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You envy the co-worker who strolls into the office with their suitcase. We all do.

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When it comes to thoughts that I have on love and work, I’ve come to one absolute truth: “Understanding your worth means putting people in difficult positions that force them to either give you what you deserve or walk away.”

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Of course, in the dating world, that is prime advice for any human being. But it’s dawned on me, that is exactly how 20 somethings and 30 somethings look at their professional careers as well. We know our worth, we understand it through and through, and if a company or an employer can’t rise to the demand we hold of ourselves, we walk away.

We know that life is too short and we know that life is especially too short to spend most of it at a job that is uninspiring and meaningless. We believe that our talents, our creativity and our ambitions are worth so much more than to remain at a company that does nothing to help us grow.

And, so we are willing to walk away – without remorse. Actually, feeling a bit of freedom and exhilaration because, deep down inside we know that life has so much more to offer.

That is the very reason why young professionals are job hoppers. But don’t just blame it on us, we are not the only ones. Today, the average employee only stays at one company for less than 5 years. We will hop around until we find the place that matches our worth. Not just our time or our salary expectations. But, our significance.

We will hop around until we find a place that challenges us, inspires us and engages us progressively. Blame our parents. They taught us to never settle for less than we deserve – in all aspects of life.

The real question is: Do companies even realize how important this concept is to us?

Not too long ago, I put in my two-weeks’ notice for a job that caused me so much stress and dissatisfaction. Within those two weeks, I heard the most compliments I had ever heard while working there and I received more responsibilities and tasks that I actually enjoyed doing. In those short weeks, I was asked to be a part of opportunities I enjoyed and I was challenged in areas that I always wanted to develop.

But it was too late.

I had already decided way before my resignation letter that I had to go. The reality is that if our current company doesn’t see our worth, eventually another company will. Just like no one should stay in a relationship where they are not appreciated, we will eventually walk away from our position for something better.

On the other hand, in personal relationships we don’t just quit without giving it all we can. At least, in the relationships we sincerely care about. We are willing to put in 150% as long as the efforts are reciprocated.

It is only when we realize that the other person is incapable of putting in those same efforts that we decide to pack our belongings and leave. Only, after we’ve tried and tried that we decide that the energy, time and effort invested is not worth it.

We put in so much effort into making things work with our friends, family members, love interests, and significant others, but we don’t always do the same when it comes to our careers.

It seems like today, many young professionals just take what they can get, fit in where they can, quit and repeat. But our careers should be so much more than that.

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Often times, we give up before we even actually submit our resignation letter. We subject ourselves to gloomy mornings and long draining days. We convince ourselves that we are meant to only live on the weekends and, that this is just how life is meant to be.

But before giving up, you should ask yourself: “What could I be doing better to make the most out of this experience at this company?”

And, if you’re not sure, there are a bunch of things you can do.

You can make an effort to go out of your way to help someone every day (yes every day), you can start dressing better to work (cause when you look better, you feel better), you can start speaking up more often, you can start interacting more with others in the office, you can suggest your solutions to problems you hate…the list goes on and on.

Still, after you’ve tried and tried, the same way you would in a relationship you truly care about and if you are certain that you have put in 150%, then know your worth and wave that job goodbye.

But, if you know that there are areas that you can still improve, strengthen, and develop, then put in that extra energy and don’t quit until you give it all that you can.

Treating your career like you treat your relationships will certainly bring you more rewards than you can imagine.

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How do you approach the work you put into your work? Let us know in the comments below!

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“We’re looking for a new Account Executive, now that Jennifer is leaving us. If you know anyone who would be a great fit for this position, please email me directly.”

This was the mass email I received that crushed my hopes of getting the promotion I wanted so bad.

I was the great fit for the position.

I was the one completely capable of picking up where Jennifer left off.

I already worked there.

Why didn’t she just email me directly?

Why didn’t anyone consider me for the position?

I was embarrassed. When I found out Jennifer was leaving, I just knew that my time had finally come to level up and get the position I had been desiring for the past 11 months. I started mentally preparing for the opportunity, thinking about what I would say in the interview process, and how I would demonstrate that I was the perfect person for this new opportunity.

But, they didn’t even consider me.

They looked over me.

To them, I wasn’t good enough.

I even mustered up the courage to inquire about the position. But, it just solidified how much they weren’t considering me.

Weeks later, they hired two new people.

And, I continued my duties as normal.

Being looked over, sucks. It feels like crap. That’s the best way to explain it. Being looked over multiple times? You start to feel insane.

Looking back, I didn’t know how to confidently ask for the things that I knew I deserved.

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I didn’t know how to flawlessly show my worth and my amazingness to others around me.

It’s no wonder they didn’t consider me.

If I’m honest, I didn’t fully believe in myself either. Not 100%. I doubted myself and the things that I could do. I doubted if I could even fill Jennifer’s shoes. I mean, everyone loved her and she was so good at what she did.

And, you know what? The doubt. The lack of confidence. It all showed in my face, in my actions, and in my performance.

I knew what I wanted. I knew that deep down, I deserved it. But I didn’t know how to demonstrate that to others. I didn’t know how to boldly demand the things that I deserved without coming off as too rude, too forceful, or too boastful.

Not knowing how to do those things held me back so much and for way too long.

It wasn’t until I finally felt like “I’m tired of this!” that I decided to do something about it.

I had a come to Jesus moment. I remembered that I am the only one in control of my career and my future and I realized that if I kept doing nothing to move the ladder in my favor, then I would never reach the heights that I desired for myself.

So, I reassessed the things that I was doing wrong and I took time to figure out the things I needed to do better to level up and showcase my worth to others.

Here are 4 Ways to Quickly Bounce Back After Getting Looked Over at Work:

1. Treat Yo’ Self

You still deserve it. You had a long day and the only person who’s in control of your happiness is you, my friend. So, do something you love. Eat a bowl of ice cream. Watch your favorite TV show. Arrange a night out of fun with your friends or your significant other. Life still goes on, so you might as well enjoy it – regardless of the setbacks you may encounter.

2. Reassess Your Ways

As much as it easy to say in a breakup, “It’s not you, it me” – and not mean it, sometimes, it really is you. There may be certain things that you’re doing that are holding you back. Take an in-depth look at your work ethic and the things you do and say around the office. Start paying attention to how others interact with you and how you interact with them.

3. Talk to Yourself

Seriously. Take a moment to ask yourself the hard questions. Why did you want that promotion anyway? What was it about that opportunity that excites you? Would that promotion really have satisfied you or did you just want it because you felt like you were supposed to have it? What do you really want out of your career?

When things like this happen to us, it is sort of a wakeup call. Use this opportunity to figure out what you really want to do next in your career so that you can create your own path of opportunities.

4. Get Your Mojo Back

Getting looked over or passed over for a promotion is not the end of the world. Even if you want to scream your head off at everyone, storm out of the office and never come back, you can’t. Rent still has to be paid and your weekend adventures still have to be funded.

So, find a way to inspire yourself again and keep going. The last thing you want to do is become bitter and rude to everyone at work. That only reinforces why they passed you over in the first place. Get your mojo back and aim to be twice as good as you once were before the whole fiasco happened.

For more actionable tips on how to stop missing out on the opportunities you desire and deserve at work, join my free email course and learn how to become the MVP at work.

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So you're one step closer to landing your dream job. You just got the email confirming your in-person job interview and now, quite frankly, you're freaking out.

It's understandable. Interviews can be intimidating. One wrong answer and all your hard work can be diminished to zero. It's even more stressful when you're interviewing with a company that you know is the perfect fit for you.

Here are a few tips to show the hiring manager that you are the right and only person for the job:

Before The Interview

Do your research. Find out the company culture by exploring the website and checking their social media pages. There are 5 ways to do this successfully.

Figure out your ETA. Map out how long it will take you to get to the interview so that you can avoid being late. Use Google maps or your preferred GPS.

Practice your responses. Here's 31 of the most common interview questions. Study the typical questions and practice how you would answer them.

Speak to the secretary. Once you get there, don't waste time in the lobby battling your nervous jitters, instead use that time to be nice and polite to the secretary. How you behave when your interviewer isn't around is just as important as how you behave when she walks into the room.

During The Interview

Dress professionally, of course. Appearance is the first thing your interviewer will see, make it memorable. If you're still not sure how to dress for your interview, read this.

Bring a bottle of water. If you're extremely nervous and you want to be able to have a few extra seconds to respond to hard questions, bring a bottle of water so that you can open it up and take a sip while you think about your response. It's a good thing to do once or twice during an interview.

Ask your own questions. This is your opportunity to evaluate the company too, take advantage of it. Here is a list of questions to choose from and be sure to never ask these questions.

After The Interview

Go to the restroom. Ask to go to the restroom once the interview is over. This will give you a chance to tour the office and will allow you to determine if it's an environment you will enjoy.

Say thank you. If you really want to leave a lasting impression, send a thank you email and a written thank you note. Have an empty thank you card handy, prior to the interview. Once the interview is over, go to your car, fill out the card, put it in an envelope and leave it with the secretary or drop it at the postal office on your way home.

Follow up. Following-up after an interview can be tricky. Here are 10 templates you can use to follow up after an in-person interview, phone interview and other situations.

The waiting game can be tough. But, doing all that you can to show that you are the best candidate for a position before, during, and after an interview is the best thing you can do to combat your fear and anxiety. Worst case scenario, you'll have no regrets even if you don't get the job. Best case scenario? You'll be able to say good-bye to life as you know it and hello to the next chapter of your life. It's worth the effort!

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What are some techniques you practice to make sure you land the job when you interview? Let us know in the comments below!

*Originally posted on employeeredefined.com

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