You know me: I try to do what I can to hit every woman-related topic known to man (If I can), and boy, if there is something that needs to be addressed on this platform, right here and right now, it’s sexual experiences that, somehow, end up having yeast infections attached to them after the fact.
Gee, can there be a bigger roller coaster ride than feeling the pure elation that sex provides, only to go through climbing-the-walls itching, burning, and vaginal discharge due to a yeast infection a few days after it?
If this has been your personal testimony, and it’s been more than 1-2 times, my goal is to provide you with some science and then some tips that can prevent this from being a future issue.
Because the last thing that I want you to feel is like you can’t totally enjoy sex, simply because you’re nervous that an annoying ass yeast infection is awaiting you on the other side of having it.
A Yeast Infection. Revisited.
GiphySo, it’s not like yeast infections don’t get their fair share of attention over on this side of the internet. You can read articles that I’ve written like “Yeast Infections Happen Most Before Your Period. Here's Why.,” “Do You Get More Yeast Infections In The Spring? There's A Reason For That.,” “What To Do For Yeast Infections (On Other Parts Of Your Body)” to prove that point. Still, just for the sake of making sure that you are able to connect the dots between a yeast infection and how sex can potentially increase the chances of you experiencing one, let’s briefly recap what a yeast infection is.
Candida is a type of fungus that naturally develops within your body. Typically, it is harmless yet when you experience an overgrowth of it within your system, that can lead to a yeast infection — not just in your vagina; however, that is what we are going to focus on today. And when this type of infection occurs, it can lead to symptoms like incessant itching, burning, swelling of your vagina and vulva (the outer part of your vagina), a thick discharge and discomfort during sex.
Although things like antibiotics, a weakened immune system and fluctuating hormones can be what creates the “perfect storm environment” for a yeast infection, it’s important to also keep in mind that, any time your system is imbalanced, that can help to cultivate a yeast infection too.
Let’s now build on this fact.
Now Here’s How Sex Can Cultivate the Environment for a Yeast Infection
GiphySo, here’s the deal about yeast infections and why some people tend to get them after having sex. Although sex itself doesn’t actually cause a yeast infection to transpire, the bacteria that comes along with copulation can find itself being the culprit. This can include the bacteria that is exchanged during vaginal intercourse, anal sex and even oral sex.
For instance — and this might be TMI for some but if you’ve read my content enough, you know that I am perfectly fine with that — I remember many years ago, after not having sex for a while and getting a new partner, after he went down on me, about a week later, I had one of the nastiest yeast infections that I’ve ever had in my entire life (I have a fungal sensitivity, so I have to stay on top of that). My nurse practitioner told me that his saliva (along with the alcohol content that was in it because alcohol contains sugar) probably threw my pH balance off and that is what led to the infection (the more you know, the more you freakin’ know!). So, there’s real life proof that oral sex can help to give you a yeast infection, if you are not careful).
OK, but if things are going perfectly fine in the vaginal health department until you have sex and I’m saying that science says that coitus itself is not the cause. If that is indeed true, what the heck is going on?
Good question.
What Makes You More Susceptible to a Sex-Related Yeast Infection
GiphySo, here’s the deal. Even though sex doesn’t give you a yeast infection per se, there are things that can “work together” with the act to make you more vulnerable to this type of health issue.
- If you engage in unprotected sex, the sperm/semen (or again, saliva if it’s oral sex) from your partner could temporarily throw your pH levels off which could lead to a yeast infection.
- Although you should always participate in protected sex (especially if you’re not in an a monogamous or exclusive long-term relationship), the double-edged sword here is if you are allergic to latex, if the spermicide is too strong and/or you use lube that contains glycerin (which has sugar in it which yeast naturally thrives off of) — these things could also cause a yeast infection.
- If you have a “bang, bang, bang” partner (which isn’t always or necessarily a bad thing — LOL), the friction from the intercourse could lead to inflammation in your vagina which could throw off its balance of yeast which could also trigger a yeast infection.
- Not properly cleaning those sex toys before moving them from body part to body part? That could cause bacteria to move around which could absolutely lead to a yeast infection.
- If your partner already has a yeast infection, that could give you a yeast infection.
And that last one? If your partner (or you) has a yeast infection and it’s not properly treated, that could result in you exchanging the yeast infection back and forth — and an untreated yeast infection can result in prolonged fatigue, gastrointestinal issues and bleeding and sores in your vaginal area (usually from incessant scratching).
What You Should Do If You (or Your Partner) Has a Yeast Infection
GiphyAlthough yeast infections are far more prevalent in women than they are in men, that doesn’t mean that men can’t get them. In fact, research reveals that somewhere around 1 in 25 men will end up with one at some point in their lifetime (as opposed to 75 percent of women will have at least one at some point in their lives); especially if they happen to be uncircumcised due to the yeast that could potentially get trapped inside of their foreskin (because yeast thrives in dark, warm and wet areas).
And although some men can experience similar symptoms of a yeast infection that women do, it should also go on record that men can have a yeast infection and not even know it; the word for this is asymptomatic. That’s why, if you do have sex with someone and you end up with a yeast infection, it’s important to discuss it with them, so that they can get tested — just to be sure that either they don’t have it or, if they do, you both can get treated, so that you’re not passing the infection back and forth to each other.
That said, if this is the first time having a yeast infection for either one of you, it’s best to go to a doctor to get a thorough diagnosis (if it’s not, these days, there are at-home tests that you can take like this one here). The main reason is because there are some STI/STDs that have similar symptoms to a yeast infection (including chlamydia, gonorrhea and herpes), so you need to be sure that there aren’t any other underlying health issues going on and that you get the type of treatment that will resolve the actual issue that you have.
5 Tips for Preventing a Yeast Infection (When You’re Sexually Active)
GiphyAight, so now that I’ve hopefully broken down how a yeast infection and sexual activity can find themselves intersecting in some ways, I want to make sure that you’re aware of some of the proven things that you can do to prevent this from being a personal issue for you and your partner. Ready?
1. Take probiotics. Again, as someone who has a fungal sensitivity, I’ve had more yeast infections (not just vaginal ones either; my breasts aren’t small, so…) than I would’ve ever thought that I would over the course of my lifetime. Something that has helped to keep them at bay? Daily probiotics. Always remember that your vaginal tract is chocked full of both good and bad bacteria, so it’s wise to have as much good bacteria in there so that your system can combat the bad. Probiotics can help make that happen.
2. Use other kinds of condoms. Although roughly only 1-6 percent of people are allergic to latex (including latex condoms), if you sense that you might be one of them, always keep in mind that there are alternative options including polyisoprene and polyurethane ones. You can read more about the pros and cons of both of these by checking out “These Are The Kinds Of Condoms Your Vagina Would Actually Prefer.”
3. Clean up. You know how you’ve been told to wipe from front to back and not the other way around? Along these same lines, whether it’s a body part or a sex toy — don’t be out here getting all carried away by going into one, umm, hole with something and then moving into another hole without cleaning things off first. That’s a primo way for bacteria to spread around…and that’s just what a yeast infection wants to happen.
4. Be careful when it comes to hot tub sex. Speaking of breeding grounds for infection — if you’re on vacation and the urge hits you while you’re in a hot tub, uh, you might want to rethink that. I once read that “…the infection risk from hot tub is so significant that in the US, the Centers for Disease Control has released official advice on how to prevent this.” Yeah, you can never assume that people who were in the tub before you are as clean as you are or that the establishment that offers the tub does a thorough job of cleaning it either. So, if you want to be adventurous…try your hotel (or vacation house) shower or something. You’ll be much better off.
5. Keep your stress levels down. If your partner (or your relationship) is constantly stressing you out and you combat it with “make-up sex,” in its own weird way, that could be giving you a yeast infection too. Here’s how: stress lowers your immunity and when that happens, the cortisol levels in your body end up spiking which raises your blood sugar levels, which can make it easier for yeast to be “fed” and that can trigger a yeast infection. Just one more reason to not let a man stress you out, even if the sex is good. You could look up and end up with fried nerves and a nasty yeast infection — and who wants that, chile? Exactly.
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So, we handpicked one hundred It Girls who embody that palpable It Factor moving through us as young Black women, the kind of motion lighting up the world both IRL and across the internet.
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Many were already known in their industries for keeping this generation fly and lit, but rarely received recognition or flowers. It Girl 100 became a safe space to be uplifted, and for us as Black women to bask in what felt like an era of our brilliance, beauty, and boundless influence on full display.
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Apparently, there was a Thanksgiving episode that featured all of the friends having dinner together. And y’all, there was simply no way that I was going to mention the latter without shouting out the original (amen?).
Okay, so with that out of the way — Friendsgiving. Something that I appreciate about twists to holidays like this is that it’s a reminder that there is no one way to celebrate special occasions. And so, if, for whatever the reason, you will not or cannot be with family during the holiday season, there are certainly other alternatives at your disposal.
That being said, if the thought of spending time with friends this Thanksgiving is something that you’d like to do, yet you’re not sure how to host it in a way that will make Friendsgiving a fan favorite for your entire circle — I’ve got 10 suggestions that can make the planning process easy as pumpkin (or sweet potato) pie.
1. Position Chrysanthemums or Orchids for Your Table Décor
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Let’s start with décor first. Listen, aside from cleaning up your place, you don’t have to be over the top. If you put together a really nice centerpiece or put a flower at each table setting, honestly, you’re all good. And if you’re someone who is big on details and symbolism, my recommendation would be to go with some chrysanthemums and/or orchids.
When it comes to chrysanthemums, not only are they a peak fall flower, they represent things like friendship and happiness. And orchids? They tend to bloom during the fall and spring seasons and, not only are they about luxury, certain orchid colors also symbolize friendship (for the record, yellow roses symbolize friendship too). Perfect.
2. Incorporate Scents That Cultivate Gratitude
Speaking of cultivating a warm and inviting space, you can never go wrong with scented soy candles — or at least having an essential oil diffuser in a few spots. Some scents that actually help to bring in the spirit of gratitude include vanilla, jasmine, ginger, cedarwood and frankincense.
3. Use Upscale Paper Products to Dine With
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Let’s be real — a lot more of us would probably host events in our home if it wasn’t for the mess that is left behind in our kitchen once the festivities are over. Wanna avoid that? Use paper plates. No, I don’t mean the cheap Styrofoam ones. SMDH. These days, there are paper (and plastic) plate brands that will low-key blow your mind when it comes to how bougie they look. Some that are worth considering are located here, here and here.
4. Handwrite Thank-You Notes (Use Them As Place Settings)
If you’re like Tiffany (from the HBO series Insecure — what a time) was at that memorable dinner party when all hell broke loose between Lawrence and Issa and you’re pretty anal — I mean, particular — LOL — about place settings, it’s a nice touch to pick up some blank thank-you cards that you can write a personalized “I’m thankful for you because…” message in. Place each one where you’d like each friend to sit. They won’t see it coming and it’s a really nice touch.
5. Have Everyone Bring Their Favorite Homemade Dish
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Okay, and what if what has you on the fence about hosting is you don’t feel like doing a ton of cooking? Chile, this is where the concept of having a potluck comes in. Get everyone to bring the dish that they claim they cook the best and make sure to let them know how many individuals you plan on coming (so that they will make enough). You can even make a game out of it by having everyone anonymously vote for the first, second and third best dishes out of the bunch. Take it up a notch by having a prize for each winner.
6. Take a Warm Drink and Dessert Poll Beforehand
You know what isn’t discussed enough about dinner parties? Folks bringing desserts that other people don’t even like. SMDH. You can avoid this from becoming an issue at your Friendsgiving by sending an email (most people prefer that to group chats; let’s be real — and make sure to BCC everyone as well) asking everyone to share what their top three favorite desserts and warm drinks are. Then pick the top 2-3 out of the bunch. That way, you won’t have a ton of (for instance) coffee cake or apple cider lying around that no one even wanted in the first place.
7. Create a Signature Friendsgiving Mocktail and Cocktail
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Speaking of drinks, another way to make your Friendsgiving memorable is to come up with a signature mocktail (for those who don’t consume alcohol) and cocktail. For the mocktail, you can also poll your friends about their favorite mocktail or fruits and come up with a mixture of your own. For the cocktail — although National Friendship Day is actually in August, I did peep that there are certain drinks that have been created in its honor. Some of them are located here for you to do a bit of tweaking on (if you’d like).
8. Ask Everyone to Share Their “Favorite Friend Quality” of Another
You know how it’s customary for everyone to go around and share what they are truly thankful for before having dinner? Well, to continue along with the Friendsgiving theme, have each person share what their favorite friend quality is about the person to their right. If folks are just meeting each other for the first time, instead they can share what they value the most in friendship overall, along with a story of how it was displayed to them personally over the past 12 months.
9. Send Each of Your Guests Home with a Fresh Gratitude Journal
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Wanna send folks home with a nice parting gift? It would be so on-trend to give each of them a gratitude journal. Listen, we are in some crazy times right through here (at least in the States) and so, encouraging your friends to set some time aside, regularly, to think about and then outwardly express what they are grateful for? That helps to keep stress down, keep things in perspective and it reminds us all to maintain a positive mindset as much as possible.
10. Watch a Nostalgic Movie
While everyone is enjoying dessert and drinks, how about watching a movie that brings back fond memories? A list of some of the most popular movies to come out previous Thanksgiving weekends is located here and a list of some favorite Black holiday-themed films can be found here. It’s a way to wind down and share some laughs before everyone heads home.
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Friendsgiving. What a wonderful way to celebrate your friends while also observing Thanksgiving in a way that is totally on your terms. And now that you know how to put it together, what are you waiting for? Hit your friends up and let them know that, whether it’s on actual Thanksgiving Day or a few days before or after, you’ve got a special dinner in mind.
One that has a good time with amazing friends written ALL over it.
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