I Took A Sexercise Class With My Husband
Living in Los Angeles, I've learned quickly it is definitely a workout city and everyone has their thing. From trap yoga to high yoga, hiking to HIIT, pilates to crossfit to biking on Venice. There are endless places and types of workouts to do here and I have yet to find my niche went it comes to fitness.
When my friend Angel first told me about Evoleros, her exercise studio that combined yoga with fitness and sexercise, I nodded along but I really didn't get it. She went on to explain that her classes were a way for couples to become more fit while learning new sexual positions to spice things up in the bedroom while building intimacy. With their motto of "Couples that workout together stay together & have better sex," I was intrigued.
When she asked my husband and I to take a free private class, I agreed but had no idea what to expect as we walked into her studio.
The studio was dimly lit and the mirrors that lined the room were accented with blue lights, creating a sexy atmosphere. That, along with the soft music that played in the background, helped set the mood. We removed our shoes and positioned ourselves on our mats as Angel began to instruct us. Within minutes, I knew this was no fu fu workout.
After stretching, she had us do different workouts together as a unit. We did sits ups facing each other, where we would kiss after each sit up, and push ups where we would clap hands after. The physical touches that we did while being physical tapped into an energy I didn't know exercise could hit. Despite the inevitable workout pain, it was a pleasurable experience to be able to work out with my husband outside of a crowded gym in a sexy one-on-one environment.
After a lengthy warmup, my husband and I both looked at each other knowingly. We were ready for the sexercise portion the Evoleros experience promised.
Angel read our minds.
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After the beginning warmup, we did yoga poses together and workouts that prepared our bodies for the sexual poses, aka the sexercise portion of the workout. The mission behind sexercise is to do fitness exercises that strengthen your body while giving you stamina for different sexual positions, aside from the usual few positions most couples pull out in the bedroom as their default moves. Being that it was our first class and we are not being active members of #teamyoga or #teamfit, we took a more beginner's class where the exercises and sexual positions were more catered to our fitness level.
We tried a few different sex positions. Some were more basic ones like reverse cowgirl but there were also newer ones like the the arc, where I straddled him and basically bent completely backwards while keeping my waist on his; the wheelbarrow which is just as you'd imagine. In the position, my husband stood up on his knees from a seated position and I held my arms on the ground while my legs were wrapped around his waist. We also tried the lotus, which was a very easy one where I sat on top of him with my legs straddled around him.
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In each position, we had to hold it for up to a few minutes after each workout. Some were definitely more comfortable than others. The wheelbarrow was really fun, but the arc definitely requires a level of flexibility I have yet to master. Some of the moves were hilarious for us to maneuver into after having a few shots before the class. (Don't drink before working out guys.) Laughter also made the whole experience more sexy for us. I caught my husband giving me the eye quite a few times, which made us want to ditch the class and head home for the real workout...
After taking quite a few breaks, learning a few new moves for the bedroom, and getting an amazing workout in with my husband, the hour-long session was up, and we survived our first sexercise class. All in all the class was fun, sexy, and is definitely something I would recommend to married couples who want to add some spice to their life while becoming more active in general.
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I'm still searching for my thing when it comes to a workout I can be consistent with, but this is definitely a class I will be taking again and tips I will be using in the future when it comes to working out in and out the bedroom!
If you're in LA and want to learn more about Evoleros, you can visit the website here https://www.evoleros.com/ or check out their IG @evoleros_studio.
Would you take a sexercise class?
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ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
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You've Never Seen Luke James In A Role Quite Like This
Over the years, we've watched Luke James play countless characters we'd deem sex symbols, movie stars, and even his complicated character in Lena Waithe's The Chi. For the first time in his career, the New Orleans-born actor has taken on a role where his signature good looks take a backseat as he transforms into Edmund in Them: The Scare—a mentally deranged character in the second installment of the horror anthology series that you won't be able to take your eyes off.
Trust us, Edmund will literally make you do a double take.
xoNecole sat down with Luke James to talk about his latest series and all the complexity surrounding it—from the challenges taking on this out-of-the-box role to the show's depiction of the perplexing history of the relationship between Black Americans and police. When describing the opportunity to bring Edmund's character to life, Luke was overjoyed to show the audience yet another level of his masterful acting talents.
"It was like bathing in the sun," he said. "I was like, thank you! Another opportunity for me to be great—for me to expand my territory. I'm just elated to be a part of it and to see myself in a different light, something I didn't think I could do." He continued, "There are parts of you that says, 'Go for it because this is what you do.' But then also that's why it's a challenge because you're like, 'um, I don't know if I'm as free as I need to be to be able to do this.' Little Marvin just created such a safe space for me to be able to do this, and I'm grateful for everything I've been able to do to lead to this."
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Them: The Scare, like the first season, shines a light on the plight of Black Americans in the United States. This time, the story is taking place in the 1990s, at the height of the Rodney King riots in Los Angeles. While the series presents many underlying themes, one that stands out is Black people and the complicated relationship with the police. "For the audience, I think it sets the tone for the era that we're in and the amount of chaos that's in the air in Los Angeles and around the country from this heinous incident. And I say it just sets the tone of the anxiety and anxiousness that everybody is feeling in their own households."
James has been a longtime advocate against police brutality himself. He has even featured Elijah McClain, the 23-year-old Colorado man who died after being forcibly detained by officers, as his Instagram avatar for the past five years. So, as you can imagine, this script was close to his heart. "Elijah was a soft-loving oddball. Different than anyone but loving and a musical genius. He was just open and wanted to be loved and seen."
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Luke continued, "His life was taken from him. I resonate with his spirit and his words...through all the struggle and the pain he still found it in him to say, 'I love you and I forgive you.' And that's who we are as people—to our own detriment sometimes. He's someone I don't want people to forget. I have yet to remove his face from my world because I have yet to let go of his voice, let go of that being [because] there's so many people we have lost in our history that so often get forgotten."
He concluded, "I think that's the importance of such artwork that moves us to think and talk about it. Yes, it's entertaining. We get to come together and be spooked together. But then we come together and we think, 'Damn, Edmund needed someone to talk to. Edmund needed help... a lot [of] things could have been different. Edmund could have been saved.'
Check out the full interview below.
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