“Millennials are lazy. They don't like to work. They are self-centered, uncommitted and full of excuses."
Well first, that's just mean.
Even if a few individuals in our generation truly possess these characteristics, who made it ok to characterize all 80 million millennials with these character traits? It's almost impossible for 80 million individuals to all be lazy, self-centered, uncommitted and full of excuses. A few us, if not majority of us, have to be the opposite.
The true issue is that we're misunderstood. Yeah, I know that sounds so cliché, right? But we are. Because our strong opinions and values appear abnormal from previous generations, our values are deemed flawed, wrong and faulty. When in actuality, we have the same values older generations wanted deep inside but never spoke up about and we just so happen to be in the era of technology and progression where the things that we all desire can be fulfilled.
One of those values is work-life balance, or as new age calls it: work-life blend. We understand that work is a major chunk of our lives, but we also know that it is only one piece to the puzzle. A study in Harvard Business Review found that integrating our work and personal lives may even stir more productivity. But nonetheless, here's why we desperately need a balance between work & life:
Our Childhood
Many millennials grew up in single or two-parent households where work consumed the lives of our parents. We watched our parents wake up early to go to work, only to see them come home late from a long day of work. Often times, work caused our parents to pick us up late from school. It made them absent from our extracurricular activities and made them less attentive to our own young passions and pursuits. Though we ended up becoming lovely adults with amazing relationships with our parents, we secretly vowed to do better if we can. And, do better is what we shall do. We would rather not miss out on baseball games and swimming competitions, we would like to be able to drop in during our kids' lunchtimes and surprise them every now and then, and we desire the flexibility to do so.
Our College Experience
Many of us who attended college took on 16 – or even 18 – hours within one semester. We experienced the stress of having to study and take four tests within 3 days. We mastered attending classes throughout the day, while studying into the wee hours of the night. We managed to come out on top with passing grades, and even A's for the luckiest ones among us. On top of that, we still had a thriving social life. We made time for friends and relaxation, and did it all successfully. And though, college is nothing like the workplace – whatsoever, the superpower within us still believes we're capable of enjoying both work and our social lives.
You Think It's Impossible
With the amount of millennial entrepreneurs, it is evident that we thrive on the idea of impossible. You tell us that we can't do it, we'll show you we will. We love to prove others wrong, maybe it is the narcissist within us. Nonetheless, we've watched older generations including our parents, family members and mentors struggle with balancing work and life outside of it. We've seen our supervisors choose work over family time and we refuse to believe that's the only option. So, we'll work hard. Work hard to be successful and work hard to enjoy the fullness of life, just to show you that during all those years you could've done the same.
*Originally posted on employeeredefined.com
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Adunola Adeshola was the girl always searching for jobs in her free time and having weekly mini meltdowns about her career. Now, she is the founder of employeeREDEFINED and she teaches driven, purpose-minded millennials how to get more out of their careers and lives. Visit employeeREDEFINED.com for more tips and advice on how to get unstuck in your career and life.
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“We’re looking for a new Account Executive, now that Jennifer is leaving us. If you know anyone who would be a great fit for this position, please email me directly.”
This was the mass email I received that crushed my hopes of getting the promotion I wanted so bad.
I was the great fit for the position.
I was the one completely capable of picking up where Jennifer left off.
I already worked there.
Why didn’t she just email me directly?
Why didn’t anyone consider me for the position?
I was embarrassed. When I found out Jennifer was leaving, I just knew that my time had finally come to level up and get the position I had been desiring for the past 11 months. I started mentally preparing for the opportunity, thinking about what I would say in the interview process, and how I would demonstrate that I was the perfect person for this new opportunity.
But, they didn’t even consider me.
They looked over me.
To them, I wasn’t good enough.
I even mustered up the courage to inquire about the position. But, it just solidified how much they weren’t considering me.
Weeks later, they hired two new people.
And, I continued my duties as normal.
Being looked over, sucks. It feels like crap. That’s the best way to explain it. Being looked over multiple times? You start to feel insane.
Looking back, I didn’t know how to confidently ask for the things that I knew I deserved.
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I didn’t know how to flawlessly show my worth and my amazingness to others around me.
It’s no wonder they didn’t consider me.
If I’m honest, I didn’t fully believe in myself either. Not 100%. I doubted myself and the things that I could do. I doubted if I could even fill Jennifer’s shoes. I mean, everyone loved her and she was so good at what she did.
And, you know what? The doubt. The lack of confidence. It all showed in my face, in my actions, and in my performance.
I knew what I wanted. I knew that deep down, I deserved it. But I didn’t know how to demonstrate that to others. I didn’t know how to boldly demand the things that I deserved without coming off as too rude, too forceful, or too boastful.
Not knowing how to do those things held me back so much and for way too long.
It wasn’t until I finally felt like “I’m tired of this!” that I decided to do something about it.
I had a come to Jesus moment. I remembered that I am the only one in control of my career and my future and I realized that if I kept doing nothing to move the ladder in my favor, then I would never reach the heights that I desired for myself.
So, I reassessed the things that I was doing wrong and I took time to figure out the things I needed to do better to level up and showcase my worth to others.
Here are 4 Ways to Quickly Bounce Back After Getting Looked Over at Work:
1. Treat Yo’ Self
You still deserve it. You had a long day and the only person who’s in control of your happiness is you, my friend. So, do something you love. Eat a bowl of ice cream. Watch your favorite TV show. Arrange a night out of fun with your friends or your significant other. Life still goes on, so you might as well enjoy it – regardless of the setbacks you may encounter.
2. Reassess Your Ways
As much as it easy to say in a breakup, “It’s not you, it me” – and not mean it, sometimes, it really is you. There may be certain things that you’re doing that are holding you back. Take an in-depth look at your work ethic and the things you do and say around the office. Start paying attention to how others interact with you and how you interact with them.
3. Talk to Yourself
Seriously. Take a moment to ask yourself the hard questions. Why did you want that promotion anyway? What was it about that opportunity that excites you? Would that promotion really have satisfied you or did you just want it because you felt like you were supposed to have it? What do you really want out of your career?
When things like this happen to us, it is sort of a wakeup call. Use this opportunity to figure out what you really want to do next in your career so that you can create your own path of opportunities.
4. Get Your Mojo Back
Getting looked over or passed over for a promotion is not the end of the world. Even if you want to scream your head off at everyone, storm out of the office and never come back, you can’t. Rent still has to be paid and your weekend adventures still have to be funded.
So, find a way to inspire yourself again and keep going. The last thing you want to do is become bitter and rude to everyone at work. That only reinforces why they passed you over in the first place. Get your mojo back and aim to be twice as good as you once were before the whole fiasco happened.
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So you're one step closer to landing your dream job. You just got the email confirming your in-person job interview and now, quite frankly, you're freaking out.
It's understandable. Interviews can be intimidating. One wrong answer and all your hard work can be diminished to zero. It's even more stressful when you're interviewing with a company that you know is the perfect fit for you.
Here are a few tips to show the hiring manager that you are the right and only person for the job:
Before The Interview
Do your research.Find out the company culture by exploring the website and checking their social media pages. There are 5 ways to do this successfully.
Figure out your ETA.Map out how long it will take you to get to the interview so that you can avoid being late. Use Google maps or your preferred GPS.
Practice your responses. Here's 31 of the most common interview questions. Study the typical questions and practice how you would answer them.
Speak to the secretary.Once you get there, don't waste time in the lobby battling your nervous jitters, instead use that time to be nice and polite to the secretary. How you behave when your interviewer isn't around is just as important as how you behave when she walks into the room.
During The Interview
Dress professionally, of course.Appearance is the first thing your interviewer will see, make it memorable. If you're still not sure how to dress for your interview, read this.
Bring a bottle of water.If you're extremely nervous and you want to be able to have a few extra seconds to respond to hard questions, bring a bottle of water so that you can open it up and take a sip while you think about your response. It's a good thing to do once or twice during an interview.
Ask your own questions.This is your opportunity to evaluate the company too, take advantage of it. Here is a list of questions to choose from and be sure to never ask these questions.
After The Interview
Go to the restroom. Ask to go to the restroom once the interview is over. This will give you a chance to tour the office and will allow you to determine if it's an environment you will enjoy.
Say thank you.If you really want to leave a lasting impression, send a thank you email and a written thank you note. Have an empty thank you card handy, prior to the interview. Once the interview is over, go to your car, fill out the card, put it in an envelope and leave it with the secretary or drop it at the postal office on your way home.
Follow up. Following-up after an interview can be tricky. Here are 10 templates you can use to follow up after an in-person interview, phone interview and other situations.
The waiting game can be tough. But, doing all that you can to show that you are the best candidate for a position before, during, and after an interview is the best thing you can do to combat your fear and anxiety. Worst case scenario, you'll have no regrets even if you don't get the job. Best case scenario? You'll be able to say good-bye to life as you know it and hello to the next chapter of your life. It's worth the effort!
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What are some techniques you practice to make sure you land the job when you interview? Let us know in the comments below!
*Originally posted on employeeredefined.com
