We Asked Celebs To Debunk The Most Common Misconceptions About Men
One of my favorite books, The Four Agreements, offers a rule that I try to live by: Don't make assumptions. Although I try to live by that mantra, it's hard out here for a cynic.
As much as we all hate stereotypes, there are a few generalizations about men that have come to be law for some women. Like, men aren't as emotional as women and don't enjoy talking about their feelings. Men fear commitment and loathe marriage. Men think about nothing but sex. Okay, maybe that last one is just me, but these are ideologies that we blindly accept as truth could be keeping us from really understanding what men really want.
In an effort to put an end to these assumptions and seek out big facts, xoNecole caught up with some of our favorite celebrities at the Atlanta Tastemaker Screening of What Men Want to debunk some of the common misconceptions that women have about men.
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Here's what they had to say:
Trina Braxton
Misconception: All Men Want Is Sex.
My mama told me because her mama told her: Men only want one thing. But Trina Braxton shared with us that she thinks physical intimacy is only one of the things that men truly want from a woman.
"I think that the biggest misconception that women have when it comes to men is that all they want is sex. I think a lot of other things they want is companionship and I think they want to be caressed and loved and pampered just as much as women do."
B. Simone
Misconception: All Men Cheat
Infidelity is an issue that I'm sure 98.99% of women have encountered at least once in their lifetime. So much so that cheating seems normalized and even men who aren't unfaithful get the heat of the backlash. B. Simone reminds us to keep the faith in finding a loyal partner because although no man is perfect, not all men cheat:
"I don't believe all men cheat. I believe, you know, they make mistakes sometimes and there are a lot of cheaters out there, but there's also a lot of faithful men. I do not think all men cheat."
Demetria McKinney
Misconception: Men Don't Know How To Communicate
Men are from Mars and women are from Venus. When I was younger, I didn't understand that phrase. As an adult, it's the only logical way I can explain the chronic miscommunication issues between men and women. One of the most recurring complaints about men is their lack of empathy or understanding, but Demetria says the magic could be in changing your approach.
"If we just say what we want without being a little bit ratchet like I tend to be, then I think we'll get a little bit better results."
So what do men really want?
As hard as it is, we have to put an end to making assumptions about who a man is and find out firsthand. Although they are a strange and very different species, men also need love and security to truly feel whole. Taraji P. Henson told xoNecole:
"I think all humans want security when it comes to relationships. They want unconditional love. They want a mother's love, that's what everybody wants."
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ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
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I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
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Tyler James Williams Explains Why His And Quinta Brunson 'Abbott Elementary' Characters Should Remain Friends
While Abbott Elementary fans are hoping that Janine and Gregory end up together, the show’s star has another take. Tyler James Williams plays Gregory on the Emmy award-winning sitcom, and he recently stopped by The Jennifer Hudson Show to share his point of view on his storyline with Janine, which Quinta Brunson plays.
“I hate to say it. I know that everybody’s always mad at me for this. I don’t necessarily want to see them together,” he revealed. “It’s partially an actor’s choice, but also somebody who, like, I read a lot of scripts all the time. I watch a lot of TV, a lot of film. I don’t think that we see displays of platonic love between two people often. I think it’s really easy to go right to they have feelings for each other, therefore they should be together. I like this dynamic of exploring withholding that and just actively loving each other where they are. That I like to see more.”
If you recall, they were co-workers who became friends but were secretly crushing on each other. They’ve had many awkward run-ins during and after school, like the unforgettable club scene where they were dancing nervously with each other in season one, and in season two, they finally kiss. However, it only made things even more awkward, and they decided to just be friends. Tyler further explained why he thinks it’s important to showcase that type of relationship on screen.
“I think it’s time for that. I think TV allows people to see things that could be their lives for the first time, and I think seeing a healthy friendship that is deeply caring about one another in a work atmosphere needs to be shown more than the relationship,” he concluded.
Abbott Elementary comes on every Wednesday at 9 p.m. EST on ABC.
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