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Being "feminist as fuck" means something different to everyone, or at least those who identify as feminist. Personally, it has come to mean changing the game for women of color and how they view their sexuality, helping us move towards more liberated versions of our bad ass selves.
How we express ourselves sexually – whether that preference is based off of heteronormative gender roles, toxic ideologies, or the reframing of patriarchal thinking – is an expression of our sexuality. These qualities can be both sexual and non-sexual, verbal and non-verbal. Society tells us that a strong, brave Black man looks like one who doesn't smile – this is only but one example of how sexuality is defined and then confined to something so monotonous.
Being sexually liberated means being able to stand firm and express your sexuality free of shame. It's about maintaining a "you like it, I love it" attitude instead of scrunching your face up in discontent when a friend mentions she's celibate and/or bustin' it down with her flavor of the week. This doesn't mean you can't be curious, it just means you aren't allowed to judge what you don't know. Sex, how we f*ck, and how we enjoy or don't enjoy to be f*cked is another element of our sexuality.
But sexuality and its spectrum in its entirety should be celebrated, so I thought it would be dope to put together a list of sex positive brands to get us all in the spirit, especially as holiday sales creep into our presence – because, hey, you might want to get something for yourself and a friend aka that friend who takes the girl talk to ten everytime (that's proudly me, btw).
Here's a list of 9 sex positive brands for us and by us. And, you know what else? There's no wait to find out if you made the naughty or nice list for these goodies. Like a day in HARPO studios, there's something for everybody.
Savage Apparel
Board certified sex coach Raquel Savage has paved the way for #ThoughtProvokingThirstTraps on the social media scene, and now she's letting us own a little piece of #thesavagelife, showcasing her in-your-face, sex positive, thought provoking brand. Raquel makes no apologies for her sexuality and delivers an equally unapologetic apparel line that encourages each of us to own our sexuality with proud admissions of ass eating and united stand demanding for more p*ssy eating.
▲These Pink Lips
Easily in my top five list of bad b*tch accessories is anything from These Pink Lips. This forever classic has been seen on some of the most sex positive ladies in the entertainment industry, with more known faces to boot each day. Over the years, creator Iris "Barbie" Bonner has grown her online store, adding everything from throw pillows to sweatsuits. And I'm certain that I don't have to tell you what pink lips we're talking about.
▲AnnodRight
Reaffirm your space in this world as a Black, sexual being by copping pieces from this brilliant apparel from Donna Oriowo, who has a PhD in Human Sexuality. With her "Consent Rewards Card" and "Black Sexuality" tees, you're bound to spark lots of much-need dialogue and create a more casual means of educating others around issues that matter, but have been trivialized for so long before now.
▲Bare Elite
Add this brand to the list of jaw-dropping, show-stopping think pieces you can wear to get a rise out of people and spark up conversation with the curious. Bare Elite offers some cheeky, empowering words with their chic, minimalist clothing line including everything from swimsuits to crop tees. Take your friends to church with this diverse collection of wise words from wise women, especially with their Bare collection.
▲AfroSexology
"For Us, By Us" to the highest power is the only way to describe AfroSexology. AfroSexology's product line is draped with educational messages that seek to debunk the myths surrounding Black sexuality with reaffirming phrases that read: Sexual Not Sexualized, Meditate & Masturbate, and Less Oppression, More Orgasms.
▲VagEsteem
You're sure to stay c(LIT) with VagEsteem's It's Clit shirt, which I must say is everything! This line was created by Vanessa Geffrard, a sex educator in Baltimore, Maryland. We don't have to tell you that the clit doesn't get enough of the love and affection it so deserves, but hopefully with brands like Vanessa's, we'll see that change sooner rather than later.
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