both powerful and sexy, including a poppin' red lip.
To shop the product and get into some "Hot Mama" of your own, click here.
Bianca Lambert is a proud Atlanta native soaking up the Los Angeles sun. She is the founder of Mae B: a stationery company for women of color and a digital content creator on a mission to elevate the voices of women of color everywhere.
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From Monogamy To Polyamory: 'I'm In An Asexual Poly Marriage With My Husband Of 7 Years'
Have you ever wondered what it's like to be asexual and in an open marriage? Relationship Coach Mikki Bey shared her first-hand experience with us as well as answered some of our burning questions.
Like a lot of people, Mikki met her now husband, Raheem Ali, online. As soon as they met, they instantly fell in love and got engaged on their first date. Just 90 days after they met, the couple tied the knot and have now been married for seven years. Raheem and Mikki aren’t your typical married couple, and despite being married for almost a decade, their marriage is anything but traditional. Mikki and Raheem have what she calls an "asexual polyamorous marriage."
Defining Her Sexuality
It wasn't until last summer that Mikki found the language to define her sexuality. "I didn't have the language for it until last summer," she explained to xoNecole. "Looking back, I just thought sex wasn't my thing. It was never enjoyable for me, and I'd go years without even noticing.”
Mikki always thought she was broken because she had no interest in sex. Mikki noticed after her friends came to visit and started discussing their sexual fantasies that she realized something was different about her. “At that point, I knew something was definitely different about me since I do not have sexual fantasies at all. It was truly news to me that people are at work thinking about sex! That was not my experience.” This led to Mikki researching asexuality, which she soon realized fit her to a T. “It felt like breathing new air when I was able to call it by name," said Mikki.
"Looking back, I just thought sex wasn't my thing. It was never enjoyable for me, and I'd go years without even noticing it."
Asexuality refers to people who experience little or no sexual attraction, experience attraction without acting on it sexually, or experience sexual attraction differently based on other factors. Like most things, asexuality falls on a spectrum and encompasses many other identities. It's important to remember, however, that attraction and action are not always synonymous: some asexuals may reject the idea of sexual contact, but others may be sex-neutral and engage in sexual activity.
It's possible that some asexuals will have sex with someone else despite not having a libido or masturbating, but others will have sex with a partner because it brings a sense of connection.
From a Traditional Marriage to Kitchen Table Polyamory
Although Mikki never really had a high sex drive, it wasn’t until after the birth of her son, that she noticed her sex drive took a real nosedive. “I never had a high sex drive, but about a year after my son was born, I realized I had zero desire. My husband has a high sex drive, and I knew that it would not be sustainable to not have sex in our marriage at that time.”
She was determined to find an alternative to divorce and stumbled upon a polyamory conversation on Clubhouse. Upon doing her own research, she brought up the idea to their husband, who was receptive. “It’s so interesting to me that people weigh sex so heavily in relationships when even if you are having a ton of sex, it’s still a very small percentage of the relationship activity," Mikki shared.
They chose polyamory because Mikki still wanted to be married, but she also wanted to make sure that Raheem was getting his individual needs and desires met, even if that meant meeting them with someone else. “I think that we have been programmed to think that our spouses need to be our 'everything.' We do not operate like that. There is no one way that fits all when it comes to relationships, despite what society may try to tell you. Their path to doing this thing called life together may be different from yours, but they found what works for them. We have chosen to design a marriage that works for us,” Mikki explained.
"We have chosen to design a marriage that works for us. We both consent to each of us having everything from casual sex partners to lifetime partners if it should go there. We believe love is abundant and do not limit ourselves or each other on how we express it."
She continued, “We both consent to each of us having everything from casual sexual partners to lifetime partners if it should get there. We believe love is abundant and do not limit ourselves or each other on how we express it. Our dynamic is parallel with kitchen table poly aspirations.”
Kitchen table polyamory (KTP) is a polyamorous relationship in which all participants are on friendly terms enough to share a meal at the kitchen table. Basically, it means you have some form of relationship with your partner’s other partner, whether as a group or individually. A lot of times, KTP relationships are highly personal and rooted in mutual respect, communication, and friendship.
Intimacy in an Asexual Polyamorous Marriage
Mikki says she and her husband, Raheem, still share intimate moments despite being in a polyamorous marriage. “Our intimacy is emotional, intellectual, spiritual, and physical, although non-sexual. We are intentional about date nights weekly, surprising and delighting each other daily, and most of all, we communicate our needs regularly. In my opinion, our intimacy is top-tier! I give my husband full-body massages, mani-pedis and make sure I am giving him small physical touches/kisses throughout the day. He is also very intentional about showing me his love and affection.”
Raheem and Mikki now use their lives as examples for others. On their website, thepolycouplenextdoor.com, they coach people interested in learning how to be consensually non-monogamous. “We are both relationship coaches. I specialized in emotional regulation, and Raheem specializes in communication and conflict resolution. The same tools we use in our marriage help our clients succeed in polyamory."
Mikki advises people who may be asexual or seeking non-monogamy to communicate their needs openly and to consider seeking sex therapy or intimacy coaching. Building a strong relationship with a non-sexual partner requires both empathy and compassion.
For more of Mikki, follow her on Instagram @getmikkibey. Follow the couple's platform on Instagram @thepolycouplenextdoor.
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